I don't think pregnancy cravings are a real thing. I crave plenty of different foods when I am not pregnant it is just during pregnancy your partner is a vulnerable state and is guilty enough to indulge your whims. I do find my pride highly annoying though since I wanted cottage cheese so bad last night since else nothing sounded good but when DH asked if I wanted him to get it I said no since I felt bad asking him go get it. =(
I work in a high school, and a lot of teachers believe students need to need to be taught to sit and take tests in preschool - one even boasted about her 4 year old has tests at school already. I just don't agree. I think we have turned into a test-happy society, but that does not paint the true picture of a child. Children develop at very different speeds and in different subject matters at different times. Telling a student they failed at 4 is setting them up with low expectations going forward. I believe that preschoolers (and early grades too) should be focused on teaching the students to LIKE learning... being hands on, PLAYING, exploring their surroundings as well as learning social structures. It bothers me when people cite studies showing correlation between high young test scores and long term educational attainment. 1) These tests are done by the for profit testing agencies. They want to make money, and make us believe we need their services 2) as someone who did not test well in 2nd grade (lowest 30% of the nation), for the rest of my educational career I was in the 99% in every standardized test... I know the stigma that is attached (to both low and high) test scores at young ages. Not worth it.
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I agree with you on not testing at such a young age. The thing I don't agree with in schools is the no failing allowed that is being brought in to the schooling system more and more. My cousin is a teacher at a high school and a student who hasn't put in any effort for the whole semester can now approach him at the end and ask him what they can do to get a passing grade. It is now expected that my cousin make up class work with this student for over a week just so they can get a passing grade. I feel like so much is just being handed to kids on a silver platter now a days.
I also hate that in some sports every kid wins something now. They need to learn the difference between winning and losing. Yes it is not nice to be on the losing side but they need to learn how to be a good sport about it.
Oh and I love Christmas and am meh about Halloween and Disney. Also I plan on covering up when I bf but I don't judge anyone who doesn't.
I also hate that in some sports every kid wins something now. They need to learn the difference between winning and losing. Yes it is not nice to be on the losing side but they need to learn how to be a good sport about it.
This! I hate how everyone gets a "participation" trophy. I'm sorry if your team lost but in life, there are winners and there are losers. Yeah, it sucks to lose but it should teach you to work harder next time. I coach all-star cheer and love that the competitions give out 1st, 2nd, 3rd place trophies. I also love how they give you the score sheets with all of the scores from your division so we can go back to the gym, work harder, and come in a higher place the next time. It may seem all great to not keep score but how are these kids going to handle job interviews?! When they don't get the job, are their parents going to call the boss and plead their case?! I'm not for unsportsmanlike conduct - I believe in winning with grace but these "no score-keeping" sports are crazy.
I work in a high school, and a lot of teachers believe students need to need to be taught to sit and take tests in preschool - one even boasted about her 4 year old has tests at school already. I just don't agree. I think we have turned into a test-happy society, but that does not paint the true picture of a child. Children develop at very different speeds and in different subject matters at different times. Telling a student they failed at 4 is setting them up with low expectations going forward. I believe that preschoolers (and early grades too) should be focused on teaching the students to LIKE learning... being hands on, PLAYING, exploring their surroundings as well as learning social structures. It bothers me when people cite studies showing correlation between high young test scores and long term educational attainment. 1) These tests are done by the for profit testing agencies. They want to make money, and make us believe we need their services 2) as someone who did not test well in 2nd grade (lowest 30% of the nation), for the rest of my educational career I was in the 99% in every standardized test... I know the stigma that is attached (to both low and high) test scores at young ages. Not worth it.
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Is your state going to be starting Common Core next year? We are just starting to explore it in my district (we are far behind some of the other states from what I have heard) and it does seem to be a step in the right direction. There is definitely more focus on the process rather than always having the right answer. Kids are being encouraged to explain their reasoning instead of just filling in bubbles. Of course it is not perfect, but I think it is going to be a good change. And four years old is way too young to be taking a test, in my opinion.
BFP 12/30/12...MC 1/13...TTC again 6/11/13... BFP #2 9/28/13....EDD 6/7/14
I'm not a shoe fan. I don't understand when women spend tons of money on shoes!! I have sandals, sneakers, a pair of black pumps and a pair of black flats. 4 pairs, that's all you need. I don't get the obsession...
@njbabymama - I just don't get it. I would much rather spend money on books or DVDs. No one really looks at your feet. Why do you like them so much?? What is it about them?
Yes we are, and I do think it is a good step. I also don't believe that I have a good answer for what a good system is. In my opinion, the whole thing needs a reset. We teach based on an industrialized aged system, but that is not what we live in anymore. We really need to look at "rebooting" but I have no ideas as to what that looks like. I plan to go into policy & advocacy, and the one thing I look forward to the MOST is the evolution of where we are. I feel like once I know "why" and I decide "why not" (or, how to move forward by looking backward)
I agree! We fail our students by not allowing them to fail. This is a big conversation at our community college, they are confused why students think they should be able to "make up work" at the end of the semester. OF COURSE THEY DO. It's what we taught them school should be!
@njbabymama - I just don't get it. I would much rather spend money on books or DVDs. No one really looks at your feet. Why do you like them so much?? What is it about them?
It's not really about other people, it's about how they make me feel. I adore my books and movies too, but when I get a fantastic pair of shoes that are super comfortable and make me feel like a model strutting down the runway with every step - I can justify spending the money. Plus, I can't do cheap shoes. They don't have a lot of support or padding and can cause me to blister or get a backache really easily. Investing in good shoes is good for my overall health and happiness.
Passive aggressive b*tches can sucks it - either grow up and act like an adult and deal with it or let it go. Seriously.
I have more but am having a spat with DH (dick head) and am fuming so I can't remember my othe.
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I hate reese's peanut butter cups too, they taste so chemically. I do love me some reese's
pieces though.
I'll also feed this baby without a cover, I hate when things cover my face and find it suffocating, DD reacted the same way so I won't even bother this time around. If you feel uncomfortable with that you are welcome to leave. I will never feed my child in a bathroom stall.
I feel like I should amend my statement - I don't like anything Reese. Never have and don't understand the obsession. They were always the first candy I traded away.
Also - highly agree about not feeding my child in a bathroom stall. I support mom's doing what they feel is best and what they are comfortable with when it comes to feeding their child. Cover or no cover, in public or not. I have my comfort level and that is for me to deal with, it is not anyone else's responsibility.
Here's a uo I think anyone who gives a fuck and judges how another mom feeds her baby (breast, bottle, breast milk, goats milk, formula, cover, no cover, upside down, on the floor) is a twat.
I don't get judging what other people spend their money on. People have different interests and different priorities and as long as they can pay their bills, who cares what they spend their extra money on?
That being said, shoes aren't my thing either, but as long as someone who buys expensive shoes doesn't look down on me for wearing Target shoes, I don't really care.
I get really annoyed with hippie moms. For example, moms who refuse to give Tylenol. If your child is in pain and suffering, why let it continue? Homeopathic remedies DO NOT always work. It seems like abuse to me to keep them in pain. I also don't understand all the allergies and intolerances kids have these days. These were never this prevelant when I was growing up.
I never judged. Said I don't get it and it wasn't my thing.
I know, I should have wrote it better, but it just reminded me that some people do. H and I like to travel and I've had people say snarky comments about how much we spend doing it when we could spend it on ____ instead, it's annoying.
But I do agree with you. I had a friend who had over 200 pairs of designer shoes and she'd worn less than half of them. That's something I really don't get...lol.
If I could wear sweatpants to work every day, my life would be so much better. I hate jeans and dress pants, anything with buttons. Even before I was pregnant and bloated.
I never judged. Said I don't get it and it wasn't my thing.
I know, I should have wrote it better, but it just reminded me that some people do. H and I like to travel and I've had people say snarky comments about how much we spend doing it when we could spend it on ____ instead, it's annoying.
But I do agree with you. I had a friend who had over 200 pairs of designer shoes and she'd worn less than half of them. That's something I really don't get...lol
Spending that kind of money on shoes you don't even wear? That is a bit much for me. I have very few nice shoes, they are something I have to save up for and make sure they are going to be worth their money. I don't like having things around that aren't useful, even if they are designer or pretty.
I don't care if people let their toddlers watch tv. But I hate when people think I am a holier-than-thou mom because my 20 month old doesn't watch tv. She doesn't need to watch it. I would have to take time away from playing, reading, coloring, etc. to put it on for her. I just think it's unneccesary for us at this age. We might try some family Christmas movies this year, because H and I want to watch them. My choice for my kid contains no judgement on anyone else's choice, and I don't not want to put it on for her because I want to feel superior. I don't put it on for her because I don't find it necessary, and I don't feel like taking time away from other things. I hate being judged about it.
I cannot stand 50 shades of grey series. I thought it was repetitive(the sex scenes) and the Christian grey's character was the worst. He reminded me of a spoiled child.
I don't care if people let their toddlers watch tv. But I hate when people think I am a holier-than-thou mom because my 20 month old doesn't watch tv. She doesn't need to watch it. I would have to take time away from playing, reading, coloring, etc. to put it on for her. I just think it's unneccesary for us at this age. We might try some family Christmas movies this year, because H and I want to watch them. My choice for my kid contains no judgement on anyone else's choice, and I don't not want to put it on for her because I want to feel superior. I don't put it on for her because I don't find it necessary, and I don't feel like taking time away from other things. I hate being judged about it.
Awesome statement.
I think it's funny that whenever I've chosen a path or made a decision that works best for me people automatically assume that I think they should follow suit- no, I think you should probably do what works best for you. We're different people!
Also- I am loving this thread. Great hilarious comments.
@ mommiekel - agreed! Hated the series. My cousin loves it so I'm pretty up to date on the casting and stuff.. I'm sure she's going to make me see the movie.
@MonaMuse, alot of my close friends love it. ( I was gifted the books @christmas). So I am stuck in the same boat, I hear all the updates and probably going with them too, lol.
Maybe not unpopular here but I think pregnant women should get preferential treatment. Especially in the first trimester. It is rough and sucks that we are supposed to grin and bear it and just be happy and energetic always. Yes I'm happy to be having a baby but it is hard
I never used a breast feeding cover. Those things are a royal pain in the ass. I put a tank under my shirt so I pulled top shirt up tank down so while he was feeding barely anything showed. I got over my anxiety about it real fast!
I don't understand why people think sending a text entitles them to an immediate response. It's a message. People will get to it when they want.
Son: Jackson, 11/02/06, stillborn due to PPROM and IUGR. Over the next ten years we had 9 miscarriages from 8-14 weeks. On May 18, 2016 my daughter, Ridley, was born. We're OADNBC.
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I also hate that in some sports every kid wins something now. They need to learn the difference between winning and losing. Yes it is not nice to be on the losing side but they need to learn how to be a good sport about it.
Oh and I love Christmas and am meh about Halloween and Disney. Also I plan on covering up when I bf but I don't judge anyone who doesn't.
Is your state going to be starting Common Core next year? We are just starting to explore it in my district (we are far behind some of the other states from what I have heard) and it does seem to be a step in the right direction. There is definitely more focus on the process rather than always having the right answer. Kids are being encouraged to explain their reasoning instead of just filling in bubbles. Of course it is not perfect, but I think it is going to be a good change. And four years old is way too young to be taking a test, in my opinion.
BFP #2 9/28/13....EDD 6/7/14
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BFP 3.8.16 EDD 11.20.16
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Twins! - 9/2/06, handsome son - 11/14/07, baby girl - 2/9/11, m/c - 12/21/12, BFP! - 9/25/13, TWINS AGAIN!!- EDD: 6/4/14!!