I already expressed sympathy for ziggy. I just don't see the connection.
And I apologized because you all deserved it. I called you names, and it said something about my character, so I apologized. Sharing a picture of my bump however does not warrant an apology to anyone.
I'm done now. You really hurt my feelings, and to be honest I know I didn't deserve it this time.
Kendra, you are clearly a sensitive person who's personality doesn't jive with bring part of this online community. For your sake, please stop posting. Your feelings get hurt every time you post, so I don't get why you keep coming back. You might find the online community of baby center more your style.
They are meaner than you guys lol.
Hmmmm maybe the issue isn't with us or them then...since it's such a common theme for you.
I guess I just haven't gotten used to the whole culture of an online forum. I'm used to real life where everyone is nice, or at least tries to be...unless they are really just assholes and don't care at all.
The sad part about it is that I imagine that most of you are very nice people in real life but here anything goes. I'm just used to a certain level of kindness and decency that is completely missing in an online community.
Well that didn't take long for Kendra to come back causing drama. Think there will be another public apology?
Seeing as I did/said nothing to warrant an apology, no, there will not be. I apologized before because I was being childish and rude.
Passive aggressive being my "new thing" was a joke btw. Hence the winky face. Obviously I'm not spending all my time on the bump looking for ways to make passive aggressive remarks.
1. You wouldn't know to apologize anyway because you're just that...special.
2. It would fall on deaf ears anyway if you did.
3. Remember that story about the girl who cried wolf?
4. Adorable? Not the word I'd use to describe the picture.
Well that was really mean.
You know what else is pretty mean? Being a "supposed" member of a community and never once saying words of comfort or even an "thinking of you during this time" to a member who is going through something huge AND has been mentioned many times on a thread you are participating on.
And yeah, I looked at your history to see that you haven't said a word to @ziggy903, so I call bs on you actually giving a crap about anyone here.
thank you, @mamajop. i've been trying to find the words to say about this situation.
Kendra, there are hundreds of posts wishing me thoughts, prayers, helpful advice, and listening ears. i've received dozens of PMs from other people, many of which aren't even F14 moms- just people who heard about my story and want to share their sympathy with me.
it breaks my heart to see that you care more about an "instagram friend" than someone who you claim to be a member of a community with and has never had a tiff with you at all. i've stayed out of your posts so far, but this is low.
Ziggy I'm not going to argue with you. I'm really sorry for what you're going through and I was actually going to send you a PM saying so. I didn't before because I hadn't lurked enough and didn't know exactly what was going on so I didn't feel educated enough to make a comment. Also I've seen you bite heads off and spit them out on this board so I was a little intimidated to talk to you.
Again I'm really sorry for what you're going through (rea your update) and I hope all is well. You'll be in my thoughts.
Not supportive. Not sympathetic. Passive aggressive.
NO. I really do feel bad and that was not passive aggressive, it was honest. I was intimidated to talk to her because I've seen her be pretty ruthless. It has no bearing on my level I sympathy for her.
I will admit it if I am being passive aggressive. I generally don't have a problem with Ziggy.
I was not being passive aggressive. I stand firm in that. I was ONLY providing a reason for my delay in expressing sympathy. No one wants to open themselves up and then get cut down, and that's what I was afraid of.
Ziggy if you read this, please know I did not mean a) to upset you, b) to make you feel guilty, c) cause you any other painful feelings. Obviously you are going through enough and don't need that. I was just saying I had a hard time approaching you.
Well that didn't take long for Kendra to come back causing drama. Think there will be another public apology?
Seeing as I did/said nothing to warrant an apology, no, there will not be. I apologized before because I was being childish and rude.
Passive aggressive being my "new thing" was a joke btw. Hence the winky face. Obviously I'm not spending all my time on the bump looking for ways to make passive aggressive remarks.
1. You wouldn't know to apologize anyway because you're just that...special.
2. It would fall on deaf ears anyway if you did.
3. Remember that story about the girl who cried wolf?
4. Adorable? Not the word I'd use to describe the picture.
Well that was really mean.
You know what else is pretty mean? Being a "supposed" member of a community and never once saying words of comfort or even an "thinking of you during this time" to a member who is going through something huge AND has been mentioned many times on a thread you are participating on.
And yeah, I looked at your history to see that you haven't said a word to @ziggy903, so I call bs on you actually giving a crap about anyone here.
thank you, @mamajop. i've been trying to find the words to say about this situation.
Kendra, there are hundreds of posts wishing me thoughts, prayers, helpful advice, and listening ears. i've received dozens of PMs from other people, many of which aren't even F14 moms- just people who heard about my story and want to share their sympathy with me.
it breaks my heart to see that you care more about an "instagram friend" than someone who you claim to be a member of a community with and has never had a tiff with you at all. i've stayed out of your posts so far, but this is low.
Ziggy I'm not going to argue with you. I'm really sorry for what you're going through and I was actually going to send you a PM saying so. I didn't before because I hadn't lurked enough and didn't know exactly what was going on so I didn't feel educated enough to make a comment. Also I've seen you bite heads off and spit them out on this board so I was a little intimidated to talk to you.
Again I'm really sorry for what you're going through (rea your update) and I hope all is well. You'll be in my thoughts.
i don't know about you, but if i found someone intimidating, i would do everything i could to stay in their good graces.
also, you don't have to know my whole story to see that this thread was pointing towards another, which i titled "ziggys update" and clearly explains all you need to know in order to say something like "i'm sorry you're going through this"
I was not being passive aggressive. I stand firm in that. I was ONLY providing a reason for my delay in expressing sympathy. No one wants to open themselves up and then get cut down, and that's what I was afraid of.
Ziggy if you read this, please know I did not mean a) to upset you, b) to make you feel guilty, c) cause you any other painful feelings. Obviously you are going through enough and don't need that. I was just saying I had a hard time approaching you.
you didn't mean to hurt me, but said that i bite people's heads off and spit them back out? how is that not meant to hurt me? i have been very open on this board about my struggles in hopes that it will help me feel better about the hard decisions i have to make about my childs future. you are doing the exact opposite of what i wanted. thank you, so much. it's nice to know that when someone literally ASKS for support, you're nowhere to be found.
Well that didn't take long for Kendra to come back causing drama. Think there will be another public apology?
Seeing as I did/said nothing to warrant an apology, no, there will not be. I apologized before because I was being childish and rude.
Passive aggressive being my "new thing" was a joke btw. Hence the winky face. Obviously I'm not spending all my time on the bump looking for ways to make passive aggressive remarks.
1. You wouldn't know to apologize anyway because you're just that...special.
2. It would fall on deaf ears anyway if you did.
3. Remember that story about the girl who cried wolf?
4. Adorable? Not the word I'd use to describe the picture.
Well that was really mean.
You know what else is pretty mean? Being a "supposed" member of a community and never once saying words of comfort or even an "thinking of you during this time" to a member who is going through something huge AND has been mentioned many times on a thread you are participating on.
And yeah, I looked at your history to see that you haven't said a word to @ziggy903, so I call bs on you actually giving a crap about anyone here.
thank you, @mamajop. i've been trying to find the words to say about this situation.
Kendra, there are hundreds of posts wishing me thoughts, prayers, helpful advice, and listening ears. i've received dozens of PMs from other people, many of which aren't even F14 moms- just people who heard about my story and want to share their sympathy with me.
it breaks my heart to see that you care more about an "instagram friend" than someone who you claim to be a member of a community with and has never had a tiff with you at all. i've stayed out of your posts so far, but this is low.
Ziggy I'm not going to argue with you. I'm really sorry for what you're going through and I was actually going to send you a PM saying so. I didn't before because I hadn't lurked enough and didn't know exactly what was going on so I didn't feel educated enough to make a comment. Also I've seen you bite heads off and spit them out on this board so I was a little intimidated to talk to you.
Again I'm really sorry for what you're going through (rea your update) and I hope all is well. You'll be in my thoughts.
i don't know about you, but if i found someone intimidating, i would do everything i could to stay in their good graces.
also, you don't have to know my whole story to see that this thread was pointing towards another, which i titled "ziggys update" and clearly explains all you need to know in order to say something like "i'm sorry you're going through this"
Well we are two different people. I avoid people I am intimidated by. Again, not a slam. I just always have.
And yes I read your update, and I truly am sorry you're going through this!
I guess I just haven't gotten used to the whole culture of an online forum. I'm used to real life where everyone is nice, or at least tries to be...unless they are really just assholes and don't care at all.
The sad part about it is that I imagine that most of you are very nice people in real life but here anything goes. I'm just used to a certain level of kindness and decency that is completely missing in an online community.
I think you misunderstand what nice means. From your previous posts you and your friends think it is okay to talk behind the backs of others, that's not nice, that's superficial. This online community is not superficial, so if that's what you're looking for, look elsewhere.
I think we have very different definitions of nice. Nice is hundreds of messages to Ziggy. Nice is people wishing others well. Nice is offering advice and hugs and support. Nice is offering support even if you don't like the person or are intimidated by them. There are a few posters on the bump that I just do not like. But when they've posted with issues I've still offered support and felt bad for them and sincerely wished them well. Me not liking them has nothing to do with it. I don't want anyone to suffer.
I think you're also missing the meaning of honesty. It isn't mean to ask why you asked for advice when you act dismissive of that advice. It isn't mean to say, "we're not mind readers, if you do something different than what you type we don't know". It isn't mean to tell you that it isn't about you and your bump.
And I've said this before and perhaps you missed it: I have told friends before that they're being mean or rude. I've told some, "that's a shitty thing to do". My friends have all told me they appreciate it. I haven't been called a relentless bitch by any of them.
And I've siaid this before and perhaps you missed it: I have told friends before that they're being mean or rude. I've told some, "that's a shitty thing to do". My friends have all told me they appreciate it. I haven't been called a relentless bitch by any of them.
I wrote an apology but maybe you missed it. Rondackhiker I am truly sorry for the name calling. It was rude and childish. It hasn't happened since and it won't again, I promise.
And I've said this before and perhaps you missed it: I have told friends before that they're being mean or rude. I've told some, "that's a shitty thing to do". My friends have all told me they appreciate it. I haven't been called a relentless bitch by any of them.
to me, that's what good friends do. lift you up when you need it, but also knock you down a peg when you need it.
And I've siaid this before and perhaps you missed it: I have told friends before that they're being mean or rude. I've told some, "that's a shitty thing to do". My friends have all told me they appreciate it. I haven't been called a relentless bitch by any of them.
I wrote an apology but maybe you missed it. Rondackhiker I am truly sorry for the name calling. It was rude and childish. It hasn't happened since and it won't again, I promise.
fun fact: if you apologize, and then do the same kind of crap that you "apologized for", no one's going to believe you.
And I've siaid this before and perhaps you missed it: I have told friends before that they're being mean or rude. I've told some, "that's a shitty thing to do". My friends have all told me they appreciate it. I haven't been called a relentless bitch by any of them.
I wrote an apology but maybe you missed it. Rondackhiker I am truly sorry for the name calling. It was rude and childish. It hasn't happened since and it won't again, I promise.
fun fact: if you apologize, and then do the same kind of crap that you "apologized for", no one's going to believe you.
I literally cannot believe you just did this. Especially on the sole basis of comments on an online forum.
she just wanted you to know. i'd be happy someone was telling me this is the way i am coming off. also, i don't see anyone arguing it but you... seems like many others agree. you may not have the disorder, we're not doctors, but perhaps you should think about the way you come off to people.
And I've siaid this before and perhaps you missed it: I have told friends before that they're being mean or rude. I've told some, "that's a shitty thing to do". My friends have all told me they appreciate it. I haven't been called a relentless bitch by any of them.
I wrote an apology but maybe you missed it. Rondackhiker I am truly sorry for the name calling. It was rude and childish. It hasn't happened since and it won't again, I promise.
Well then, apologizing for calling people relentless bitches makes it ALLLLLL better. Or not.
Allow me to be blunt (not mean) with you.
-Even if you don't think one person owns HDBD when you've read the thread and know the whole community is rallying in support of one person, it is dumb to claim you're not trying to start drama by posting a bump photo. If you go against an entire group of people, especially if a large number of those people are feeling defensive of one of their own, it will cause drama. You knew it would. You posted anyway. Own that. It makes you look stupid when you claim to be trying to avoid drama while causing it.
-Any apology followed by qualifiers like "but" makes the apology invalid. It means you're still trying to justify what you did wrong and you're not owning your mistake. Say, "sorry. I should have sent support to you immediately. I was planning to do so and it was wrong of me to wait." (Also, "I was going to!" sounds like a lie when you haven't done it yet).
And I've siaid this before and perhaps you missed it: I have told friends before that they're being mean or rude. I've told some, "that's a shitty thing to do". My friends have all told me they appreciate it. I haven't been called a relentless bitch by any of them.
I wrote an apology but maybe you missed it. Rondackhiker I am truly sorry for the name calling. It was rude and childish. It hasn't happened since and it won't again, I promise.
Well then, apologizing for calling people relentless bitches makes it ALLLLLL better. Or not.
Allow me to be blunt (not mean) with you.
-Even if you don't think one person owns HDBD when you've read the thread and know the whole community is rallying in support of one person, it is dumb to claim you're not trying to start drama by posting a bump photo. If you go against an entire group of people, especially if a large number of those people are feeling defensive of one of their own, it will cause drama. You knew it would. You posted anyway. Own that. It makes you look stupid when you claim to be trying to avoid drama while causing it.
-Any apology followed by qualifiers like "but" makes the apology invalid. It means you're still trying to justify what you did wrong and you're not owning your mistake. Say, "sorry. I should have sent support to you immediately. I was planning to do so and it was wrong of me to wait." (Also, "I was going to!" sounds like a lie when you haven't done it yet).
Yeah I see what it looked like. I really do. To be honest I had every intention of posting the pic and letting that be that, but I have a hard time letting go when someone starts replying to me.
I honestly didn't think that would happen. I'm not sure why my pic caused such an uproar when I was only one of many who posted a pic on this thread. I guess because you guys have had issues with me in the past.
And I've siaid this before and perhaps you missed it: I have told friends before that they're being mean or rude. I've told some, "that's a shitty thing to do". My friends have all told me they appreciate it. I haven't been called a relentless bitch by any of them.
I wrote an apology but maybe you missed it. Rondackhiker I am truly sorry for the name calling. It was rude and childish. It hasn't happened since and it won't again, I promise.
Well then, apologizing for calling people relentless bitches makes it ALLLLLL better. Or not.
Allow me to be blunt (not mean) with you.
-Even if you don't think one person owns HDBD when you've read the thread and know the whole community is rallying in support of one person, it is dumb to claim you're not trying to start drama by posting a bump photo. If you go against an entire group of people, especially if a large number of those people are feeling defensive of one of their own, it will cause drama. You knew it would. You posted anyway. Own that. It makes you look stupid when you claim to be trying to avoid drama while causing it.
-Any apology followed by qualifiers like "but" makes the apology invalid. It means you're still trying to justify what you did wrong and you're not owning your mistake. Say, "sorry. I should have sent support to you immediately. I was planning to do so and it was wrong of me to wait." (Also, "I was going to!" sounds like a lie when you haven't done it yet).
Yeah I see what it looked like. I really do. To be honest I had every intention of posting the pic and letting that be that, but I have a hard time letting go when someone starts replying to me.
I honestly didn't think that would happen. I'm not sure why my pic caused such an uproar when I was only one of many who posted a pic on this thread. I guess because you guys have had issues with me in the past.
You really don't get it, do you?
The others got mocked and eye rolls because they didn't read the thread before posting. That's considered rude. Many apologized when they realized they threw bump photos into a thread that became about supporting Ziggy.
You posted and made it CLEAR you knew what was happening in the thread and you called the support for Ziggy and the attack of trolls "drama" and dismissed it.
Rather than joining everyone else in supporting Ziggy (even the people who don't agree HDBD should be owned offered her support), you made it all about you.
And then your replied by arguing and being passive aggressive rather than apologizing or leaving.
That is why you were given a harder time. Your actions caused this reaction. Not anyone's personal feelings about you.
"This can't be serious. If you even glanced at the thread you would have seen that it did not go over well when other users posted their bump pictures. The other users did not stir up the drama that you did, hence the "uproar." Get over yourself."
This, exactly. Every other person hadn't READ the board before posting (except that one other person who's name I do not remember that posted a couple down from you) and when they realized their mistake they apologized in a sincere fashion. This board isn't about bump pics anymore it is about support for Ziggy, and you tried to make it about you. Even now you're trying to make the RESPONSES about you. No one has done anything here but support Ziggy and our boards pretty unanimous decision to let her do HDBD (which we can do because it's our board). You haven't been treated any different than anyone else who came here and dismissed our support for Ziggy. This board is how we supported her, and you were given the same chance to stay out of it or apologize when you used this board for something other then what it was like anyone else.
"Agree with everything except that she "mistakenly" took this thread for something other than it was. She saw it as an opportunity for attention and didn't care who she hurt getting what she wanted"
Ok, so I missed most of this yesterday and didn't get to read through the whole thing last night (thanks to asshattery by DH). I've mainly skimmed this morning, but I want to throw my support behind ziggy.
I am appalled at some of the comments made to and about her, ESPECIALLY since yesterday was such a rough day for her.
Anyways, most people have already said what I'd say in her defense.
DS: Liam born 8.30.10 at 35 wks (PPROM, Pre-E, C-Section)
DD: BFP 6.9.13, EDD 2.12.14, A/S 9.20.13... It's a Girl!
Adeline Leigh born sleeping 2.11.14 at 39 wks 6 days
How very softly you tiptoed into our world, almost silently, only a moment you stayed. But what an imprint your footsteps have left upon our hearts. - Dorothy Ferguson
DS: Liam born 8.30.10 at 35 wks (PPROM, Pre-E, C-Section)
DD: BFP 6.9.13, EDD 2.12.14, A/S 9.20.13... It's a Girl!
Adeline Leigh born sleeping 2.11.14 at 39 wks 6 days
How very softly you tiptoed into our world, almost silently, only a moment you stayed. But what an imprint your footsteps have left upon our hearts. - Dorothy Ferguson
You guys all need to get a life and stop the bullying, Kendra like so many others has not broken any rules or done anything wrong and she has just become a target for you all. Stop the nit picking and twisting words you're behaving like gang members
First off let me start start
off saying I hope ziggys baby is healthy and happy. I am truly sorry
for all you are going through. No one should have so much heart ache
during such a special time.
Regarding
Kendra and all the other girls on this HDBD who did post a pic of their
beautiful baby bumps. That's your right and EVERYONE is entitled to
post or not post. Just because the majority feels differently doesn't
make you wrong. Actually it makes you not a follower, which after
reading this post and others is really hard to find among the FEB'14
ladies. Although it is nice to support a fellow member especially at a
difficult time, I would think Ziggy would have more serious and bigger
things to attend to then a HDBD, but obviously this post is very dear to
her heart and others realize that.
Kendra
you are not narcissistic or overly sensitive and you have been attacked
by many of the I'll say it "Top Ten" and they still have a lot of
growing up to do. Being sensitive to others feelings and to your own is
great quality and will help you in parenting for your future baby.
"White knighting", as you all like to call it is good thing, it shows
that you have compassion for someone other then the majority and can
stand up not only for yourself but for others.
So
now everyone go ahead and start "flaming" me...NoelMarieFrey start
kissing ziggys ass...Carseat...state your opinion like its a fact...Rhondackhiker,
mention for the zillion time that your husband is a Dr....b/c I'm now
logging out and not coming back ...How is that for passive aggressive?
First off let me start start
off saying I hope ziggys baby is healthy and happy. I am truly sorry
for all you are going through. No one should have so much heart ache
during such a special time.
Regarding
Kendra and all the other girls on this HDBD who did post a pic of their
beautiful baby bumps. That's your right and EVERYONE is entitled to
post or not post. Just because the majority feels differently doesn't
make you wrong. Actually it makes you not a follower, which after
reading this post and others is really hard to find among the FEB'14
ladies. Although it is nice to support a fellow member especially at a
difficult time, I would think Ziggy would have more serious and bigger
things to attend to then a HDBD, but obviously this post is very dear to
her heart and others realize that.
Kendra
you are not narcissistic or overly sensitive and you have been attacked
by many of the I'll say it "Top Ten" and they still have a lot of
growing up to do. Being sensitive to others feelings and to your own is
great quality and will help you in parenting for your future baby.
"White knighting", as you all like to call it is good thing, it shows
that you have compassion for someone other then the majority and can
stand up not only for yourself but for others.
So
now everyone go ahead and start "flaming" me...NoelMarieFrey start
kissing ziggys ass...Carseat...state your opinion like its a fact...Rhondackhiker,
mention for the zillion time that your husband is a Dr....b/c I'm now
logging out and not coming back ...How is that for passive aggressive?
HAHAHAHAHAHA I didn't even say anything to Kendra did I?? And GET IT RIGHT, I was not kissing @ziggy903 's ass, I was admiring her GOLDEN VAGINA OK! And while I was admiring it, I was also sticking up for her because "someone" was rude, and a jerk to her and gave her a half ass apology that didn't mean a damn thing.
First off let me start start off saying I hope ziggys baby is healthy and happy. I am truly sorry for all you are going through. No one should have so much heart ache during such a special time.
Regarding Kendra and all the other girls on this HDBD who did post a pic of their beautiful baby bumps. That's your right and EVERYONE is entitled to post or not post. Just because the majority feels differently doesn't make you wrong. Actually it makes you not a follower, which after reading this post and others is really hard to find among the FEB'14 ladies. Although it is nice to support a fellow member especially at a difficult time, I would think Ziggy would have more serious and bigger things to attend to then a HDBD, but obviously this post is very dear to her heart and others realize that.
Kendra you are not narcissistic or overly sensitive and you have been attacked by many of the I'll say it "Top Ten" and they still have a lot of growing up to do. Being sensitive to others feelings and to your own is great quality and will help you in parenting for your future baby. "White knighting", as you all like to call it is good thing, it shows that you have compassion for someone other then the majority and can stand up not only for yourself but for others.
So now everyone go ahead and start "flaming" me...NoelMarieFrey start kissing ziggys ass...Carseat...state your opinion like its a fact...Rhondackhiker, mention for the zillion time that your husband is a Dr....b/c I'm now logging out and not coming back ...How is that for passive aggressive?
Have you ever seen anything like this?!??!
*Not the quote. I've seen those a million times. But the dog? Wow!
I have! That's how we tried to feed my childhood dog. She had a problem where her esophagus stopped working so all food had to fall to her stomach through gravity and she had to stay upright for a certain time after meals.
Kendra
you are not narcissistic or overly sensitive and you have been attacked
by many of the I'll say it "Top Ten" and they still have a lot of
growing up to do.
@woody26 No! Don't Go! Come back and elaborate on the bolded!
also, you leaving isn't passive aggressive. It's basically you just being a coward and not wanting to see the responses you get to your lame post.
First off let me start start
off saying I hope ziggys baby is healthy and happy. I am truly sorry
for all you are going through. No one should have so much heart ache
during such a special time.
Regarding
Kendra and all the other girls on this HDBD who did post a pic of their
beautiful baby bumps. That's your right and EVERYONE is entitled to
post or not post. Just because the majority feels differently doesn't
make you wrong. Actually it makes you not a follower, which after
reading this post and others is really hard to find among the FEB'14
ladies. Although it is nice to support a fellow member especially at a
difficult time, I would think Ziggy would have more serious and bigger
things to attend to then a HDBD, but obviously this post is very dear to
her heart and others realize that.
Kendra
you are not narcissistic or overly sensitive and you have been attacked
by many of the I'll say it "Top Ten" and they still have a lot of
growing up to do. Being sensitive to others feelings and to your own is
great quality and will help you in parenting for your future baby.
"White knighting", as you all like to call it is good thing, it shows
that you have compassion for someone other then the majority and can
stand up not only for yourself but for others.
So
now everyone go ahead and start "flaming" me...NoelMarieFrey start
kissing ziggys ass...Carseat...state your opinion like its a fact...Rhondackhiker,
mention for the zillion time that your husband is a Dr....b/c I'm now
logging out and not coming back ...How is that for passive aggressive?
So
now everyone go ahead and start "flaming" me...NoelMarieFrey start
kissing ziggys ass...Carseat...state your opinion like its a fact...Rhondackhiker,
mention for the zillion time that your husband is a Dr....b/c I'm now
logging out and not coming back ...How is that for passive aggressive?
GBCB.
So it looks like....in the "top ten", we have @NoelMarieFrey, @Ziggy903, Car seat (Who won't actually get the tag), and @Rhondackhiker.... that's four. THE OTHER 6 ARE A MYSTERY YET.
I can only assume all the above have been rightfully awarded their golden vaginas.
ETA: Unless Mister Dr Rhondack counts. Then it would be 5.
First off let me start start off saying I hope ziggys baby is healthy and happy. I am truly sorry for all you are going through. No one should have so much heart ache during such a special time.
Regarding Kendra and all the other girls on this HDBD who did post a pic of their beautiful baby bumps. That's your right and EVERYONE is entitled to post or not post. Just because the majority feels differently doesn't make you wrong. Actually it makes you not a follower, which after reading this post and others is really hard to find among the FEB'14 ladies. Although it is nice to support a fellow member especially at a difficult time, I would think Ziggy would have more serious and bigger things to attend to then a HDBD, but obviously this post is very dear to her heart and others realize that.
Kendra you are not narcissistic or overly sensitive and you have been attacked by many of the I'll say it "Top Ten" and they still have a lot of growing up to do. Being sensitive to others feelings and to your own is great quality and will help you in parenting for your future baby. "White knighting", as you all like to call it is good thing, it shows that you have compassion for someone other then the majority and can stand up not only for yourself but for others.
So now everyone go ahead and start "flaming" me...NoelMarieFrey start kissing ziggys ass...Carseat...state your opinion like its a fact...Rhondackhiker, mention for the zillion time that your husband is a Dr....b/c I'm now logging out and not coming back ...How is that for passive aggressive?
1.)
2.)
3.)
I scratch my head to think of all the time you guys must waste looking for these gifs and then strategically posting them just to look good to each other.
And by looking at the gifs it is obvious that you anticipate participating in drama.
First off let me start start
off saying I hope ziggys baby is healthy and happy. I am truly sorry
for all you are going through. No one should have so much heart ache
during such a special time.
Regarding
Kendra and all the other girls on this HDBD who did post a pic of their
beautiful baby bumps. That's your right and EVERYONE is entitled to
post or not post. Just because the majority feels differently doesn't
make you wrong. Actually it makes you not a follower, which after
reading this post and others is really hard to find among the FEB'14
ladies. Although it is nice to support a fellow member especially at a
difficult time, I would think Ziggy would have more serious and bigger
things to attend to then a HDBD, but obviously this post is very dear to
her heart and others realize that.
Kendra
you are not narcissistic or overly sensitive and you have been attacked
by many of the I'll say it "Top Ten" and they still have a lot of
growing up to do. Being sensitive to others feelings and to your own is
great quality and will help you in parenting for your future baby.
"White knighting", as you all like to call it is good thing, it shows
that you have compassion for someone other then the majority and can
stand up not only for yourself but for others.
So
now everyone go ahead and start "flaming" me...NoelMarieFrey start
kissing ziggys ass...Carseat...state your opinion like its a fact...Rhondackhiker,
mention for the zillion time that your husband is a Dr....b/c I'm now
logging out and not coming back ...How is that for passive aggressive?
1.)
2.)
3.)
I scratch my head to think of all the time you guys must waste looking for these gifs and then strategically posting them just to look good to each other.
And by looking at the gifs it is obvious that you anticipate participating in drama.
Well Kendra, If you knew me, READ A COUPLE OF POSTS about other things that don't have to do with you, and SUPPORTED some of the girls around here you would know that I am on bed rest and have tons of time to look for gifs that I love, and support my fellow ladies on the board
Re: HDBD!!! let's see those beautiful bellies
I guess I just haven't gotten used to the whole culture of an online forum. I'm used to real life where everyone is nice, or at least tries to be...unless they are really just assholes and don't care at all.
The sad part about it is that I imagine that most of you are very nice people in real life but here anything goes. I'm just used to a certain level of kindness and decency that is completely missing in an online community.
Ziggy I'm not going to argue with you. I'm really sorry for what you're going through and I was actually going to send you a PM saying so. I didn't before because I hadn't lurked enough and didn't know exactly what was going on so I didn't feel educated enough to make a comment. Also I've seen you bite heads off and spit them out on this board so I was a little intimidated to talk to you.
Again I'm really sorry for what you're going through (rea your update) and I hope all is well. You'll be in my thoughts.
NO. I really do feel bad and that was not passive aggressive, it was honest. I was intimidated to talk to her because I've seen her be pretty ruthless. It has no bearing on my level I sympathy for her.
I will admit it if I am being passive aggressive. I generally don't have a problem with Ziggy.
Ziggy if you read this, please know I did not mean a) to upset you, b) to make you feel guilty, c) cause you any other painful feelings. Obviously you are going through enough and don't need that. I was just saying I had a hard time approaching you.
Again I'm really sorry for what you're going through (rea your update) and I hope all is well. You'll be in my thoughts.
i don't know about you, but if i found someone intimidating, i would do everything i could to stay in their good graces.
Well we are two different people. I avoid people I am intimidated by. Again, not a slam. I just always have.
And yes I read your update, and I truly am sorry you're going through this!
I think you're also missing the meaning of honesty. It isn't mean to ask why you asked for advice when you act dismissive of that advice. It isn't mean to say, "we're not mind readers, if you do something different than what you type we don't know". It isn't mean to tell you that it isn't about you and your bump.
I didn't call names.
Allow me to be blunt (not mean) with you.
-Even if you don't think one person owns HDBD when you've read the thread and know the whole community is rallying in support of one person, it is dumb to claim you're not trying to start drama by posting a bump photo. If you go against an entire group of people, especially if a large number of those people are feeling defensive of one of their own, it will cause drama. You knew it would. You posted anyway. Own that. It makes you look stupid when you claim to be trying to avoid drama while causing it.
-Any apology followed by qualifiers like "but" makes the apology invalid. It means you're still trying to justify what you did wrong and you're not owning your mistake. Say, "sorry. I should have sent support to you immediately. I was planning to do so and it was wrong of me to wait." (Also, "I was going to!" sounds like a lie when you haven't done it yet).
I honestly didn't think that would happen. I'm not sure why my pic caused such an uproar when I was only one of many who posted a pic on this thread. I guess because you guys have had issues with me in the past.
The others got mocked and eye rolls because they didn't read the thread before posting. That's considered rude. Many apologized when they realized they threw bump photos into a thread that became about supporting Ziggy.
You posted and made it CLEAR you knew what was happening in the thread and you called the support for Ziggy and the attack of trolls "drama" and dismissed it.
Rather than joining everyone else in supporting Ziggy (even the people who don't agree HDBD should be owned offered her support), you made it all about you.
And then your replied by arguing and being passive aggressive rather than apologizing or leaving.
That is why you were given a harder time. Your actions caused this reaction. Not anyone's personal feelings about you.
This, exactly. Every other person hadn't READ the board before posting (except that one other person who's name I do not remember that posted a couple down from you) and when they realized their mistake they apologized in a sincere fashion. This board isn't about bump pics anymore it is about support for Ziggy, and you tried to make it about you. Even now you're trying to make the RESPONSES about you. No one has done anything here but support Ziggy and our boards pretty unanimous decision to let her do HDBD (which we can do because it's our board). You haven't been treated any different than anyone else who came here and dismissed our support for Ziggy. This board is how we supported her, and you were given the same chance to stay out of it or apologize when you used this board for something other then what it was like anyone else.
Edit - spelling and to fix the wording.
Agreed and edited.
I am appalled at some of the comments made to and about her, ESPECIALLY since yesterday was such a rough day for her.
Anyways, most people have already said what I'd say in her defense.
@ziggy903 hugs girl!
My life, my love, my boys


DS: Liam born 8.30.10 at 35 wks (PPROM, Pre-E, C-Section)
DD: BFP 6.9.13, EDD 2.12.14, A/S 9.20.13... It's a Girl!
Adeline Leigh born sleeping 2.11.14 at 39 wks 6 days
How very softly you tiptoed into our world, almost silently, only a moment you stayed. But what an imprint your footsteps have left upon our hearts. - Dorothy Ferguson
*silently hands over grenade launcher*
Get 'er done.
My life, my love, my boys


DS: Liam born 8.30.10 at 35 wks (PPROM, Pre-E, C-Section)
DD: BFP 6.9.13, EDD 2.12.14, A/S 9.20.13... It's a Girl!
Adeline Leigh born sleeping 2.11.14 at 39 wks 6 days
How very softly you tiptoed into our world, almost silently, only a moment you stayed. But what an imprint your footsteps have left upon our hearts. - Dorothy Ferguson
First off let me start start off saying I hope ziggys baby is healthy and happy. I am truly sorry for all you are going through. No one should have so much heart ache during such a special time.
Regarding Kendra and all the other girls on this HDBD who did post a pic of their beautiful baby bumps. That's your right and EVERYONE is entitled to post or not post. Just because the majority feels differently doesn't make you wrong. Actually it makes you not a follower, which after reading this post and others is really hard to find among the FEB'14 ladies. Although it is nice to support a fellow member especially at a difficult time, I would think Ziggy would have more serious and bigger things to attend to then a HDBD, but obviously this post is very dear to her heart and others realize that.
Kendra you are not narcissistic or overly sensitive and you have been attacked by many of the I'll say it "Top Ten" and they still have a lot of growing up to do. Being sensitive to others feelings and to your own is great quality and will help you in parenting for your future baby. "White knighting", as you all like to call it is good thing, it shows that you have compassion for someone other then the majority and can stand up not only for yourself but for others.
So now everyone go ahead and start "flaming" me...NoelMarieFrey start kissing ziggys ass...Carseat...state your opinion like its a fact...Rhondackhiker, mention for the zillion time that your husband is a Dr....b/c I'm now logging out and not coming back ...How is that for passive aggressive?
BFP #1 5.26.08 DD born 1.4.09
BFP #2 3.11.12 m/c 3.26.12
BFP #3 10.7.12 m/c 10.27.12
BFP #4 2.24.13 ectopic MTX 3.13.13 Right tube removed 3.29.13
BFP #5 5.27.13 DS born 1.22.14
BFP #6 4.14.16
HAHAHAHAHAHA I didn't even say anything to Kendra did I?? And GET IT RIGHT, I was not kissing @ziggy903 's ass, I was admiring her GOLDEN VAGINA OK! And while I was admiring it, I was also sticking up for her because "someone" was rude, and a jerk to her and gave her a half ass apology that didn't mean a damn thing.
I have! That's how we tried to feed my childhood dog. She had a problem where her esophagus stopped working so all food had to fall to her stomach through gravity and she had to stay upright for a certain time after meals.
BFP #1 5.26.08 DD born 1.4.09
BFP #2 3.11.12 m/c 3.26.12
BFP #3 10.7.12 m/c 10.27.12
BFP #4 2.24.13 ectopic MTX 3.13.13 Right tube removed 3.29.13
BFP #5 5.27.13 DS born 1.22.14
BFP #6 4.14.16
1.)
2.)
3.)
So it looks like....in the "top ten", we have @NoelMarieFrey, @Ziggy903, Car seat (Who won't actually get the tag), and @Rhondackhiker.... that's four.
THE OTHER 6 ARE A MYSTERY YET.
I can only assume all the above have been rightfully awarded their golden vaginas.
1.)
2.)
3.)
I scratch my head to think of all the time you guys must waste looking for these gifs and then strategically posting them just to look good to each other.
And by looking at the gifs it is obvious that you anticipate participating in drama.
Well Kendra, If you knew me, READ A COUPLE OF POSTS about other things that don't have to do with you, and SUPPORTED some of the girls around here you would know that I am on bed rest and have tons of time to look for gifs that I love, and support my fellow ladies on the board
OK, that's creepy.