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jbasore1123 · October 2013

Hi ladies,
I think it's time to intro over here. It's (almost) all in my siggy, but me and DH have been married since August 2010 (together for 3 years before that) and have been TTC since April 2012. MMC in November 2012 and natural MC in April 2013. I pushed for testing because I just felt something was wrong. In June I was diagnosed with a balanced translocation of two of my chromosomes. As far as I know, I am the only one in my family that has it, my parents and their siblings had no trouble conceiving. I guess it's pretty unusual for it to start without it being passed down, but I guess it had to start somewhere. I am now going through my first IVF and we will do genetic testing to make sure the embryos we implant are ok. I'm terrified about not having any healthy embryos, but I just have to keep up hope.
I'm sorry we all have to be here.

toomanycats1 · October 2013

Welcome! ((Hugs))

jbasore1123 · October 2013

jenek0213 said:

SIGGY

Just wanted to pop over and give you (((HUGS))). I remember how scary IVF#1 was, and the pins and needles waiting to know how many "good" embryos we had. But just keep chugging along! The likelihood of you having at least some good embryos is really good! I will warn you that women with BT are sometimes very hard to stimulate so don't be shocked if they put you on higher doses of stims or increase your stims as you go along... its actually pretty typical for a BT cycle.

FYI - My BT was passed down from my father (we did karotypes on my parents). My mother and he had one m/c and then went on to have two perfectly normal healthy pregnancies. So trouble conceiving isn't necessarily a telltale sign of them NOT having a BT. It just sucks all the way around, no matter where it came from. But luckily there is the medical miracle of IVF and I hope and pray its your solution! Wishing you so much luck with IVF #1!!!!

Ugh, I'm so worried about how I'm going to stim. I'm nervous because my first ultrasound after stims begin is 6 days in, and my ER is supposed to be only a few days after that. I worry it will be too late if there isn't enough eggs. He doesn't think I will have any problems stimming and when I mentioned exactly what you said he brushed it off.

Amores0121 · October 2013

Welcome. Good luck with the IVF. I hope it brings you your rainbow.

jbasore1123 · October 2013

jenek0213 said:

jbasore1123 said:

Ugh, I'm so worried about how I'm going to stim. I'm nervous because my first ultrasound after stims begin is 6 days in, and my ER is supposed to be only a few days after that. I worry it will be too late if there isn't enough eggs. He doesn't think I will have any problems stimming and when I mentioned exactly what you said he brushed it off.

SIGGY

Many BT don't have issues stimming! Don't fret too much. And they can extend your stimming period if you're not quite ready so don't assume that ER will be on the date they say right now (mine was 4-5 days later). If you even get 8 eggs (and that's considered a lower retrieval number) - you should still get two nice chromosomal normal embryos from that and we know your ute is receptive so chances for a BFP are really good. I know its crazy making but you will get through it. Sending so many prayers and (((HUGS))) your way. We're here for you.

Thanks for the kind words. I'm a little terrified so it really means a lot to me

lindsebert · October 2013

Sorry you've made it here, but welcome. Good luck with your first IVF.

Rachaeleigh · October 2013

Sorry you're here but GL with IVF #1! Looking forward to an update

rebmos · October 2013

I just wanted to say something because our issues are similar and I had your same question. There have never been any issues in my family either, yet the geneticists still think it was passed down. They told me that men who carry the BT don't necessarily have the high losses that women do. If you like numbers, there is a researcher in new York who will take a look at your info and give you your exact probability of success (it changes depending on the chromosomes). She does it for free, you just have to agree to be included in her research. If I remember correctly, her name is Dr. Carolyn Trunca, but I can go through my notes to be sure later.

buggirl72 · October 2013

Welcome (((hugs)))

jbasore1123 · October 2013

rebmos said:

I just wanted to say something because our issues are similar and I had your same question. There have never been any issues in my family either, yet the geneticists still think it was passed down. They told me that men who carry the BT don't necessarily have the high losses that women do. If you like numbers, there is a researcher in new York who will take a look at your info and give you your exact probability of success (it changes depending on the chromosomes). She does it for free, you just have to agree to be included in her research. If I remember correctly, her name is Dr. Carolyn Trunca, but I can go through my notes to be sure later.

Our geneticist contacted her, which is why we are moving forward with IVF. She gave us a 5-10% chance for giving birth to an unbalanced baby and a 45% chance for miscarriage

EKGibs · October 2013

Welcome! Good luck with IVF!

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