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September 2013 Moms
Shaunamae87
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Mistake at the hospital
Shaunamae87
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Hello everyone. It's been a while I have been pretty busy with my little guy. So I had him on the 1st and put in a request for my medical records. The main reason I did this is because one of the few mistakes that were made during my labor and delivery. So this is the big one that is really bothering me right now... Well has been bothering me. But let me just say even with all of this I am thankful he is happy and healthy. That is the most important thing.
I wanted to do placenta incapsulation so I discussed that w my nurse and signed a special form for it during my stay. Well they threw it away. It took them two days for them to give me a definitive answer as to what happened to it. It was simply thrown away. I'm still bothered by this as it is iripaceable and I was really looking forward to doing that through out my pregnancy. I figure it could've really helped with my milk supply and mood... One other little thing. I had an emergency c section (though I question the emergency part because the dr told the anesthesiologist he had about 15 min to get me in the OR) when I came back from the OR my surgery consent forms were not signed. Although I would have consented, I just thought that was really un professional. Anyway what I'm more sad about is the lost placenta. I might go into more detail of the horrendous shit storm that was my labor and delivery at another time.. Long story short my lawyer says I have a good case. I'm just curious as to what others would do in this situation. Worth persuing legal action?
I wanted to do placenta incapsulation so I discussed that w my nurse and signed a special form for it during my stay. Well they threw it away. It took them two days for them to give me a definitive answer as to what happened to it. It was simply thrown away. I'm still bothered by this as it is iripaceable and I was really looking forward to doing that through out my pregnancy. I figure it could've really helped with my milk supply and mood... One other little thing. I had an emergency c section (though I question the emergency part because the dr told the anesthesiologist he had about 15 min to get me in the OR) when I came back from the OR my surgery consent forms were not signed. Although I would have consented, I just thought that was really un professional. Anyway what I'm more sad about is the lost placenta. I might go into more detail of the horrendous shit storm that was my labor and delivery at another time.. Long story short my lawyer says I have a good case. I'm just curious as to what others would do in this situation. Worth persuing legal action?
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Re: Mistake at the hospital
Also, sometimes in an emergency only verbal consent is required and latter they will have you actually sign something.
I know I signed a crapton of paperwork when I was admitted, including something saying I consented to a c section. Are you sure you didn't sign something like that? Would you have turned the procedure down?
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IMHO, this is a stupid thing to sue over.
As for the surg consent, you gave verbal consent. If it were me & I was being taken in for an emergency I would want all staff working to get me back to OR to get my LO out safely not wasting their time getting signed consent for something I gave verbal consent for.
What exactly are your damages? There is no case w/o damages.. and a want doesn't cut it. I wanted to BF, but that didn't work out.. I am not going to sue anyone over it.
Also, if someone's placenta needs to go to path then often they can just send a piece and not the whole thing.
One thing.. And it's hard for me to re hash this but I'll tell a bit more of the tale. Maybe it's therapeutic. What I will say is something the anesthesiologist said after the surgery. He said, you need to work out. I was so god damn upset I was not ready for joking around. It was a compliment ( he was being sarcastic because my tummy went flat after the surgery ) and then said i needed to eat. It was just inappropriate. During my surgery the dr was explaining in detail how she was doing everything. "I do my incision this way and cut through this layer of skin" kind of talk. I thought a resident was doing my surgery which scared me even more. Because she was explaining things w the resident I felt that it probably took a bit longer then normal. It was a 45 min c section I believe. I know the Drs and nurses do this kind of thing all the time and it's every day for them. But as a panicked first time mom joking around and explaining how you are cutting and sewing AND stapling me is not what I needed to hear at that time. Oh and saying things about my body that I need to fucking work out and eat. I have body image issues but does he give a shit about that? Guess he wasn't thinking. I feel that the staff should've been more sensitive. None of this, not even the pregnancy way planned. And I don't think because of this, I will plan to have children in the future. That is some more detail.. A couple more things spiraled out of control but I'm just going to stop now..
2. If your doctor walking not only a resident but you through the procedure which is common practice is scary to you, you need to grow some thicker skin because you are a mom now and there are going to be things you don't like but have to do. I for one like to know what is happening to me if I am a awake for a procedure.
3. The comments all though are poor bedside manner and poor choice of words are nothing to sue over. Are you going to sue everyone who makes a rude comment to you?
4 as for your placenta it sucks it got thrown away but what's done is done and dwelling on it and bringing it up again and again is not going to bring it back. You have no clue if it will have helped you or not.
5. You have no grounds to sue over. Enjoy your healthy child and move on.
Again, what would you hope to gain by suing over this?
The placenta being tossed and is the only thing I considered doing anything about. Again, it just seemed un professional to have me sign it after the fact. Especially because there was no rush on the c section. I assume this because the dr told the anesthesiologist he had 15 minutes.
2. If your doctor walking not only a resident but you through the procedure which is common practice is scary to you, you need to grow some thicker skin because you are a mom now and there are going to be things you don't like but have to do. I for one like to know what is happening to me if I am a awake for a procedure.
My dr was teaching a resident. The dr working on me was not a resident. I thought she was because of the way the dr was teaching/what she was saying. But I soon found out that yes, the dr was doing it and a resident was observing.
3. The comments all though are poor bedside manner and poor choice of words are nothing to sue over. Are you going to sue everyone who makes a rude comment to you?
When did I say I wanted to sue over something shitty someone said? Again it's just the placenta I considered to take some kind of action on.
4 as for your placenta it sucks it got thrown away but what's done is done and dwelling on it and bringing it up again and again is not going to bring it back. You have no clue if it will have helped you or not.
Well this is why I asked what other people would do in this situation. I do understand that it sucks and I won't be getting it back. Thanks though
5. You have no grounds to sue over. Enjoy your healthy child and move on.
I'll just take this as no, most people wouldn't do anything. I still really don't think it's ok. I'm not spending the entire day worrying about it or anything like that. But it still makes my blood boil and I don't think I'm just going to roll over and take it on this one. I'm surprised so many would.
As I said before, I am not sure. No amount of money could bring it back. But at the same time I don't want to just do nothing and let a mistake like that slip through like nothing happened
I will never understand why people complain about doctors teaching a resident about a procedure during a procedure. How else do you people expect residents to fully learn these things?
I'm sorry things didn't go as you planned for your placenta. Things didn't go as I planned either. But I have a healthy, beautiful daughter, and that's all I could have asked for. You said the main reason for suing would be the placenta. It's done, it's gone, would suing the hospital bring it back? Just complain to the administration.
Edit: I think we all sympathize with you about the loss of your placenta. But to take it to a level of suing the hospital? That's when I started side eying you. People are too sue happy. Waste of time and money for something that no one can do anything about at this point.
Understanding or telling you what you want to hear? There's a big difference.
I don't think people are reading this. I didn't say that they said he needed to be out in 15 minutes. Dr A had 15 minutes to get me to the OR according to Dr B. She was really like, eh whatever about it. And I'm a huge advocate for teaching. That's why I didn't mind delivering at a teaching hospital. It's just that I thought a student was performing my surgery (at first until I asked and found out a student was not) again teaching is great, but not when your patient is a frantic mess. Maybe at that point you should just do what you need to do and be done so you can get the frantic mess out of there. I did not want to hear the details on how I was being cut open, sewed, and stapled. It made things worse for me. As a first time mom in a surprise situation it was a shitty thing to hear.
I did complain, and they apologized. But.. I guess I wanted something more then an apology in return. At the same time for the 3rd or 4th time no amount of money is going to bring it back. I understand that. As I said the most important thing is that he is healthy and happy and I am thrilled with him being happy and healthy, it's just a bunch of shitty things that happened all at once. Bad luck. I don't even think the Drs were bad they were actually really smart and great at making sure we both made it out ok. Just the way some things were done and they way some things were said makes me shiver every time I have to walk by that place. I hope they are just more careful with future patients and keep people's feelings in mind. I did have some awesome nurses too. I don't want to forget about them.
Sue if, God forbid, you or your child is injured. Not over this. It was an honest mistake, a very upsetting one for you, but it is not at all lawsuit material.
Also, as a PP mentioned, they probably had a lot they were doing in that 15 minutes. Even if it was behind the scenes. I don't think them telling them they had 15 minutes is any kind if indication that it wasn't an emergency.
It really sounds like you are a person that needs to grow a tougher skin and learn to deal better. I also suggest some counseling to help get over the issue, because it seems like you can't move past it
From your description, it sounds like your c/s falls under the "not planned in advance emergency c/s" and not a "baby needs to be out this second c/s".
I am sorry you didn't get the experience you wanted.
It wasn't just traumatic for me. It was for everyone involved. Mom, dad, and DH. My father is actually the one who decided to call up a lawyer. As I said there is even more to the story but not worth telling to strangers online. I think it's just really easy for people to skim over things when they read or assume they know the entire story just by reading tid bits of it. What I think I'm getting here is not the truth but people (some people anyway)on phones and lap tops who really couldn't give too much of a shit or even try to understand... Probably just bored
Sue if, God forbid, you or your child is injured. Not over this. It was an honest mistake, a very upsetting one for you, but it is not at all lawsuit material.
I may not go as far as to attempt to sue but I just need to find some way to get some kind of closure on this.
Also, as a PP mentioned, they probably had a lot they were doing in that 15 minutes. Even if it was behind the scenes. I don't think them telling them they had 15 minutes is any kind if indication that it wasn't an emergency.
The dr said he had 15 mins to get me to sx. About 15 mins later they started to prep me for surgery... It was not an immediate emergency in my opinion. If our lives were in danger they wouldn't make us wait.
What is bad would be going in for a c-section and a doc cutting to deep and cutting the baby, or the woman coding on the table and not making it. These examples are horrible and not anywhere near what you went through.
There are plenty of ladies on here that would have given anything to have a birth where their child got to go home with them. I will never forget how I felt walking out of the hospital without my son who had to be flown to another town and not knowing if he would be alive when I got I him.
Enjoy your family, move on.
I am now calling mud. We only know what you tell us, we can't pull out our crystal balls and see your past history!
How the hell are we supposed to know what the hell happened.
If you want closure get counseling!