I don't have the STM mommy guilt that everyone I know and are here seems to have. You know? The "I didn't spend enough time with my first baby" or the "how will I love another as much as I love my first". Yeah. Don't have it.
Maybe it's because I'm a second child so I have less "sympathy" for the first? Don't get me wrong, I love my daughter more than life. I'd do anything for her. But I already feel the same about DD2 that has yet to arrive. So I don't think loving them enough will be a problem. Plus, I loved having a sister. So I'm excited for DD to get that as well.
I'm not bummed i'm having a boy. Ok maybe in a weird way I am a little bit. Cause me and my sister are soooooo close and having 2 girls would have been amazing. I think it's just what I know though. I feel like if I have a boy/girl or 2 boys the relationship is just different. Maybe not.
I'm not bummed i'm having a boy. Ok maybe in a weird way I am a little bit. Cause me and my sister are soooooo close and having 2 girls would have been amazing. I think it's just what I know though. I feel like if I have a boy/girl or 2 boys the relationship is just different. Maybe not.
My parents only had two kids. My older brother and myself and my older brother is my best friend. He always has been. I think it has more to do with age difference and the temperament of the children.
Confession- I totally did my very own awkward maternity shots last night. Me and a friend got together and it got weird. He's still editing but sent me a few mild pics. I may save the doozy for HDBD.
Confession- I totally did my very own awkward maternity shots last night. Me and a friend got together and it got weird. He's still editing but sent me a few mild pics. I may save the doozy for HDBD.
Today is my first day of maternity leave. I am spending the day watching Hulu and Netflix in bed and refuse to get dressed even though there are things to be done around the house. My H can do it when he gets home from work.
I hate Bf'ing. I thought I was prepared for it, but no, not at all. I hate being a dairy cow and being beholden to my boobs. However, I continue in the endeavor because I know it's better for LO. If it weren't for my every-other day meetings with the LC I would have folded by now...
Married 6/26/10 TTC 1/13 BFP 1/31/13 Wills born 10/9/13
I have two. One, I will be bragging about going med free for my 30 hour labor. But only to people who told me I wouldn't be able to handle it, otherwise who gives a shit.
Two, I am shocked at how amazing my husband was while I was in labor. I seriously expected the worst from him, but he was there to do whatever I asked and bawl more than our baby did when she was born. I really expected to have to kick him out, but he's been an amazing support system.
I know you don't get a trophy for a med free birth and I was SO close to asking for an epi but the fact that I didn't have drugs and stuck with my natural birth plan makes me really proud of myself and at this point, I'd brag to anyone who asks.
Oh and can we officially declare @tmccord21 the Oct 13 Wonder Woman? I don't know what we're going to do when you have Fox...you crunch all the numbers AND start the weekly threads forgotten by those of us who have outside babies.
@tmccord21 in her everyday life, and then turning into her TB self GIFSoup
Oh and can we officially declare @tmccord21 the Oct 13 Wonder Woman? I don't know what we're going to do when you have Fox...you crunch all the numbers AND start the weekly threads forgotten by those of us who have outside babies.
@tmccord21 in her everyday life, and then turning into her TB self
GIFSoup
Oh, and my brother and I are best friends, and if I could have picked the order of my kids I would have a boy, then a girl. The older boy will most definitely look out for/rat on his little sister, which is totally a good thing when they are teenagers, then he will take care of her and defend her for the rest of their lives. Having an older brother is a good thing! Mine is a year younger and he is still my bestfriend and looks out for me.
Here's mine, and its a bit of a doozy. For a few months after DD2 was born, I hardly liked DD1. I loved her, but I didn't like her much. She was 24 months when DD2 was born and going through her terrible 2's really hard. It was also made worse by my MIL who took DD1 2-3x a week to give me a break. The problem was that DD1 would come home spoiled and bratty each time. Obviously I fought through it and was careful to never let her know how I was feeling. But it was rough. My MIL has already offered to take the older two a few times a week to give me time with the baby alone. It sounds dreamy, but after last time, I just can't let that happen again.
Eleanor 1/8/10
Harriet 1/19/12
Margaret 10/31/2013
I tasted my breast milk. It dripped on my hand and I instinctively licked it off. It didn't taste too bad. Kind of sweet.
I also told Bridget to shut up the other day in the middle of a crying fest that went on for hours. I felt horrible and cried too.
Breastmilk is surprisingly sweet. Like really sugary. I've done the same thing where I got some on my hand and licked it off without thinking. I'm surprised with how different formula tastes compared. One time I went to pick up DD1 from my MIL who was babysitting and her house smelled like yummy caramel. I asked her what she was cooking and it turned out it was my milk. She spilled some in her bottle warmer and it cooked and made the house smell awesome all day.
Eleanor 1/8/10
Harriet 1/19/12
Margaret 10/31/2013
Oh, and my brother and I are best friends, and if I could have picked the order of my kids I would have a boy, then a girl. The older boy will most definitely look out for/rat on his little sister, which is totally a good thing when they are teenagers, then he will take care of her and defend her for the rest of their lives. Having an older brother is a good thing! Mine is a year younger and he is still my bestfriend and looks out for me.
@sfshorter I have an older brother but the gap was too big for us to be close (7yrs) He moved out right after HS.
I am super pissed at DH, and I can't decide if it's irrational or not. He got me sick and I am freaking miserable. He's been sick for about a week, and refused to go to the doctor until Wednesday night, and now I'm 39 weeks and feel like shit. Throat is killing me, coughing makes me want to vomit, I have cold sweats. Ugh.
I can't stand all the pain med free posts! They enrage me actually. I'm not impressed that you went pain med free, especially if you were not induced. Being induced is a different animal, and those moms should be getting pain meds! Many of our moms that did not go pain med free did so due to being induced. So stop being nasty to those moms who weren't lucky enough to progress naturally and needed to resort to pitocin and pain meds to get their babies out safely. Shame on you! ::steps off soapbox:: IT'S MY LAST DAY! YAY!
I am super pissed at DH, and I can't decide if it's irrational or not. He got me sick and I am freaking miserable. He's been sick for about a week, and refused to go to the doctor until Wednesday night, and now I'm 39 weeks and feel like shit. Throat is killing me, coughing makes me want to vomit, I have cold sweats. Ugh.
I'm getting so frustrated with the 4am feeding I want to start pumping in an attempt to get a bottles worth so I can sleep a little more and DH can feed him. But everything I read says to wait to pump and bottle feed..... I'm tired.
There has been stress (on my part) on which set of parents will hold our LO first once he is here. My in laws are out if town until Sunday and I am hoping I have him while they are away so no one gets their feelings hurt and to avoid drama...... Now that I have said that I will go a week over my due date, but oh well.
@brandontricia Confession....I don't want my ILs touching the baby bc they are both heavy smokers. They always stink! And no matter how much FIL washes his hands they look dirty. He works outside a lot. But I really don't want anyone touching him.
I can't stand all the pain med free posts! They enrage me actually. I'm not impressed that you went pain med free, especially if you were not induced. Being induced is a different animal, and those moms should be getting pain meds! Many of our moms that did not go pain med free did so due to being induced. So stop being nasty to those moms who weren't lucky enough to progress naturally and needed to resort to pitocin and pain meds to get their babies out safely. Shame on you! ::steps off soapbox:: IT'S MY LAST DAY! YAY!
Are there people being nasty? I mean, I told my med free birth story. I hope that isn't the kind of thing you are referring to. I would never want to make someone feel bad for having meds. Having a baby is freaking hard business and so I say do whatever you have to to get that baby out and into your arms safely.
Here is my FFC- The other day when I was changing DD's diaper I saw that there was a teeny tiny bit of pee on the back of her little leggings and I kept them on. It was a super cute outfit that I had only put on an hour or two before and SIL was there for the day so I wanted her to look cute. Yeah, horrible mom over here.
There has been stress (on my part) on which set of parents will hold our LO first once he is here. My in laws are out if town until Sunday and I am hoping I have him while they are away so no one gets their feelings hurt and to avoid drama...... Now that I have said that I will go a week over my due date, but oh well.
@brandontricia Confession....I don't want my ILs touching the baby bc they are both heavy smokers. They always stink! And no matter how much FIL washes his hands they look dirty. He works outside a lot. But I really don't want anyone touching him.
I told my bf that if his family smells like smoke they're not touching the baby. I don't even want them to come to the hospital. I was a smoker and grew up with smokers and I don't want my baby around it. 3rd hand is gross too.
I've gone through three boxes of Trader Joe's pumpkin pop tarts since Monday. No regrets. They really should list crack on the ingredient list, though.
February Signature Challenge: Valentine's Day GIFs
Another confession. I nicknamed Bridget Princess Tiny Hinny. I sometimes call her Royal Hinniest and I may or may not sing a song about it to her. I think being home alone with a baby all day has messed with my mind 8-} She does have such a small butt though and all of her pants (even the preemie ones) fall down.
I sing a song to my Charlotte about her tiny butt too! Good to know I'm not alone. Seriously though, her butt is pretty much non-existent.
Another confession. I nicknamed Bridget Princess Tiny Hinny. I sometimes call her Royal Hinniest and I may or may not sing a song about it to her. I think being home alone with a baby all day has messed with my mind 8-} She does have such a small butt though and all of her pants (even the preemie ones) fall down.
I sing a song to my Charlotte about her tiny butt too! Good to know I'm not alone. Seriously though, her butt is pretty much non-existent.
@mrsstuessywi and @missgpsu I totally see myself singing ridiculous things to this kid. When I wash the dogs I sing a little song that goes something like "fleas, fleas, fleasssss No mo' fleas!" No shame.
Today is my last day of work, but since I am working from home I am actually just sitting at my computer to move the mouse every 10 minutes or so to keep my profile active while I crochet hats for the baby.
Today is my last day of work, but since I am working from home I am actually just sitting at my computer to move the mouse every 10 minutes or so to keep my profile active while I crochet hats for the baby.
February Signature Challenge: Valentine's Day GIFs
Today is my last day of work, but since I am working from home I am actually just sitting at my computer to move the mouse every 10 minutes or so to keep my profile active while I crochet hats for the baby.
Throwing my husband under the bus but he does the same thing when he works from home some days. I had no idea what he was doing but he finally confessed that he was making sure his profile stays active. Whatever it is nice to have him home an extra day every week.
Today is my last day of work, but since I am working from home I am actually just sitting at my computer to move the mouse every 10 minutes or so to keep my profile active while I crochet hats for the baby.
Ah! I accident pushed the flag button! I've never done that before so I don't know if I actually flagged you?! I didn't mean to! I meant to love it! :-t
I'm annoyed by those who go on and on about having a med free birth. I caved as soon as I got to the hospital and I'm so glad I did. I went from 4cm to 10cm in 2 hours and that I might just brag about.
Today is my last day of work, but since I am working from home I am actually just sitting at my computer to move the mouse every 10 minutes or so to keep my profile active while I crochet hats for the baby.
Ah! I accident pushed the flag button! I've never done that before so I don't know if I actually flagged you?! I didn't mean to! I meant to love it!
:-t
I am impressed with ladies who went med free now that I know how bad contractions can hurt, but I personally don't get it.- I LOVED my epi. I was so calm during my labor, I was able to rest the night before her birth, and I just feel like it was beneficial to bring her into the world calmly without all the stress and screaming. I regret nothing
Also.... I thought maybe I just didn't have enough exposure to newborns to know what people were talking about when they say they love "newborn smell", but I now live with my own little newborn, and I still don't know what people are talking about. Furthermore, when people say they love "newborn smell", all I can think of is how the baby has been basting in amniotic fluid for months- is that what they smell? If so, that's kind of gross, lol.
Also.... I thought maybe I just didn't have enough exposure to newborns to know what people were talking about when they say they love "newborn smell", but I now live with my own little newborn, and I still don't know what people are talking about. Furthermore, when people say they love "newborn smell", all I can think of is how the baby has been basting in amniotic fluid for months- is that what they smell? If so, that's kind of gross, lol.
I'm convinced that when people say the "newborn smell" they mean baby powder smell that is in so much baby products. My babies have never had a smell other than the occasional poop. I don't use any products with fragrance on my babies because I'm allergic to so many.
Eleanor 1/8/10
Harriet 1/19/12
Margaret 10/31/2013
I am impressed with ladies who went med free now that I know how bad contractions can hurt, but I personally don't get it.- I LOVED my epi. I was so calm during my labor, I was able to rest the night before her birth, and I just feel like it was beneficial to bring her into the world calmly without all the stress and screaming. I regret nothing
Also.... I thought maybe I just didn't have enough exposure to newborns to know what people were talking about when they say they love "newborn smell", but I now live with my own little newborn, and I still don't know what people are talking about. Furthermore, when people say they love "newborn smell", all I can think of is how the baby has been basting in amniotic fluid for months- is that what they smell? If so, that's kind of gross, lol.
The whole smell thing weirds me out too. When people say they love the smell I think in my head..'you like the smell of someone else's vag?' Weirdos
MrsStuessyWI said:
Amjoy25 said:
I can't stand all the pain med free posts! They enrage me actually. I'm not impressed that you went pain med free, especially if you were not induced. Being induced is a different animal, and those moms should be getting pain meds! Many of our moms that did not go pain med free did so due to being induced. So stop being nasty to those moms who weren't lucky enough to progress naturally and needed to resort to pitocin and pain meds to get their babies out safely. Shame on you! ::steps off soapbox:: IT'S MY LAST DAY! YAY!
Are there people being nasty? I mean, I told my med free birth story. I hope that isn't the kind of thing you are referring to. I would never want to make someone feel bad for having meds. Having a baby is freaking hard business and so I say do whatever you have to to get that baby out and into your arms safely.
I don't think I was referring to you specifically...I don't care for the term "brag" about having a pain med free birth and putting it your title; there's really no need to "brag" about it. We are all doing our best to get these babies out safely and healthily and it's not cool to brag to those who cannot do it without assistance.
I mean, you may as well say, those who have c-sections aren't really mothers (this is a throw back to a 3rd tri post, for those about to get their panties in a bunch)...but that's what it sounds like people are saying when they brag.
ETA...I don't now why the paragraphs look all fucked up! Sorry!
I really dislike how my husband has been dealing with our very touchy toddler lately. His patience level is no where near as close to mine. He gets frustrated and you can easily tell by his body language with him. When I try to tell him how I would handle the situation differently he takes it as how he is a horrible father and can't do anything right. It's really pissing me off. I'm sick of saying I'm just trying to help and just starting to give up.
Re: ~~**FFFC**~~
Maybe it's because I'm a second child so I have less "sympathy" for the first? Don't get me wrong, I love my daughter more than life. I'd do anything for her. But I already feel the same about DD2 that has yet to arrive. So I don't think loving them enough will be a problem. Plus, I loved having a sister. So I'm excited for DD to get that as well.
That GIF is pretty hypnotizing... maybe I'm just crazy.
So my toilet is uber low to the ground, so it is literally torture to sit down and get up... I now call DH to help me get up. XD
40 weeks today!
Two, I am shocked at how amazing my husband was while I was in labor. I seriously expected the worst from him, but he was there to do whatever I asked and bawl more than our baby did when she was born. I really expected to have to kick him out, but he's been an amazing support system.
GIFSoup
@tmccord21 in her everyday life, and then turning into her TB self
GIFSoup
Eleanor 9.30.13
Breastmilk is surprisingly sweet. Like really sugary. I've done the same thing where I got some on my hand and licked it off without thinking. I'm surprised with how different formula tastes compared. One time I went to pick up DD1 from my MIL who was babysitting and her house smelled like yummy caramel. I asked her what she was cooking and it turned out it was my milk. She spilled some in her bottle warmer and it cooked and made the house smell awesome all day.
Punch him!
I told my bf that if his family smells like smoke they're not touching the baby. I don't even want them to come to the hospital. I was a smoker and grew up with smokers and I don't want my baby around it. 3rd hand is gross too.
Eleanor 9.30.13
:-t
Also.... I thought maybe I just didn't have enough exposure to newborns to know what people were talking about when they say they love "newborn smell", but I now live with my own little newborn, and I still don't know what people are talking about. Furthermore, when people say they love "newborn smell", all I can think of is how the baby has been basting in amniotic fluid for months- is that what they smell? If so, that's kind of gross, lol.
Also, I am still in nothing but my bathrobe...and I probably won't wear real clothes today. Whatevs.