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nunzchucks · October 2013

Step into the confessional, my friends!

nunzchucks · October 2013

I spent most of yesterday morning working on the blog while my toddler played by herself. When DH came home and asked what we did all day, I said we worked on her colors. Oops!

chaysefaith · October 2013

I pretended my boyfriends cottage cheese made me sick so I wouldn't have to make his lunch.

nunzchucks · October 2013

SNLT1012 said:

I pretended my boyfriends cottage cheese made me sick so I wouldn't have to make his lunch.

Hahaha! I love this. I need to use this more

erind228 · October 2013

My husband has made dinner the past three nights due to my "fatigue." It's actually gotten better this week, but I just don't feel like cooking.

ashtonblair123 · October 2013

erind228 said:
My husband has made dinner the past three nights due to my "fatigue." It's actually gotten better this week, but I just don't feel like cooking.

I can probably count how many times duringmy pregnancy with DD that I actually cooked.

ashtonblair123 · October 2013

I am not cooking dinner tonight, because I want to go out to eat but I'll tell DH that DD just won't let me get anything done today.

hjl050308 · October 2013

I'm sending my husband to a kids birthday party with my son tomorrow. I said it was because I'm just so exhausted, it's really because I can't stand being around those other mothers.

AllyTales · October 2013

Besides my sisters and small circle of girl best friends, I have more male friends. I have a harder time getting along with females

WoodsSeltzer09 · October 2013

my boss "worked" from home yesterday and I spent all day just killing time on here . I love free day's off.

KingLED · October 2013

mrsgerman said:

I don't like the first time pregnant/first time BFP thread. No this isn't my first pregnancy, yes I had to go through delivery, but no I do not get to raise that child and this would (sort of) be my first so wtf where do I belong? Apparently not in that thread

This is EXACTLY my issue with it.

ETA: At least she reworded it to not sound so rude, but it still comes off as excluding anyone that has suffered a loss and that really bothers me.

Pintobean39 · October 2013

EllyD14 said:

mrsgerman said:

I don't like the first time pregnant/first time BFP thread. No this isn't my first pregnancy, yes I had to go through delivery, but no I do not get to raise that child and this would (sort of) be my first so wtf where do I belong? Apparently not in that thread

This is EXACTLY my issue with it.

ETA: At least she reworded it to not sound so rude, but it still comes off as excluding anyone that has suffered a loss and that really bothers me.

I'm sorry (((hugs))) to you both.

lest12 · October 2013

EllyD14 said:

mrsgerman said:

I don't like the first time pregnant/first time BFP thread. No this isn't my first pregnancy, yes I had to go through delivery, but no I do not get to raise that child and this would (sort of) be my first so wtf where do I belong? Apparently not in that thread

This is EXACTLY my issue with it.

ETA: At least she reworded it to not sound so rude, but it still comes off as excluding anyone that has suffered a loss and that really bothers me.

I had the same gross taste in my mouth after seeing that.

Susanrush13 · October 2013

I ate an entire sleeve of ritz crackers yesterday afternoon bc I couldn't find anything else appealing.

AandJ28 · October 2013

All of the shirts / sweaters I bought for Fall / Winter were based on how great they would look with a bump. I hadn't yet gotten my + when I bought them.

kimmyberly26 · October 2013

AllyTales said:

Besides my sisters and small circle of girl best friends, I have more male friends. I have a harder time getting along with females

Ahhh, We love you!!! But I'm the same way too.

TonyaCody06 · October 2013

@AandJ28 I had also bought 2 loose tops prior to a BFP to hide bloat/belly before I am ready to announce

kimmyberly26 · October 2013

I totally could have picked up the house last night after DD went to bed but I totally layed on the couch and told DH I didn't feel well so I could lay down and snuggle with my new Leacho Co body pillow.

KingLED · October 2013

Babybarlow2014 said:

mrsgerman said:

I don't like the first time pregnant/first time BFP thread. No this isn't my first pregnancy, yes I had to go through delivery, but no I do not get to raise that child and this would (sort of) be my first so wtf where do I belong? Apparently not in that thread

This is EXACTLY my issue with it.

ETA: At least she reworded it to not sound so rude, but it still comes off as excluding anyone that has suffered a loss and that really bothers me.
I had the same gross taste in my mouth after seeing that.
That's nuts!

How so?

Snickerdoodle24 · October 2013

AandJ28 said:
All of the shirts / sweaters I bought for Fall / Winter were based on how great they would look with a bump. I hadn't yet gotten my + when I bought them.

I once bought a cute super stretchy non-maternity skirt solely because I thought it would be cute with a bump (I too hadn't gotten a bfp yet). However, by the time I got pregnant and it was warm enough to wear it, it didn't stretch enough to fit with the bump. Oops

tbmadeamistake · October 2013

I just had a long talk with my supervisor about how there's too much on my plate and it's not physically possible for me to get everything done that's been asked of me. We talked about what I can let slide until next week (which helps with today, but not next week). Then I came on here to kill time because I'm so overwhelmed that I don't even know where to start. Great use of time management!

MamaTree17 · October 2013

When I got home from work yesterday there were 4 packages at the door. When my husband got home his first question, per usual, was how much each thing cost. I lied about every single one. After 5 years of marriage we still have separate checking accounts (share a savings) and if I want to spend my extra money on a nice desk chair instead of buying one off of craigslist which is his always-suggestion, then I'm going to.

KingLED · October 2013

Babybarlow2014 said:

Babybarlow2014 said:

mrsgerman said:

I don't like the first time pregnant/first time BFP thread. No this isn't my first pregnancy, yes I had to go through delivery, but no I do not get to raise that child and this would (sort of) be my first so wtf where do I belong? Apparently not in that thread

This is EXACTLY my issue with it.

ETA: At least she reworded it to not sound so rude, but it still comes off as excluding anyone that has suffered a loss and that really bothers me.
I had the same gross taste in my mouth after seeing that.
That's nuts!

How so?
Excluding people who've had a loss is ok?

No, it's not okay. But "that's nuts!" can be taken in a couple different ways there. Wasn't sure if you were saying that it's nuts someone would be so moronic and insensitive, or if it's nuts that we would feel that way.

Marcilene1 · October 2013

lest12 said:

mrsgerman said:

I don't like the first time pregnant/first time BFP thread. No this isn't my first pregnancy, yes I had to go through delivery, but no I do not get to raise that child and this would (sort of) be my first so wtf where do I belong? Apparently not in that thread

This is EXACTLY my issue with it.

ETA: At least she reworded it to not sound so rude, but it still comes off as excluding anyone that has suffered a loss and that really bothers me.
I had the same gross taste in my mouth after seeing that.

I did not see the original, but the way it is right now I think it's ok (albeit still a little bit wordy IMO). What in particular about the original post rubbed you guys the wrong way?

AllyTales · October 2013

kimmyberly26 said:

AllyTales said:

Besides my sisters and small circle of girl best friends, I have more male friends. I have a harder time getting along with females

Ahhh, We love you!!! But I'm the same way too.

:x

lucreciac · October 2013

I'm excited to be pregnant over the winter because I got J Brand maternity jeans at the end of my last pregnancy on clearance - and they fit me better than any of my normal jeans right now. 11 months later and I still haven't lost all of my pregnancy weight from C.

Edited for typos, doh.

diagonalley · October 2013

I really don't understand the big deal with the first time mom/first pregnancy thread? Then again, I didn't read the original...but I think first time mom would be anyone who does not currently have a child at home with them, so to me that includes those who have had losses, or even could include those who have given a child up for adoption.

Snickerdoodle24 · October 2013

I would love to have a son (or another daughter, whatevs ) but I cringe at the thought of this baby being a boy ONLY because my FIL is extremely narrow-minded and into gender roles. I can already hear all the crap he'd spew about needing to be a man's man and making snide comments any time our son would play with DD's kitchen or dolls. And God help the kid if he wanted to have a career in anything other than manual labor.

katekat8721 · October 2013

I really don't get the ticker change day thing. I thought it was for people who had turned an even week that day (i.e. 6 weeks, 5 weeks, etc) but then I see a lot of people posting at 6 weeks, 1 day, etc. If anyone can post on it no matter where they are in their pregnancy then why not just call it daily check in or something?

My real FFFC, I spent a good chunk of the past two days at work on TB or Dr. Google. They have me working late for a project and by the time I get home I don't have the energy to look up what I want to. I figure it's only temporary and just because I'm really excited, so I'm not feeling too bad about it.

flojo973 · October 2013

I told DH that I shouldn't be using cleaning products due to the chemicals (even though I bought organic, non-chemical stuff) so he has been doing all of the cleaning. I sat on the couch the other night and watched General Hospital while he cleaned all 3 bathrooms. I wonder how long its going to take him to catch on.

lest12 · October 2013

Marcilene1 said:

lest12 said:

mrsgerman said:

I don't like the first time pregnant/first time BFP thread. No this isn't my first pregnancy, yes I had to go through delivery, but no I do not get to raise that child and this would (sort of) be my first so wtf where do I belong? Apparently not in that thread

This is EXACTLY my issue with it.

ETA: At least she reworded it to not sound so rude, but it still comes off as excluding anyone that has suffered a loss and that really bothers me.
I had the same gross taste in my mouth after seeing that.

I did not see the original, but the way it is right now I think it's ok (albeit still a little bit wordy IMO). What in particular about the original post rubbed you guys the wrong way?

I honestly don't remember exactly what it said, but I do remember seeing a thread for "first time mom's" and being all, "Oh, that's me!" and then opening the post and seeing that it was really meant for people who were getting their first BFP. Which made me feel like crap. I get how exciting the first one is (for most people, my first BFP was terrifying, years ago). But honestly, are second or third BFP's any less great? And one post might have been OK, I guess, but to make it a "place" for people with their first BFP's? That felt crappy. But hey, I have PGAL as a consolation prize!

That's just my gut reaction.

I didn't realize that it had been edited (honestly, because I just didn't want to go back in there) but after reading it now, I appreciate that the OP didn't realize the exclusion or how it would come across. I don't think she did it to hurt anyone.

Marcilene1 · October 2013

lest12 said:

Marcilene1 said:

lest12 said:

mrsgerman said:

I don't like the first time pregnant/first time BFP thread. No this isn't my first pregnancy, yes I had to go through delivery, but no I do not get to raise that child and this would (sort of) be my first so wtf where do I belong? Apparently not in that thread

This is EXACTLY my issue with it.

ETA: At least she reworded it to not sound so rude, but it still comes off as excluding anyone that has suffered a loss and that really bothers me.
I had the same gross taste in my mouth after seeing that.

I did not see the original, but the way it is right now I think it's ok (albeit still a little bit wordy IMO). What in particular about the original post rubbed you guys the wrong way?

I honestly don't remember exactly what it said, but I do remember seeing a thread for "first time mom's" and being all, "Oh, that's me!" and then opening the post and seeing that it was really meant for people who were getting their first BFP. Which made me feel like crap. I get how exciting the first one is (for most people, my first BFP was terrifying, years ago). But honestly, are second or third BFP's any less great? And one post might have been OK, I guess, but to make it a "place" for people with their first BFP's? That felt crappy. But hey, I have PGAL as a consolation prize!
That's just my gut reaction.

I didn't realize that it had been edited (honestly, because I just didn't want to go back in there) but after reading it now, I appreciate that the OP didn't realize the exclusion or how it would come across. I don't think she did it to hurt anyone.

Oh ok. Thanks for explaining. I think most people who are getting their first bfps don't really consider losses much (except for a fear in the back of their minds that they don't think will ever happen to them) and so I agree that the poster didn't mean any harm in it and it is nice that she clarified later on. I'm sorry it made you feel like crap

If I were in your shoes I would've felt that way too.

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KingLED · October 2013

I'm actually really sad that baked goods and sweets aren't appetizing at all right now. I may or may not have tried to eat cookies and cheesecake yesterday only to end up making myself throw up trying. I miss my sweets.

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obscurereference · October 2013

I don't have a problem with a first time mom thread or even a first bfp thread. We have PGAL, PAIF, etc. why not the others? They all exclude one group or another. Just because one group might come together under sad cicumstances doesn't mean it's any less exclusionary.

Marcilene1 · October 2013

I feel so guilty about this, but I am considering going back to work after this baby is born. I have been a sahm since my daughter was born in June of 2011 and it is HARD. I cannot imagine how hard it is going to be with 3 under 3. I feel like a terrible mom thinking this way and I probably won't actually go back to work, but I do fantasize about what it would be like to get up and shower every morning, go to work and interact with other people, have the extra $, etc. In the end I do think it is best for our family for me to stay home for now, but sometimes I just feel so overwhelmed and like I suck at this lol.

flerlgirl · October 2013

DS loves to sleep with a blanket over his face. Soooooo I let him.

flerlgirl · October 2013

mrsgerman said:

I continuously wore maternity jeans since my last pregnancy without switching back because they are so f-ing comfortable. It's like sweatpants that look like jeans! I may never wear normal jeans again.

Gah, I love my maternity jeans so much. When I switch back I was like wtf, I have to UNDO A BUTTON to take them off? Lame.

katekat8721 · October 2013

meladoriestar said:

katekat8721 said:

I really don't get the ticker change day thing. I thought it was for people who had turned an even week that day (i.e. 6 weeks, 5 weeks, etc) but then I see a lot of people posting at 6 weeks, 1 day, etc. If anyone can post on it no matter where they are in their pregnancy then why not just call it daily check in or something?

My real FFFC, I spent a good chunk of the past two days at work on TB or Dr. Google. They have me working late for a project and by the time I get home I don't have the energy to look up what I want to. I figure it's only temporary and just because I'm really excited, so I'm not feeling too bad about it.

No, you're right. Some people seem to struggle with the concept...

Ah thanks! I thought I was crazy

I remember the first day I came here the person put the due dates associated with the ticker change - I thought that was nice. But it can be tough to keep track of!

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