Have we talked about this biatch yet?

Mrs JillB · October 2013

https://www.nydailynews.com/life-style/health/mom-3-called-bully-excuse-fitness-photo-article-1.1487278 Honestly, I think she's obnoxious. Good for her, but this would be like me posting a pic of me nursing my twins with the same caption. Obnoxious.

missyjg · October 2013

I saw her on the today show. She's shallow and a bully.

Mrs JillB · October 2013

But, but, her dress only cost $7!

jennipalmer · October 2013

I didn't look like that before I had kids! I have always had curves plus DH doesn't like six pack on girls! He loves my big ass

JenniferF11 · October 2013

missyjg said:

I saw her on the today show. She's shallow and a bully.

Agreed - it's just another mompetition I don't plan to participate in.

missyjg · October 2013

Lol @laurac122 true story about the boobs!
It's the words that erk me. Like she's saying "look at me I am beautiful bc my body looks like this and you are not bc your body looks like...well like you had a baby". Women are expected to bounce back within 6 weeks. Well I'm damn proud of my flub bc it's what my body needed to do to make sure my son was healthy. I will never look like her but I accepted that when I was 12.
So good job Maria. You are the fitness goddess and every woman should strive to look like you, anything less and you're lazy and making excuses. Exactly the thing I don't want my daughter to think!

Hilaboo86 · October 2013

A girl (fit) on my Facebook posted ab this and said she agrees. Well bitch you have two children over 5. You had time. Now, I didn't look like that before, nor will I after. I may step my game up and exercise, but my baby's CHILDHOOD needs to be celebrated and my spare time when not working will be spent with her.

[Deleted User] · October 2013

The user and all related content has been deleted.

giraffeluvspi · October 2013

I didn't see her interview so I have no live glimpse into her personality, however, I must say her statement about how we interpret the photo is our fault and not hers is 100% valid. People are calling her a bully, but what about all the people shaming her for being proud of her accomplishment? I'm sorry, but I don't believe taking time to get in shape so I have the energy to play with my son is wrong. It was something she posted on her own FB page and I hate when people start attacking others for what they put out there. If you don't like it then unfriend her or block her posts, people! This shouldn't be national news. Why don't we go back to focusing on something that really matters in this country.

*endrant* :-L

ETA: I should've added what this picture first said to me: you CAN get in shape after having a baby, so don't give up hope. Just keep trying. I did NOT look at this picture and see it in any negative form.

Mrs JillB · October 2013

I'd also like to ask her how many books she read this month. My number is 6 and my book club meets tomorrow night at my house.

Mrs JillB · October 2013

Ps. I would never judge another mom for wanting to make her body look nice and healthy. It's the accompanying saying that chaps my buns.

Mrs JillB · October 2013

But, see, that's not what she said. She said, what's your excuse? This is almost always said with a sneer in real life, so why wouldn't it be read that way? Had she posted this picture and had a caption of, "I understand what it's like to try to work out after having kids, but I did it and I can help you too." That would have gone a lot farther than what she said, especially as someone trying to build a business. Edit: meant to quote chrissie

Hilaboo86 · October 2013

Mrs JillB said:
Ps. I would never judge another mom for wanting to make her body look nice and healthy. It's the accompanying saying that chaps my buns.

Agreed. If she said, "I've worked hard to get this body, and I'm proud of it" I would have high fived her.

giraffeluvspi · October 2013

"What's your excuse?" is a common motivational phrase in the fitness world. For example, would you find this image offensive and bullying? She didn't invent the phrase on her own, I believe she is just trying to motivate a new group of people: Moms.

valstulas · October 2013

My excuse is that fourth boy. Really did a number

martyn17 · October 2013

Its awesome that she prioritizes a healthy lifestyle. I think we all probably have something we do awesome aside from parenting. Maybe we volunteer, or kick ass at work, or have pinterest style parties, or whatever. She should be proud of those abs. I'm proud I'm presenting at a big conference today. I just think it sucks when we act like our thing is better or more important than someone else's thing. Maybe she is trying to be a motivator but I didn't ask for her motivation. I run half marathons and eat healthy but I will never look like her and I'm OK with that.

karen0477 · October 2013

I guess because this has gone viral on the internet, everyone has an opinion on it, but this is something she posted on her own Facebook page. Honestly, I will not strive to look like she does, but I don't think there's anything wrong with her being proud of what she's done. I have a friend from nursing school who is going into competition for body building and she is receiving so much hate from people and I think it's really sad.....I think we all do the best we can and this just contributes more to mommy wars, no matter which side you agree with.......why do you care what some random stranger says on the internet?

elyse05 · October 2013

I don't know why this was all over the news. Who cares? I'm way more concerned about, oh, everything and anything else in the world.

Mrs JillB · October 2013

Dccornel said:

@mrsjillb Your title - yes. It was discussed yesterday. I think under the post "Really", if I can remember correctly

Edit: Here you are

Oh dang it, I'm always behind the curb on stuff like this.

cwhitloc · October 2013

Not a look I aspire for. She is too thin and wears too much make up for my taste. I am working on getting in shape, but I am going at my pace. My top priority is to feed the baby now, not to fit into smaller jeans. I am only in competition with myself in this regard. Her back story is she struggles with an eating disorder, so I'm sure that is in play here.

lancomechica · October 2013

I didn't read the story but it showed up in my fb newsfeed with her picture. She sucks and I want to punch her based on the picture.

ljs4117 · October 2013

I think her accomplishments are impressive, especially if what she says about not having a nanny, battling genetic disposition (to be overweight, I'm guessing?), etc are true.

My issue is just that this is just one more thing that pressures and guilts women to have that "perfect body". I don't think it's healthy to promote obesity because it very obviously causes serious health problems.. but the attitude of the picture wasn't that great either. Women go through a lot of changes during pregnancy and postpartum. You would think a fellow female would get that.

MrsHetzel · October 2013

People over use the word "bully." This is in no way, shape, or form bullying. We can't call everything we see in the public forum that doesn't appease us "bullying."

RumbleLina · October 2013

The difference between the picture above with the motivational saying "what's your excuse" is that it doesn't directly relate to pregnancy. Women are expected to bounce back and have flawless bodies after pregnancy and it just doesn't happen like that which results in women feeling shamed of self conscious of the body that created life. She obviously worked her butt off and good for her but not everyone has time to spend hours exercising between FT jobs, children, husband, and running a household. So my mother effin excuse to get rid of this jiggle and leftover baby flub? It's called higher priorities.

JellyTwoPointO · October 2013

I saw this on FB and rolled my eyes. My excuse is that I don't feel like I have to live up to the western, patriarchal, demeaning and narrow minded opinion of what a beautiful woman looks like.

je2161 · October 2013

I wasn't offended when I saw this. Sure I can see how the caption is a bit condescending but like pp said it's a common phrase in the fitness industry.

Want a personalized experience?

Have we talked about this biatch yet?

Re: Have we talked about this biatch yet?

Choose Another Board

Search Boards