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Thinking about TTC again. Comments welcomed.

shimmershine91shimmershine91 member
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Hello everyone. After a bit of discussion with my hubby, we have decided to try to get pregnant again. We have a 9 month old baby girl, but as it took years for us to have her, and he is going to be going to USN boot camp soon, we would like to start trying for another. I am a bit worried, however, as I am still a bit overweight from my first pregnancy, having developed pre-e and had to deliver her at 36 weeks. I also had trouble quitting smoking with her as well, but have since switched to a vaporizer cigarette(e-cig), and am cutting down slowly to hopefully using a 0% nicotine solution.

I've started slowly exercising and dieting where my lifestyle allows, as well as attempting to rest more so that my body has enough energy to burn off calories better. Also, I drink a lot of water, and very little sodas to start with. I know that given my previous history, my health should be in the best shape possible for me during a second pregnancy, no matter how long it actually takes to conceive another LO.

My question to you all would be what you might recommend in order for me to start off on the best foot. For instance, what did you all to in order to ensure a successful conception as well as a healthy pregnancy? Or if you have yet to conceive, what steps are you taking to do so?  My daughter was unplanned, so unfortunately we didn't get to get a head start on everything, but would like to do so this time.


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  • Shobb414Shobb414 member
    Stop smoking for sure, not even the occasional one. Cut caffeine, not only does that cut out all those extra calories it is better for the development of you and baby. Walk everyday, take your ds on a little walk or walk to get the mail. Try to stay active. Eat healthy, try to add more fruits instead for snacks....

    Other than that go for it! If you guys are happy and want to have a second child do it ;) babies are a blessing! If you wait for the "perfect" time it might never happen, if you're both ready, you could pick up some ovulation tests and track your cycle as well.
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  • CoachAPCoachAP member
    Take your PNVs


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  • FemShepFemShep member
    I'm curious about why you want to try to get pregnant now when you have so many challenges in your life.  

    If your H is going to boot camp, are you prepared to be a single parent and potentially have morning sickness or be on bedrest?  Will you need to move for his deployments?  What if he's deployed when you give birth, or if you're in the hospital for pre-e?  Being a military spouse is incredibly difficult, and I'd suggest getting used to it before you add another major stress.

    Your health issues also must be resolved.  You know you're already high-risk because of your history of pre-e.  And you've got two of the biggest risk factors in pregnancy you can have because you're a smoker and you're overweight.  Being overweight while pregnant contributes to more complications than any other factor.  And you know, I hope, how terrible smoking is for your children (both actual and potential).  Cut that shit out.

    You're asking strangers what to do to start out on the best foot, but I suspect you already know the answer.  Put your TTC plans on hold for now.  Experience life as a military spouse.  Lose the weight.  Stop smoking.  Revisit the decision in a year.
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  • Pepper6Pepper6 member
    bugandbibs said:
    shimmershine91 said:
    Hello everyone. After a bit of discussion with my hubby, we have decided to try to get pregnant again. We have a 9 month old baby girl, but as it took years for us to have her, and he is going to be going to USN boot camp soon, we would like to start trying for another. I am a bit worried, however, as I am still a bit overweight from my first pregnancy, having developed pre-e and had to deliver her at 36 weeks. I also had trouble quitting smoking with her as well, but have since switched to a vaporizer cigarette(e-cig), and am cutting down slowly to hopefully using a 0% nicotine solution.

    I've started slowly exercising and dieting where my lifestyle allows, as well as attempting to rest more so that my body has enough energy to burn off calories better. Also, I drink a lot of water, and very little sodas to start with. I know that given my previous history, my health should be in the best shape possible for me during a second pregnancy, no matter how long it actually takes to conceive another LO.

    My question to you all would be what you might recommend in order for me to start off on the best foot. For instance, what did you all to in order to ensure a successful conception as well as a healthy pregnancy? Or if you have yet to conceive, what steps are you taking to do so?  My daughter was unplanned, so unfortunately we didn't get to get a head start on everything, but would like to do so this time.


    I'm confused.  How did it take you years to conceive and yet your daughter was unplanned?  That makes no sense to me.
    This is exactly what I was thinking...
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  • hanna23hanna23 member
    Certainly start taking your prenatal vitamins if you are "Trying."  As the members before me said, smoking is an absolute no-no, no matter how small the amount.  Daily light exercise is wonderful for TTC, pregnancy, or shaking a few pounds (Walking is low impact while still being very beneficial) Caffeine is supposed to be safe in small portions, like a cup of coffee a day, I would cut it out all together though.  Every woman and every pregnancy is different, so you are the only one who knows if this is the time for you and your husband to start trying again.  I wish you luck and best wishes!

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  • SmileyJaySmileyJay member
    I guess I am confused, your daughter was unplanned but it took you years to have her? That doesn't make sense.

    I would focus on your health and your daughter right now. Lose the weight you need to, kick the smoking habit for good, and eat healthy. I think having a higher risk pregnancy with a very young child and no spouse around would be a recipe for a ton of stress. Wait until after he is back before you try to conceive, I really believe the reason it takes two people to make a baby is because it takes at least two to take care of one. 

    With your diet, focus on your sodium intake. The average american diet has 8 times the amount of sodium that the body actually needs. Sodium intake is a major contributing factor to hypertension (pre-e) and is so manageable. Never add salt to your food and look up the sodium content for the things you eat - practically everything has some sodium in it so be careful with it. Having a stable low blood pressure is also strongly linked to longevity as low blood pressure is much easier on your organs.

    Good luck!
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  • shimmershine91shimmershine91 member
    @FemShep and the others: What I meant by "unplanned" is that we tried for about 2 years, then after seeing a doctor, I was told I was unlikely to get pregnant, so we had given up trying to have a baby. She was just a very welcomed surprise for us. I'm sorry. I should have clarified.
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  • shimmershine91shimmershine91 member
    TheCraftyKoala, @pepper6, @bugandbibs :
    My previous post. Again, sorry for the confusion. I should have worded it better.
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  • shimmershine91shimmershine91 member
    Also, thank you for your input about the military thing, ladies. I broached the subject with DH, and though we are both from military families(both our fathers are retired military), and we grew up in that sort of lifestyle, I've decided to talk to my MIL and find out how she went about having children largely on her own. You know, to get opinions about being a military spouse with very young children.

    We've decided that we won't avidly seek out getting pregnant again, but we also won't prevent it. More of a "if it happens lovely, and it if it doesn't perhaps it's just not the right time" sort of thing. I thank you ladies for giving me some things to think about though!
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  • PunkyBoosterPunkyBooster member
    Aside from getting into shape and cutting out my morning coffee (I don't smoke and I'm a healthy weight) I started taking PNV about 6 months prior to ttc.
    GL.
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  • Jmgresham22Jmgresham22 member
    Stop smoking one way or another. Your current little one shouldn't be stuck having to smell it. I try to be nice but I cannot stand seeing parents smoking with their kids around....

    I have to say I've been overweight y whole life and had two very healthy pregnancies with two very easy deliveries and have been told I was born to have babies lol... Weight can lead to complications but it doesn't always.!
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  • shimmershine91shimmershine91 member
    edited October 2013
    @Jmgresham22: I never, ever smoke around my daughter. However, I know that smell lingers on my clothes and I don't like that, so that is another reason I am trying to quit, aside from the fact I will look and feel MUCH healthier after I quit. Also, I am not that far over my "healthy weight" projection, but I've never been "skinny" and aside from developing pre-e at week 30, everything else was incredibly well during my pregnancy with my daughter.

    I am hoping when I do conceive again that everything will go smoothly, and I've also been told that even though it is a possibility to repeat pre-e, I can have a completely smooth pregnancy next time. I just gained 40 lbs because of the pre-e, and if I can prevent that next time, than I am sure everything else will go well.
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