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Jmgresham22 · October 2013

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rjeller32 · October 2013

KUMBAYAH and stuff.

bugandbibs · October 2013

I'll be sure to change my ways after this stern talking to by a stranger. Or not.

bugandbibs · October 2013

Jmgresham22 said:

I am a regular over on twoweekwait.com and someone made a comment that they came over there from here because you ladies were so brutal. I didn't believe it so I trotted over to see what all the hype was. What's going on? Ttc is a difficult journey and I get that, but why be so mean to people who are right where you are or just starting out?? Think of how you would want your daughters to be spoken to and speak to people with respect. I understand infertility issues can cause bitterness and heartache but we are all here for the same reason.... We want to be mothers or we want another bundle of joy. Can't we just bond together and encourage one another instead of being degrading and demeaning? Some ladies are new to ttc and need help... We were all new to this at some point.

QFP. Seems likely

Jmgresham22 · October 2013

Qfp??

ks3pink · October 2013

Jmgresham22 said:
Maybe this is why God isn't allowing you guys to get pregnant he knows what cold hearted bitter people you are and that would over flow onto the pure innocence of a child

If you knew anything about God you would know that is not how he works. It is people like you that give believers a bad name. Shoo! Go away now.

JemmaWRX · October 2013

I love how people come here and say "you're all so mean" but say something so cruel as "this is why you have infertility issues." OP - do you think that's appropriate? You think this helps your case? You're a hypocritical jerk. There might be some snark and sarcasm but I've also witnessed an outpouring of love and support when others really need it. You don't have to play here. Please move along.

Mysterious_wife · October 2013

I glanced at the post you replied to. It seems you turned a blind eye to the post we were more than supportive. You are the typical "Christian" that makes us non-believers want to stay far away from church/god.

Take your bullshit and go back

24karat · October 2013

Jmgresham22 said:
What's going on? Ttc is a difficult journey and I get that, but why be so mean to people who are right where you are or just starting out??

Think of how you would want your daughters to be spoken to and speak to people with respect.

I understand infertility issues can cause bitterness and heartache but we are all here for the same reason.... We want to be mothers or we want another bundle of joy.

Can't we just bond together and encourage one another instead of being degrading and demeaning? Some ladies are new to ttc and need help... We were all new to this at some point.

Jmgresham22 said:
Maybe this is why God isn't allowing you guys to get pregnant he knows what cold hearted bitter people you are and that would over flow onto the pure innocence of a child

Hmmm. And that's not out of line and disrespectful at all.

If you spent any time here, you'd see that the ladies on this whole forum, while sometimes sarcastic and snarky, do know what they're talking about and are VERY supportive. Did you even see the posts on this very board for Aragosta? There are many supportive loving people here.

Like any social circle there is a "code" of conduct here. Most of the snarky honesty comes in when someone signs up and instantly starts posting things like "I have 5 BFNs but I KNOW I'm pregnant" or when your first post is a BFP pic on TTGP instead of 1st tri. Or when someone like you comes in to condemn and preach that infertility is God's judgment on complete strangers. As a Christian, I find this extremely inappropriate, offensive, and untrue. Oh yeah, and it really annoys me how people acting as you just did and misrepresenting God give people who believe in God (like me) a bad name. With behavior like that, it's no wonder people hate Christians.

Did I mention I have three kids?

EDIT: mobile bumping formatting

Ladybug622 · October 2013

You think god has anything to do with who gets to have kids and who doesn't? You tell me why the child abusers and drug users can pop out kid after kid with no problem and the people who deserve kids try for years and just can't make it happen. Must be because god thinks they're going to make great parents. Sounds to me like someone needs to go back to twoweekwait or whatever the website is and take her bible with her.

NerdyLucy · October 2013

Jmgresham22 said:

Maybe this is why God isn't allowing you guys to get pregnant he knows what cold hearted bitter people you are and that would over flow onto the pure innocence of a child

Who said that no one here is getting pregnant?

Have you actually bothered to READ any posts on TheBump at all?

Ducktale · October 2013

Hold up now. I don't usually get riled up by posts on TB but this one has really made my blood boil, which I assume, OP, was your goal, so congrats. I've been posting here for a few months, so I'm still new. But in the time I have been here, these ladies have been enormously supportive and kind. They took up a collection to give their own fucking money to an internet stranger who lost her baby FFS! I'm amazed by the kindness and community that is on TB.

Congrats on coming to TB and posting the bitchiest thing I have seen on here, so you win that prize.

And as for the whole God doesn't given mean people babies thing, I am a Christian, and I'm not sure if you are, but if the only Christians I knew were people who believed shit like that, I would run the other direction so fast.

I'll be sure to avoid twoweekwait.com if people like you hang out there. Please don't come back here again.

ErinSays · October 2013

A lack of intelligence, throwing god around as a childish insult, Vitex use, yep you sure are a twoweekwait.com regular.

Boring troll is boring, and ugly inside to boot.

Pepper6 · October 2013

Jmgresham22 said:

Maybe this is why God isn't allowing you guys to get pregnant he knows what cold hearted bitter people you are and that would over flow onto the pure innocence of a child

Good thing my pregly ass doesn't believe in your God...

Jmgresham22 · October 2013

I said that to show you guys exactly how mean you guys sound. No I don't believe God punishes people by not giving them kids. God knows if we were punished by infertility that I wouldn't have babies....

I've read a lot of posts, mine included, that you guys immediately get snarky and mean. All any of us are looking for is hope and truth. I agree there are some people who may post in the wrong place or who may be so much in denial that those 20 bfns mean nothing to her..... But the WAY something is said sometimes means more than what is actually said. I don't think there's a place for sarcasm or poking fun or anything else in a board designed to be supportive. It's like "mean girls" of ttc. I wanted to come here an be able to say those chicks are crazy these ladies are nice! But you guys have a bad rep. I know you don't care.... But there are ladies who are just starting out who aren't educated and who come here to learn. They're not just being ignorant on purpose.

Now I HOPE that at some point I can get along with you because I need answers to some things.... And something's are better learned from people's experiences than a text book answer from google.

I apologize for MY harshness.... And my opinion doesn't matter.... But I do wish everyone could just be a bit nicer here.

Twinkie0612 · October 2013

Jmgresham22 said:

I am a regular over on twoweekwait.com and someone made a comment that they came over there from here because you ladies were so brutal. I didn't believe it so I trotted over to see what all the hype was. What's going on? Ttc is a difficult journey and I get that, but why be so mean to people who are right where you are or just starting out?? Think of how you would want your daughters to be spoken to and speak to people with respect. I understand infertility issues can cause bitterness and heartache but we are all here for the same reason.... We want to be mothers or we want another bundle of joy. Can't we just bond together and encourage one another instead of being degrading and demeaning? Some ladies are new to ttc and need help... We were all new to this at some point.

Screw you.

Jmgresham22 · October 2013

ErinSays said:
A lack of intelligence, throwing god around as a childish insult, Vitex use, yep you sure are a twoweekwait.com regular.

Boring troll is boring, and ugly inside to boot.

What is wrong with vitex?? Seriously, I haven't taken it because I'm not familiar with it and bought it last month when I got kind of obsessed.

Twinkie0612 · October 2013

AFwifelife said:

Maybe this is why God isn't allowing you guys to get pregnant he knows what cold hearted bitter people you are and that would over flow onto the pure innocence of a child
So you think it's ok to say shit like this yet we are the brutal ones?

This and double screw you OP.

Jmgresham22 · October 2013

See...

Jmgresham22 · October 2013

Did you read my last comment at all??

TeeJ526 · October 2013

Jmgresham22 said:

I said that to show you guys exactly how mean you guys sound. No I don't believe God punishes people by not giving them kids. God knows if we were punished by infertility that I wouldn't have babies.... I've read a lot of posts, mine included, that you guys immediately get snarky and mean. All any of us are looking for is hope and truth. I agree there are some people who may post in the wrong place or who may be so much in denial that those 20 bfns mean nothing to her..... But the WAY something is said sometimes means more than what is actually said. I don't think there's a place for sarcasm or poking fun or anything else in a board designed to be supportive. It's like "mean girls" of ttc. I wanted to come here an be able to say those chicks are crazy these ladies are nice! But you guys have a bad rep. I know you don't care.... But there are ladies who are just starting out who aren't educated and who come here to learn. They're not just being ignorant on purpose. Now I HOPE that at some point I can get along with you because I need answers to some things.... And something's are better learned from people's experiences than a text book answer from google. I apologize for MY harshness.... And my opinion doesn't matter.... But I do wish everyone could just be a bit nicer here.

If you're a regular on twoweekwait.com, why not get your answers from over there? You don't get to come here and kick dirt in people's faces and then ask for their support and advice.

Jmgresham22 · October 2013

I asked for support and advice before I posted this... Look at the time stamps. And I do ask there buy not everyone there knows what I'm looking for exactly.

Pepper6 · October 2013

Way to backpedal...sorry hun, doesn't work that way. What do you think would happen if you walked into a room full of people and said "I heard you were all a bunch of bitches, and God hates you for it so he won't give you babies....Oh, just kidding, I was just showing you how mean you all are...I really want you to like me and support me..."

You are the one that needs to reevaluate how you post here, not us...

JemmaWRX · October 2013

Listen OP - you can backtrack all you want or try to imply you were only trying to teach us a lesson. But that bridge is burned. It's rude enough to come here and blast a community just because you don't like or understand the culture. But to take it to that level was malicious. Don't try to defend yourself and suggest that HOW we say something is worse than what you said. It's not even debatable.

The members that participate here like the vibe. If you don't, fair enough. I actually don't blame people for preferring a warmer atmosphere. But there is a culture here that we like. I wouldn't troll the internet for the happy horseshit boards and tell their members they're wrong. Because that would make me an asshole. You must have a pretty big ego to think you're the Internet forum police... That it's your job to find the places that don't meet YOUR standards and demand change.

You came in here, blasted everyone, and retaliated by saying something vicious. Own what you did and move along. Please.

24karat · October 2013

In all seriousness OP (read: no snark/sarcasm in this post) if you wanted to get support but had preformed opinions about TB, why would you come in and try to provoke snarky replies?

I read your other posts. You started slamming other posters BEFORE you actually got snarked. The replies you got in the chart stalk thread were factual and not callous as you alleged. Maybe you misread them or they were tainted by what you already thought of us.

The ladies here get to the point quickly. No flowery mushy stuff, just realism. Sometimes it comes across roughly. If you really came here to get along with people, make the effort instead of going all holier than thou.

And I stand by what I said earlier. It was way inappropriate for you to say the whole God and infertility thing, whether it was made up or your belief, it was rude to say the least.

Twinkie0612 · October 2013

Jmgresham22 said:

Did you read my last comment at all??

Yeah, cool you didn't mean it you just wanted to show us the error of our ways. Whatever.

I am generally not very snarky, but I stand by my screw you comment. Anyone who comes in and starts telling people that they are horrible person and that God is punishing them with infertility is going to get a "screw you" from me. Whether you mean it or not it was a douchey comment. I have spent the last year and a large sum of money undergoing infertility treatments. It's emotionally, physically, and financially draining. It is very insulting when people start throwing out their hairbrained idea that "God uses infertility to punish horrible people."

I recommend appologizing to the infertility community. Your comment was rude and completely unnecesary.

Mysterious_wife · October 2013

Well fuck you and your holy fucking broom you flew in on.

NerdyLucy · October 2013

Jmgresham22 said:

I said that to show you guys exactly how mean you guys sound.

I'm not sure if you expect people to believe this, or you're just trolling..

MrsMac613 · October 2013

Op, you really have some nerve. I have only been on here for a couple of months but I have seen the women here be very supportive and helpful to one another. A little snark and sarcasm is sometimes necessary to give some of the women on here a real reality check. TTC is not an easy journey for everyone but having realistic expectations and honest people who aren't going to encourage imaginary symptoms can make it a lot easier.

Jmgresham22 · October 2013

kjkarats03 said:
In all seriousness OP (read: no snark/sarcasm in this post) if you wanted to get support but had preformed opinions about TB, why would you come in and try to provoke snarky replies?

I read your other posts. You started slamming other posters BEFORE you actually got snarked. The replies you got in the chart stalk thread were factual and not callous as you alleged. Maybe you misread them or they were tainted by what you already thought of us.

The ladies here get to the point quickly. No flowery mushy stuff, just realism. Sometimes it comes across roughly. If you really came here to get along with people, make the effort instead of going all holier than thou.

And I stand by what I said earlier. It was way inappropriate for you to say the whole God and infertility thing, whether it was made up or your belief, it was rude to say the least.

It absolutely was rude and inappropriate and so not a reflection of me or who I want to be. PMS plus a ton of BFNs after being so sure we had caught it just has ME in a callous mood I guess. Not to mention sarcasm doesn't transfer well through text. So cd 3 here and dying inside because like everyone else I am dying for a baby here. So I do so humbly apologize, TO EACH AN EVERY ONE of you and have said my prayers and asked forgiveness as well as said a prayer for all of you in your journey. I will likely lurk, but beyond this thread I will likely not post. I do apologize and I hope you guys can forgive my rudeness.

Mysterious_wife · October 2013

Glad you know we are all dying for a baby. I love how you think it is ok to be an ass, as long as you can ask for forgiveness. You are one of the main reasons I stopped going to church as a teen/early adult. You were the one on the middle pew each service, but acting like a judgemental bitch outside of the doors.

Jmgresham22 · October 2013

AFwifelife said:

TeeJ526 said:

Jmgresham22 said:

I said that to show you guys exactly how mean you guys sound. No I don't believe God punishes people by not giving them kids. God knows if we were punished by infertility that I wouldn't have babies....

I've read a lot of posts, mine included, that you guys immediately get snarky and mean. All any of us are looking for is hope and truth. I agree there are some people who may post in the wrong place or who may be so much in denial that those 20 bfns mean nothing to her..... But the WAY something is said sometimes means more than what is actually said. I don't think there's a place for sarcasm or poking fun or anything else in a board designed to be supportive. It's like "mean girls" of ttc. I wanted to come here an be able to say those chicks are crazy these ladies are nice! But you guys have a bad rep. I know you don't care.... But there are ladies who are just starting out who aren't educated and who come here to learn. They're not just being ignorant on purpose.

Now I HOPE that at some point I can get along with you because I need answers to some things.... And something's are better learned from people's experiences than a text book answer from google.

I apologize for MY harshness.... And my opinion doesn't matter.... But I do wish everyone could just be a bit nicer here.

If you're a regular on twoweekwait.com, why not get your answers from over there? You don't get to come here and kick dirt in people's faces and then ask for their support and advice.

TWW is probably like Babycenter. Everyone is too busy squeeing over "pregnancy" symptoms and blowing baby dust around to give factual information.

CrazyCornball said:

fredalina said:

Go away. You are disgusting.

I have never heard of two week wait but The Bump has a huge membership. Most people seem to manage pretty well. If you aren't one, and clearly you aren't if you are throwing God in my infertile face and saying he's the reason I will never be pregnant in my lifetime, then leave. Now.

The 2WW has lots of everyone comparing symptoms and convincing each other they are pregnant, only to be devestated when AF arrives. Honesty will get you banned over there.

edit: spelling

I didn't know we were different.... I thought it was normal for women who are ttc to symptom spot and squint at lines that aren't there. Lol....

I guess I get it now.... We are the nuts lol

I knew it was weird when I started there I was like that's totally not a line!! And everyone else was tweaking and swearing bfp! .... Now I'm doing the same thing

Jmgresham22 · October 2013

fredalina said:
I am also not very snarky to new people, but you said what is probably the cruelest thing you can say to someone struggling with IF. We are real people. Some of us are having a really hard time right now. One of our members just had a late term loss. You are beyond insensitive.

I read that entire post and I was amazed at the amount of love that went out to her from the folks. That is a terrible thing and I would not wish that on anyone not even my worst enemy.
I have been blessed with two healthy babies, but I also have two angels. I understand what it means to lose a pregnancy and to ache and wonder if you will ever get pregnant. I was diagnosed with pcos at 17 with a severe case and was told i likely wouldn't conceive without serious intervention if I conceived at all. I've also had two ectopics, one that almost took my life. I understand you ladies, and pardon the language, I was a bitch, and I understand bridges are burned. But I wish every single one of you well and hope you get your take home babies soon.

Jmgresham22 · October 2013

NellyBluth said:
Might want to think about using a different screen name, cupcake. I found your Facebook in about five seconds.

And? So it's not like I am hiding, unless that's some sort of threat?

Jmgresham22 · October 2013

NellyBluth said:

Jmgresham22 said:

NellyBluth said:
Might want to think about using a different screen name, cupcake. I found your Facebook in about five seconds.
And? So it's not like I am hiding, unless that's some sort of threat?

Not a threat, just a warning. Anyone can read this, do a simple google search and come up with your private information. It's not recommended to use your real name, especially if you act like a jerk and insult good people who never did anything to you.

Praying for forgiveness is nice and all, but just because Jesus forgives your heinous behavior doesn't mean anyone else has to.

Understood. I honestly have no idea what came over me. That's sooo not me and if any of you knew me you would know that. I hate that I said ANYTHING. I do believe that those ttc are the only ones who can understand what we are going through and we should be each others biggest cheerleaders.

Pepper6 · October 2013

Mysterious_wife said:

Glad you know we are all dying for a baby. I love how you think it is ok to be an ass, as long as you can ask for forgiveness. You are one of the main reasons I stopped going to church as a teen/early adult. You were the one on the middle pew each service, but acting like a judgemental bitch outside of the doors.

This! I don't buy the whole "praying for forgiveness" thing either. You knew that was a bitchy thing to say when you said it, hiding behind your religion after you got called out doesn't make you sorry, it just makes you a coward.

Jmgresham22 · October 2013

So you don't think people can feel vs about saying/doing something and be sorry and repentant about it? I am sorry I feel terrible and I know none of you will forgive me... But I didn't mean it it was terrible of me to say it but CHISTIANS AREN'T PERFECT we are just saved by the one who is. I suck for saying that... Seriously. But a coward would have run out.. I didn't and I'm trying to own up to the fact that I was a complete dick hole about it. EVERYONE, even Christians, have hang ups they struggle with. I will e the first to say that mine is being judgmental. God is working on me though and I believe he is using this to teach me a lesson

Jmgresham22 · October 2013

Well religion is a part of me. I won't apologize for that. My apology is still an apology. I am sorry for what I said I suck for it and that's that. Where my conviction comes from doesn't matter all that matters is that I do feel convicted and I am very sorry and am owning up to the fact that I was out of line.

wishiwaspreggo · October 2013

@Jmgresham22 - Honey, you really need to just move on. Please drop the shovel and stop digging your hole. If you just vanish, everyone will forget about your nasty comment and maybe you can find another board to get support. There's Babycenter, Baby Gaga, What to Expect, etc.

And just delete your thread from IF. Please. They don't want to see that, and they definitely do NOT want to read your "God is punishing you" comment. No matter how many times you said "I take it back"... you can't take it back. It went out there, it's here, and now people have taken in their impressions of you.

Just go and move on. And next time, think before you type, especially since you claim to be a good religious girl.

Twinkie0612 · October 2013

Jmgresham22 said:

So you don't think people can feel vs about saying/doing something and be sorry and repentant about it? I am sorry I feel terrible and I know none of you will forgive me... But I didn't mean it it was terrible of me to say it but CHISTIANS AREN'T PERFECT we are just saved by the one who is. I suck for saying that... Seriously. But a coward would have run out.. I didn't and I'm trying to own up to the fact that I was a complete dick hole about it. EVERYONE, even Christians, have hang ups they struggle with. I will e the first to say that mine is being judgmental. God is working on me though and I believe he is using this to teach me a lesson

Ok here is my advice. You need to drop this thread. Stop posting, stop responding to other's posts, just leave it alone. You have spread your drama over two boards now, I think that is enough damage.

If you really want to post on this message board, make a new screen name and start fresh. And don't ever bring up the God/Infertility comment ever again.

Jmgresham22 · October 2013

wishiwaspreggo said:
@Jmgresham22 - Honey, you really need to just move on. Please drop the shovel and stop digging your hole. If you just vanish, everyone will forget about your nasty comment and maybe you can find another board to get support. There's Babycenter, Baby Gaga, What to Expect, etc.

And just delete your thread from IF. Please. They don't want to see that, and they definitely do NOT want to read your "God is punishing you" comment. No matter how many times you said "I take it back"... you can't take it back. It went out there, it's here, and now people have taken in their impressions of you.

Just go and move on. And next time, think before you type, especially since you claim to be a good religious girl.

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