Be honest

brandyleighxx · October 2013

I've been around since DS was about 2 months old, soooo for a year now. I rarely get noticed. No one comments on my discussions. I have one I made this morning. It's the ONLY thread on the first page with zero comments. What gives? Am I really that uninteresting or did you guys all get together and decide not to post on anything I was involved in? I normally wouldn't care but I'm 2 beers in to a crappy day and getting stood up by a "friend" so feeling a little extra emotional. I've never felt like I fit in this place. With most of the "regulars" gone or on FB, I thought it would get better for members like me. Guess I was wrong.

sdlaura · October 2013

I read your post, but nothing was motivating me today

. I feel the same way you do, though, that I don't post enough to be a super regular. Please don't feel crappy!

BatDaughter4Eva · October 2013

I hardly post on here now. Honestly, tb is more of a PITA now. I recognize you from the long haul, and trust me when I say we aren't ignoring you on purpose. I like you a lot as a bumpie. Don't be discouraged! This totally is not a popularity contest... unless your are ms. Winky face. Then you'd be sssooppperrrr popular.

FallbrideSummerbaby · October 2013

I am soooo not that popular. I think a lot of the ladies will only respond to regulars on the board unless they want to create drama. It has gotten really picky lately and they can't seem to accept newbies but I remember you posting a while back and thought you were a regular. Again, cheer up and don't take it personal. You seem like an amazing woman and mom!

jodegaard · October 2013

I'm about to leave the house for about the 2482735th time today, so I haven't had much chance to peruse all the posts. I'm sorry you feel invisible! I'm sure we've all had those days. You've been around longer than I have, so I definitely think of you as a regular....not that it matters all that much. The board is in it's last days, it seems.

rp-chicago-mom · October 2013

Where did my response go? Anyway, I thought your Monday post and BPT's Monday post were about the same post (like two fffcs in a row) so I have a respond to whoever's is first policy so no one feels offended. I often feel like the "Post Killer" around here. We all do sometimes.

TechieGirl1 · October 2013

To be honest, I just checked this board, like now. It's been a long day today, and I promise your thread will be read in the next couple of mins!

gollywollypog · October 2013

As the parenting board says, "to be a "popular" poster, just post a lot!" I put popular in quotations because what I really mean is to be a well known poster. I know you! I, like many of the pps, just don't get on as much as I used to. And I'm not on FB, I'm just struggling to keep up with my daily life.

I'm sorry you are having a hard time making solid connections irl, like you said on that other thread. I've been there and it sucks. I hope things get easier soon!

rp-chicago-mom · October 2013

FallbrideSummerbaby said:
I am soooo not that popular. I think a lot of the ladies will only respond to regulars on the board unless they want to create drama. It has gotten really picky lately and they can't seem to accept newbies but I remember you posting a while back and thought you were a regular. Again, cheer up and don't take it personal. You seem like an amazing woman and mom!

That's why you're crazy town now? Because you're not part of one of the 5,000 cliques on TB?

mswood1977 · October 2013

Don't feel bad, I've been on this board since the day I found out I was pregnant (Dec. 2011) and I feel like no one knows me. This is my first post in a couple months, I doubt anyone noticed I was gone. I use to post several times a day every day and even then I didn't feel like one of the "popular" ones. I don't think anyone tries to exclude anyone on purpose, I think some people just draw more attention for whatever reason. Also, this board has also been pretty slow for a while now.

mmknightly · October 2013

Sorry, sweetie! Stupid Bump keeps logging me out on mobile and since that is my only form of communication, I rarely post here at all anymore. The site is just a PITA. Plus, I don't think you're a newbie. You've been here just as long as most of us.

@FallbrideSummerbaby just stop

rp-chicago-mom · October 2013

It's like when everyone in Empire Records figures out that all Warren wants is to work in a record store.

Damn you autocorrect.

SJandVA · October 2013

I read your post this morning and even formed a response in my head and then got busy for the rest if the day.
Anyway, I recognize you.

fastcarsandfreedom3319 · October 2013

brandyleighxx I don't think anyone purposely ignored your post. Heck, I've been around since 2010 and I posted the other day and I think maybe one person responded. Don't take it personally, sometimes it's hit or miss with topics. I read your post, but I just didn't have anything awesome to live up to your week!

And at the annoying one, I am not going to shout out or quote you, but you know who you are. And usually I don't get into drama, but your comment about the board being picky and not accepting newbs is total bullshit. A12 is a very accepting board, and we welcome everyone with warm and open arms. You're just Miss High and Mighty and everyone is tired of hearing you come in here to stir the pot with your "holier than thou" speech.

rp-chicago-mom · October 2013

mswood1977 said:
Don't feel bad, I've been on this board since the day I found out I was pregnant (Dec. 2011) and I feel like no one knows me. This is my first post in a couple months, I doubt anyone noticed I was gone. I use to post several times a day every day and even then I didn't feel like one of the "popular" ones. I don't think anyone tries to exclude anyone on purpose, I think some people just draw more attention for whatever reason. Also, this board has also been pretty slow for a while now.

I know you! I recognize most bumpies here but if I were asked to write a list, I know I'd forget people until I saw them post. Then I'd be like, "How did I forget her?"

MoFree · October 2013

I felt that way for a long time that my posts were ignored, with 1 response and 500 views. It is what it is and hard not to take personally. I read posts a lot more than I respond.

PurrCrasher · October 2013

I'm sorry you feel that way. I rarely post anymore due to school, work and two toddlers but I wanted to chime in and say that when I posted more regularly I had MANY days where I felt like that. Although I don't often respond I always pay extra special attention to your posts because your son is absolutely adorable and reminds me of what my son would look like without all his curls. There is something about that picture (the look on his face maybe?) that I love so much. Anyway, rant over. I hope your day got better.

twoitalians · October 2013

I like you! I always think of horses when I see your bump name. I'm sadly phasing TB out, though, because the new format is wonky on my phone and on my computer.

AggieDaner · October 2013

Believe me when I say that EVERYONE has felt this way at one point or another. Everyone. I remember people like C_Mo and BPaws admitting to this feeling back when we were all pregnant, and it flabbergasted me because I thought that they were the queens of the board and I was the one who was the thread killer/one that nobody wanted to talk to.

One of the best pieces of advice I've ever taken to heart was remembering that NOBODY is thinking about you as much as YOU are thinking about you. That sounds mean, but it's not meant to be bitchy. Again, this is something I tell myself nearly every damn day. Basically, you have to make yourself stop and realize that, unless you're someone who has habitually created and fostered drama and ill will, nobody is going to waste their time launching a weird conspiratorial campaign against you. It's more likely that you've just had the bad luck of not...I don't know, having spicy enough post titles or something. It's just goofy and weird how internet reply cultures work, and sometimes you just randomly happen to hit a lull. It's not your fault, it just happens.

AggieDaner · October 2013

But I promise, if I ever AM purposefully ignore-campaigning someone, I will post this so that they know:

Crossingfingers · October 2013

Hi brandyleigh- I recognize you, but haven't scrolled down to read the other post. Just wanted you to know that I don't purposely ignore anyone. Well...almost... But it absolutely is hard to find the time to post anymore. But if I were around more, I'd definitely make an effort to specifically comment on your posts so that you didn't feel like the odd man out.

rainedrops117 · October 2013

I didn't read your earlier post - but I do remember you - esp that cute siggy of yours. I'm sorry you feel this way and can totally relate to many points you made in your post. I try to think of "catchy" subject lines just to get attn to my posts - many times it doesn't do any good. That being said, for me i'm just way too busy at work to get on TB as much as I'd like and respond these days. TB app is worthless on my phone. i do wish there were more regs on TB like it used to be when we were all KTFU and comparing bump stories. Ahhh the good ole days.

mswood1977 · October 2013

Baker_Bride said:

mswood1977 said:
Don't feel bad, I've been on this board since the day I found out I was pregnant (Dec. 2011) and I feel like no one knows me. This is my first post in a couple months, I doubt anyone noticed I was gone. I use to post several times a day every day and even then I didn't feel like one of the "popular" ones. I don't think anyone tries to exclude anyone on purpose, I think some people just draw more attention for whatever reason. Also, this board has also been pretty slow for a while now.
I know you! I recognize most bumpies here but if I were asked to write a list, I know I'd forget people until I saw them post. Then I'd be like, "How did I forget her?"

I'm the same way

mswood1977 · October 2013

Bluenoser4ever said:

mswood1977 said:
Don't feel bad, I've been on this board since the day I found out I was pregnant (Dec. 2011) and I feel like no one knows me. This is my first post in a couple months, I doubt anyone noticed I was gone. I use to post several times a day every day and even then I didn't feel like one of the "popular" ones. I don't think anyone tries to exclude anyone on purpose, I think some people just draw more attention for whatever reason. Also, this board has also been pretty slow for a while now.
I don't post regularly anymore but I know you!! You're one of my fellow preemie mamas. I think you had DS (Tristan?) about a week after Sidney- around July 14th. I'm bumping on my phone so no siggies. Bonus points for me if any of that info is correct. LOL

Double bonus points, you are correct, you even nailed Tristan's birthday. I recognize you also.

latnprincess · October 2013

I didn't see/read your earlier post at all. But I do "know" and recognize you.

gollywollypog · October 2013

I WANT TO SEE FRIENDLY RAY!!!

"howdy baker!" @aggiedaner

AggieDaner · October 2013

gollywollypog said:

I WANT TO SEE FRIENDLY RAY!!!
"howdy baker!" @aggiedaner

SpruceGrouse · October 2013

I have not been on much lately. I don't always comment on topics, or I start and get interrupted. I will say that you are really well recognized and really well liked, I really like you! I must say that your siggy picture is beyond adorable!

MuggleMomma23 · October 2013

I've been here for over a year but so infrequently have time to log on (or have time at work when I'm on my mobile but refuse to post because hen-pecking on my phone would take a year!) that I can't say much. I love to post and to respond to try to help others but I can't as often as I wish I could. Don't let this ruin your day. Hope tomorrow is better for you!!

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