Any mixed babies?

Xxooxtina · October 2013

I have a euro background (mothers side is greek, fathers side is scottsh) and my DH has a jamaican background. We were both born in Toronto Canada so luckily mixed couples and kids are pretty normal. Im still anticipating comments tho and for my child to go through issues my DH and i never had to deal with in terms of understanding their identity.

So far the only comments are:"oh ur having a mixed kid?! Its gonna be the cutest/best looking baby/child EVERRRR!" So theres lots of expectations on this child to come out looking like a model at birth! The pressure!

Any interesting comments you have heard from others on this subject, or any advice from moms with mixed kids?

ksulli · October 2013

Just want to say I'm jealous. I find non-white, and especially mix babies to be way cuter! Of course, mine are freakig adorable too. My mom is totally rooting for my little sister to find someone with a different ethnicity (big sister & I married white guys already).

my cousin has mixed kids and hasn't heard anything negative at all, but she does live in California where it's a little more run-of-the-mill. The one thing she said was challenging was learning to care for her DD's hair since it's so very different from hers. Start asking your ILs about that one.

Sisimama10 · October 2013

I'm white (Irish, English, Scottish Dutch) my SO is Mexican just moved to the US about ten years ago. So, our baby will be mixed as well.

mskitty1985 · October 2013

My older two are filipino blk and white 50% blk and 25% the others. This baby will be 75% blk 25% panamanian. Mixed babies are adorable too but i deff do embrace my 100% blk!!! Not just mixed race is beautiful but all races!

MamaFantastic · October 2013

i am the whitest white girl you've ever seen. it's comical. my husband is half mexican, but doesn't look it at all. if anything, he looks a bit italian. our son has gorgeous light but tan-ish (compared to me, at least!) skin. i've never even considered my husband to be mixed race although he technically is. he would agree - he just calls himself white. in fact, i just asked him this question, and he said that exact thing.

sorry, i guess i don't really belong here after all

ohbaby4 · October 2013

I'm as white as white can be (really light blonde hair, blue eyes, super fair skin) and DH is Chaldean (his parents are from Iraq) so he's pretty dark (black hair, dark tan skin). I feel like there is this great anticipation for our child to have gorgeous mixed features as well, which makes me a little nervous. I have a feeling his dominant features are going to take over and I'll just have dark skinned, dark haired, dark eyed children, which I think is still gorgeous, but probably not what people are expecting.

I do think that black and white mixed babies are the most beautiful people ever. My brother is dating a mixed girl and I really want them to get married and have kids just so I can see how beautiful their children are.

CurlieWhirlie · October 2013

It sounds like you're worrying about two different things here: your child understanding the full spectrum of his or her cultural heritage, and the possibility that he or she might get comments from people outside the family on their physical appearance or difference from his or her parents.

The first one is easy, think how fun it will be to share all the different aspects of your cultural heritage with your child! My son's father is from another country, and he really enjoys explaining how things are different where he comes from.

For the second one, I guess it depends on where you live, but like PPs said, it's not a big deal most places anymore. I'm in CA and I've certainly never heard anyone saying anything negative about mixed-race kids.

Not to add to the pressure for your child to be gorgeous, but I do have a couple of good friends who have Japanese/Mexican/white kids, and they really are beautiful, beautiful kids. :-) It does seem to be the general rule that mixed-race people are fairly attractive!

alittlelibrary · October 2013

I'm of Irish/Swedish descent and SO is black and Italian, so we're really curious to see the result of our particular mix

But since SO is mistaken for a different ethnicity every day (our Iranian neighbor is convinced he's Persian, for example) we think LO will probably be a chameleon too.

Rogue237 · October 2013

I'm a mixed baby lol! My mom is white (Euro mutt - English, German, Irish, French and Dutch) and my dad is mixed (Black, Irish and Cherokee Indian). Most people think I look Latin or Indian. MY DH is white (French Canadian, Irish and some Native as well). We're very interested to see what this kiddo looks like! I'm guessing they'll come out pretty diluted, but it'll be interesting!

Rogue237 · October 2013

Xxooxtina said:

I have a euro background (mothers side is greek, fathers side is scottsh) and my DH has a jamaican background. We were both born in Toronto Canada so luckily mixed couples and kids are pretty normal. Im still anticipating comments tho and for my child to go through issues my DH and i never had to deal with in terms of understanding their identity. So far the only comments are:"oh ur having a mixed kid?! Its gonna be the cutest/best looking baby/child EVERRRR!" So theres lots of expectations on this child to come out looking like a model at birth! The pressure! Any interesting comments you have heard from others on this subject, or any advice from moms with mixed kids?

@Xxooxtina - and if I can give you some advice being a mixed kid, it would just be to keep an open dialogue about it. My parents have no qualms talking about race and I never felt that I went through a big, tragic identity crisis. I love being mixed and getting a bit of both worlds - eventually everyone in the world will be mixed anyway!

natpirt · October 2013

I am Mixed (blk/wht) and when many see my girls they are surprised I am the mom...lol. I can pass for Caucasian but attitude and appearance normally warns people that aren't blind. My oldest used to tell people she wasn't black she was brown when she was in pre-k. We live in a area that is a pretty good mix of races so we haven't had any issues. I went to see my parents in Missouri last year and got all kind of ugly looks, told my oldest if someone said anything to tell them the must be jealous (she was 12 at the time). it was funny cause someone did and she said they had a frown after what she said. Ive taught her to embrace all races and hate is a ugly color on anybody who chooses to wear it.

cfthoct292011 · October 2013

I'm black and Irish; DH is German french and Puerto Rican. And their are 5 different languages spoken in our family and our children will learn them all. So we always get told our baby will be very smart and very handsome/beautiful. And his family always jokes that our baby will have DHs big ears and his big German nose.

tlsmith116 · October 2013

I am white, blonde hair, blue eyes, Euro descent. My DH is Filipino, Spanish, and Irish mix. I am hoping for his beautiful black hair and my blue eyes, though it is unlikely. People say it is going to be a beautiful baby all of the time though

cfthoct292011 · October 2013

These days it's accepted more but when myself and my sisters were raised we always got asked "how come you act so white?" (because of the music i listen to and how i dress) i just shrugged it off but I never understood it until I got older. We lived in the better part of a kind of ghetto town. A friends mom once said to me "is one of your parents white because you don't talk black or ghetto?" Although my mother is mixed I said "i was just raised to be respectful I don't understand what you mean by that" Even when I met DHs family and they met mine I can just tell they saw black people in another light and I feel some of them still do. Like they're expecting a race war or something.

snmetz7 · October 2013

I am a 50% euro mutt and 50% Pakistani. so I am mixed! :-P my hubs is 100% euro mix. so my kids are going to be mixed, but less mixed than I am lol if that makes sense. Its not a huge problem around here although I did have one guy I dated in high school say that I could never meet his parents cuz I wasnt white, and when I pointed I was 1/2 he said that was worse. but only experience ive had for being mixed and I don't anticipate it being an issue with the kiddos.

carolinaBK18 · October 2013

I love this topic because I'm a mixed baby myself. My father is Japanese-American and my mother is German/Swiss-American. A lot of people think I'm Filipino or Hispanic.

I think things were different in the 80s when my brother and I were growing up, as we lived in South Florida where there was very little diversity beyond black and white. People used to ask my mother all of the time if we were adopted and we got a lot of strange looks. Also, when you're mixed people ask you all of the time "what are you?" When I was a teenager/early 20s I got really annoyed so would tell people I'm American. I'm sure they loved that.

Nowadays we live in NYC where being of indeterminate race is pretty normal. I do get a lot of the "your babies are going to be so beautiful" shit but I tend to agree with them!

deidremaria · October 2013

My baby won't be very mixed but all it's half siblings from his daddy's side are Mexican/black/white.This is my SO's first 100% black baby. I'm pretty mixed but since I'm dark I don't waste my time telling people what all is in me. I can't wait to meet my little one. I think my SO will be shocked at how gorgeous this baby'll be. My big brother has a bunch of kids all mixed and surprisingly enough his darkest daughter is his prettiest child. I think it'll be the same for my SO. This is gonna be my only baby and I just can't wait to meet him!!!!!

Sarahjess06 · October 2013

Color me jealous. Mixed babies are soooooooo cute.

SeattleMomma · October 2013

I'm white with dark brown eyes and my bf is a dark native with bright eyes. I hope our baby has tan skin with blue eyes.

Dianakdee · October 2013

I'm black and the daddy is Caucasian! So we are having a mixed baby as well! I love mixed cultures I'm soo angainst any racism!

J&NL · October 2013

I'm Panamanian/Indian and H is English.

rrdiva1 · October 2013

My mom is Irish dad black, hubbs is 1/2 Puerto Rican half german

deidremaria · October 2013

rrdiva1 said:
My mom is Irish dad black, hubbs is 1/2 Puerto Rican half german

Well damn. Lol. That's gonna be one mixed up baby! You probably get the "your baby is gonna be really cute" A LOT!

Nijay714 · October 2013

I love reading all these different mixtures, it really is a beautiful thing! I can't wait to see all our LO's pics when they arrive!

CapricornPig · October 2013

I'm Chinese and DH is Jewish, but we live in NY so mixed kids are not uncommon. We plan to play up both cultures so baby will know where they came from and we want them to be proud of their heritage. As for outside comments, not much you can do but take it as it comes. Kids will start asking or observing distinctions when they are a little older, so think about how you want them to perceive themselves, aside from (and unfortunately, sometimes in spite of) what outsiders may say. Teach them to be proud and know they are special in all the best ways!

LittleLady77 · October 2013

Mixed babies are the cutest ever!

DIY7 · October 2013

I was born and raised in Poland, my Dh was born and raised in India. We now live in CA. Our son is a doll! I get comments all the time how adorable he is. Where we live biracial babies are very common and the diversity is amazing but I have also gotten a lot of weird comments. One older lady at Costco asked me if he was adopted. Another lady in the Polish neighborhood of Chicago was staring at our family so hard she backed into another car. I've had a dad screaming at me across the mall trying to guess ds's ethnicity. It's definitely interesting.

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