Babies: 6 - 9 Months
WriterMama924
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LO spending the night with grandparents?
WriterMama924
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At what age did you let your LO stay overnight at someone's house besides you or your SO?
My DH is out of town for the week. I'm a SAHM so I'm used to being on baby duty most of the time, but DS still gets a dreamfeed about 1 am even though he is STTN. DH usually takes that feeding, so basically I'm going to be getting crappy sleep for a week with no one to back me up if I need to take a nap, unless I arrange specifically for someone to come over.
My parents really want DS to spend the night with them, and I'd love a night off, but I'm so afraid he'll be terrified. DS is very laid back, but he also has been having some teething woes...I don't want him to feel abandoned. I do fine leaving him with them for a few hours during the day (they live like 45 mins away), but he's never stayed overnight without one of us. I just keep bouncing back and forth, wondering if he's just a little too young (8.5 months). What if he doesn't understand that I'm coming back?
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Re: LO spending the night with grandparents?
Married: 08/04/12
DD: 6 years | Born: 03/28/13
DS: 1 Year I Born 10/15/17
middle of the night wake-ups. Arg. Hope someone's got some good advice or words of reassurance:)
We've done this twice with our now 7.5mo, and she was perfectly fine. It was wonderful for everyone involved. I think that the most important thing is that your baby is already comfortable with his grandparents. If he sees them on a regular basis and 'knows' them, he should be fine. If he only sees them sporadically, he may have some anxiety.
My opinion is that you should go ahead and do it. Expect to cry a little when you're driving away, but only for a minute and then enjoy a night of freedom (and perhaps a glass of wine!) Don't feel guilty, because you're not doing anything wrong. It's important to take care of yourself, so you are in good shape to take care of him.
We left our 3 month old with my mom, brother and SIL (here at our house) for 40 hours to go to a wedding. It was by no means glorious since I was breastfeeding and had to pump every 2hrs day and night lol. But baby did just fine. We haven't done it since as all our family lives 20 hours away and the few members that live close have no interest.
My cousin leaves her baby with grandma and grandpa every Saturday night and has since he was a few months old (now 12months). He is formula fed so it is easier. They are all very happy with it.
I say let baby spend the night...tell your mom if it is really not working and baby is upset to call you...you can drive there and stay the rest of the night. Odds are they will do just fine and you will get a night off. Chances are you will be nervous but hopefully you enjoy yourself and you may all like it so much that it becomes a monthly thing for you all and you and your husband will get some alone time!!!
We have recently implemented date night every other Thursday where B spends the night at grandma and grandpas so me and DH can have a break and spend time together. We bought my mom a crib and he doesn't even notice the difference. I like that he'll sleep anywhere since it makes like easier for travel.
He also sleeps 8-7, Bottle and then back to sleep until 9, so it's pretty easy for my mom. But she knows if he ever had a bad night she could call me and bring him home. We live less than 10 minutes apart.
I could see if you had a late wedding to go to or something, but a once a night feeding doesn't seem like a huge loss of sleep. If your Mom wants to help, see if she can take the baby for a bit during the day so you can rest.