Whip Em Out Wednesday

zora51 · October 2013

MommyKristin88 said:

I agree with you ladies about my DH not being okay with nursing LO at a restaurant table. I actually fed LO before we went, but he ended up needing fed for a few minutes after I changed him. I'd LOVE to just tell my DH to deal with it, etc, but honestly, it would've ended up in a fight, and he probably would've just gotten up and left if I'd made a big stink. It's one of those "pick your battles" moments, and it wasn't worth the fight. He's generally very supportive with anything with LO and helps out when I need it. But nobody's perfect...
Sorry sweetie, but that's totally worth the fight. Maybe that's why I'm not married, but I will fight with a man for my child's sake. That is absolutely ridiculous that you had to go to the bathroom. If you don't want to fight, maybe go to your car and nurse. Nursing in a bathroom is crazy. If you aren't eating in the bathroom, neither should your child. Again I say, your husband is an ass. Stand up for yourself and your child.

In hindsight, I guess I should've gone to the car... It was literally about 5 minutes and I had just changed him in the bathroom anyway, so I just did it rather than going to get the keys and making it a lot longer than 5 min. Guess it's just my opinion, but wasn't worth the fight and ruining the evening of me, my DH, and my other 3 children. Next time I'll just go to the car. It was the first time we went out to a restaurant since before LO was born, so I was just happy to be out, honestly.

BellaOso · October 2013

My NIPs this week:

Mall
Target parking (everyone's favorite place)
The pumpkin patch parking lot
Within the pumpkin patch

Most proud of the uncovered in front of the in laws. Overcame a big fear.

tdmklm · October 2013

I can't be bothered to cover up anymore, partly because the kiddo hates being covered. So yes, I'm the lady with her boob hanging out everywhichwhere. With a baby attached to it, if course. I'm Brazilian, but we save that other shit for Carnaval.

southernmama8813 · October 2013

I'm currently nursing uncovered in the front seat of my car in the parking lot. First time uncovered in public!

girlmama83 · October 2013

zora51 said:

MommyKristin88 said:

I agree with you ladies about my DH not being okay with nursing LO at a restaurant table. I actually fed LO before we went, but he ended up needing fed for a few minutes after I changed him. I'd LOVE to just tell my DH to deal with it, etc, but honestly, it would've ended up in a fight, and he probably would've just gotten up and left if I'd made a big stink. It's one of those "pick your battles" moments, and it wasn't worth the fight. He's generally very supportive with anything with LO and helps out when I need it. But nobody's perfect...
Sorry sweetie, but that's totally worth the fight. Maybe that's why I'm not married, but I will fight with a man for my child's sake. That is absolutely ridiculous that you had to go to the bathroom. If you don't want to fight, maybe go to your car and nurse. Nursing in a bathroom is crazy. If you aren't eating in the bathroom, neither should your child. Again I say, your husband is an ass. Stand up for yourself and your child.

In hindsight, I guess I should've gone to the car... It was literally about 5 minutes and I had just changed him in the bathroom anyway, so I just did it rather than going to get the keys and making it a lot longer than 5 min. Guess it's just my opinion, but wasn't worth the fight and ruining the evening of me, my DH, and my other 3 children. Next time I'll just go to the car. It was the first time we went out to a restaurant since before LO was born, so I was just happy to be out, honestly.

It makes me sad for you that the topic of feeding your child would have resulted in a fight.

bananacupcake · October 2013

I would never ever feed my child in a public bathroom. That's just totally gross. You wouldn't eat there so why should he?

With DS I just don't give rat's you know what. I whip them out and don't cover up anymore. Amusement parks, zoo, grocery store, mlb baseball game, restaurants, library, etc. I will feed my child whenever wherever. But I do not judge anyone for choosing more discreet location and covering up. Well, except for the bathroom.

I leave you ladies with this I came across today.
"If you cover because it makes YOU feel better, then by all means keep covering up. I support you. But if you cover to make OTHER PEOPLE feel better, well then sister, come sit by me and we'll nurse in public together." https://buff.ly/18FeUAe

LiylaRae · October 2013

bananacupcake said:
I would never ever feed my child in a public bathroom. That's just totally gross. You wouldn't eat there so why should he?

With DS I just don't give rat's you know what. I whip them out and don't cover up anymore. Amusement parks, zoo, grocery store, mlb baseball game, restaurants, library, etc. I will feed my child whenever wherever. But I do not judge anyone for choosing more discreet location and covering up. Well, except for the bathroom.

I leave you ladies with this I came across today.
"If you cover because it makes YOU feel better, then by all means keep covering up. I support you. But if you cover to make OTHER PEOPLE feel better, well then sister, come sit by me and we'll nurse in public together." https://buff.ly/18FeUAe

Thank you for sharing that! It definitely almost made me cry because I have been trying so hard to make everyone else comfortable but that doesn't matter. What matters is LO is comfortable!! I love the quote!! So inspirational!

zora51 · October 2013

Gee, now I pretty much feel like a crap mom for nursing LO for 5 minutes standing by the sinks in a restaurant bathroom.

I kind of forgot the car for an option, but I DO believe I chose the better option than starting a possible fight. I take care of my son, feed him well, never ignore him, and try my best, and the bathroom was clean, didn't stink, no one else was in there. It was cool and quiet with oldies radio playing from the speakers. But guess I made a bad choice.

zora51 · October 2013

bananacupcake

"If you cover because it makes YOU feel better, then by all means keep covering up. I support you. But if you cover to make OTHER PEOPLE feel better, well then sister, come sit by me and we'll nurse in public together." https://buff.ly/18FeUAe

LOVE the quote... I'm learning to be more okay with NIP.. it's new to me still...

LiylaRae · October 2013

zora51 said:
Gee, now I pretty much feel like a crap mom for nursing LO for 5 minutes standing by the sinks in a restaurant bathroom. I kind of forgot the car for an option, but I DO believe I chose the better option than starting a possible fight. I take care of my son, feed him well, never ignore him, and try my best, and the bathroom was clean, didn't stink, no one else was in there. It was cool and quiet with oldies radio playing from the speakers. But guess I made a bad choice.

You are not a crap mom! You did what you thought was best for your family. Yeah, the car was a better option but LO still go fed and that's all that matters.

MommyKristin88 · October 2013

zora51 said:
Gee, now I pretty much feel like a crap mom for nursing LO for 5 minutes standing by the sinks in a restaurant bathroom. I kind of forgot the car for an option, but I DO believe I chose the better option than starting a possible fight. I take care of my son, feed him well, never ignore him, and try my best, and the bathroom was clean, didn't stink, no one else was in there. It was cool and quiet with oldies radio playing from the speakers. But guess I made a bad choice.

I wasn't trying to make you feel bad. You did what you felt was necessary, so that's fine. Like I said, I feel your husband is wrong in this situation. Ultimately though, your baby was fed and that was the priority. I just want you to feel empowered enough to know that you do not have to feed your baby in a bathroom, no matter who wants you to. There are better options.

BlondieBia21 · October 2013

kcbv2312 · October 2013

I don't think it's the bathroom that bugs me about this post . Five min in a clean upscale restaurant I don't think would be the end of the world, although I'd probably try and find somewhere else first if possible. No flames from me for that.

The issue I see is that it wasn't YOU who was uncomfortable BFing in public- it was your H's discomfort that kept you out. It sounds like he's of the "boobs are sexual/ my wife shouldn't be flashing everyone" sort of mindset. Which I disagree with. He should be supportive of you if you want to NIP and he should be supportive of you if you don't. It is his baby you're feeding. Maybe it's not worth a fight in public but I hope you talk to him at another time and hash it out.

karabear11 · October 2013

Uncovered in front of my mom, covered at my friends house and covered at Chilis, oh and uncovered in the car before an appt.

LokiLahve · October 2013

lindsey61811 said:
I don't see how nursing in a dressing room is public when you close the door.

Not really, but it was a step for me. I didn't have her in a carrier so I couldn't attempt to walk and feed her. Plus I have giant boobs...idk how some of you pull off the things described but I applaud them all. I need both my hands to get the job done, I guess I need more practice.

mommabmb · October 2013

I pumped in my car at the state fair... Which was quite public but I had little choice...

ktballz · October 2013

LokiLahve said:

I don't see how nursing in a dressing room is public when you close the door.
Not really, but it was a step for me. I didn't have her in a carrier so I couldn't attempt to walk and feed her. Plus I have giant boobs...idk how some of you pull off the things described but I applaud them all. I need both my hands to get the job done, I guess I need more practice.

I have to use two hands as well because I also have giant boobs. When I cover I struggle to see what she is doing so I get frustrated and she gets upset. I just don't cover anymore and use her to cover my stomach and lower half of my boob and keep the bottom of my shirt almost to her face. I haven't purchased any nursing tops, I can't find any to fit my boobs, so I just pull my shirt down as soon as she comes off.

edenrivers · October 2013

Mall parking lot over the weekend and Harris Teeter today.

And @zora51, my DH isn't comfortable with me NIP either. When it's time to nurse he'll always ask, "Do you want the blanket?" (My cover.) I generally am so in the moment of trying to feed my baby, I just ignore him. But not all people are comfortable with it right away. PP is right tho, you did what you had to do in the moment.

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