Weight Gain.. HELPPP!

clbradley14 · October 2013

This is my first baby. I am 20 weeks pregnant & 19 years old. When I first found out that I was pregnant I weighed about 125. I was so very sick the entire first trimester, even with Zofran I didn't have much of an appetite. At the very beginning of my second trimester I found myself at the fridge every hour. I cannot control my appetite. I have gained around 20 pounds & I am only halfway through my pregnancy. I have a really hard time eating healthy also. Any tips from other moms? Also what exercises can I do that won't leave me completely exhausted? & is it okay for me to lose weight now or should I just try to maintain the weight I am now & let my baby boy grow into it? HELPPPP!!!

HFrizzle · October 2013

No you shouldn't be losing weight right now and 20lb at this point really isn't that bad. Just try to make wider choices, walking is good for you and if you were working out before you were pregnant than you can continue while you are pregnant with doctors permission of course on everything that you are doing. Just try to be as active as you can and drink your water.

Maqueripe · October 2013

I'm about 23 weeks and have also gained 20lbs but I'm not stressing over it. I was active before I got pregnant so I continue to workout about three times a week, I do some weight lifting (nothing crazy) and either use the ellipitcal or walk on a treadmill on an incline, or I take an aerobics class and modify any moves that are too high intensity. Don't stress out just try to work some light exercising in and make healthier eating choices. It's not always easier for me because I love my sweets but you just have to put in the effort. I'm sure you'll be fine

Cmtareen · October 2013

I'm in the same boat 20lbs at 23weeks

I try not to let it get to me but being a girl with extra hormones doesn't help. But honestly 20lbs half way through is not bad at all!! you have 20 more weeks so if you gain a pound a week from here on out then 40lbs over all is not too bad. Many women gain much much more. As for working out Yoga and walking has been great for me

Just let your yoga teacher know your pregnant and they will let you know which posses to stay away from. I too am at the fridge allllllll day long. But i keep it stocked with healthy options. Fruits, veggies, hard boiled eggs, yogurt, nuts, fruit leathers. If there is unhealthy food in there I will always choose that first so if its not in there im forced to eat the good stuff. So I keep the junk food out. Teaching my husband not to stock the fridge with junk food is a whole other problem

lollipoppoop · October 2013

If you are worried about it, talk to your doctor and she can refer you to a nutritionist otherwise just try not to eat junk and get out and walk around the neighborhood.

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clbradley14 · October 2013

@MrsMuq Your opinion about my age & my ''rainbow'' baby is not needed. Thanks anyways though.

MamaP19 · October 2013

Bliss+Berry said:

MrsMuq said:

OP, try to eat more fruits and veggies, good fats, protein and grains. Avoid processed and fried stuff, avoid fast food/take out. Exercise - try walking, using an elliptical (so long as balance is okay), prenatal yoga/pilates. Maybe see if your OB can recommend a nutritionist.

On a completely unrelated note - OP, you're 19, yet you're carrying a "Rainbow" baby? :-/

Um. all of this.

Avoid processed foods. Stick to lean proteins and veggies/fruits and stick to whole grains instead of the "white" stuff. Try to avoid taking in too many liquid calories. If you have to have something sweet, try and make good choices (Diana's bananas are awesome) or choose frozen yogurt with fruit instead of ice cream). As far as exercise, talk to your doctor, but you should definitely be walking!

they are sooooo good. i try to avoid ice cream & other fatty treats but those are my go-to when i really crave sweets.

edited b/c of messed up quote

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kjojola · October 2013

MrsMuq said:

clbradley14 said:

@MrsMuq Your opinion about my age & my ''rainbow'' baby is not needed. Thanks anyways though.

I was raising a point because to be 19 and have had at least two pregnancies with one ending in a m/c or loss seems.... unlikely is the best word I can come up with.

I was merely bringing your attention to it because there are hundreds of women on this site who have had multiple losses and truly are hoping for their rainbow baby. Didn't want you using it in the wrong context and hurting someone else's feelings.

Not entirely sure how this seems so "unlikely..." Not quite sure why you question the validity of her rainbow baby either. It takes a pretty terrible person to put something like that on their signature if it's not true, and if she didn't know what it meant, why would she put it on at all? Not everyone has the cookie cutter life- married at 25, kids at 30- I myself am 20 years old, had a miscarriage when I was 19 and thankfully had a baby girl in July of this year. I am also married, run my own business, am in college, and have had more life experience than most 30 year olds. For you to even say anything at all about her rainbow baby signature is rude in itself and I hope she flagged you.

kjojola · October 2013

clbradley14 said:

This is my first baby. I am 20 weeks pregnant & 19 years old. When I first found out that I was pregnant I weighed about 125. I was so very sick the entire first trimester, even with Zofran I didn't have much of an appetite. At the very beginning of my second trimester I found myself at the fridge every hour. I cannot control my appetite. I have gained around 20 pounds & I am only halfway through my pregnancy. I have a really hard time eating healthy also. Any tips from other moms? Also what exercises can I do that won't leave me completely exhausted? & is it okay for me to lose weight now or should I just try to maintain the weight I am now & let my baby boy grow into it? HELPPPP!!!

Healthy choices, but don't starve yourself. 20 lbs is not bad at all. A lot of women gain like 50-75 lbs during pregnancy, so you are doing just fine. Walking is good, swimming is wonderful, lots of water, and maybe some prenatal yoga. I know how you feel, I was in the same boat at 20 weeks and ended up gaining 45 lbs total. Now I am in the process of working it off. Congrats BTW on your rainbow baby, I was 19 when I had a m/c and now a year and a half later I have a beautiful little girl and another baby up in heaven smiling down.

Good luck from one young mom to another.

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kjojola · October 2013

Bliss+Berry said:

kjojola said:

MrsMuq said:

clbradley14 said:

@MrsMuq Your opinion about my age & my ''rainbow'' baby is not needed. Thanks anyways though.

I was raising a point because to be 19 and have had at least two pregnancies with one ending in a m/c or loss seems.... unlikely is the best word I can come up with.

I was merely bringing your attention to it because there are hundreds of women on this site who have had multiple losses and truly are hoping for their rainbow baby. Didn't want you using it in the wrong context and hurting someone else's feelings.

Not entirely sure how this seems so "unlikely..." Not quite sure why you question the validity of her rainbow baby either. It takes a pretty terrible person to put something like that on their signature if it's not true, and if she didn't know what it meant, why would she put it on at all? Not everyone has the cookie cutter life- married at 25, kids at 30- I myself am 20 years old, had a miscarriage when I was 19 and thankfully had a baby girl in July of this year. I am also married, run my own business, am in college, and have had more life experience than most 30 year olds. For you to even say anything at all about her rainbow baby signature is rude in itself and I hope she flagged you.

Just because it's happened to work out for you and you are in a similar situation, doesn't make it the norm. A TTC 19 year old is not run of the mill. You'd think with all of your "life experience" you'd be able to grasp that concept. No one was judging the OP, just asked a simple question.

Furthermore, you haven't been here long, but you'll soon see that there are people terrible/bored enough to make up some crazy ass stories and plenty have been outed here on The Bump.

Well I can certainly understand that it isn't "run of the mill..." I get weird looks and insensitive comments about my lifestyle and age all the time. However, just because it isn't normal doesn't give anyone the right to call you out on it in a seemingly insensitive manner, especially when the matter is regarding an extremely emotional and sensitive subject. You and I can probably both agree that there is a certain way to approach the topic of a miscarriage, and it is my belief that the approach in question was not the correct way. I don't doubt that people do make up stories because they are either shitty or just bored, however I don't believe this young lady was your typical, run of the mill liar either. I agree that putting that on your signature is bound to get some questions, and whether people are trying to figure out if it is a lie/misunderstood word or not, they should take a little more caution when inquiring about it. Her first inquiry into the sig was borderline judgmental "you're 19, yet you're carrying a "Rainbow" baby? :-/ " and I'm sure I am not the first or last woman who thinks so.

clbradley14 · October 2013

So @mrsmuq what you're really saying is that you think i'm lying about carrying a rainbow baby? You think that I don't know how much it hurts to have lost a baby? Well for your information I lost a baby when I was 18. I was not any position to have a child at that time.. Does that mean I didn't love the baby I was carrying? No. I was terribly upset when I miscarried. Just because you think that 19 is a young age to have a child doesn't mean that I am not truly hoping for my rainbow baby. You deserve to be flagged because of the things you say to people. I have saw you on here being rude to multiple people on multiple posts. Are you even pregnant? It looks to me like your baby is over a year old now. Which brings me to ask you why the hell you are even on a second trimester message board?? & Why do you have problem with me hurting someones feelings by using a term? It's okay for you to hurt peoples feelings by assuming things that you know nothing about. & yes, I ''loved'' @Bliss+Berry's first posts not realizing that she apparently is just the same as you. Who are you to even question me? I owe you no explanation!
@Bliss+Berry No I didn't realize that by putting in my signature it meant that I was welcoming questions & opinions. I THOUGHT that this was supposed to be a place where moms gave other moms advice but apparently I was wrong. Just goes to show that you truly can't get away from judgemental, self-righteous people. What is the ''norm'' to you may not be the ''norm'' to others? Things happen & people deal with them as they come. My first baby that ended in a miscarriage was a surprise but this baby was planned & he will be well taken care of. If I didn't think that we (being my fiance & I) were in a position to raise a child I wouldn't have intentionally gotten pregnant. & @mrsmuq was judging when she assumed that I was lying about this baby being a rainbow baby. She was judging my character, morals, & the kind of person I am in general.

@kjojola.. Thank you thank you thank you.. you are the kind of person that I was hoping to get advice from. Sorry for your loss & congrats on your baby girl!! (:

kjojola · October 2013

MrsMuq said:

kjojola said:

clbradley14 said:

This is my first baby. I am 20 weeks pregnant & 19 years old. When I first found out that I was pregnant I weighed about 125. I was so very sick the entire first trimester, even with Zofran I didn't have much of an appetite. At the very beginning of my second trimester I found myself at the fridge every hour. I cannot control my appetite. I have gained around 20 pounds & I am only halfway through my pregnancy. I have a really hard time eating healthy also. Any tips from other moms? Also what exercises can I do that won't leave me completely exhausted? & is it okay for me to lose weight now or should I just try to maintain the weight I am now & let my baby boy grow into it? HELPPPP!!!

Healthy choices, but don't starve yourself. 20 lbs is not bad at all. A lot of women gain like 50-75 lbs during pregnancy, so you are doing just fine. Walking is good, swimming is wonderful, lots of water, and maybe some prenatal yoga. I know how you feel, I was in the same boat at 20 weeks and ended up gaining 45 lbs total. Now I am in the process of working it off. Congrats BTW on your rainbow baby, I was 19 when I had a m/c and now a year and a half later I have a beautiful little girl and another baby up in heaven smiling down. Good luck from one young mom to another.

The emboldened portion - so untrue. The recommended amount of weight to gain during a healthy pregnancy is between 25 and 35 pounds. Any OB or legit pregnancy website would tell you that. 20 lbs by 20 weeks pregnant is a lot of weight. Those women who gain 50-75 pounds - not healthy and not normal. Many of these women have GD or other health issues.

Look for yourself here: https://www.webmd.com/baby/guide/healthy-weight-gain

Definitely not untrue. Just because it isn't normal doesn't mean it doesn't happen-and in this case it happens all the time. It is nearly impossible to only gain 25-35 pounds during pregnancy, especially when you aren't perfectly watching your diet and exercise, and it also depends on what size you were before pregnancy to begin with. There is tons of other factors, hormones, genetics, age, etc. More than 50% of women over gain while pregnant, and I personally think it's because the recommended weight gain is a bit unrealistic and very one size fits all. My OB watched my weight gain very closely because I lost six pounds during my first trimester. I gained around 45 total and she never said a word about it being unhealthy.

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