Trying not to ugly cry

yesthisiskim0401 · October 2013

We're at the mall play ground and DD1 is just being amazing. She is making friends, protecting the littler ones, and just being a good girl. She's been hell on wheels the past few days and I know I've complained about it a lot here.

But it just hit me. Holy crap, this is our last day as just the two of us. (Sometime tomorrow i am going to be induced, so she is going to my parents house) And holy crap, my kid is amazing (ok, I might be a little biased), how the hell is my other kid going to even hold a candle to her? How am I going to find this same level of love, admiration, and complete awe for another child?

Second time mommy guilt has finally kicked in, I guess.

Aunt Edna · October 2013

Aw, I'm sorry, but I totally know how you feel. We took DD to the zoo this weekend and had such s wonderful day together. She was such a good girl and acted like a big girl, not a baby. It made me sad to think that was her last weekend as an only child. Just think what a great big sister she is going to be!

LeaLea123 · October 2013

Awwww! That's how I feel every time I take my DD to her dad's house. I always think would if this is our last moments together with her being an only child. I love her so much and it's crazy to think I'll have that much love for two of them! I hope you have a nice day together! Don't think about the guilt!

sfshorter · October 2013

I know how you feel and have no idea how to answer any of those questions. My DD is pretty awesome herself, and her whole world is about to change. It's been just us for so long, and now we have this little boy about to join the mix. UGH. Good luck!!!

AshleighW13 · October 2013

I've been doing this too. Looking at DS and trying to fathom loving someone else as much as him. I know you do but it's just hard to fathom. Good luck on your induction tomorrow. What mall were you at me and DS were at Northpoint earlier today.

EmJ&B · October 2013

Awwwwww . . . hugs!

yesthisiskim0401 · October 2013

AshleighW13 said:
I've been doing this too. Looking at DS and trying to fathom loving someone else as much as him. I know you do but it's just hard to fathom. Good luck on your induction tomorrow. What mall were you at me and DS were at Northpoint earlier today.

We're at Town Center because the Disney Store here ha the size we needed for her costume

we love North Point mall, though!

jennlin · October 2013

you're making me super emotional here! cut it out!

my brother is in town with his son who is 3 mos younger than dd (and a huge cry baby)..and dd is sooooo helpful with him. when he cries, she brings him his bottle..or walks up to an adult and taps her shoulder (her sign for telling us to hold her...but she's referring to my nephew). gonna be such a good big sister. ahhhhh...

Herefishy87 · October 2013

I've been doing the exact same thing! I cried like a baby leaving the park with DS the other day cause if I had the baby the next day that would have been our last day together. I try and cherish every snuggle before bedtime thinking it could be the last one for awhile. *sigh* mommy guilt SUCKS and my DH thinks I'm insane for feeling like this. I'm glad I can at least commiserate with you ladies!

MrsMommyQ · October 2013

I cried last night when I checked on DD before I went to bed---for all the same reasons!! I'm right there with you (and all the other mamas in this thread). I'm excited for baby but still a little sad for DD.

germanpickle · October 2013

Today was the last day that I will be taking my son to bed for a long time. To deal with the emotions, I mopped my house.

MegN423 · October 2013

You're giving your awesome little girl an amazing gift, a sibling. I felt the same exact way when I had my 2nd! Best of luck to you tomorrow!

reederah · October 2013

I TOTALLY feel like this. My son is awesome and he is my world, so its hard to imagine another little one coming into the picture. I've heard so many times though that you naturally find more love for the second so I'm trying to trust that advice.

andbabymakessix · October 2013

I know exactly how you feel. I was terrified when I was pregnant with our second that she wouldn't come even close to the awesomeness that is her big brother. Trust me. You won't feel like you have to split your love....somehow your heart just GROWS! I think everyone feels this way!

acethebase · October 2013

Yup right there with you, I often feel guilty that my attention can no longer be 100% on DS1 but then I think about how much fun he'll have growing up with a sibling....... And on another note you have to be so friggin stoked about tomorrow, FINALLY!!

shelliescove3 · October 2013

Same boat... I can't believe these are the last couple of days just me and dd1... I feel like dd2 has some big spunky shoes to fill... Feeling really ha for dd1 and all of the cluster fuck of emotions that are about to ensue... She is my parents only grandchild and usually is the one and only LO...

cdbayes · October 2013

Same guilt here. DS cuddled with me for so long on Sunday morning and I couldn't help but cry. I'm due Friday, so I'm trying to make every second that I spend with him count.

msmarsh · October 2013

Right there with you! DS is such a sweetheart, but I can't imagine him sharing DH and my attention very well. I just don't want him to feel replaced

yesthisiskim0401 · October 2013

quartermisses said:

yesthisiskim0401 said:

I've been doing this too. Looking at DS and trying to fathom loving someone else as much as him. I know you do but it's just hard to fathom. Good luck on your induction tomorrow. What mall were you at me and DS were at Northpoint earlier today.
We're at Town Center because the Disney Store here ha the size we needed for her costume we love North Point mall, though!

They need to hurry up and fix the Town Center Disney Store and make it cool! It's so 1990s

You got that right.

bkeane619 · October 2013

This was exactly how I was feeling and now that she's here I'm doubly emotional about anything going on with DS.

bkeane619 · October 2013

Geeze even reading this thread is making me weepy lol

yesthisiskim0401 · October 2013

bkeane619 said:

Geeze even reading this thread is making me weepy lol

I sowwy!!

babydoll22308 · October 2013

I feel the same way! I just can't allow. Myself to think about it! Its so emotional and something I realize I wont comprehend until after DD2 is here. Its crazy.

MrsKocal · October 2013

Yes, yes, yes. I ugly cried when I hugged DD goodbye on our way to the hospital. I was having contractions all morning but I still forced myself to snuggle in bed with her when she woke up because I knew it would be her last morning snuggle as an only child. I've been an emotional wreck about this for the past few weeks! And now that DD2 is here, I am still a wreck, it's just different.

JenMatt2010 · October 2013

Had my first ugly cry today when DS found a video of our dog who passed away last fall, and kept saying his name and trying to pet him through the phone.

Let the weeping weeks begin. I'm sure I'll be an absolute mess when it's time to go to the hospital.

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spldyollie · October 2013

I love how sweet this post is. You made me tear up. But it also reminds that our 15 year old DD tells people she is an only child... Even after people meet her two sisters.

MrsMommyQ · October 2013

MrsKocal said:

Yes, yes, yes. I ugly cried when I hugged DD goodbye on our way to the hospital.

This made me cry right now and I still have 2 weeks till my c/s. I can't even THINK about saying goodbye to DD or I lose it.

manders726 · October 2013

Me too! DD has been giving me a kiss every night and then gives my belly 5-7 kisses. She's so excited to meet her brother and I keep thinking, "Where did this awesome kid come from?"

jarebearsmom · October 2013

I could have written this exact post. It hit me today and I had a meltdown complete with ugly cry.

Pickle123 · October 2013

I feel the same way....our son is so amazing...it'll be tough to follow! And then I feel guilty for thinking that!

pmarie33 · October 2013

Hugs. DD came to the hospital afterwards with the ILs and a big bouquet of flowers. I'll admit that I cried.

Lilpoppy · October 2013

Aw this thread is so inspring! As a FTM it just reminds me how much i am going love my baby even though its hard to understand the extent of it now. And what I have to expect when baby 2 is on the way hopefully. Good luck to you guys!

chicsahm · October 2013

Augghhhhh! I had SO many moments like that, and yes I ugly cried!!! It is an adjustment, but once your LO comes you will be so in love in ways you never knew possible!!! Good luck tomorrow! I'll be thinking of you and can't wait to see pics!!

ClaireOtoms · October 2013

I know exactly what you mean; I've been struggling with that mommy guilt since my bpf. Even after Wyatt was born I still felt torn and very emotional, and have been wondering how I will ever balance my love for both of them.

Then tonight, we were all sitting in the living room, Wyatt in his swing, H and I on the couch, and Sam running around pointing and squealing at Wyatt and trying to give him all of his toys, and it just kind of clicked. Sam isn't an only child anymore, and I will never be able to devote my full attention to him, this is true. But now he has a brother to share his life with, to hopefully be his best friend as they grow up, and to be his family once H and I are gone.

Then I really lost it with the crying.

danandkam · October 2013

I felt the same way. It really hits hard when you get home and DD1 goes from a baby to a little girl over night. Hormones going nutso doesn't help either. Just wait til you change their clothes or diaper them at the same time, then you really realize that DD1 is no longer a baby. I was like holy crap, when did you get so big??

LSP87 · October 2013

I can't say I can relate..but you sure do sound like one amazingly awesome mama...one awesome enough to have more than enough love for your new baby!

yesthisiskim0401 · October 2013

ClaireOtoms said:
I know exactly what you mean; I've been struggling with that mommy guilt since my bpf. Even after Wyatt was born I still felt torn and very emotional, and have been wondering how I will ever balance my love for both of them.

Then tonight, we were all sitting in the living room, Wyatt in his swing, H and I on the couch, and Sam running around pointing and squealing at Wyatt and trying to give him all of his toys, and it just kind of clicked. Sam isn't an only child anymore, and I will never be able to devote my full attention to him, this is true. But now he has a brother to share his life with, to hopefully be his best friend as they grow up, and to be his family once H and I are gone.

Then I really lost it with the crying.

I am now full on Farrah-from-teen-mom ugly crying.

blondolphn · October 2013

Awww but I am so excited for you to get your next little squishy tomorrow @yesthisiskim0401.

jessielme · October 2013

Pickle123 said:
I feel the same way....our son is so amazing...it'll be tough to follow! And then I feel guilty for thinking that!

Me too!!!! I'm so biased towards my first born right now.

I can't imagine how it works to let another one in to the little family and to love everybody equally. My son has been extra cuddly lately too and I feel so bad for him. But at the same time I LOVE my two sisters so I know it all works out. Lol

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