Family at anatomy scan...

jennl0314 · October 2013

So some of my sister-in-laws want to go to the anatomy scan with DH and I, but my mom is too far away to be able to go. DH and I would rather just do it with the two of us - did any of you have family go???

memali26 · October 2013

Nope. My family is not close enough to go, but even if they were I would not have them there. First of all, it's really a medical procedure, so the less unnecessary people there the better, and second, it's a really special thing for DH and I to go together and see our baby and find out the sex. We don't want to share that moment, and if you don't you shouldn't have to.

ring_pop · October 2013

Heck no.

bumpuser9058414 · October 2013

Nope. I had DH and DD there and even then it was a bit crowded.

wearebirds · October 2013

Nope. Family will not be there. You might want to check that they're even allowed. At my doctors office only one person can be in there with you. It's the elective places that have the room that accommodates other people.

jjt616 · October 2013

Not with dd and not with this LO. It was a moment for just DH and i

jennl0314 · October 2013

Thanks everyone!! I definitely want it to just be DH and I, but I was starting to feel pressure like I'm crazy for wanting it that way. Ugh! I wish people would not make it about them

AriaAmante143 · October 2013

My sister had all of us at her 20 week ultrasound, and while it was cool to find out first hand, it was also a little weird. And cramped. DH is the only person going with me!

BrideNamedMeg · October 2013

Nope and we didn't bring DD for our a/s with DS either. The scan can be really long, I definitely got bored during both of mine even though it was neat to see the baby

Plus, the room was TINY and wouldn't have held any more people and as PP's mentioned, it's a medical procedure and man places won't allow additional family member anyway.

If you want to have family around for an u/s, do it at an elective place where they are prepared for that sort of thing.

Mcsweets · October 2013

Noooo ... I wouldn't want anyone else there other then DH. No one has asked to go, except my dad, which I just laughed because I figured he couldn't be serious lol.

I do think we will have some "drama" when deciding who is going to get to be in the delivery room. At first my DH said he didn't want my mom in there - thinking she was going to take over and control everything. Now, after a few prenatal classes I think he kinda wants a 2nd set of hands

We shall see!!! I don't have a pref one way or another - I will be occupied. At first I REALLY wanted my mom there, now I just want DH happy so he can keep me happy! So ultimately it's up to him and whatever he thinks will help him deal with me better ..

Sorry got off topic it just reminded me lol

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kmeyers0611 · October 2013

Definitely not. Some things I feel should be between the two of us, like being engaged for several hours before calling anyone to just enjoy it, and keeping the pregnancy to ourselves for two months so it's just our secret and now finding out the sex will be a special moment that we can share alone before letting anyone else in. I also will not be having anyone else but DH in the delivery room... Thankfully my mom already told me that she wouldn't want to even if I asked her!

recline84 · October 2013

DH will unfortunately be OOT for it, so I invited my sister, mom, SIL and MIL. Though I'm not sure who all will actually be able to come.

DTNZ4Ever · October 2013

Nope just DH. We are talking about bringing DS this time since he wants to see the baby. Then I worry if there is something wrong will I want him there.

angelsnight · October 2013

memali26 said:

Nope. My family is not close enough to go, but even if they were I would not have them there. First of all, it's really a medical procedure, so the less unnecessary people there the better, and second, it's a really special thing for DH and I to go together and see our baby and find out the sex. We don't want to share that moment, and if you don't you shouldn't have to.

This, it's a medical procedure first, fun sex reveal second. I would hate to have a room full of family if we found out anything bad, and if it all goes well, it's a special moment I want to share with MH.

KariB509 · October 2013

With DS, my mom came but waited in the waiting room until DH told her she could come in. We wanted it to be "our moment" when we found out the sex. This time, I think it'll just be me, DH, and possibly DS.

LaurenAsh23 · October 2013

no...and that thought never even crossed my mind! I went to my NT scan by myself and all other appts by myself. DH will come to the A/S hopefully and maybe appts closer to my due date, but that's it.

Gramsey831 · October 2013

I seem to be the minority....I had DH, my mom, my dad and MIL. They did the medical part first and then let DH get the rest of the family. It was very fun to be able to find out all together. This time we will get the sex in an envelope and we are doing a reveal with family and friends. My new doctor does not allow more than one person!

Missfunball · October 2013

I can see both sides but in all honesty, I think its totally up to the couple.

Maybe tell your MIL that you'll take video so that way both moms can feel special. Ask your mom if you can throw her under the bus so you you can tell you MIL that you will think it will hurt your moms feelings by being left out. (I'm the total worry wort about everyones feelings as well)

Best of luck!

amsat · October 2013

I had a preliminary a/s last week with my high risk doctor and will do another in a couple of weeks. Our a/s showed a marker for Down syndrome. Beyond finding out the gender, this is a really serious appointment about your baby's health. We had to have some serious discussions (and I cried a lot) so I'm really glad that it was just DH and me.

I would just consider if you would want them there for that remote possibility.

(We got our results back that the baby is healthy after 3 days later).

VineyardMel · October 2013

Nope--too stressful to have others there during such an important diagnostic exam. And my practice doesn't allow children under 12, so we couldn't bring DD even if we wanted to.

PerkyErky · October 2013

Personally I think it is weird that people even ask to attend those things. Like PPs have said, it is a medical procedure. It's not always rainbows and puppies in there and I wouldn't want everyone there while I tried to process the info. And even if everything goes perfectly, it is a special moment I get to share with DH.

Maybe I don't have that kind of relationship with my mom and I DEFINITELY do not have that type of relationship with my MIL and I don't have any sisters or SIL (yet). It would not even occur to my mother to want to tag along, unless for some reason DH wasn't able to attend, then I would want a support person there and it would be my mom.

It will just be DH in there with me on Thursday. If DS was a little more mature I would consider having him come for one of the u/s, but probably not the a/s as they can be long.

Shobb414 · October 2013

Nope we live 4 hours away so noone is going and the only one who would be invited would be my mom.
I don't like sharing intimate details of my life with inlaws or even some of my family. They will all be at the gender reveal party

legallyginger · October 2013

I wouldn't want anyone other than DH there, but I'm not close with my mom anyway. I started going to doctor's appointments alone as soon as I got my license.

And like pp said, I wouldn't want a room full of people around if we got not grest news. Or even to drag everyone out there only to have the baby not cooperate.

CruiseGirl28 · October 2013

Just DH and I. My mom did come to one of my appointments, and she was really excited that she got to hear the heartbeat. We had a nail appt scheduled for right after, otherwise she wouldn't have come. It was a fun girls night.

PinupMomma08 · October 2013

No way!

liamandlettie · October 2013

My dad will be here and this will be the first time hes been actually present for anything (he lives far away). So he will be there with my son and they will come in for the gender! Last time they didn't tell us until the end after they had measured/checked out everything (they also told us specific details which apparently they aren't supposed to do?). Otherwise we wouldn't have thought about it and no ones ever asked I guess.

amandapthompson · October 2013

DH and my mom were there last time for my appt and it was cramped but I wouldn't have traded it for the world. She was there for me thru 2 previous miscarriages and waited with me anxiously for 3 years while TTC after the mc so there was no way I would have let her miss it. This time it will (maybe) just be DH and DS. We will see. Maybe just DS lol.

sambrownmac10 · October 2013

I will be having my three teen foster kids in the waiting room during the measurements, then they will come in to find out the sex all together as a family.
I did have to get special permission for that many to come in though.

aracelyluna · October 2013

Nope, last time just DH and me. My mom will be in town for the A/S too watchDD. Our family will be a part of this pregnancy in so many ways, so I like keeping some things for DH and me only.

fish8412 · October 2013

No way. I think it is weird for a family member to ask to go to any of your doctor appointments. Yes, our appointments are about a baby and it is very exciting for the entire family, but it is still a doctor's appointment and doctors appointments are very personal. My OB appointments are very special to me and my husband and we would never want anyone else there. That is also why we will be finding out the gender by ourselves at the anatomy scan and then telling everyone ourselves.

mrsdahamm · October 2013

My mom was really wanting to come for the scan, but instead we surprised her by going for an elective u/s when she came down one weekend. There was more room, a big screen for her and my father-in-law who also came to see, and like PPs said, they're just more prepared/equipped for more people. So the a/s scan will just be me and DH

BabiesFTW · October 2013

Nope!

MrsMirandaPanda · October 2013

It's the only appt my hubs said he wants to go to and my son wants to go. My mom wants to go too, I told her no lol.

jaysgirl1707 · October 2013

My mom is coming, and came to my first ultrasound also. I want her to be as involved as possible because she wasn't allowed with her first grandchild. My sister was 19 and was at that willful I hate my parents phase. And wanted nothing to do with our mom. Even tho she helped her get a place to live. It came back to haunt her tho. Her son is extremely attached to nana.

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