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April 2014 Moms
seannasmommy16
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ARE YOU FREAKING KIDDING ME!!! (Vent long)
seannasmommy16
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I went to a Christian book store to pick up a 365 day mothers prayer book for my sister who is due in November. (She's been begging me for this book) as I'm reading a few different books they have, a older man was standing there in the aisle with me and I had my daughter with me, he says how beautiful my daughter is and asked how old she was. (She's 3 and a half) he looks at me and asked how old I was and I said I was 20. Then he looks at my belly.. And says "your pregnant with your second?" I said yes I'm 14 weeks.. He looks down and starts praying for me and my children (not a big deal) as he's done praying he looks to me and says "there are better options for your children. You can put them up for adoption and they could have amazing life's" at this point I left the store without even getting my sisters book. Ran to the car and started crying. I was so upset that a stranger would assume my children won't have good life's because of my age. I just can't believe someone could say that because of my age. Needless to say my day sucked because of that one comment. My children are well taken care of and will never go without. People never stop amazing me with there judgements
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Re: ARE YOU FREAKING KIDDING ME!!! (Vent long)
Baby Girl Born: April 2014
If you ask me what I came to do in this world, I, an artist, I will answer you:
Maybe use this as an opportunity to think about how you want to react to this sort of rudeness in the future. For example, if a stranger outright asked me my age I would tell them it's none of their business. I know it's easier to think of things to say after the fact, but there is no harm in practicing sticking up for yourself and thinking assertively for when some asshole gets out of line.
Sage advice.
This literaly makes me sick. It just drives me nuts to see "christians" bahave this way! I kind of walked away from going to church andfollowing the bible years ago because i dont believe in that way. i am 24 not married and pregnant. i still believe i am a good person and i still believe in god and i believe he still loves me and accepts. No one can judge you except for you. I just dont believe that a real christian would judge someone like that and degrade someone like that. It is horrible to see that! weare supposed to accept everyone and not judge anyone as good christinad yet it seems that so many "christians" judge and do not accept those who are different...its just sad. i am sure i will start to get the un friendly comments once i start to show and i dont have a wedding ring. you are way more graceful than i am though because i would have let that man have a piece of my mind. Keep doing what you are doing because you are doing right for your kids and no one can love your kids more than you and no one has the right to tear you down like that! keeo your head up! and just know that man was no real christian, and god is probably not happy that he did that.
Jesus my MIL was done having her children by the time she was 22 and no one batted an eye at her.
I want to add though that I am 21 and though our society says we aren't ready or "old enough" according to the culture of the last few years 1) women used to start having babies at 12 and somehow our race survived. If a twelve-year-old could delivery a baby in a log cabin and then raise a baby with no running water or electricity, I think mature and capable young women like us will be just fine
Best of luck to you momma!
Just to clarify for everybody, in 1 Corinthians the Bible does tell Christians to judge *other Christians* for the purpose of encouraging each other away from sin (it's so easy to justify or be blind to our own sin, so it's an accountability thing), but the same passsage makes it clear that Christians are not to condemn non-Christians because (basically) the rules are not totally the same for Christians and non-Christians. Unfortunately, people tend to go too far one way or another and are either Judgy McJudgersons who everyone hates being around or are too afraid to take a stand for a lot of things in the names of "love" and tolerance. Whew this got long! Sorry!
Worse part is, I am sure he has no idea there was anything wrong with what he said. I am so sorry he upset you so much. You know there is no logic in him saying those things to you and he obviously has zero common sense. As someone else wrote, don't let him steal your joy!
Baby Girl Born: April 2014
If you ask me what I came to do in this world, I, an artist, I will answer you: