i always thought i wanted 3 kids - i want a big family and big extended family as DH and I get older. but now that we have 2 boys and life is BUSY having them 21 months apart i think i'm done.
DH only wants and has always only wanted 2 so he's mentally done. it's hard to convince someone to have another and them not be on board 100% so i don't wanna go there.
but....
i have this weird nagging feeling that i'm going to regret it or that i'm SUPPOSED to want having a third. i'm a little nervous about the idea of having 3 boys though!
anyone else have a feeling they want more but it's just not happening??
and i also am referring to financially, house set up, cars, all those practical things! LOL
Re: i feel like i should want another one
We have just our one April '11 toddler, and we *think* we're going to TTC a 2nd. I'm kind of where you are with considering lifestyle and logistics- caught between being one-and-done or two-and-through.
Planning a family is hard when you're doing it purposefully. I don't think there is always one right answer.
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Here's an essay on that: https://tinybuddha.com/blog/how-to-enjoy-the-journey-more-by-eliminating-should/
I think feeling like you "should" want more kids is like feeling like you "should" be a size four. What are you comparing yourself to? Why?
Even if you were that person who wanted a certain number at one time, maybe you're not that person now. Or maybe reality is different than what you had imagined, and parenting takes more time, money, patience, x, y, z than you thought. That's okay.
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