FFFC

VitaLuna · October 2013

1) I have gone to the bathroom holding LO on more than one occasion.

2) I may or may not have let LO spit up all over H's side of the bed in the middle of the night. He doesn't have to work today, and I had been up with her for 2hrs while he snored away. I was sitting on the bed with her and she started to gag. I knew it was coming and had no rag, so I leaned her over him instead of me. Hey, we can't all be mature

Surfergirl013 · October 2013

I have used DD as an excuse to get out of social engagements...my mom is here and a great babysitter...but I just don't feel like going out.

Skalbrecht · October 2013

jpryber0528 said:
My LO is 9 days today and she slept about 6 hours last night through the night and I didn't wake her even though the LC said 5 hours was okay at most. I really think she's going through a growth spurt cause she ate like a madwoman yesterday, more than ever. I felt guilty not waking her to eat but she was such a happy girl when she did wake up, she probably wasn't hungry till then... Right!? :-/

Is she past her birth weight? If so, my pediatrician said let then sleep at night! She will let you know when it's time to eat.

llybeck · October 2013

msronzio said:

jpryber0528 said:

@msronzio I was wondering where you've been!! Hoping you had your LO by now! Keep us up to date!

That's why I haven't been on, being here is depressing me ;( I want my LO!!! But alas, I am only 41wks 1d so I'm just being impatient. I thought he would've come by now. Thank you for thinking of me .

JLMcWeeney said:

My FFFC is that I go waaaaaay too upset at fiancé for going to a bachelor party. Well, it wasn't that he went but it was that I was at home all day with DD and she was beyond fuss. He left at 7am to go golfing with them and then they were going to go play cards and other games. He texts me at 10pm to ask if he can go out to the bars with everyone and that he would get a ride home from his parents. I was frustrated and I went off, I told him he was childish if he wanted to stay out all night when he knew DD was not having a good day and that it was irresponsible to plan on getting so drunk you need to call your parents for a ride, I told him that was embarrassing.
So he came home at 11pm, obviously sober as could be, and told me to get some sleep and he would take over caring for LO for the night, he was completely understanding and said he was happy to be home because he missed us. I should have apologized to him for overreacting and belittling him but I didn't. I feel like a jerk because this totally isn't me at all, I think I was just getting wore out with not being able to put LO down all day.
Actually I don't think that is an overreaction. I guess he made up for it by being nice once he got home, but it seems like going to get drunk would have been his first choice over helping. I would have been pissed. Don't feel like you need to apologize. You shouldn't have even needed to explain to him why he doesn't need to be staying out all night drinking.

I sort of agree. I would have been just as stressed out and miserable. There's a reason children have 2 parents and not 1! I think it would be appropriate if you addressed being upset and thanked him for not making the situation worse. I wouldn't necessarily say you need to apologize, but if I were you I wouldn't have gone off on him either. My DH is a fun, in the moment type of drinker and I can imagine that possibly yours is too. So to him these moments are probably still going to be important to him. But that is just my .2!

Yes, he is an in the moment kind of person and I really don't think he was "planning" on getting drunk but he was just letting me know that if it got to that point he would get a ride. This was the first time he went out since LO and it was to his very good friend's bachelor party and they didn't even do anything crazy! I guess that's why I feel bad, it's not really right to deny him any sort of situation like that just because we have a kid now. I honestly think I'm having a hard time recognizing that we can be parents and still have lives and do the things we used to do, sometimes I feel like I can't be my "old" self because I'm a mom now. Does that even make sense?

I agree that I don't necessarily need to apologize and I kind of had a reason to be pissy but I also agree that I shouldn't have freaked out. There are definitely better ways to discuss that and I need to learn how to handle these things more like the way I used to before LO.

erink7211 · October 2013

jdoud77 said:
I have a true confession: I know how beneficial it is for LO to have breast milk and for that, I will keep doing it until she's ready for solids or until I'm all dried up. However, I sometimes want to just formula feed knowing it's much easier than pumping and trying to get LO to breast all the time.

No judgement here. I have to talk myself out if it atleast once every couple of days. Breastfeeding is tough.

Edit: typos from one handed bumping

happybride 276 · October 2013

erink7211 said:

jdoud77 said:
I have a true confession: I know how beneficial it is for LO to have breast milk and for that, I will keep doing it until she's ready for solids or until I'm all dried up. However, I sometimes want to just formula feed knowing it's much easier than pumping and trying to get LO to breast all the time.
No judgement here. I have to talk myself out if it atleast once every couple of days. Breastfeeding is tough.

Edit: typos from one handed bumping

Same here. I have had such a terrible time trying to nurse my child.

JocelynB0911 · October 2013

I just quit my job and don't feel an ounce of sadness. I love being a sahm even though I'm stressed half of the day taking care if 4 kids.

It drives me nuts when people stop me and say "wow you must be busy with twins abs two older kids..." Then go into a story of how their mothers, cousins cats previous owners niece had twins. Seriously... I don't have time for that shit. The only person I wanted to hug was another mom of multiples. She simply said "I know what you're going through and it gets easier".

Also, I'm nervous on how dd will do on her preschool screening. I know she's super smart and ready but it's, IMO, a test and I get anxiety. Ugh hurry up and be done.

erink7211 · October 2013

Due to having flat nipples and DS being unable to latch in the hospital, they gave me a nipple shield until he could work out the latch issues. I was secretly relieved because it protected my nips and didn't cause any pain with nursing but now I get so frustrated about having to use it. He constantly swats it off when I'm trying to get him to latch and it drives me crazy having to put him back down again (sometimes 2 or 3 times) so I can get it back on. Not to mention having to clean it every time and the horrible experience I had last week when I forgot to pack one in his diaper bag. (Can you say meltdown?) I've tried everything my LC has suggested to wean him off but with no luck. She basically just told me that I may as well get used to it. Needless to say, EPing has looked really tempting lately.

lovemyboyyss · October 2013

DonnaMartinGraduates said:
@MamaInMN - he's a week old today. It took us a few days to get the latch down and in that time he did the damage and it's taking a while to get over It's like the very tips have been sucked off and it's all scab. I am going to make an appointment with a LC today just to make sure we are still doing it right though.

I didn't read the whole thread so sorry if this has already been suggested!

I had the same scabbed, cracked, bleeding issue the first week. My LC told me to get hydrogel pads, lansinoh makes some called soothies. They worked AMAZINGLY! I kept them in the fridge and the relief was instant when I put them on. My scabs were completely gone in 2 days. They were like $10 at Wal-Mart and Target.

redfallon · October 2013

auroraloo said:

Another one: I am irrationally annoyed when people congratulate my mom or my ILs on a FB picture of DD. Especially if they don't congratulate me. I'm the one who pushed her out my vagina, assholes. Congratulate me. Or H who at least contributed sperm, and dealt with a pregnant me for 9 months.

At least I recognize it's irrational?

I just wanted to say Wow she's cute!

VitaLuna · October 2013

erink7211 said:
Due to having flat nipples and DS being unable to latch in the hospital, they gave me a nipple shield until he could work out the latch issues. I was secretly relieved because it protected my nips and didn't cause any pain with nursing but now I get so frustrated about having to use it. He constantly swats it off when I'm trying to get him to latch and it drives me crazy having to put him back down again (sometimes 2 or 3 times) so I can get it back on. Not to mention having to clean it every time and the horrible experience I had last week when I forgot to pack one in his diaper bag. (Can you say meltdown?) I've tried everything my LC has suggested to wean him off but with no luck. She basically just told me that I may as well get used to it. Needless to say, EPing has looked really tempting lately.

I hear you. I had to use a shield because LO wouldn't latch in the hospital. To say those first weeks were brutal is an understatement. I was so distraught (and a lot if people don't understand that feeling). I cried often and wanted to throw in the towel. I felt like my boobs failed me. We kept trying and trying and trying and slowly she got better. We're now shield free! Just keep at it and know you're not alone and you'll make it through this! (And I sympathize with forgetting the shield.. I forgot it once and we had to drive 20min back home to get it).

jlp0528 · October 2013

Skalbrecht said:

jpryber0528 said:
My LO is 9 days today and she slept about 6 hours last night through the night and I didn't wake her even though the LC said 5 hours was okay at most. I really think she's going through a growth spurt cause she ate like a madwoman yesterday, more than ever. I felt guilty not waking her to eat but she was such a happy girl when she did wake up, she probably wasn't hungry till then... Right!? :-/
Is she past her birth weight? If so, my pediatrician said let then sleep at night! She will let you know when it's time to eat.

@Skalbrecht not sure yet, her 2 week appt. is next week but she looks like she's filling back out to me. I would have to imagine she is bc she eats pretty reg. between 2-3 hours (excluding yesterday) and has plenty of wet and dirty diapers. Like you said the pedi said she would've told me... She certainly has no problem notifying me any other time lol!

Edit to ask, are you in the pittsburgh area @skalbrecht? I thought I remember seeing you over on that board, but my brain is addled pp!

redfallon · October 2013

auroraloo said:

redfallon said:

auroraloo said:

Another one: I am irrationally annoyed when people congratulate my mom or my ILs on a FB picture of DD. Especially if they don't congratulate me. I'm the one who pushed her out my vagina, assholes. Congratulate me. Or H who at least contributed sperm, and dealt with a pregnant me for 9 months.

At least I recognize it's irrational?

I just wanted to say Wow she's cute!

I'll send my mom your congrats

Haha :P

amandalt823 · October 2013

I dream of the days that I can give LO a bottle - so I can get a break from breastfeeding all the time and so DH can share the feedings. I'm not sure when I'm going to do it because every time I think about it, I feel really guilty. There is no medical reason I can't EBF, I'm just exhausted.

kimberlymacrae · October 2013

My $.02 on the "board dying" conversation is that I believe in about 1-2 months everything will be back to normal. I know a lot of mother's are just learning to transition into motherhood. For me labor, pp-care, and learning to care for my LO has taken all of my energy. I have been able to get onto our BMB and lurk but that is about the extent of my brain power. We will all be getting back to normal here real soon. So drive-by's beware!!!

My FFFC: Our pedi told us to keep our LO "in house" for two months and we've been taking full advantage of those orders. We've been able to avoid a lot of meet and greets we don't feel like going to. I have been able to avoid grocery shopping because only one of us can go and I think my husband would prefer that time alone and to get out of the house. I actually don't mind being cooped up all week in house. I have had to turn our heat on in the house because it is so stinking cold. The one thing I have asked my DH to pick up is a damn fall scented candle. There is nothing better when the weather turns than a fall scented candle.

Skalbrecht · October 2013

@jpryber0528 - I am! Up north in the cranberry area.

normandyn7 · October 2013

erink7211 said:

Due to having flat nipples and DS being unable to latch in the hospital, they gave me a nipple shield until he could work out the latch issues. I was secretly relieved because it protected my nips and didn't cause any pain with nursing but now I get so frustrated about having to use it. He constantly swats it off when I'm trying to get him to latch and it drives me crazy having to put him back down again (sometimes 2 or 3 times) so I can get it back on. Not to mention having to clean it every time and the horrible experience I had last week when I forgot to pack one in his diaper bag. (Can you say meltdown?) I've tried everything my LC has suggested to wean him off but with no luck. She basically just told me that I may as well get used to it. Needless to say, EPing has looked really tempting lately.

This is me also! I have to use the shield because he won't latch without it. He always swats it off and I'm constantly losing it! I love when I can pump enough to bring a bottle with me when we go out because I know if I try to BF in public with the shield it will be so frustrating. I know I'll probably have to use the shield the whole time unless I can get him to latch without it. You're not alone!

mcg512 · October 2013

Here we go....

1. I think the FB vs TB thing is crazy! It got blown out of proportion on both sides for no reason. I understand the views on both side and am not picking a side. I tried to explain/defend both sides but it wasn't heard on either side so whatever happens happens.

2. I'm tired of people (DH's aunt in particular) telling me to call them when I need help with DS. I know they mean well but it feels like they're expecting me to struggle and don't have faith that I can take care of him. **and if I was at my wit's end and needed help, she would be the last person I would call!

3. I make comments to DS about him needing a diaper change to see if DH will volunteer to change it, which he usually does, and I only feel a little bad about it. I'm very thankful that he is so involved and willing to take on the majority of diaper duty since I do the majority of feeding.

4. DH tells me to wake him up at night when I get up to nurse DS. When I don't wake him I tell him it's because I want him to be well rested for work but it's really because I want that one on one time with DS and I actually enjoy the middle of night feedings when it's just the two of us.

staceymack · October 2013

I wait to check the mail late at night after DH gets home. I take my sweet ass time walking to and from the mailbox. Sometimes I think about making a run for it once I get there. ;-)
After being shut up in the house alone with 2 newborns for several hours I need fresh air and a break.

HBirdie · October 2013

@kimberlymacrae: I was just thinking off you the other day!! I'm glad to hear you are getting the hang of being a mommy and glad to see that you're back

And I actually dragged DH to Hallmark and Yankee Candle the other day when we were walking the mall and we bought a bunch of fall scented little votive candles. I'm obsessed!! I got stuff like pumpkin and apple spice and whatnot, but I also found a candy corn scented one. Mmmm!

Honeyb416 · October 2013

My mom is coming in this weekend which I am very much looking forward to for the extra help but she makes me angry when she makes uneducated comments like "maybe he's not getting enough milk" or "he's getting used to being held" . He's a newborn...he can't be spoiled by being held too much! and he's gaining weight and has no shortage of piss/poop so he is just fine.

redfallon · October 2013

First, I don't like to see my baby cry. Now for my FFFC, I think the little pouty face she makes at the start of a cry is the cutest thing

happybride 276 · October 2013

redfallon said:
First, I don't like to see my baby cry. Now for my FFFC, I think the little pouty face she makes at the start of a cry is the cutest thing

I feel the exact same way. I feel so bad when he cries, but I can't help but say aww every time the lower lip comes out.

happybride 276 · October 2013

Tensions are running high in the happybride household today, and my husband and I just got into an argument. (I blame the lack of sleep combined with my BFing frustrations, and his defensiveness about me not wanting his parents to come to our house all the time.). I totally felt the need to eat my emotions and ate almost a whole bag of honey BBQ potato chips. Not the snack pack kind...the real kind that you whip out for a party. Not only am I still upset about the argument, but now my stomach hurts too. Big ol' failure of a day.

OliveMom3 · October 2013

JocelynB0911 said:

OliveMom3 said:
The vote is not a popularity contest. It was to see if we wanted to open the already closed group. No one takes votes on individual people. It was so drama free but here it seems to have been blown so out of proportion. Anyway. I guess if you guys wanted a FB group to join there's enough of you to make another one.
4 people wanted to join that we're mentioned on the fb group. Seriously that hardly opening it up to everyone. Like they've been saying on the fb site, let it die but here you are, needing the last word. Drop it already. If you really thought mentioning a vote wouldn't spark something here I'm starting to doubt your intelligence.

Dropped. Why would I want the last word, it has your name on it? Thanks for bringing up my intelligence though.

JocelynB0911 · October 2013

Ohhh I have another one or two. I never get more than an hour of sleep at a time. So when/ if I get more then I legit think it's a new day or sometimes week. I got a 3.5 hour nap (I feel like a new woman) but seriously think it's Saturday right now.

Also, I hate wearing bras while I'm at home. Show up to my house unannounced and you're getting all of this as it is. Mind you I have 38I sad boobs. Sorry neighbor guy, I didn't mean to overwhelm you with my sexiness this evening.

jlp0528 · October 2013

JocelynB0911 said:
Ohhh I have another one or two. I never get more than an hour of sleep at a time. So when/ if I get more then I legit think it's a new day or sometimes week. I got a 3.5 hour nap (I feel like a new woman) but seriously think it's Saturday right now.

Also, I hate wearing bras while I'm at home. Show up to my house unannounced and you're getting all of this as it is. Mind you I have 38I sad boobs. Sorry neighbor guy, I didn't mean to overwhelm you with my sexiness this evening.

You and me both, this is pretty much my life .... Get it gurrrrl.

jlp0528 · October 2013

Skalbrecht said:
@jpryber0528 - I am! Up north in the cranberry area.

My DH is from cranberry! We live in the south hills now. Two different worlds lol

jmjewell19 · October 2013

jdoud77 said:

I have a true confession: I know how beneficial it is for LO to have breast milk and for that, I will keep doing it until she's ready for solids or until I'm all dried up. However, I sometimes want to just formula feed knowing it's much easier than pumping and trying to get LO to breast all the time.

I can relate to this one. My confession is that I decided this week to give up EPing, despite the benefits for LO. My supply was tanking, I was constantly worried about how much I was producing, and it was emotionally draining because I hated being attached to the pump and always wondered what I could be doing to improve my supply. Despite the benefits, it wasn't worth the emotional toll. She's had nearly 6 weeks of BM, and I have to believe that's better than none for her. The other side of my confession is that I feel so incredibly guilty about this decision.This is the stuff no one tells you about before you become a mother.

kennazebrowsky · October 2013

jpryber0528 said:

JocelynB0911 said:
Ohhh I have another one or two. I never get more than an hour of sleep at a time. So when/ if I get more then I legit think it's a new day or sometimes week. I got a 3.5 hour nap (I feel like a new woman) but seriously think it's Saturday right now.

Also, I hate wearing bras while I'm at home. Show up to my house unannounced and you're getting all of this as it is. Mind you I have 38I sad boobs. Sorry neighbor guy, I didn't mean to overwhelm you with my sexiness this evening.
You and me both, this is pretty much my life .... Get it gurrrrl.

Another confession I am also a member of the big titti committee!

RoosterWrangler · October 2013

My confession - I wasn't hit by the instantaneous Mac truck of motherly love when DS was born. I remember them putting him on my chest the moment he arrived and we exchanged confused glances before they whisked him away. He's now 9 days old and I can't imagine my world without him, but it's taking some time to develop our bond. I think part of it is the fact that I'm still in disbelief that I'm somebody's mother.

JLMcWeeney · October 2013

erink7211 said:
Due to having flat nipples and DS being unable to latch in the hospital, they gave me a nipple shield until he could work out the latch issues. I was secretly relieved because it protected my nips and didn't cause any pain with nursing but now I get so frustrated about having to use it. He constantly swats it off when I'm trying to get him to latch and it drives me crazy having to put him back down again (sometimes 2 or 3 times) so I can get it back on. Not to mention having to clean it every time and the horrible experience I had last week when I forgot to pack one in his diaper bag. (Can you say meltdown?) I've tried everything my LC has suggested to wean him off but with no luck. She basically just told me that I may as well get used to it. Needless to say, EPing has looked really tempting lately.

I have been using a nipple shield for 6 weeks. At first I was really trying to stop using it, and now I have pretty much given up. It does get easier to use. Mine won't slap it off anymore. I started holding his hand while feeding him to help him not do it. Now, he just doesn't hit it. I also keep a spare shield in my diaper bag. If you get a retainer or mouth gaurd case you can use that to store it in so you don't lose it as easily, and so it isn't just loose in the diaper bag.

barnratash · October 2013

erink7211 said:
Due to having flat nipples and DS being unable to latch in the hospital, they gave me a nipple shield until he could work out the latch issues. I was secretly relieved because it protected my nips and didn't cause any pain with nursing but now I get so frustrated about having to use it. He constantly swats it off when I'm trying to get him to latch and it drives me crazy having to put him back down again (sometimes 2 or 3 times) so I can get it back on. Not to mention having to clean it every time and the horrible experience I had last week when I forgot to pack one in his diaper bag. (Can you say meltdown?) I've tried everything my LC has suggested to wean him off but with no luck. She basically just told me that I may as well get used to it. Needless to say, EPing has looked really tempting lately.

I have had a similar problem. My nipples are apparently very short and I can't get DS on without the shield. Its been super frustrating because when he does get on he is a champ. He keeps swatting away and pulling back from my boob. I will even get the nip in his mouth and he pulls back and shakes his head or he'll get a few a sucks and pull off. Of course every time the LC checked on us in the hospital everything was fine. I think rhe shield rubs his chin too much.

Tonight DH and I tried for almost half an hour and he kept screaming and pulling back. He hadn't eaten in like 3 hrs so we caved and gave him formula and have been all night. Tomorrow we're going to get tubes for my pump so we can start pumping. I'm going to continue to try BF and go to the support group next week but I feel like a horrible failure.

JLMcWeeney · October 2013

barnratash said:

erink7211 said:
Due to having flat nipples and DS being unable to latch in the hospital, they gave me a nipple shield until he could work out the latch issues. I was secretly relieved because it protected my nips and didn't cause any pain with nursing but now I get so frustrated about having to use it. He constantly swats it off when I'm trying to get him to latch and it drives me crazy having to put him back down again (sometimes 2 or 3 times) so I can get it back on. Not to mention having to clean it every time and the horrible experience I had last week when I forgot to pack one in his diaper bag. (Can you say meltdown?) I've tried everything my LC has suggested to wean him off but with no luck. She basically just told me that I may as well get used to it. Needless to say, EPing has looked really tempting lately.
I have had a similar problem. My nipples are apparently very short and I can't get DS on without the shield. Its been super frustrating because when he does get on he is a champ. He keeps swatting away and pulling back from my boob. I will even get the nip in his mouth and he pulls back and shakes his head or he'll get a few a sucks and pull off. Of course every time the LC checked on us in the hospital everything was fine. I think rhe shield rubs his chin too much.

Tonight DH and I tried for almost half an hour and he kept screaming and pulling back. He hadn't eaten in like 3 hrs so we caved and gave him formula and have been all night. Tomorrow we're going to get tubes for my pump so we can start pumping. I'm going to continue to try BF and go to the support group next week but I feel like a horrible failure.

Please don't feel like a failure. You are doing your best. I know you are trying to get him latched on, but try not to let him get too frustrated while trying. You don't want him to learn that it is stressful.
Maybe try having a bottle ready, but having him try to latch. If he gets upset, give him a little from the bottle. Then try getting him to latch again. That way he will be getting an instant reward, and he won't just become more frustrated by not being able to latch.
I really hope you get past this. You can do it! I hope the pump helps you too.

barnratash · October 2013

JLMcWeeney said:

erink7211 said:
Due to having flat nipples and DS being unable to latch in the hospital, they gave me a nipple shield until he could work out the latch issues. I was secretly relieved because it protected my nips and didn't cause any pain with nursing but now I get so frustrated about having to use it. He constantly swats it off when I'm trying to get him to latch and it drives me crazy having to put him back down again (sometimes 2 or 3 times) so I can get it back on. Not to mention having to clean it every time and the horrible experience I had last week when I forgot to pack one in his diaper bag. (Can you say meltdown?) I've tried everything my LC has suggested to wean him off but with no luck. She basically just told me that I may as well get used to it. Needless to say, EPing has looked really tempting lately.
I have had a similar problem. My nipples are apparently very short and I can't get DS on without the shield. Its been super frustrating because when he does get on he is a champ. He keeps swatting away and pulling back from my boob. I will even get the nip in his mouth and he pulls back and shakes his head or he'll get a few a sucks and pull off. Of course every time the LC checked on us in the hospital everything was fine. I think rhe shield rubs his chin too much.

Tonight DH and I tried for almost half an hour and he kept screaming and pulling back. He hadn't eaten in like 3 hrs so we caved and gave him formula and have been all night. Tomorrow we're going to get tubes for my pump so we can start pumping. I'm going to continue to try BF and go to the support group next week but I feel like a horrible failure.

Please don't feel like a failure. You are doing your best. I know you are trying to get him latched on, but try not to let him get too frustrated while trying. You don't want him to learn that it is stressful.
Maybe try having a bottle ready, but having him try to latch. If he gets upset, give him a little from the bottle. Then try getting him to latch again. That way he will be getting an instant reward, and he won't just become more frustrated by not being able to latch.
I really hope you get past this. You can do it! I hope the pump helps you too.

It's nice to not be alone. We try to make it as least stressful as possible. We let him calm down before we mske another attempt. I also tried giving him a paci and then doing a quick swap with the nip and that works ok. I will definitely try giving him a little bottle in between. Thank you!

happybride 276 · October 2013

JLMcWeeney said:

Due to having flat nipples and DS being unable to latch in the hospital, they gave me a nipple shield until he could work out the latch issues. I was secretly relieved because it protected my nips and didn't cause any pain with nursing but now I get so frustrated about having to use it. He constantly swats it off when I'm trying to get him to latch and it drives me crazy having to put him back down again (sometimes 2 or 3 times) so I can get it back on. Not to mention having to clean it every time and the horrible experience I had last week when I forgot to pack one in his diaper bag. (Can you say meltdown?) I've tried everything my LC has suggested to wean him off but with no luck. She basically just told me that I may as well get used to it. Needless to say, EPing has looked really tempting lately.
I have had a similar problem. My nipples are apparently very short and I can't get DS on without the shield. Its been super frustrating because when he does get on he is a champ. He keeps swatting away and pulling back from my boob. I will even get the nip in his mouth and he pulls back and shakes his head or he'll get a few a sucks and pull off. Of course every time the LC checked on us in the hospital everything was fine. I think rhe shield rubs his chin too much. Tonight DH and I tried for almost half an hour and he kept screaming and pulling back. He hadn't eaten in like 3 hrs so we caved and gave him formula and have been all night. Tomorrow we're going to get tubes for my pump so we can start pumping. I'm going to continue to try BF and go to the support group next week but I feel like a horrible failure.
Please don't feel like a failure. You are doing your best. I know you are trying to get him latched on, but try not to let him get too frustrated while trying. You don't want him to learn that it is stressful. Maybe try having a bottle ready, but having him try to latch. If he gets upset, give him a little from the bottle. Then try getting him to latch again. That way he will be getting an instant reward, and he won't just become more frustrated by not being able to latch. I really hope you get past this. You can do it! I hope the pump helps you too.

I agree with all of this. Do not feel like a failure, although I know its so easy. I feel like a failure at least once every other day with feeding. I can't get my son to latch Welles and have to use a nipple shield. The problem is that with or without a shield he isn't getting enough from my breast to be full so I still have to pump and supplement with formula (because I also don't produce enou milk). Breast feeding is the most aggravating thing about having a child right now.

erink7211 · October 2013

barnratash said:

JLMcWeeney said:

erink7211 said:
Due to having flat nipples and DS being unable to latch in the hospital, they gave me a nipple shield until he could work out the latch issues. I was secretly relieved because it protected my nips and didn't cause any pain with nursing but now I get so frustrated about having to use it. He constantly swats it off when I'm trying to get him to latch and it drives me crazy having to put him back down again (sometimes 2 or 3 times) so I can get it back on. Not to mention having to clean it every time and the horrible experience I had last week when I forgot to pack one in his diaper bag. (Can you say meltdown?) I've tried everything my LC has suggested to wean him off but with no luck. She basically just told me that I may as well get used to it. Needless to say, EPing has looked really tempting lately.
I have had a similar problem. My nipples are apparently very short and I can't get DS on without the shield. Its been super frustrating because when he does get on he is a champ. He keeps swatting away and pulling back from my boob. I will even get the nip in his mouth and he pulls back and shakes his head or he'll get a few a sucks and pull off. Of course every time the LC checked on us in the hospital everything was fine. I think rhe shield rubs his chin too much.

Tonight DH and I tried for almost half an hour and he kept screaming and pulling back. He hadn't eaten in like 3 hrs so we caved and gave him formula and have been all night. Tomorrow we're going to get tubes for my pump so we can start pumping. I'm going to continue to try BF and go to the support group next week but I feel like a horrible failure.
Please don't feel like a failure. You are doing your best. I know you are trying to get him latched on, but try not to let him get too frustrated while trying. You don't want him to learn that it is stressful.
Maybe try having a bottle ready, but having him try to latch. If he gets upset, give him a little from the bottle. Then try getting him to latch again. That way he will be getting an instant reward, and he won't just become more frustrated by not being able to latch.
I really hope you get past this. You can do it! I hope the pump helps you too.

It's nice to not be alone. We try to make it as least stressful as possible. We let him calm down before we mske another attempt. I also tried giving him a paci and then doing a quick swap with the nip and that works ok. I will definitely try giving him a little bottle in between. Thank you!

You're definitely not alone. Also, when you get your pump ready pump for a few minutes before feeding to draw out your nipples and give your LO something more to work with. My LC suggested that and while it hasn't worked for us, I know it has for many others.

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