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MississippiCatfish · October 2013

KTC926 said:

mrssqueegy said:

KTC926 said:

I have never been on a plane and I felt a a ting of jealousy of all of you that travel often.

My vehicle inspection expired in Sept. we don't have $400 to fix what it needs to pass inspection and I'm stressed out worrying about it.

I'm irrationally upset at the bedside manner and lack of compassion and tools of a state ranked hospital my mom is in right now. I'm sorry but my father should NOT have to bring in her shower chair because a hospital that does rehab for paraplegics does not have the proper tools for her to use the bathroom. They also didn't take the proper measures to prevent pneumonia after surgery and now she has it. When my dad complained (there are many issues besides the ones I stated) he set up a meeting the person didn't even write anything and completely disregarded all of my dad's concerns.

this was more a vent than an FFFC sorry..but I'm just angry.

What precautions did they not take to prevent a pneumonia?

They didn't give her the device 'incentive spirometer' I believe that's the name of it until after 4 days and realizing her lung had collapsed and she developed pneumonia. I may be wrong but I feel as though that's pretty important to have after any surgery especially for someone who can not get out of bed and walk around. Maybe someone who has more experience in this can explain it better to me.

That's pretty bad. She could have still developed post op pneumonia even while using the IS, it happens every day, but that's a big oops. I don't work in the hospital now, but I thought this was usually in the nursing task list several times per shift at first? So sorry you're going through this:(

melody921 · October 2013

MrsKipper said:

I don't like the head and neck rub that stylists do when they wash your hair at the salon. I usually end up tensed and with a crick in my neck. Just wash my hair and use that sprayer as much as you want, thanks!

My stylist doesn't do a head/neck rub! Darn it, I would totally be down for that.

Stasi · October 2013

auroraloo said:

Roxy - I have the same problem. I have no idea how I will get two kids out to a freezing cold car in the middle of winter. Our garage is detached, and distanced from our house.

My uneducated guess would be leave M in the car seat, buckled in near the door while you get C buckled in, then run back in for her. That, or if C is walking confidently, grab hold of his hand and make a "game" out of running to the garage quickly...I'm sure you'll figure it out!

hmp1 · October 2013

MRoxy0628 said:

cheeseandrice said:

Roxy- where in MN are you? How did I not know you were here too?

I'm in the Twin Cities. I've never mentioned it until now.

For some reason, I have always thought of you as a CA girl. I guess because Roxy=surfing to me.

MrsKipper · October 2013

melody921 said:

MrsKipper said:

I don't like the head and neck rub that stylists do when they wash your hair at the salon. I usually end up tensed and with a crick in my neck. Just wash my hair and use that sprayer as much as you want, thanks!

My stylist doesn't do a head/neck rub! Darn it, I would totally be down for that.

Where I go does a long one and it's just awkward for me. I saw a guy once and he lifted my head to rub my neck and I started to sit up because I thought he was done. When he realized that he said "shhhhh, just relax" in a whisper. It creeped me out. I just don't like to be rubbed!

hmp1 · October 2013

auroraloo said:

LoisLayn23 said:

Buckle baby into carseat, leave inside. Take big kid out, put in seat. Go back inside, grab small child. Put in carseat.

I'm nervous about leaving C in a running car in the alley. I need to get over it, because I need to leave the house, you know?

I would throw a blanket over M's car seat and take them both out at the same time, holding C's hand to help him keep up. Open C's door and have him climb in (start teaching this now, it is a huge help), you can even give him a butt boost to make it faster. Shut his door so he can't fall out, run around, put M in the car, then go back around to buckle up C.

This is what I do every day. It works for us.

MarisaKathleen · October 2013

@cheeseandrice, I'm in the minority at my work because I didn't throw a tantrum when our union was taken away. I'm also a Republican. It's apparently a big deal.

Stasi · October 2013

That classic jazz song 'Smile' makes me cringe whenever I hear it because I think it sends a detrimental message about mental health and processing emotions...it's just a freakin' song, but the line "Light up your face with gladness/ Hide every trace of sadness/ Although a tear may be ever so near" makes me mad every time!

Stasi · October 2013

BobKat22 said:

Last Friday I was on call for the hospital and got called in around midnight. I was so tired and I knew DD would be up at 5 am. My call didn't end until 7 am. I told DH that the ER was crazy and they needed me all night, but I really found a nice comfy stretcher to sleep on all night until 7 am. It was glorious.

That sounds glorious!!

Hyaline · October 2013

cheeseandrice said:

oh! I have a new one.
I bought a Libertarian 'mascot' car decal. But I haven't put it up on my car yet, because I don't want to deal with the stupdi backlash at work.

Higher Ed is ALL ABOUT social justice and being inclusive... as long as you're liberal

Stuck in quote box.

I KNOW. I loved so many of my former coworkers, but it was amazing how downright mean and intolerant they could be when they didn't realize that "one amongst them" didn't agree with everything they thought. Some of the stuff they said...wow, intolerant and hateful. Kinda self-perpetuating, too, because they surrounded themselves with like-minded people...anywho.

FFFC: I am leery of identifying as Libertarian because they're kind of synonymous with crazypants among my cadre. Even though I am kinda Libertarian. And I know that the association with crazypants isn't really fair.

KTC926 · October 2013

mrssqueegy said:

KTC926 said:

mrssqueegy said:

KTC926 said:

I have never been on a plane and I felt a a ting of jealousy of all of you that travel often.

My vehicle inspection expired in Sept. we don't have $400 to fix what it needs to pass inspection and I'm stressed out worrying about it.

I'm irrationally upset at the bedside manner and lack of compassion and tools of a state ranked hospital my mom is in right now. I'm sorry but my father should NOT have to bring in her shower chair because a hospital that does rehab for paraplegics does not have the proper tools for her to use the bathroom. They also didn't take the proper measures to prevent pneumonia after surgery and now she has it. When my dad complained (there are many issues besides the ones I stated) he set up a meeting the person didn't even write anything and completely disregarded all of my dad's concerns.

this was more a vent than an FFFC sorry..but I'm just angry.

What precautions did they not take to prevent a pneumonia?

They didn't give her the device 'incentive spirometer' I believe that's the name of it until after 4 days and realizing her lung had collapsed and she developed pneumonia. I may be wrong but I feel as though that's pretty important to have after any surgery especially for someone who can not get out of bed and walk around. Maybe someone who has more experience in this can explain it better to me.

While not having an incentive spirometer certainly could lead to atelectasis (base of lung collapse), it wouldn't cause her to get a pneumonia. Pneumonia is an infection of the lungs and she would have to have caught a virus or bacteria to have that.

Incentive spirometer is super important after surgery, but she should also have been instructed to do deep breathing on her own, even if she didn't have the actual device.

I'm sorry she is dealing with this. I don't mean to be snarky at all but misinformation about health related things is a pet peeve of mine.

I didn't take it as snarky, I think a combination of things going on is really piling on our frustration and I do realize this could of happened even with the device, my mom was trying to do deep breathing and coughing on her own just from previous experience after surgery but they weren't instructing her to do this, there's no reason why didn't give her the device. I just expected more out of this hospital.

hmp1 · October 2013

cheeseandrice said:

oh! I have a new one.
I bought a Libertarian 'mascot' car decal. But I haven't put it up on my car yet, because I don't want to deal with the stupdi backlash at work.

Higher Ed is ALL ABOUT social justice and being inclusive... as long as you're liberal.

I'm a liberal that works for a big bank with mainly TX coworkers. I am out numbered and didn't tell anyone that I voted for Kerry.

Hyaline · October 2013

TheAnne said:

Hyaline said:

FFFC: I am leery of identifying as Libertarian because they're kind of synonymous with crazypants among my cadre. Even though I am kinda Libertarian. And I know that the association with crazypants isn't really fair.

I totally get this. I blame the super extreme tea partiers that branched off of Ron Paul's libertarian presidential runs for this image.

Also, a lot of Libertarians people around here encounter are basically only vocal about legalizing marijuana. Not exactly a strong, inclusive, far-reaching platform.

willy_gert · October 2013

@KTC926, I am so sorry that you and your family are having to go through this! Hospitals can be so frustrating when people don't communicate and don't listen to your concerns! I hope that your mom gets better quickly and that you and your family can get some peace of mind about her care! Thinking about you!

MRoxy0628 · October 2013

MRoxy0628 said:

cheeseandrice said:

Roxy- where in MN are you? How did I not know you were here too?

I'm in the Twin Cities. I've never mentioned it until now.

For some reason, I have always thought of you as a CA girl. I guess because Roxy=surfing to me.

Nope. I created this screen name when I was young and WANTED to be surfer girl.

MommaP12 · October 2013

redneckmomma25 said:

I stress so much I give myself stomach aches. Like yesterday and today. I still eat though.

I do this too. Sometimes I eat more and then have bad reflux, ugh. (((hugs))))

terri_doula2010 · October 2013

My winter routine last year: Infant bucket seat with showercap thingie covering her face. Eric wearing coat/hat and me either carrying him or him walking. Carry bucket seat in other hand. Depending on how cold, either put bucket seat on ground while I totally get Eric in (her whole face is covered), or if it is too cold for that, put her seat on the empty back seat (she is in middle, he is on passenger side), go put him in completely, come back and move her into position.

@auroraloo

MommaP12 · October 2013

melody921 said:

Stasi said:

I don't set my FB page to private. I'm on social media, so whatever I put out there is public knowledge anyway. I don't care.

Maybe I'm naive, but I feel like it's different for "friends" to see what I post, compared to every random person who could search for me or be a friend of a friend's friend.

I feel this way too @melody921

PenelopePond · October 2013

Not get over it. Just get use to it. It takes time. Love your siggy

@auroraloo

Stasi · October 2013

Ohhh, did we all run over to watch the M14 UO cray?

I guess it was from yesterday, but I'm just catching up!

BillyMollyEmmy · October 2013

I ate Chinese for breakfast and lunch today. YOLO.

L8kissie · October 2013

Now I want Chinese and to read the m14 uo. Damn! I've already laid on the Lovesac with dd long enough while reading this that she's going to sleep.

I think dd's eyes changed colors three days ago and I'm a bit sad. They do look like my eye color though. (Blue green)

[Deleted User] · October 2013

SpoofLeJones said:
I still NIP my 13mo old. Haters gonna hate.

Wait, me too. Is there something wrong with this?!

ifwisheswerefishes · October 2013

BPer said:

I'm afraid to tell my husband that if we don't get some space from ILs, we'll likely end up divorced. While he acknowledges the crazy, his parents have done so much for him that he feels as though making his own decisions means he is ungrateful.

I am so sorry. I feel the IL pain, though not quite to that extent.

mrsbhk22 · October 2013

LoisLayn23 said:
I don't like the Pain Olympics, even as it relates to the shutdown.

I really hope me venting about DH and I both being furloughed in a few posts (but not creating my own AWy posts). does not constitute vying for the pain Olympics. If it does, I've misjudged the supportiveness of this board.

GR8TDANEMOM · October 2013

I plan on spending half of my weekend playing the sims. I haven't played since before I was pregnant and I just found the disk in the closet. I am a total nerd and am excited to create Bennett in the game!!!

eshee8198 · October 2013

Holly_1007 said:

I have no BFing support IRL. when people ask me if I'm still nursing I say no, for the sake of not having to deal with the looks of digust or 20 questions about why I'm still nursing or when I plan on weaning

I haven't read to the end, but I wanted to let you know that there's drop-in breastfeeding group in Southbridge, run by a friend of mine. You should check it out!

I feel like I'm lucky that I have a small baby without hair, because I think people assume she's younger than she is and don't give me any flack for still nursing her when I'm out in public...

mrsbhk22 · October 2013

LoisLayn23 said:

mrsbhk22 said:

I don't like the Pain Olympics, even as it relates to the shutdown.
I really hope me venting about DH and I both being furloughed in a few posts (but not creating my own AWy posts). does not constitute vying for the pain Olympics. If it does, I've misjudged the supportiveness of this board.

Nice.

willy_gert · October 2013

My ex BFF just posted pictures on FB of shaving her daughter's head. Like razor blade shaving her head not just clippers shaving her head and she said that she did it because of tradition. You could clearly see the baby's head was irritated from the shaving! I so wanted to say something but we are just now to the point where we can handle seeing each other's stuff in our feeds. I decided that wouldn't be a good idea. What kind of fucking tradition has you "bic" a baby's head?

melody921 · October 2013

mrsbhk22 said:

I don't like the Pain Olympics, even as it relates to the shutdown.
I really hope me venting about DH and I both being furloughed in a few posts (but not creating my own AWy posts). does not constitute vying for the pain Olympics. If it does, I've misjudged the supportiveness of this board.

I can't speak for anyone else, but I think anyone being furloughed sucks a lot, and the fact that you're both affected gives you every right to be vocal about it. ((hugs))

melody921 · October 2013

auroraloo said:

LoisLayn23 said:

auroraloo said:

LoisLayn23 said:

auroraloo said:

SpoofLeJones said:

I still NIP my 13mo old. Haters gonna hate.
Wait, me too. Is there something wrong with this?!
Nope. That was in response to Holly's post.
I've toyed with seeing if C would re-latch. I struggled so much with him, I've considered it.

Tandem nursing?
I can't tell if you're kidding or not, but yeah. @terri_doula2010 suggested it to me when I first got pg.
Why would I be kidding?

I don't know how to read people here anymore.

The teeth scare me though.

DD only really bit me when she was first getting teeth. Now, I hardly ever notice that she has teeth in there when she's eating.

melody921 · October 2013

eshee8198 said:

Holly_1007 said:

I have no BFing support IRL. when people ask me if I'm still nursing I say no, for the sake of not having to deal with the looks of digust or 20 questions about why I'm still nursing or when I plan on weaning

I haven't read to the end, but I wanted to let you know that there's drop-in breastfeeding group in Southbridge, run by a friend of mine. You should check it out!

I feel like I'm lucky that I have a small baby without hair, because I think people assume she's younger than she is and don't give me any flack for still nursing her when I'm out in public...

I never thought of this! My fellow small baldie could be saving me the same trouble from others.

AlinnJo · October 2013

I welcome anyone to give me flack while breastfeeding my 13 month old. They'll be sure to get an earful as to why I'm doing it. They'll get a whole hell of a lot of information they probably didn't want and will hopefully think twice about making a comment next time.

redneckmomma25 · October 2013

LoisLayn23 said:

willy_gert said:

My ex BFF just posted pictures on FB of shaving her daughter's head. Like razor blade shaving her head not just clippers shaving her head and she said that she did it because of tradition. You could clearly see the baby's head was irritated from the shaving! I so wanted to say something but we are just now to the point where we can handle seeing each other's stuff in our feeds. I decided that wouldn't be a good idea. What kind of fucking tradition has you "bic" a baby's head?

That was my exact question. Who the fuck shaves a baby's head?

I remember it being discussed on the board. I think It is more common in Hispanic cultures (I may not remember correctly). Supposed to make the hair come back in nice and think.

mrsbhk22 · October 2013

***took out the block quotes because they are annoying on mobile*** I'm by no means on a high house. Actually, I feel pretty beat down now (not by your comment, but in general). Yes, maybe I'm a little oversensitive right now, but I think that's reasonable. I've never made it about my situation being worse than anyone else's. Just that the situation as a whole sucks. I'll be the 1st to admit that we are better off than some (people with no savings, people already behind in their mortgages etc). I took your comment to heart thinking that I was annoying people by talking about it (and if that was the case, feeling unsupported). I've always liked you @loislayn23, so maybe that's why I took it personally, thinking you were referring to me.

hmp1 · October 2013

auroraloo said:

TheAnne said:

the head shaving is a religious thing in some parts of the world and also a common Hispanic cultural thing. It's unlikely she just thought it would be fun but rather, something that was important to her.

I totally thought of this board when introducing M to neighbor's girlfriend. GF is from an Asian country (not sure which one) and she asked me when I was going to shave her head. She talked about how it's always done in her country.

My SIL is Chinese and they shaved both their boys' heads as babies.

danabsd · October 2013

willy_gert said:

My ex BFF just posted pictures on FB of shaving her daughter's head. Like razor blade shaving her head not just clippers shaving her head and she said that she did it because of tradition. You could clearly see the baby's head was irritated from the shaving! I so wanted to say something but we are just now to the point where we can handle seeing each other's stuff in our feeds. I decided that wouldn't be a good idea. What kind of fucking tradition has you "bic" a baby's head?

The greeks do it. You are suppose to shave the babies head 3 times. I refused, but we still got her baptized so she won't go to hell for keeping her original hair.

MommaP12 · October 2013

LoisLayn23 said:

The Hispanics I know don't do this. Military buzz cuts, yes. But not shaving.

I'm Hispanic and never heard of this. We have thick coarse hair without the shaving usually!

[Deleted User] · October 2013

LoisLayn23 said:

willy_gert said:

My ex BFF just posted pictures on FB of shaving her daughter's head. Like razor blade shaving her head not just clippers shaving her head and she said that she did it because of tradition. You could clearly see the baby's head was irritated from the shaving! I so wanted to say something but we are just now to the point where we can handle seeing each other's stuff in our feeds. I decided that wouldn't be a good idea. What kind of fucking tradition has you "bic" a baby's head?

That was my exact question. Who the fuck shaves a baby's head?

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Indians. Its a cultural thing.

Cheenomae · October 2013

melody921 said:

mrsbhk22 said:

I don't like the Pain Olympics, even as it relates to the shutdown.
I really hope me venting about DH and I both being furloughed in a few posts (but not creating my own AWy posts). does not constitute vying for the pain Olympics. If it does, I've misjudged the supportiveness of this board.

I can't speak for anyone else, but I think anyone being furloughed sucks a lot, and the fact that you're both affected gives you every right to be vocal about it. ((hugs))

I agree with @melody921 100%. I didn't think for a second you were vying for the pain olympics. Your situation sucks ass and I'd think you'd have most of our support here. Vent away!!!

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