why???? vent

potatoe6 · October 2013

Warning this is really a first world issue and I just need to blow off some steam..

Why is it when people invite you out for lunch/dinner to catch up, they wait until last minute to cancel? Since I have been back at work (about a month) I have been invited out to lunch a few times by different people to "catch up". Great!!! I love to join you for lunch, I feel blessed you want to hang out with me and I don't have to make a lunch (we have been trying to save money and we alloted a set dollar amount for eating out every month), even better. We make the plans and then the morning of, I get an email saying they have to cancel, they are real sorry, and we should reschedule for the following week. Awesome thanks, not only do I have to go buy lunch for today, you want me to spend more money next week, ummm let me think about it and get back to you.

I understand the work world there are meeting, deadlines etc.....I was ok with the first few times, but the one today just put me over the edge, as this is the second time this week it has happened. Story--my mom and ex-SIL (we are really close) invited me to join them today for lunch, as I know my ex-SIL has a history of flaking, I called both of them last night to confirm, both said yes its still a go. Heading to work this morning, get text from ex-SIL that she is not going into work today, therefore can't make the lunch, and she is going to ask my mom to meet her for lunch at a place closer to her house (about 45 mins away from me). THANKS, B-tch, not only are you cancelling last minute, you doing so when I cannot go and make my lunch, and you are going to still go out with my mom, when it was supposed to be our birthday lunch.

Once i got into work, and calmed down a bit, I wrote back to her how I really felt, she hasn't responded. I know it is really petty, but I'm really annoyed as this is the second time this week that someone cancelled lunch on me, leaving me to spend money and I really didn't need to, DH had a great solution, just bring lunch in everyday no matter what, especially when it comes to ex-SIL.

Thanks for reading, sorry it is long and I sound like a spoiled child, but it is just starting to become a pet peeve.

sarahandeddiejune212008 · October 2013

I can't stand flakey people!

potatoe6 · October 2013

I wish DH can go, but he works downtown and I work in the 'burbs. Normally I would try and find someone else, but I think after this stuff (there is now more to it), today I will just go for a nice long walk, stop and grab something, and eat in a park, enjoying the beautiful weather.

aylafsu88 · October 2013

That is very frustrating! It is even worse since you called the night before to confirm. When I have plans for lunch with a flaky person I always bring a back up lunch. This way if they bail I still have something with me.

zyas · October 2013

that sucks! My question is why does she think it's ok to still have lunch with your mom? Shouldn't your mom still be coming to have lunch with you since that was the original plan?

sworms914 · October 2013

That is so annoying. I can't stand flaky people.

potatoe6 · October 2013

Well the original plan was for them to have lunch, as her bday is on the 5th, but exSIL called me and inivted me too to celebrate my bday which is on the 6th. But changing the plans and asking my mom to go with the new plans, and my mom actually going really just got under my skin.

APendola · October 2013

That's annoying!!!..maybe when people suggest meeting up, suggest meeting for a coffee instead. That way if they cancel on you, you can always skip buying the coffee. It's more budget friendly.

holliekriegel · October 2013

I hate it when it happens to me too! I don't think some people realize that for many of us it may be the only adult time we have all day and we really look forward to something as simple as a lunch out. Sorry she flaked out!

StokedWifey · October 2013

potatoe6 said:

I wish DH can go, but he works downtown and I work in the 'burbs. Normally I would try and find someone else, but I think after this stuff (there is now more to it), today I will just go for a nice long walk, stop and grab something, and eat in a park, enjoying the beautiful weather.

That's always a good cure for what ails you. Sorry you had to deal with a flake, but hope you have a fun lunch date with yourself!

potatoe6 · October 2013

thanks ladies, I did have a great lunch by myself, the sun is shining and it like 20 degrees here (68 in Fahrenheit). @ PaddyB I am fustrated at my mom as well....but with her it runs much deeper then just this and this morning would not have been a good day to blow up at her. As for exSIL she didn't say why she took the time off, my guess is she is preparing for a competition for another job within her team and took the prepration leave for it (we get 7.5 hours of prep time leave when we are competing for other jobs within the government, as well as leave for interviews and courses).

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