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Shower question.

Sisimama10Sisimama10 member
in April 2014 Moms
I have heard a lot about baby shower etiquette (ex. Don't throw it yourself) but I just read someone talking about how it was okay to have another shower if you have a new SO/spouse. I'm not having a second shower or even a sprinkle or anything, but it got me wondering what you guys think is appropriate in that situation?
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Re: Shower question.

  • Fields09Fields09 member
    If your new spouses family wants to throw it, I believe that would be fine. But if it's just gonna be YOUR family attending, just like your previous shower, I believe it's kinda tacky, especially since it's your second child. But that's just me. I'm weird like that.
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  • samjen2010samjen2010 member
    I don't think a new SO figures into the equation but that's just me. 
                               
                  
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  • navyfiance18navyfiance18 member
    My husband had been with my son and I since he was 1 1/2, now he is 5 and I'm planning on having a shower even though he's raised my child as his own this is his first newborn experience plus I sold all of my sons stuff thinking I wouldn't have anymore kids a long time ago.
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  • Sisimama10Sisimama10 member
    edited October 2013
    Yeah that's pretty much how I was feeling about it all. I'm not having another shower either way, but my SIL was saying I should have one because it's my SOs first baby. But he doesn't want one either haha. I was just curious if other people had heard that line of thinking. :)
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  • NicoleAnne416NicoleAnne416 member
    I would find it a bit weird. I guess it depends how long since the first kid, just as anyone else. You should still have your stuff anyway even if a new spouse. My youngest will be 6 when this one is born and I still don't want a shower!

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  • ZebNMichelleZebNMichelle member
    What's the etiquette when your kids are 10 years apart?
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  • RebeccaY1RebeccaY1 member
    I don't think that it matters who your significant other is.  Showers don't tend to be for men anyway. If his family was throwing it then it would be okay, especially if this is his first baby and they want to celebrate.
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  • mskitty1985mskitty1985 member
    This is my third baby... I only had a shower with my first. My friend is having her 6th baby and having a shower.idk but she should already have plenty baby stuff with all those damn kids lol
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  • seannasmommy16seannasmommy16 member
    Well this is DH first child so his family is over the moon trying to plan us a baby shower. I'm not the kinda girl to say no to free stuff and I want DH to have the same things as I did with my first pregnancy. I don't know if this is proper etiquette... But DH wants one and so does his family and what girl doesn't love free stuff :)
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  • AndrewsgalAndrewsgal member
    ZebNMichelle said:
    What's the etiquette when your kids are 10 years apart?

    my kids are seven years apart and I say tacky!
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  • melissashoganmelissashogan member
    My MIL begged me to allow her to throw me one. My DD is 8yrs old and this is DH's first he was previously married and tried for many years to have a baby only to find his ex was lying and on birth control. I was really against it at first but both my SIL's kept telling me how important it was to his mom so I gave in. As a comprimise it will be my immediate family, and his family that his mother chooses to invite. I also will not be registering because I do not want to seem like I am trying to get gifts. We have a lot of hand me downs from our recent nieces and nephews so only need a few things which we could easily obtain ourselves.

     

     

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  • ohbaby4ohbaby4 member
    ZebNMichelle said:

    What's the etiquette when your kids are 10 years apart?

    I think in that situation a "sprinkle" is appropriate if someone wants to throw you one. I have been to a few sprinkles and the point was just to celebrate the new baby with the mom's closest friends and family and to help her with some baby essentials that she probably got rid of or were outdated because of the age gap. I thought it was nice to be able to do that. As long as you don't make a big registry and a big deal of it, I think a sprinkle is appropriate.

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