I am having a rough morning

peanutmuse · October 2013

My mother and I got into a fight on the phone last night and I am having a difficult time recovering from it. I just need to let that out into the universe. She is the type of person who will never apologize. I have apologized for my part in the argument, but she hasn't reciprocated, or even reached out to contact me. We don't usually go this long without communication.

I have flipped a switch in the emotions department, for sure. I haven't had mood swings or felt particularly hormonal or emotional until the past few days. I think that's why it's affecting me so much. My rational mind tells me that's the reason, but I can't seem to get my emotions to catch up. I have cried 3 times today.

That's all. Thank you for taking the time to read this.

km_md · October 2013

((hugs)) My mom and I are really close and it always really bothers be if we have some kind of disagreement or fight, so I understand why you feel the way that you do. I am sure that the pregnancy hormones aren't making it any easier on you, despite what your logical self knows. I hope that your emotions give you a break and you are feeling better soon!

Deblondie1 · October 2013

I'm sorry :hugs:

moosebaby2011 · October 2013

I'm sorry.

ChuggingWater · October 2013

I'm sorry, lady. I think emotions are really ramping up the past week or two (or at least I am experiencing the same thing). Fights with loved ones are hard.

DS has made me cry almost every evening for the past week because of food/dinnertime issues. It sucks, and I'm not dealing well with recovering from it either.

peanutmuse · October 2013

ChuggingWater said:

I'm sorry, lady. I think emotions are really ramping up the past week or two (or at least I am experiencing the same thing). Fights with loved ones are hard.

DS has made me cry almost every evening for the past week because of food/dinnertime issues. It sucks, and I'm not dealing well with recovering from it either.

@ChuggingWater, I feel like I'm going crazy today. I can't seem to snap out of it.

alinafed · October 2013

Sorry to hear this. Fighting with my mom always gets to me and puts me in a horrible mood too, she is not an easy person to fight with. Try to remember it's probably not as big a fight as it seems in your mind right now with all the hormones.

ChuggingWater · October 2013

peanutmuse said:

ChuggingWater said:

I'm sorry, lady. I think emotions are really ramping up the past week or two (or at least I am experiencing the same thing). Fights with loved ones are hard.

DS has made me cry almost every evening for the past week because of food/dinnertime issues. It sucks, and I'm not dealing well with recovering from it either.

@ChuggingWater, I feel like I'm going crazy today. I can't seem to snap out of it.

Exactly, @PeanutMuse . I just keep ruminating on it, and am already dreading dinner tonight. This shouldn't affect and ruin my entire day. I just want to cry.

Let's cry together, Mmmmkay. I'll bring the coffee, you bring the creamer.

juliasmama2010 · October 2013

My DH is like your Mom, will never apologize for being wrong/arguing. I feel your pain. I hope she reaches out to you soon to put your mind at ease. Would it help if you called her?

sugarland726 · October 2013

Big hugs and a kick in the ass to your mom for not apologizing.

dland0201 · October 2013

I'm sorry.

cpm1223 · October 2013

I'm sorry peanut! I hope you can talk with her soon and work things out.

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cowscrub · October 2013

Hugs!

peanutmuse · October 2013

Thanks, everyone. You ladies are the best. It's good to know that I'm not alone.

fredtheredhead2 · October 2013

I'm sorry peanut

I hope she reaches out to you soon. I understand about the up-and-down emotions, poor DH gets the brunt of it from me.

KristaBelieve · October 2013

I'm sorry.

gina0485 · October 2013

I totally understand and I am sorry you are having a rough morning. We've all had those days where we know we shouldn't feel as sensitive or upset as we actually do, or we know why we are so upset but feel the inability to control the reaction. It sucks. I hope your morning perks up.

Shannahbee · October 2013

I feel you on the emotions thing... Up until this past weekend, I was feeling like my normal pre-pregnancy self (relatively speaking)... Then yesterday I was just in a funk and wasn't feeling the best physically (I was exhausted and had a headache). My husband kept asking me what was wrong all day, and I finally just burst into tears and ugly-cried about nothing. I think DH was really freaked out! And there really was nothing wrong... Hormones are strange. At least you have a reason to be in a funk! I hope you can get some sort of resolution and start feeling better.

kiki1978 · October 2013

I'm so sorry you are going through this. ((hugs))

HappyDoc · October 2013

I hope that your day gets better. Don't beat yourself up about not bouncing back from this as quickly as you typically would. I don't know about you, but I have felt extra vulnerable during the past month, which is hard for me to adjust to, as I typically don't allow myself to be vulnerable.

daltosostarby · October 2013

((hugs)) I'm so sorry you are going through that! I hope that she apologizes and you all work things out soon. It's rough not having that person to talk to. My family and I have a rough relationship because of that same thing. I really hope it gets better soon!

LindsB314 · October 2013

That sucks! I am the same way with my mom and it really affects me, especially when pregnant. You are definitely not alone. Treat yourself to something indulgent ;-) doesn't have to be food....anything that makes you smile!

aessary03 · October 2013

I'm so sorry. *hugs*
Hope your day gets better.

FSUNole31 · October 2013

I am sorry. Having out of whack emotions is difficult enough without having to deal with fighting with family. I almost cried yesterday because DS was bit by another child at Daycare. I can sympathize with up and down hormones for sure. Hopefully you will feel better by this evening!

nicnique · October 2013

Hugs! I'm sorry, Peanut. I hate fighting with my mom too. My emotions have definitely been in overdrive as well. I feel like I am always crying.

Dishylo · October 2013

I'm sorry you and your Mama got into an argument. Well done for apologizing though, it's not always easy. Maybe your Mom just needs a little more time before she comes around.

Have you fought before and if so, is she the type that will apologize if she feels she's in the wrong?

MiaMyPuggle · October 2013

You were the bigger person and apologized. Your mom seems to be a bit righteous and prob got thru life being like that and it makes her feel better always "winning" arguments. (I know people in my own life like this...). Since she's gotten away with being like this, unfortunately, she won't back down and apologize for her part. People will prob have to bow out of the argument and concede.
It's hard when its your mom. I may be way off with this, but I've dealt with similiar things and people that are normally argumentative always feel like they are right and will never admit their wrongdoings, leaving it up to everyone else to apologize and bite their tongues.

AprlShwrs18 · October 2013

I'm sorry about the fight - that can be so tough with family, especially someone who won't apologize (my sister is the same way).

I completely understand about having trouble letting it go - I've had a situation occur in my classroom with my 8th grade girl. I handled the situation and its past now, but I keep mulling it over and over - like I just can't get past it. It makes it rough.

I hope you get some relief from it today.

Winnieella · October 2013

Sorry Peanut. Hugs

jessicat2283 · October 2013

My mom & I have been on each other's nerves a lot lately too

sorry. Hopefully it gets better for everyone

vstevens · October 2013

Sorry, Peanut - I know how crappy that feels. This too shall pass, and I hope sooner rather than later for your sake

Jackapatamus · October 2013

This was me Friday. My mom and I got into a bit of an argument, and she left while I was in the bathroom (crying). I called her the next morning, she doesn't apologize either, so I just moved on. Friday I couldn't get my shit together (emotionally) and I had a good cry. I felt tons better by Saturday! Sometimes you just need a day to release! Hugs!

SunflowersBride · October 2013

I'm sorry you are dealing with this Peanut! Hope you can get everything straightened out, I know how emotions can get the best of you, particularly while pregnant!

peanutmuse · October 2013

Thanks again, ladies. It's nice to have so much support, even for just a run of the mill bad day. Fighting with people you care about sucks.

I have e-mailed her, but I haven't called today because she is working. I leave for the studio in a few minutes and won't be home until after 10pm tonight. I have a feeling this will drag out at least another day unless she e-mails me back. Ugh, I just hope I can pull myself together.

Arrgcr · October 2013

I hope things get back on track with you and your mom. I also hope it doesn't bring for a stressful evening in the dance studio with it weighing heavily on your mind.

I hate fighting with my mom too but luckily she is the type that will say sorry.

I really hope if it isn't resolved tonight, you wake up to a beautiful bouquet of 'I'm sorry' flowers from her.

peanutmuse · October 2013

Arrgcr said:

I really hope if it isn't resolved tonight, you wake up to a beautiful bouquet of 'I'm sorry' flowers from her.

Not a chance in hell, haha. I'd say it's about 50/50 that she'll even answer the e-mail.

bluegreeneyes11 · October 2013

Lots of hugs!

LadyJ2949 · October 2013

I'm sorry to hear this, Peanut. I agree with the others; you apologized and the fact that it's bothering you this much shows just how much you care. It is an emotional time and the last thing you want/need is to fight with anyone close to you. Hell, I've broke down crying three times today (and I'm not one to do that) and that's without fighting with a loved one. Sending you lots of positive vibes and hope all is better tomorrow!