Does your SO still drink or enjoy things you no longer can?

Serenla · September 2013

Nope DH still drinks, he shows me support in other ways with foot rubs and rubbing my back when I am sitting near the toilet trying not to puke lol ect... Back to the original topic normally when we go out I am the one who drinks more so he is taking advantage of the designated driver that I have to be for a while

Calla123 · September 2013

No way - I wouldn't want him to and would think it was silly if he did. He enjoys a good beer. We don't go out for sushi or anything and when we go out we go to a place we both want...if he wanted sushi or something at that place I wouldn't mind. I think he is just happy to have a DD on date night now :-)

IndyPRGirl · September 2013

I would never even think to ask him or expect him to give anything up lol. We were in the Virgin Islands last week and all of our two for one drinks, he drank. We shared sushi, I had a deli sandwich (oh the travesty), had coffee, tried his mojito and his pain killer, etc. Granted, I wouldn't eat supermarket sushi, wouldn't eat a gas station deli sandwich, wouldn't drink so cups of coffee per day and definitely wouldn't ever have more than a taste of his alcoholic drinks, but after two babies I'm firmly in the "everything in moderation" and "make good choices" camps.
I'm pregnant, not him.

KelleAlward · September 2013

My hubby drinks less, now that we're not drinking together.

TheatreStar86 · September 2013

OP - I think it's really great that YH has given up what you can't have. I think it's very sweet. If my H did that of his own accord, I would certainly be flattered. Those people that are giving him a hard time about supporting his pregnant wife kinda sound like jerks. Why is it any of their business?

MH hasn't given up drinking (that's the only thing that I would normally join in on - we're vegetarian and I haven't given up caffeine), and he hasn't given up going out with people. I get tired and leave early, go home, and sleep. It makes me less cranky and him less cranky. That said, I'm getting to my limit for the drinking - I don't think getting drunk is necessary and that is starting to bug me.

McRogol · September 2013

Nope! But I totally relate to a PP about having a drink together after work and catch up about our days. HH is no fun when its just for 1. He's definitely cut back on drinking, but mostly because I think drinking alone kinda stinks.

Tferr02 · September 2013

My dh stopped drinking when I was pregnant with our son, and he never started again so that's a non issue this time. He does drink caffeine but only at work, he doesn't keep any in the house (including chocolate) when I'm pregnant. And I'm thankful for that..cuz I really would love a coke!

Luckie519 · September 2013

Not really. When I first got my BFP, DH said something about giving up one of the things I would not be able to have while pregnant. Some things he considered - sushi, alcohol and cigars. I don't drink too much, but I love my wine with dinner. Also, he is the big cigar person. Once in awhile, I will have a cigar.

tarynh75 · September 2013

I would never ask him to do that!! Plus it means I can have a tiny sip of a wine now and then- just for the taste of course. He has been very busy waiting on me hand and foot and carrying the Zofran.

J&NL · September 2013

We used to have a beer or two almost every night before bed. Now he only drinks on the weekends because he knows how much I miss beer lol. We aren't alcoholics, we just enjoy it. Other than that he hasn't really changed anything but then again, despite alcohol and a few things neither have I.

twinklemoon · September 2013

He didn't give up anything. As long as I feel his sympathy, it's good enough to know he cares.

lyndsey774 · September 2013

My DH gave up alcohol the first time (all his idea) and I asked him not to this time...its weird, but I don't want to be the reason he cant enjoy a cold beer.

lyndsey774 · September 2013

I guess I should clarify, I asked him not to give it up. I think my last post was a little confusing...

loveyoga7 · September 2013

That is so sweet of your SO. My DH had the awesome idea of inviting our friends over this past Friday and decided to go winetasting. Guess who was the designated driver??? We only went to two wineries but it was complete torture watching everyone enjoy the new releases at my favorite wineries. I don't think I will give in to DH again. It was his friends birthday so I didn't want to be a drag, but I felt like the odd one out the whole time and it also made me very irritable. I miss wine.

KendraL86 · September 2013

loveyoga7 said:
That is so sweet of your SO. My DH had the awesome idea of inviting our friends over this past Friday and decided to go winetasting. Guess who was the designated driver??? We only went to two wineries but it was complete torture watching everyone enjoy the new releases at my favorite wineries. I don't think I will give in to DH again. It was his friends birthday so I didn't want to be a drag, but I felt like the odd one out the whole time and it also made me very irritable. I miss wine.

It's pretty miserable to be the only sober one in a group full of people having a fun time! Tipsy people can be annoying when you're not partaking. I too miss wine, too! I miss happy hour. I miss wine tours. I miss that post-super stressful day glass (or three) of wine in a hot hot hot bath!!

katiedidthat · September 2013

Nope, he still eats and drinks the same as he did before. Honestly, if he had given up every restriction I had during pregnancy and nursing- he wouldn't have ever gotten to go back to a normal diet since I'm still BF DS. I agree with some of the other ladies, I think its a little odd, but to each her own. My DH supports me without needing to go through the exact same things I'm going through. I also let him sleep through BF sessions at night and most of the night wakings in general. No sense in all the adults in our household being miserable.

NicoleAnne416 · September 2013

My DH didn't drink much anyway unless I already was and he would have a beer with me. So I don't see him drinking at all, his own choice, which is nice for me because I would love a beer or some wine! or five! He didn't cut back on coffee, etc. and I don't mind any of that.

MyNameWasTaken · September 2013

No. I also think it's kind of odd. Sweet, but odd. I mean, to each his own, I suppose, and I understand that he did it completely on his own, but I don't see the point.

VABride2008 · September 2013

My husband has not given up anything, but he is usually nice enough to get sushi when I'm not around. my husband would never live that sort of thing down with our friends.

spano41 · September 2013

My DH probably drinks more than before since he has a built in DD!

Andrewsgal · September 2013

No and I don't think it is sweet I think it is odd. My DH supports me in more meaningful ways, like taking care of our kids when I feel horrible, and doing all the cooking and cleaning.

jsoubel · September 2013

No, he hasn't given anything up. It only bothers me when he wants to go to a brew pub two nights in a row or if he's going to have more than a couple. Being the sober one when everyone is getting blitzed is not my idea of fun.

speechie517 · September 2013

I would never consider asking DH to stop drinking. We have always enjoyed trying different wines and beers and our social life has revolved around going out for drinks/ dinner. Last week he asked if I'm going to savor a sip or two of wine or beer later on in pregnancy and I hadn't thought about it, but I may if the mood strikes. With respect to avoiding other things, I'm not a deli meat person, and that is the only thing my MW told me to avoid. He LOVES Jimmy Johns, but typically has it at work for lunch. I love sushi, but can always find a cooked roll to enjoy. We both enjoy our coffee in the AM, but I drink a lot less than usual.

sugarrush · September 2013

My darling SO has not given up anything nor changed his lifestyle. He still meets friends/brothers for drinks all the time and has even planned a bar crawl for this Saturday, in which I refuse to go. It has pissed me off to no end, but im slowly getting over it. I told him he better do this shit now because once April comes, he's done. (im still a little bitter, can you tell?)

Leticiasmugala · September 2013

That's sweet! My DH asks if I mind if he eats or drinks something I can't. I always tell him that I don't mind. But I appreciate him asking. Makes a girl feel special!

nikki912 · September 2013

I think it's nice if a partner chooses to abstain but I definitely wouldn't want my husband to. He's my "drink carrier" for when I want to take sips and avoid the eyes of judgey judgersons. Plus we both shouldn't have to suffer- kissing him after he has bourbon is almost like I've had some myself!

RebeccaY1 · September 2013

My husband gave up everything that I gave up once we started trying. We're not big drinkers anyway so if I don't buy any alcohol then there isn't any in the house.

luvU2theMoon · September 2013

My boyfriend still drinks but he has never been big on going out and partying. i was the party anima. he will still go to the bar ever once in a while but not often. i dont really mind at all, i figure he might as well enjoy it for the both of us.

katiedidthat · September 2013

I brought this up to my DH last night and he asked if these guys also refrain from aspirin, ibuprofen, cough syrup, etc. I told him he had a point since honestly- what I miss most is my Excedrin migraine, haha.

MrsSmith0312 · September 2013

No way! In fact, he's probably drinking more (when he does drink) because he knows he has a sober driver now. He use to ALWAYS have to be the sober driver haha I don't mind though, because he never gets drunk - hates the feeling.

LolaX2 · September 2013

Nope. If I really wanted him to and asked he wouldn't but I really do not see the point. i give these thing up for the health of the baby...him drinking/eating things that I can't doesn't hurt our baby.

snowclouds · September 2013

You know what I think that this is really cute and it really helps when you're at that holiday party and everyone around you is drinking. DH has cut his drinking back, but he won't give it up for 9 mths.

acrookston · September 2013

Nope, not at all. The only thing I told him he can't have is champagne. Before getting pregnant, we used to pop bubbly often. It's something special we do just for the two of us. He hates wine and I don't love drinking beer all the time so champagne is our happy medium

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