Does your SO still drink or enjoy things you no longer can?

KendraL86 · September 2013

My DH stopped drinking when I did (a few days before expected ovulation). His philosophy is that if I cannot partake in something, that he shouldn't either. He isn't enjoying any of the traditional pregnancy no no's (including his favorite - sushi). He's getting a ton of shit about it from his friends, family, and employees. I really appreciate his gesture and it makes me feel like he cares about what I'm going through and giving up to give our baby an optimal start. Edit: just to be clear, he voluntarily gave up all these things. It wasn't my suggestion. It was all his idea.

So, have the partners of the April 2014 mammas given up their vices to be supportive? If so, do you like it? If not, do you wish they would or do you not care either way?

Teresa1896 · September 2013

Ha! No. No reason for us both to be miserable.

ksulli · September 2013

He hasn't given anything up. I don't mind, but really his only thing would be the drinking, and I'll steal a sip if it's something that I really want.

zoopsiedaisy · September 2013

I know someone who made her DH stop everything she had to and I thought that was crazy. But if yours is doing it as an act of solidarity I say more power to him!! That's awesome and really sweet. Mine is not but I'm fine with that. I wish he would stop dipping and would go to the damn doctor!! That would make me feel happy and supported.

RocksInTheWater · September 2013

No way. DH would never give up his beer but he is supportive in other ways.

KendraL86 · September 2013

Heidiman said:
I know someone who made her DH stop everything she had to and I thought that was crazy. But if yours is doing it as an act of solidarity I say more power to him!! That's awesome and really sweet. Mine is not but I'm fine with that. I wish he would stop dipping and would go to the damn doctor!! That would make me feel happy and supported.

I don't know why men are so hesitant to go to the doctor! I've begged my DH to go for his snoring! I've only noticed it now that I'm up all night! It can't be healthy!

NBA0703 · September 2013

Nope he hasn't given up a thing! It doesn't really bother me.. I just get a little bored now when our friends come over and wana drink all night!~

snmetz7 · September 2013

Only thing he has given up is smoking. That was the deal when we got married. He would give it up for good when I got pregnant. Other than that I don't mind that he has things I can't.

Laroo0220 · September 2013

Wow that's crazy nice! My husband has cut way back on drinking and I actually urge him to have a drink all the time. If I could I would! No reason he has to quit completely, but he usually won't listen. I do appreciate it but it's totally not necessary.

Linnea503 · September 2013

Nope! He is picking up a lot of slack since I'm not feeling well so he can have his beer and wine.

zoopsiedaisy · September 2013

KendraL86 said:

Heidiman said:
I know someone who made her DH stop everything she had to and I thought that was crazy. But if yours is doing it as an act of solidarity I say more power to him!! That's awesome and really sweet. Mine is not but I'm fine with that. I wish he would stop dipping and would go to the damn doctor!! That would make me feel happy and supported.
I don't know why men are so hesitant to go to the doctor! I've begged my DH to go for his snoring! I've only noticed it now that I'm up all night! It can't be healthy!

Right?!?!? We've been together 5 years and he has gone twice for sports related injuries. That's all!!!! He won't even take his BP at Walgreens because he's scared something is wrong. Drives me CRAZY!!

pineconey · September 2013

Nope- I just ask that he not overindulge and that he drinks the alcohol we already have in the house instead of buying more, but that's purely for financial reasons.

Nijay714 · September 2013

NBA0703 said:
Nope he hasn't given up a thing! It doesn't really bother me.. I just get a little bored now when our friends come over and wana drink all night!~

This is so me! We were just hanging out at a friends house and they were all drinking and I just fell asleep.. He hasn't given up anything and I don't mind at all.. OP your DH is sweet and it's really nice that he's being supportive in that way to kind of experience the pregnancy with you

BiggerinRealLife · September 2013

I'm with you OP. My honey gave everything up too, though for us that's more just drinking. I told him to still have coffee though; I can still have it, after all, just decaf. He's had a bit of celebratory champagne when we've told people, but that's it. I appreciate it, makes me feel loved.

Tantan2779 · September 2013

The only issue would be alcohol..He is drinking much less often, but if we're with friends he does drink, & it doesn't bother me.

jolieemma · September 2013

Awww OP your hubby's so sweet! I love that it was completely of his own accord. My DH hasn't given anything up and I don't expect him to. I'm allergic to gluten and hubby's not, so I'm pretty used to him eating things I can't anyway. Not at home of course, but when we go out he knows he's completely free to order whatever he wants, doesn't bother me at all, and it's no different with my pregnancy restrictions. Now...if he dipped into my beloved whiskey without me being able to join in, we might have to chat

Avion22 · September 2013

No, he hasn't given up anything. I think he is drinking a little bit less, but he still has the occasional beer with dinner or glass of whisky on the weekend. I kind of feel like at least one of us should still be able to drink, but I think he doesn't like being the only one having something, so if it's just the two of us he will usually skip it.

KendraL86 · September 2013

LalaMama81 said:
No. I actually think its kind of odd. I mean, I know he did it on his own accord, but I guess I don't see the point. Is he going up follow any restrictions you have while nursing? What if you have gd?

I think it's that he wants to be supportive of my experience and feel like he is a part of it. He just doesn't want to miss out on anything.

And yeah, I think he would follow any restrictions I had while nursing or if I end up with GD (which is very possible bc I had pancreatic cancer in 2008 and now only have half a pancreas, which sadly can't take too much stress). It isn't that I would expect him to, but it's just how he is. For him, it's how he shows that he loves me and cares about me.

bingbongsmama · September 2013

My DH doesn't drink anyway but he's eating deli meat and things I can't eat. There's no reason for him to stop, it's not like I'll lose control and have to have it because its in the house. I went low carb a few years ago and continued cooking carbs for DH. Doesn't bother me

bingbongsmama · September 2013

KendraL86 said:

LalaMama81 said:
No. I actually think its kind of odd. I mean, I know he did it on his own accord, but I guess I don't see the point. Is he going up follow any restrictions you have while nursing? What if you have gd?
I think it's that he wants to be supportive of my experience and feel like he is a part of it. He just doesn't want to miss out on anything.

And yeah, I think he would follow any restrictions I had while nursing or I end up with GD (which is very possible bc I had pancreatic cancer in 2008 and now only have half a pancreas, which sadly can't take too much stress). It isn't that I would expext him to, but it's just how he is. For him, it's how he shows that he loves me and cares about me.

Sorry about the cancer. Your DH sounds like a very supportive man

Mandyw75 · September 2013

No he still drinks and smokes. But he won't drink red wine in front of me. And last night he wanted oysters at dinner and I said please don't. I do get jealous sometimes and I just try to remember it's not forever. I think its hard because we used to sit outside together after work and have a drink or two and talk about our day. I've just started being able to do that again and I drink gingerale. I feel we lost touch for a little bit and plus I hated everyone but my DS the last 2 months. But I could never ask him to be miserable too. Or I might as well ask all my friends and family as well. I think its funny that you stop drinking so no more hangovers just to feel like you're in a constant 1st trimester hangover. There is no winning

katieharpiceland · September 2013

I was never a big drinker to begin with, so, I'm used to him drinking when I'm not. :-)

LEIGHLOVE09 · September 2013

No...the only think I ask is he not drink too much and get drunk close to delivery

hordol · September 2013

That's very sweet of your hubby! Mine hasn't given anything up and that's fine with me. Like someone said above, no need for us both to be miserable.

plus I like to smell his beers.

Sisimama10 · September 2013

That is so sweet! My SO already doesn't drink and hates caffeine so every once in a while we have some fancy coffee drink together, but otherwise he's not drinking or having caffeine with me. He also doesn't eat sushi. He's still eating lunch meat and hot dogs... I could care less. I'm still eating lunch meat too, but don't even want to look at a hotdog. So, yeah pretty much he is following along with my cans and cants.

jenskurn · September 2013

DH definitely cuts down on drinking when I'm pg, but its more bc we don't go out so he's not really put in the situations where we used to drink. He still will have a couple of beers at dinner, etc. Every once in a while if a big drinking event comes up he will partake and I usually just leave early. I get too jealous to stay.

boxerbabylove · September 2013

My husband and I discussed giving up things when I got pregnant. I thought it was nice of him to offer to "suffer" with me but one of us has to drink the beer taking up residence in the fridge and it isn't going to be me. My husband and I like different kinds of beer so he's "had to" drink beer he doesn't really enjoy instead of spending money on beer he likes. That is until my beer is gone then he can buy beer he likes.
He has made an effort not to eat sushi in front of me. I really miss sushi.

patunia7321 · September 2013

That's a nice show of solidarity! DH has been working on quitting smoking, which is more related to us having a child than just me being pregnant. I am more likely to be the one have a few glasses of wine or go out with girlfriends for happy hour/dinner and drinks. DH typically drinks less often than I do, so maybe that's why him giving it up wouldn't even cross my mind. I think he had one or two at a wedding we were at last weekend and will probably have quite a few at my cousin's wedding next weekend (our fam is ALWAYS ready for a party). I haven't really given up anything else so it hasn't been much of an issue for us.

Lindsay808 · September 2013

Aw that's sweet. I don't think I would want my DH to give up drinking! Like another poster said, it's a good way to cope with my crazy ass. Plus, it's football season! However, he definitely doesn't drink as much now that I'm not drinking with him.

AcaAwkward · September 2013

Nope - wouldn't expect him to and he is supportive in other ways! But that is sweet your husband did that of his own accord.

Honestly, the only thing he partakes in that I REALLY want is diet coke. I would do illegal things to have a huge fountain diet coke every day. Everything is else is kind of a nonissue - I still drink coffee, eat high quality deli meat, I don't like sushi (he loves it), and if the mood strikes me in 2nd/3rd Tri, I'm okay with having a small glass of wine.

smashton14th · September 2013

My DH will not be giving things up. Which i do not mind. I am allergic to dairy so i usually have a different diet than him anyways. It is only for a few months of my life.

PaddysGirl8 · September 2013

I don't have any major food no nos, if I did I wouldn't expect him to stop eating them. That's just silly IMO. And no, he hasn't stopped drinking either, it doesn't both me to see him with a drink in had. It annoys me when he drinks too much and gets drunk, it's not fun being around drunk people when you have to be sober. My close friends is pregnant and out husbands hang out all the time so they amuse each other and we just roll our eyes.

cd92007 · September 2013

DH still drinks, but I have noticed he doesn't do it as much. I never have said anything to him about not drinking as much, but now that I think about it, he usually stops after 2-3 drinks and never gets really buzzed/drunk. Maybe he would feel weird being drunk when I am stone cold sober.. I know if the roles were reversed I would feel the same!

deidremaria · September 2013

Nah. I think we'd murder eachother if he couldn't enjoy the things we normally do. His birthday was last week and I got him a bottle of grand marnier.

beautifulstr13 · September 2013

We aren't huge drinkers but he does still have the occasional glass of whiskey before bed. Doesn't bug me at all.

hlm184 · September 2013

Nope. But I don't give up booze while he's deployed and not allowed to drink either.

snmetz7 · September 2013

For all you ladies saying you miss sushi... You can still have it! Just get ones that are cooked through. Anything with shrimp or crab is cooked there are a couple others. Sure they are not as good as an awesome rainbow roll but it does satisfy my craving.

joules40 · September 2013

How could I deny my husband the awesome pleasure of pumpkin beer?!?! I'm just glad someone gets to enjoy it this season!

janice9821 · September 2013

DH gave up alcohol for the first month or so. He will drink now in moderation, but he avoids getting too tipsy and obnoxious around me. Which is probably in his best interests, anyway.

Sarahjess06 · September 2013

No, it's football season! Ha! That's the one thing he does for him, come home from work and have a few beers while football is on! I wish I could join but that's okay!

Serenla · September 2013

snmetz7 said:

For all you ladies saying you miss sushi... You can still have it! Just get ones that are cooked through. Anything with shrimp or crab is cooked there are a couple others. Sure they are not as good as an awesome rainbow roll but it does satisfy my craving.

Lol all I want is spicy tuna roll. Unagi is one of my favorites, but I miss my salmon and tuna. I probably will be less restrictive later on in the pregnancy but for right now no maki for me

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