Mixed race babies

MamaHanna · September 2013

Hey ldies! From reading the FFFC I saw that a few mama's will be having kids that are mixed. Just currious what kind of mixes we have going on in December 2013. I am currious how this will go because my husbands culture is very "clicky" and there are no mixed kids in his family so I don't want her to feel left out by half of her culture or feel like she needs to be "more white" to fit into the area where we live now where 95% of the students are white and I have yet to see an Arab person besides my husband in our neighborhood. Our backgrounds are:

I am:

75% Irish, 25%German

DH is:

75% Iraqi and 25% Lebanese

My SIL has taken to calling her "Irab" (Irish+Arab). Any mom's have experence with this and have any advice?

tyedyeme12 · September 2013

DH is half Hispanic-but is very dark. I'm white. I'm super excited about our mixed race baby.

RMR13 · September 2013

I am a mix of white and DH is half white half mexican. We live in a small town (600 people) that is probably about 50/50 white and Mexican. My husband was raised Mexican and so most people don't realize he is mixed, our daughter is obviously only 1/4 Mexican but she is very fair has light blonde hair and blue eyes. She definitely fits better with the white kids and is often ignored or teased at Mexican events. I still haven't found the exact right way to handle it as I am considered an outsider as well. My best advice is to be aware, I turn into hover mom at certain things because I know things are going to be odd. Other times everything goes great, just depends on the kids and what they have been taught is ok. For the most part it's not a big deal though so I wouldn't stress unless it becomes a problem.

Marchmellow2 · September 2013

DH: 50% black 25% Spanish 25% white

Me: 50% Israeli (Egyptian decent) 50% Norwegian (blonde/blue)

We are all gonna have some cute babies!!

AGriffin620 · September 2013

I am 75% English, 25% Irish. DH is 50% Indian, 50% Irish. DH is fairly light, but his dad and one of his brothers are very dark. I'm hoping for a brown baby with blue eyes!!

lilypienmessimy · September 2013

I am 100% Croatian our skin is olive/white. My DH is 50% Hispanic and the rest of him is a mix of German and Irish. He looks more Hispanic than anything else and has hazel eyes with black hair. I have light brown/blonde hair with dark brown eyes. I have no clue what our baby will look like, hopefully cute!

mcraig107 · September 2013

DH: 50% Scottish mix 50% Hispanic/ Native American but he looks caucasian with light brown eyes and dark hair.

Me: 100% Polish or so says my mother but I think my dad's side has Polish and something else in there. They are olive skin toned.

bishesbcrazy · September 2013

I'm 100% black and DH is 100% white...LOL...I do believe DH is mostly English although our last name indicates some German and I know he has some Native American in him, so yeah, he's that...LOL

With DD we haven't brought up race yet and we won't until she asks about it. Every once and a while, I'll try to see if she's aware of it yet by asking what color is Mommy/Daddy and she'll just say whatever color shirt we have on. So I'm happy she's not conscious about it yet.

Eventually DD will start to ask questions, we just have to be prepared to answer them honestly and truthfully. DD will be around DH's family a lot more than mine (they live 8 hours away). So DH and I just have to make sure my culture and heritage doesn't get lost.

Kind of like this thread...'I'm XX% this and XX% that". You know your heritage and you may identify with one more than the other, but you still acknowledge and claim that other percentage of yourself. It's going to be the same for your child. Just don't ignore either side and I think you'll do okay.

I hope this made sense. I think I was just rambling...LOL

MamaHanna · September 2013

Cashingn2 said:

I am 75% German, 25% Irish. Donor is black. Since ours was a donor situation and she won't know her biological family, I'm still unsure as to how to handle everything.

Hey we are opposites! LOL.

So just out of curriosity what made you pick a donor of a diffrent race than your DH? Besides the obvious that mixed race babies are the cutest!

I think my biggest worry about having a mixed baby is that her dads side took years to open up to me because I am white so I don't know what will happen when she comes into contact with other Arab kids because she will have a very common Arab last name so they will be able to pick her out in a second regardless of how she comes out.

cammyisagirlsname · September 2013

I am a German, non practicing Jew! My dad is 100% German and my mother is Russian and Israeli.

My husband's father is black West Indian & his mother is 100% Italian.

So little Brom will be German, Israeli, Russian, West Indian & Italian

bishesbcrazy · September 2013

Cashingn2 said:

@jess'c'squared, I've said it a million times but I think your daughter is the cutest ever lol.

Awwww...thank you. $:\$ ">

adawn1981 · September 2013

I am 50% German and 50% Norweigan and H is 100% Italian, so our baby will be pretty white.

My ex, however, was West African, Dutch, French and Morrocan. I was always curious to see what our babies would look like... but he was an ass so I broke up with him

And my (half)sister is German and her mom (who was adopted) is some sort of unknown mix of black and white and my sister is the most beautiful girl - olive skin with blonde hair and blue eyes.

I cannot wait to see your beautiful babies!

mavgirl_73 · September 2013

I'm 75% Spanish/Mexican 25% German. DH is Irish and a wee bit German. One of our DDs is "typically" Irish looking with blonde soft curls and Crystal blue eyes. One DD has dark brown hair, tan skin and Crystal blue eyes. PP said her daughter who has some Hispanic is often left out at Mexican events due to not looking like other kids, that was me. As an adult though it's gotten better. I especially love when I go to te Mexican supermarkets and rattle off my order at the carnaceria or bakery in Spanish and I see the jaws drop. I speak to both our girls in Spanish too. So my little blonde speaks better Spanish than most kids

rach10782 · September 2013

I am caucasian and my husband is Korean. You can see what our first looks like in my pic below....he has my ears and the shape of my face but his eyes, nose and mouth is 100% my husband.

TheSloppySwish · September 2013

M&H2011 said:

I'm 1/2 Korean and 1/2 German/English mix. My husband is 1/2 Italian and 1/2 German/English mix as well. Both of our mothers have the dominant phenotypes and our fathers are both recessive. I'm incredibly curious to what our little girl will look like. She could be anything from blonde haired with light eyes to dark hair and eyes or anything in between. I'm a little worried that if we have a child with recessive traits no one will think I'm her mother.

This happened with my daughter! My husband is Irish decent; blonde, blue-eyed and very fair. I have dark hair, dark eyes and olive skin (no one's sure about my mom's side, they're Cajun/Creole descent with possibly some black or hispanic).

I just assumed the dark would be dominant over the light, but DD came out with white-blonde hair, blue eyes and about five shades lighter than me. I couldn't believe she looked nothing like me.

mamashan12 · September 2013

@mamahanna, I'll be having an Irab as well (although I suppose DH already is one)! DH is half Lebanese and half Irish. I'm mostly Cape Verdean and Portuguese. We're all kind of dyeing to see what mix of skin/eye color this kid comes out with!

Lyzza350 · September 2013

Marchmellow2 said:
DH: 50% black 25% Spanish 25% white

Me: 50% Israeli (Egyptian decent) 50% Norwegian (blonde/blue)

We are all gonna have some cute babies!!

Wow! Love this mix. I feel like your baby is going to be incredibly beautiful!

RI8340361 · September 2013

I just hope our LO had DH's curly hair. You can't see it in my sig pic because he cut it short, but he has the prettiest big curls. I have a feeling LO will look more like me though, from what little we saw during the 3D part of the a/s. I'm reluctant to agree to DH's list of Slavic names for a baby I think might look more Mexican (I'm considering Mexican to be half European half Native American).

Also just a rant, DH's parents gave him the same name for first and last name with the gendered naming convention -ov, so DH's name is something like Peter Peterov and my name is like Maria Peterova. It really confuses a lot of people when we introduce ourselves or sign anything. Maybe it's pregnancy hormones but this is really getting on my nerves lately. I'm beginning to have nightmares that our LO's birth certificate is going to be screwed up by cultural confusion.

kimvpthompson · September 2013

I'm white and my hubby is Filipino!

I'm not too worried about the baby feeling like he doesn't belong because DH's mom is remarried and has a three year old who is also mixed white and Filipino, and DH's cousins are the same

I've never seen the color of my hubby's skin or felt separate or left out in anyway, and he feels the same way about me and my family, so hopeful our baby boy will also grow up "color blind"

RI8340361 · September 2013

TheSloppySwish said:

M&H2011 said:

I'm 1/2 Korean and 1/2 German/English mix. My husband is 1/2 Italian and 1/2 German/English mix as well. Both of our mothers have the dominant phenotypes and our fathers are both recessive. I'm incredibly curious to what our little girl will look like. She could be anything from blonde haired with light eyes to dark hair and eyes or anything in between. I'm a little worried that if we have a child with recessive traits no one will think I'm her mother.

This happened with my daughter! My husband is Irish decent; blonde, blue-eyed and very fair. I have dark hair, dark eyes and olive skin (no one's sure about my mom's side, they're Cajun/Creole descent with possibly some black or hispanic).

I just assumed the dark would be dominant over the light, but DD came out with white-blonde hair, blue eyes and about five shades lighter than me. I couldn't believe she looked nothing like me.

I'm trying to prepare myself for this too because I think most people will assume one of us is not the biological parent. It shouldn't matter if anyone is the biological parent at all really, but I grew up with a very light mother and it hurt to have other kids say she wasn't really my mom.

ETA: I think people will think DH is not the biological father, that's my concern.

MEP923 · September 2013

Cashingn2 said:

jenniferbromley said:
I am a German, non practicing Jew! My dad is 100% German and my mother is Russian and Israeli.

My husband's father is black West Indian & his mother is 100% Italian.

So little Brom will be German, Israeli, Russian, West Indian & Italian
My donor is technically black West Indian (I think). I should probably learn more about it.

Edit: added info

A long time ago I remember you saying you hadn't told your families yet. Have you told them yet?

mightymousy · September 2013

Awww there's going to be some super cute babies born in 2-3 months

It was fun reading about everyone's excitement to see how the mix will manifest itself appearance wise. My SO and I are both pasty white with dark brown hair and light eyes (mine blue, his blue-green) and our families are all similar so we're not likely to be in for any surprises in the baby looks department lol.

Lmsr17 · September 2013

I am 100% British and H is 100% Japanese

MamaGrillo · September 2013

I'm a bit biased, but mixed babies are adorable.:)

H is 100% of Italian descent, but he is fair (used to go really dark when he was younger). He has dark hair with some red highlights and the most goregous big green eyes. NONE of the girls got those!

I am South African of mixed race. Back home we are our own population group. Back in the politically incorrect days, we were known as "Coloureds". Distinct from white or black South Africans. So.... Mummy and daddy's mothers both had Scottish, so there are some with fair skin and green eyes( mummy= very fair with green eyes/Daddy looks Indian!).

People tend to say the girls look like me, because of their colouring and dark curly hair, but when you look at them, they DO resemble their Daddy.:)

I am unbearably curious to know what #4 will look like. Just watch- all those recessive genes are going to show up! Lol

RI8340361 · September 2013

MamaGrillo said:

I'm a bit biased, but mixed babies are adorable.:) H is 100% of Italian descent, but he is fair (used to go really dark when he was younger). He has dark hair with some red highlights and the most goregous big green eyes. NONE of the girls got those! I am South African of mixed race. Back home we are our own population group. Back in the politically incorrect days, we were known as "Coloureds". Distinct from white or black South Africans. So.... Mummy and daddy's mothers both had Scottish, so there are some with fair skin and green eyes( mummy= very fair with green eyes/Daddy looks Indian!). People tend to say the girls look like me, because of their colouring and dark curly hair, but when you look at them, they DO resemble their Daddy.:) I am unbearably curious to know what #4 will look like. Just watch- all those recessive genes are going to show up! Lol

Right? If you look past color you can see family resemblance, but many people fail to notice. Remember this happened in May? His girls look so much like him: https://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/05/21/virginia-parents-walmart-biracial-daughters_n_3313143.html

Ansleyturner · September 2013

If you read the FFFC you know I'm white (Irish and Scandinavian) with strawberry blonde hair and blue eyes. DF is full 100% Mexican and he looks it. It's funny because he doesn't know Spanish (which I think is stupid.. His parents didn't teach them because they just didn't feel like it) so I've asked his family to only speak to him in Spanish.. I hope he doesn't end up talking about/making fun of us while we are sitting right there lol.
Eta: so DFs 1/2 white baby will be way more Mexican than he is..

MamaGrillo · September 2013

RI8340361 said:

MamaGrillo said:

I'm a bit biased, but mixed babies are adorable.:)

H is 100% of Italian descent, but he is fair (used to go really dark when he was younger). He has dark hair with some red highlights and the most goregous big green eyes. NONE of the girls got those!
I am South African of mixed race. Back home we are our own population group. Back in the politically incorrect days, we were known as "Coloureds". Distinct from white or black South Africans. So.... Mummy and daddy's mothers both had Scottish, so there are some with fair skin and green eyes( mummy= very fair with green eyes/Daddy looks Indian!).

People tend to say the girls look like me, because of their colouring and dark curly hair, but when you look at them, they DO resemble their Daddy.:)

I am unbearably curious to know what #4 will look like. Just watch- all those recessive genes are going to show up! Lol

Right? If you look past color you can see family resemblance, but many people fail to notice. Remember this happened in May? His girls look so much like him: https://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/05/21/virginia-parents-walmart-biracial-daughters_n_3313143.html

Oh my goodness!! I missed that!
H was rather lily white at the beach this summer and our girls go really dark within minutes of being in the sun even with sunscreen. I teased and said 'hon, they really don't look like they belong to you!'

Can you just imagine if someone was 'concerned'?!

MEP923 · September 2013

Cashingn2 said:

MEP923 said:

Cashingn2 said:

jenniferbromley said:
I am a German, non practicing Jew! My dad is 100% German and my mother is Russian and Israeli.

My husband's father is black West Indian & his mother is 100% Italian.

So little Brom will be German, Israeli, Russian, West Indian & Italian
My donor is technically black West Indian (I think). I should probably learn more about it.

Edit: added info
A long time ago I remember you saying you hadn't told your families yet. Have you told them yet?
I told my family. He hasn't told his family. His brother's wife does know. I feel it's his place to tell them. He jokes that he's going to say we watched a 3D porn haha. Do you remember that article going around? H thinks he's funny.

Eta: I told mine as soon as I got my positive. I think H has held off bc of a pride thing. If he tells them, then he's admitting that it's his fault (I do not feel this way) that we haven't been able to conceive. I truly hurt for him when I think of his side of things.

The 3D porn is kind of funny. It is a hard thing though. When DH got surgery on his "man friends" last December he told everyone he got knee surgery. He was really embarrassed about it. I think it was much easier for me to admit my fertility issues to family and close friends.

mightymousy · September 2013

Cashingn2 said:

Awww there's going to be some super cute babies born in 2-3 months It was fun reading about everyone's excitement to see how the mix will manifest itself appearance wise. My SO and I are both pasty white with dark brown hair and light eyes (mine blue, his blue-green) and our families are all similar so we're not likely to be in for any surprises in the baby looks department lol.
You'd be surprised. My sister has black hair/blue eyes. Her H has medium brown hair/ blue eyes, both straight hair. They have white/blonde curly haired, blue eyed boys.

Haha true

I think my MIL might have been a blonde back in the day so I guess it's possible

RI8340361 · September 2013

Not completely related to the OP's topic (sorry!), but anyone know if they have Melungeon heritage? In DNA studies it seems to account for a fair amount of olive skinned people who think they might have Native American ancestry but can't prove it with conventional genealogy. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Melungeon

MamaGrillo · September 2013

superspecialsnowflake said:
DH is 50% Polish, 50% Irish. I'm 50% German, 50% "British Mix" (lol, some blend of Welsh/Scottish).

Thus, we will have a white child with a good work ethic, fiery temper, and great sense of humor.

In all seriousness though, and I don't mean to threadjack, I'm a little sad to think of the cultural degradation (if that's even the right word) that comes with our "Melting Pot" family. I grew up with a strong German influence in my family. I also grew up in one of the strongest "German" cities in America (Milwaukee) and it was something I really identified with. It led me to study German in middle, high school and college, as well as minor in German at my university. The Welsh side of me is less identified with, except for the pride my family has in being among the many Welsh coal miners in PA when they first arrived in the States. I also love Corgis, but I would love them regardless (haha...).

I'm not sure my LO will have that same connection with her various cultural heritage. I'm not bummed about our cultural melting pot - that's one of the very best things about America. But I am a little concerned about what to teach her about all her various heritages. It's easy to do when you have just two main ethnic bloodlines. When you start getting into four or more, it becomes less of a point of interest, I think.

Sorry... off the
soapbox I go...

I think you decide that if it's important enough to you.
I feel like as a 'people' we were robbed of our history because so much of it was considered shameful. The mixing back then was because some landowner/farmer probably misused someone.

. So there's much I cannot tell the kids, there was no pride in who we were.
We talk about it with the girls. Because there's so much fear and negativity associated with race for me, I want them to be proud of all their bits.

Share it all with them.

MrsJG3 · September 2013

DH: 50% Mexican (Zacatecas) and 50% Russian. Me: 75% German 25% English/Irish. DD1 looks just like DH with dark eyes and amazing brown puppy dog eyes. DD2 looks like both us us in features but is strawberry blond with blue eyes. My DH calls himself a Jewcican b/c his dad was Mexican and his mom is Jewish.

tyedyeme12 · September 2013

Ansleyturner said:
If you read the FFFC you know I'm white (Irish and Scandinavian) with strawberry blonde hair and blue eyes. DF is full 100% Mexican and he looks it. It's funny because he doesn't know Spanish (which I think is stupid.. His parents didn't teach them because they just didn't feel like it) so I've asked his family to only speak to him in Spanish.. I hope he doesn't end up talking about/making fun of us while we are sitting right there lol.
Eta: so DFs 1/2 white baby will be way more Mexican than he is..

Ha! That sounds like my husband! He is only half Mexican, but he really looks 100%. It shocks people when I speak more Spanish than he does. I'm going to try to teach our son how to speak Spanish, and I'm sure MIL will as well.

shoeflypie · September 2013

Cashingn2 said:
I am 75% German, 25% Irish. Donor is black. Since ours was a donor situation and she won't know her biological family, I'm still unsure as to how to handle everything.

You will do a great job... Love is all you need!

mrshollifield · September 2013

I'm Italian and Puerto Rican, with dark brown curly hair, brown eyes, and olive skin.

DH is 25% Irish, 25% Cajun, and 50% mishmash white Southerner (that side's not really clear on ancestry.) He's got dark blond hair (which was platinum blond as a kid) and dark blue eyes.

I'm hoping the baby gets his eyes (my Grandpa had green eyes, and my Dad had grey eyes, so it's possible I've got a recessive gene in there somewhere.) I am a little worried LO will look just like DH though, and then people might think I'm the nanny!

Supergirl2013 · September 2013

Very interesting. I'm half Puerto Rican and half German while my DH is Italian and Egyptian.

MEP923 · September 2013

Caramarchi said:

Cashingn2 said:
I am 75% German, 25% Irish. Donor is black. Since ours was a donor situation and she won't know her biological family, I'm still unsure as to how to handle everything.
You will do a great job... Love is all you need!

Very true. The fact that DH was willing to do whatever it took to be a father says a lot about what a fantastic dad he will be. I'm sure his family will see that.

MrsQueale · September 2013

I'm half african Canadian, and the other half is white (my mom's parentswere born and raised in England if that matters)

My husband is white, a mixture of irish and scott.

We currently have 2 beautiful girls. Our first is pale white, green eyes and blond curly hair. Our second is tanned, big brown eyes, brown curly hair. So I'm very anxious to see what our boy will look like.

AGriffin620 · September 2013

AGriffin620 said:
I am 75% English, 25% Irish. DH is 50% Indian, 50% Irish. DH is fairly light, but his dad and one of his brothers are very dark. I'm hoping for a brown baby with blue eyes!!

Ummm....okay, so obviously the glucose and lack of blood messed with my thought process earlier, because I am 75% English, 25% German (first generation an second generation). Where the heck did the Irish come from? I know there's a small percentage in there, but geeze! My Nani is straight from Germany! Okay, just had to make that correction.

frankierokx · September 2013

I'm 75% English and 25% French, DH is 100% English. He's brown eyed blonde hair. I'm blue eye brown hair. Pretty boring!

KELLILOVESJOSH · September 2013

Eh we are kinda boring but DH's family is Italian and he's really dark. I'm really really white with pale blue green eyes and reddish blond hair. DH is often asked the " what are you" question. Both my girls get pretty dark in the summer but their eyes have changed from blue/green to almost hazel. In the summer there is such a contrast that I often get asked if they are mixed.

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