I'm a SAHM and have not been cooking much for my family this last week or so. I feel like a POS. Here's your PB&J and carrots for dinner, DS. Enjoy! DH even has to come up with his own dinner a few nights a week lately. Cooking was so high on my priority list before I hit the 3rd Tri. What happened? I like to make things from scratch, but now I want to buy a freezer to put in the garage so I don't have to cook. :-??
All of this. DS1 is lucky if he gets a box of Annie's Mac and Cheese at this point. I feel terrible about it, but I've felt soooo lazy recently!
I'm still bitter about that kick count thread and there are a few of you that I look at completely differently now.
Oh no, what did I miss. *off to scout out this thread...*
it really wasn't even anything that good just people saying I don't do them because...... My dr didn't tell me to, they cause extra stress, I feel my baby move all the time....
That's funny but because of that post, or one of them, I started doing my kick counts. I was initially one of the people that thought they were just an additional stressor. I was wondering if people do them or if people look at them as optional like avoiding lunch meat.
I'm really loving all the Confessionals today... but even more so, I love the fact that there is like no flaming... just a lot of love and hugs today...
IDK if this is even remotely classified as a FFFC or if it's just after-IF/after-loss brain talking but I'm having a hard time getting excited for LO to arrive. People ask me if I'm getting excited or if I'm ready for LO to be here and it hasn't really even hit me yet that the belly will actually mean a baby. Insofar as "stuff" goes, the nursery is ready, we have everything we need, and I'm as prepared as I can be for labor. But somehow I feel like the rug's going to get pulled out from under us and we're STILL going to walk away empty handed.
I really hope all this mindfuck doesn't interfere with bonding once the baby arrives, ugh.
This 100% could have been written by me. I hope it's normal.. LO is so wanted and planned for and loved. So what gives??
I have to confess that some of the posts on here totally confuse me, maybe it's just because I'm from Scotland and everyone seams to be from another country, what on earth is a bobby pin?
@debatethis I understand completely what you are going through. It happened with DS1 and now this one also. I can tell you from my experience that once DS1was out and alive, we bonded. That first cry and the first time I got to hold my child ALIVE was pretty damn emotional though. I don't feel like lack of in utro bonding affected us at all. And I hope you have the same experience as I did.
I have to confess that some of the posts on here totally confuse me, maybe it's just because I'm from Scotland and everyone seams to be from another country, what on earth is a bobby pin?
They are used to keep hair in place... similar to a barette
I have to confess that some of the posts on here totally confuse me, maybe it's just because I'm from Scotland and everyone seams to be from another country, what on earth is a bobby pin?
I guess mine is that as much as I hate that my two cousins are drug addicts and basically fail at life (no education past 8th grade, no jobs, no license, no future) its nice being the only grand daughter that's done something with my life and being the favorite is nice. (: when my cousin got pregnant the family acted like the world was ending but when I got pregnant the whole family cried tears of joy and excitement.
My confession is that I bought a new vibrator last week....off of Groupon.
What can I say, a great deal turns me on
Gah! I need a new one, mine just stopped working. I'm gonna keep my eyes pealed for a deal now lol. Given how exhausting sex is it was really the only thing that could get me there. :-(
I've been on my GD diet for a week now and have been cheating on it pretty much every day.
I'm with ya sista! I was good the 1st week. I totally have more then 3 snacks
a day, and screw measuring, just eyeball the shit.
I'm with both you ladies, I've been on this diet from hell for about 4 weeks. I'm glyburide for fasting and that's stariting to fail too. I've found that I can eat what I know will make my numbers right for breakfast and lunch and then eat more carbs or something sweet in between the two. And, I don't measure either. My baby is measuring at 3 lbs and doing great so hopefully it stays that way.
To go along with what @KFran84 said..
I miss getting baked.
When I was in college my pals and I would pick one of our cars and smoke ourselves out. It's so stupid, but it was so much fun.
DH has never puffed the magic dragon, but I made him promise that he would light up with me one day. Maybe when our kids are older.
I'm so lame for having to plan this out.
Before I got pregnant , DH and I would smoke a lil at bedtime. It worked wonders for my anxiety, insomnia and migraines!! I never really got baked but it sure relaxed a lot! I'm looking forward to having some after the baby is older. All I need really need is one puff and I'm good.
One is a know it all and I see her being the opposite of a sactimommy.
:-w
I think this is probably me. I usually just post on the questions that people ask and don't post as much on the chit chat posts since I joined this bmb late and I don't feel like I have the same rapport with everyone on the board. I'm definitely paranoid that people see me as a know it all even tho I don't think of myself as that. It's been a crazy 18 mos and it feels good to share advice.
Writing thank you notes is the WORST. I just wrote four and I'm exhausted. I'm going to try again tomorrow when I'm feeling more eloquent. These are all for family members so I feel like I have to personalize them. I think I need to just get a script and stick with it.
My other confession is that I told my mom I love DH more than the baby. I'm having the disconnected feeling also, as a pp said, I could be having a cat for all I know. The belly = baby thing is just not clicking for me, and I swear I will be shocked when they hand me a baby in November.
I haven't done any sort of exercise other than tidying up our place, using the stairs up and down from our 3rd floor apartment, or shopping in about 2 weeks (hey, Carrie Bradshaw said "shopping is my cardio" so that counts if you ask me). Part of me feels like this means I'm gunna be underprepared for the hopefully natural L&D I have my eyes on but then I get all wishy washy like "meh...I've run a few half-marathons in the past few years, how bad can it be?" Famous last words right? I fear I'm in for a rude awakening but...I just don't WANNA exercise most days.
I feel exactly the same way, except I'm in a first floor apt and getting an epidural. :-) you win
There are at least two people on here that I roll my eyes at every time they post. I will not reveal who they are because I don't want to hurt their feelings. One is a know it all and I see her being the opposite of a sactimommy. She will do everything wrong or backwards, but she KNOWS how it's done. I actually work with a guy like her. Everything he has done, he has done it for 20 years or since he was four. People like them or either really fucking busy or really full of shit.
The other is an AW.
Please no guesses. It is against TOU to directly call someone out.
:-w
PHEW! I don't know anything.
ETA: I didn't know what AW was... lol but oh I'm sorry it's not me with all my gifs. I just love gifs and NEVER get to use them anywhere else....
I watch porn gifs on Tumblr... I refuse to go to the websites or buy it... Also, it's always girl on girl. Sup?
The thing I hate most about pregnancy is having to wear underwear. Gaaahhh, I hate them. -_-
ETA: Also I'm 25 and will probably forever act like I'm 16. I love teen fiction, teen shows, cartoons and ridiculous pop music. Thankfully DH is literally my soul mate when it comes to this. He's read almost every teen fantasy/dystopia book I've read.
I rarely have a FFFC.. But as I did this today I knew I needed to post about it...
Today on my break I was rushing, I always have chocolate milk on my breaks but I had no time bc I wanted to work on a project. So instead of making a full glass I scooped a lil of nesquick in my mouth and sipped some milk from the jug and swished. Worth it.
@ debatethis I understand completely what you are going through. It happened with DS1 and now this one also. I can tell you from my experience that once DS1was out and alive, we bonded. That first cry and the first time I got to hold my child ALIVE was pretty damn emotional though. I don't feel like lack of in utro bonding affected us at all. And I hope you have the same experience as I did.
Sorry to jump in here, but LOML this is what I needed to hear. I am so so scared that all of this will result in me seeing my baby alive for 10 seconds and then whisked away, only to be brought back swaddled and not alive that I can't even express myself. Thank you for this, even though it wasn't directed at me.
I'm glad it was helpful. I will repeat it to you as many times as I need to until your LO arrives, alive, safe, healthy and happy. All you have to do is ask me Hugs
One is a know it all and I see her being the opposite of a sactimommy.
:-w
I think this is probably me. I usually just post on the questions that people ask and don't post as much on the chit chat posts since I joined this bmb late and I don't feel like I have the same rapport with everyone on the board. I'm definitely paranoid that people see me as a know it all even tho I don't think of myself as that. It's been a crazy 18 mos and it feels good to share advice.
Not you. The know it all always says, at some point in their post, "in my 10 years experience". It's one thing to give advice, but to be an expert at all the things, drives me insane.
One is a know it all and I see her being the opposite of a sactimommy.
:-w
I think this is probably me. I usually just post on the questions that people ask and don't post as much on the chit chat posts since I joined this bmb late and I don't feel like I have the same rapport with everyone on the board. I'm definitely paranoid that people see me as a know it all even tho I don't think of myself as that. It's been a crazy 18 mos and it feels good to share advice.
Not you. The know it all always says, at some point in their post, "in my 10 years experience". It's one thing to give advice, but to be an expert at all the things, drives me insane.
with that I "think" I just figured it out....
In my 10 years experience... I can't ever think of a FFFC but I love reading all of yours! This weeks definitely turned into a secret fears post which I really appreciated reading, and knowing I am not alone. Oh, and porn.
I type responses to a lot more threads than I ever post. I'm so scared of being a know-it-all (or comming across that way) or AW, that I usually just decide its better not to post. I realize I just like to hear myself think a lot if the time. I probably post only 1/2 the stuff I actually type up.
**hugs to loss mamas** I can't imagine what you're going through!
Re: {{{FFFC}}}
Sorry you are struggling...
What can I say, a great deal turns me on
And I don't even have any guesses, so yeah, I'm clueless.
Swear I'm not a prude but I've never even seen a porn. Is that weird? I guess I've just never been interested enough to go out of my way to watch one.
I'm with both you ladies, I've been on this diet from hell for about 4 weeks. I'm glyburide for fasting and that's stariting to fail too. I've found that I can eat what I know will make my numbers right for breakfast and lunch and then eat more carbs or something sweet in between the two. And, I don't measure either. My baby is measuring at 3 lbs and doing great so hopefully it stays that way.
Before I got pregnant , DH and I would smoke a lil at bedtime. It worked wonders for my anxiety, insomnia and migraines!! I never really got baked but it sure relaxed a lot! I'm looking forward to having some after the baby is older. All I need really need is one puff and I'm good.
My other confession is that I told my mom I love DH more than the baby. I'm having the disconnected feeling also, as a pp said, I could be having a cat for all I know. The belly = baby thing is just not clicking for me, and I swear I will be shocked when they hand me a baby in November.
Creepy internet stranger hugs to my loss mommas.
Today on my break I was rushing, I always have chocolate milk on my breaks but I had no time bc I wanted to work on a project. So instead of making a full glass I scooped a lil of nesquick in my mouth and sipped some milk from the jug and swished. Worth it.
I'm glad it was helpful. I will repeat it to you as many times as I need to until your LO arrives, alive, safe, healthy and happy. All you have to do is ask me
Not you. The know it all always says, at some point in their post, "in my 10 years experience". It's one thing to give advice, but to be an expert at all the things, drives me insane.
with that I "think" I just figured it out....
I can't ever think of a FFFC but I love reading all of yours! This weeks definitely turned into a secret fears post which I really appreciated reading, and knowing I am not alone. Oh, and porn.
I type responses to a lot more threads than I ever post. I'm so scared of being a know-it-all (or comming across that way) or AW, that I usually just decide its better not to post. I realize I just like to hear myself think a lot if the time. I probably post only 1/2 the stuff I actually type up.
**hugs to loss mamas** I can't imagine what you're going through!