Push present?!

WoodShopGirl · September 2013

It looks like I am in the minority, but I will be expecting a present. Nothing big, but we are always giving each other small things. Like last week DH got a "sorry I have been a cranky bitch the last 3 months, I swear it is the hormones" present from me.

KariB509 · September 2013

I certainly wouldn't mind getting some nice jewelry after all that work. But then again, I'd rather spend the money on the baby and the hospital bills. I feel like the baby is present enough.

lalaith50 · September 2013

I've only ever heard of this on the internet. Not a fan. Always tacky to "expect" gifts. Plus, H is not a very good gift giver. Like PP said, I'll just pull the "I just had a baby" card whenever I want anything!

CMheart1011 · September 2013

Yes, I will have just birthed a baby, or in my case, had it cut out of me. But he will have endured 9 months of pregnant me, which is not always pleasant. I'd say we're pretty even, especially considering he'll be home from work and helping me the first few weeks after birth. I won't be demanding a present on top of all that.

recline84 · September 2013

With my 2nd I got a necklace with both kids names on it. We thought we were done at 2, so I've already told DH that I'm going to need a replacement with the 3rd! It's not a huge deal, and certainly not expensive. But yeah, I like having something "associated" with the birth, so I do hope he remembers!

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Bonadl · September 2013

I didn't ask for or expect anything after DD. But DH surprised me with a very nice watch with a subtle pink face. I would've never picked a pink face but I think it's just perfect. It is nice enough that I hope to pass it down to her someday. I actually lost it right after my BFP and was sooooo upset...thankfully it turned up!!! Not letting it out of my sight again!

That being said, I think it's a nice gesture if it's genuine and from the heart but to do it out of obligation or to demand it from your DH is tacky, in my opinion.

stephcrosby09 · September 2013

I am not gonna lie, but this might be my chance to get started with a pandora

Andreabills · September 2013

I think my thoughts echo a lot of PP's, I would love to have a March birthstone necklace for my new baby. That being said, I don't need or to be presented to me, I'm perfectly capable of going to the jewelry store and picking it out myself. If DH wants to pick it out/pick it up I would be grateful but I don't think it's that big of a deal either way.
PS. We didn't give each other wedding presents either.

BabyVDM · September 2013

I think it's kind of an old tradition and I don't remeber it ever being referred to as a 'push present' which I think sounds awful.

Usually it's something special, a forever piece that you can turn into an heirloom and pass on to the kids later. My sister was given a beautiful saphire ring when her son was born. My good friend tells all our mutual friends DHs that new baby means new diamond! lol

I don't need a new diamond, but if we know sex of the minions before they are born a nice little piece of jewelry (pink saphire or blue) might be nice or a cute little emerald in a tasteful setting.

fish8412 · September 2013

In my opinion, push presents are silly. Be grateful for your pregnancy, child, and significant other's support.

springbaby03 · September 2013

The morning after dd was born my husband woke up super early and made a bee line to the nursery to get our baby. He was so happy to have her it melted my heart, I couldn't imagine expecting a gift at a moment like that. The moment is the gift, not everything requires a card or jewels.

southerncharm24 · September 2013

DH told me my push present was taken by baby b. ha!

Shobb414 · September 2013

I don't think it's something that I expect but wouldn't be opposed to it.
A birthstone necklace or ring would be ok. Our anniversary is in April so I'll just wait til then

erind0213 · September 2013

I didn't get one and think they are a little overrated. With all the money involved in caring for a child I don't think that I should expect a nice expensive gift.

Flowers, a card, a night of sleep? But I don't expect jewelery or anything over the top.

Donniesgrrl · September 2013

I Do not want/never have gotten a push present, I feel like the baby is the present, that being said My H took/takes amazing care of me in general and even more so when I am pregnant, he picks up the slack so I can sleep, he cooks and cleans when I am too sick to move, on Saturday mornings on the weekends he is off he will take the kids out for donuts and milk so I can sleep in in peace and get more rest. Plus I think it is a bonus for him to get some one on one daddy time with them. He works really nutty hours so getting the one on one time with them is important to him and them. The added stress of the unknown at this point and me possibility of being put on hospital bed rest at 36 weeks, has really been taking a toll on me but he has taken it in stride. I know he is scared but he has been really present for me, and been putting together plans and taken over figuring out what we will need to do IF that happens, hopefully it won't but he knows I am a planner and it calms my anxiety to have every possible scenario covered.

I have expressed to H that I would really like a mothers necklace since this will be our last baby most likely, and I know he has been looking around at them. So while I don't want a push present because I think they are RIDICULOUS, it would be a nice mothers day gift to get

Butts31 · September 2013

I would never demand/expect a present, but I'm not opposed either. DH bought a necklace with DD birthstone last time, it was a few weeks after her birth. I love it and maybe would like one for this baby.

VineyardMel · September 2013

babycaps said:

My favorite thing about Push Presents: The dumb women who demand one, but schedule a freakin' c-section! You didn't even push, dear!!!

OK--I'm not a fan of push presents, but this really annoys me. Because if a woman carries a baby and has major surgery in which her abdomen is sliced open and organs removed to get the baby out, she wouldn't qualify because she didn't "push"?? Um, no. A c/s isn't "easier" than delivering a baby vaginally. And I don't think the concept of the gift is about the actual pushing, either.

VineyardMel · September 2013

I hate the idea of expecting something materialistic or asking DH for something specific. Mine surprised me with a lovely cross necklace to have DD's name and birthdate engraved on and a silver picture frame that said, "Mom." It was a lovely gesture and so much more meaningful than a new purse or something. I was blown away that he did anything--and wouldn't have thought twice if he hadn't.

Now, for Mother's Day next year I would really like a simple birthstone necklace or stacking rings with birthstones for all of my babies (including my angel).

babylimas · September 2013

@VineyardMel Thank you, I was about to same something. A c-section isn't a walk in the park.

katykatykaty · September 2013

VineyardMel said:

babycaps said:

My favorite thing about Push Presents: The dumb women who demand one, but schedule a freakin' c-section! You didn't even push, dear!!!

OK--I'm not a fan of push presents, but this really annoys me. Because if a woman carries a baby and has major surgery in which her abdomen is sliced open and organs removed to get the baby out, she wouldn't qualify because she didn't "push"?? Um, no. A c/s isn't "easier" than delivering a baby vaginally. And I don't think the concept of the gift is about the actual pushing, either.

Thank you. You said it much nicer than I was going to.

memali26 · September 2013

bennieangel said:

This won't be a push present - but I would like a simple ring / band to wear once my wedding set doesn't fit any longer. Something less than $300 & that I can move to my right hand once my wedding set fits again. Is that silly? The only jewelry I wear is my wedding set, so part of me thinks that this might not be a great idea because I don't know if I'll adapt to actually wearing it after? I just don't want to be ringless & pregnant when I am so used to having a ring on my finger....

Edit - something like this: https://www.jared.com/personalizedProduct%7C10451%7C10001%7C-1%7C732541000179124%7C%7C100237%7C100237.100238.100246

DD1 was due in March, and by late Nov/early Dec I couldn't wear my wedding ring any more. For Christmas that year DH got me a new band in a larger size and surprised me with it a few weeks before Christmas. I still wear it, stacked under my wedding set. So I personally think it's a great idea

PeytonEliMama · September 2013

When I was pregnant with my daughter, starting at 37 weeks my husband got me weekly "I know you are miserably uncomfortable" presents. One was a movie I wanted, another was a waffle maker because I was craving big, fat waffles, which he then proceeded to make for me, etc. I was impressed he thought of the idea on his own, and it helped make the last few weeks go by a bit faster.

babylimas · September 2013

I can't judge too much b/c my H makes me breakfast in bed every single day. Of course, I will vomit all over the house if he doesn't, but at least he does it without too much complaining. Unfortunately, as to the push present, he's not one to willingly spend money. I doubt I could convince him.

mamathefox · September 2013

DH heard about this on his own when pregnant with DD. He asked me what I want. I told him that I want him to out that money towards the hospital bills! LOL they were like $2K and we have rockin good insurance

Melissa72777 · September 2013

I have never heard of this. Plus I have a feeling once the baby comes along DH and I will hardly be able to afford anything other than things we will need to provide for the little one. LOL

tink52104 · September 2013

I had never given much thought to push presents really, nor had I ever expected my husband to have a clue about them or to get me anything. But he has mentioned push presents in passing conversation. I think it's a nice idea if it's unexpected and simply because your husband loves you and wants you to know they appreciate what you have done to bring a baby into the world. And really, who says it has to be anything extravagant?

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