Push present?!

jwls84 · September 2013

I was reading an article about push presents this morning. I didn't get anything for my first, although I got a very nice diamond ring for my birthday 2.5 weeks after he was born.
Do you think push presents are a good or bad idea. I am indifferent and don't care either way. I think my son was the greatest gift ever, but it was also nice to get an extra special birthday present right after too.

craftiemommie · September 2013

My husband is just a bad gift giver. I love him so much but he just doesn't listen to what you hint at or even specifically ask for! I would really like a locket for the baby's picture, nothing extravagant.

rachbaby1 · September 2013

My husband is a bad gift giver. If he were to stumble onto the push present idea, I would probably end up with a gun or something. Plus, I think my present is going to be him being an amazing dad and dealing with all the names I call him while I am in labor

I may buy myself some sapphire earrings I have been eyeing, if that counts!

BrideNamedMeg · September 2013

I think it's a really dumb idea! Way to take something amazing like having a baby and cheapen the experience.

kimberpoo · September 2013

I had never heard of push presents before I saw an article on TB about them. To me, (and no offense if you love them!!) it just seems like another way for hallmark / jewelry companies to market and make money. I think the baby is the present. DH takes great care of me and I know he will be waiting on me and LO hand and foot when push time comes....why would I want diamonds? I'll have just had a baby!

ju0725 · September 2013

I don't need an award for fulfilling our dream to have a child. Everyday that I am carrying this child as well as the day I get to meet this baby if the greatest gift. My husband is my provider and will be the provider for the baby that is a huge gift in itself.

BethRN1987 · September 2013

Honestly if I were to want a push present the only thing I want is an elliptical for the house to get back in shape- otherwise I don't want a present

bumpuser9058414 · September 2013

If DH got the idea himself, like "hmm my wife just did this beautiful thing and gave me a child, I should get her something special" I would love it. I hate the idea of a push present being a "thing" if that makes sense.

kare_bear_12 · September 2013

I told my DH that I want a Push Purse!!!! It sounds so much better than just present!

peachy0709 · September 2013

So I don't really need/want a push present, but I have to say ... the most beautiful thing I have ever seen was at my best friend's bridal shower, her MIL gave her the pearl necklace that she was given when she gave birth to my friend's future husband. It was just so beautiful that it still brings tears to my eyes!! If I were to get a push present (HA, I'm am pretty sure I'll end up with a sports jersey of some sort before my DH would think to buy JEWELRY), I would love for it to be something that could later have meaning like that, as oppose to some of my friends who have been given very trendy items, like a Stella & Dot necklace.

Gramsey831 · September 2013

Push presents have been around for a long time....they just weren't called that. My Nana had a special piece of jewlery to "commemorate" each one of her four children. My mom gave me an ornament and a necklace as a gift for "enterning" motherhood. My husband did nothing special for me personally, just became a great father to DS.

The idea that it is necessary or expected is ridiculous to me....

Edit: missed word

katykatykaty · September 2013

Like one of the PP, my husband combined DD being born and our anniversary two weeks later and got me a beautiful ring with my daughter's birthstone. He did it all on his own, so it was extra special.

legallyginger · September 2013

Berry30 said:
If DH got the idea himself, like "hmm my wife just did this beautiful thing and gave me a child, I should get her something special" I would love it. I hate the idea of a push present being a "thing" if that makes sense.

Pretty much this. Although like pp, my husband is a terrible gift giver (not for lack of trying, bless him). I got a pillow pet and socks for Christmas last year, haha.

cdnmomma · September 2013

Berry30 said:
If DH got the idea himself, like "hmm my wife just did this beautiful thing and gave me a child, I should get her something special" I would love it. I hate the idea of a push present being a "thing" if that makes sense.

Totally agree! I sometimes overhear women talking about and comparing their push presents or talking about what they are 'demanding' and to me that defeats the point of a gift and is really obnoxious.

memali26 · September 2013

I'm not against a special gift to mark the occasion, but I think the fact that it's being called a push present and is becoming expected is silly. The only push present I really want is DH watching all three kids while I nap on the weekends

I did make it known to DH that I wanted a piece of jewelry with our kids birthstones at some point. The first Christmas after DD1 was born he bought me a necklace with her stone, and added DD2's stone the Christmas after she was born. He's already checked to be sure the jeweler still carries the same design to add #3's birthstone

craftiemommie · September 2013

kcasset said:
So I don't really need/want a push present, but I have to say ... the most beautiful thing I have ever seen was at my best friend's bridal shower, her MIL gave her the pearl necklace that she was given when she gave birth to my friend's future husband. It was just so beautiful that it still brings tears to my eyes!!

My MIL passed away years before I met DH. For Christmas the year we got engaged he and his sister both presented me with a beautiful solitaire diamond necklace that had been his mother's. It is my most prized possession. Whenever I felt like I needed an Angel watching over me I'd wear it (including my wedding day of course) and since we've gotten pregnant I've worn it just about every day because I want to feel like she is here with us.
Not a "push present" but no present could really compare!

TradeMama · September 2013

My DH got me an iPad when DS was born... Less of a "push present" and more of a "this will help with motn feedings" present though.

ellajune2012 · September 2013

If I'm going to get anything at all, the only present I would want is someone to come clean the apartment for us for several weeks. And maybe a cupcake.

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lazyreader · September 2013

only if this said "push present" is a stack of new sweatpants... with pockets!. then I will be on board.

otherwise it seems a waste.

liamandlettie · September 2013

I got a citrine (sons birthstone) round ring with diamonds around it and down the band. 4th degree tears...you bet your ass I got a push present! Ha! But he's the best at presents and little gifts. When we got home he ran out and got all my medical supplies, hose for the shower (bathing was hard), new undies for my mega pads, my breast pump, a back massager...he's a good man!

crystaljoanna · September 2013

Isn't having a kid expensive enough already with all the gear, co-pays, etc.?! My husband asked me if I wanted one and I'm pretty indifferent. Don't get me wrong - I would LOVE an excuse for more jewelry - but I'm pretty nervous about what the cost is going to be for that first year.

craftiemommie · September 2013

crystaljoanna said:
Isn't having a kid expensive enough already with all the gear, co-pays, etc.?! My husband asked me if I wanted one and I'm pretty indifferent. Don't get me wrong - I would LOVE an excuse for more jewelry - but I'm pretty nervous about what the cost is going to be for that first year.

With you on this 100%

angelsnight · September 2013

I personally think they are dumb. Not every event in life needs to come with a present. Hell, the baby is more than gift enough (not to mention all the gifts you likely get at your shower).

Got engaged? Here, here's a present because you made a decision! Getting married? Give your spouse a gift! Someone hosted a baby shower for you? Send them a huge gift basket! Enough with the presents. And to clarify on that last point, I think a heartfelt thank you to a hostess and maybe some flowers is more than enough to express gratitude. The ladies in my family throw showers because they want to, not to recieve any kind of gift in retrurn.

Rant over.

LaurenAsh23 · September 2013

Only reason I want a push present, is I want a ring for each of my kids with their birthstone. My wedding band is not attached to my engagement ring for this very reason. I want to be able to stack my rings and just wear my bands some days. I hope my DH remembers this

Luckily our anniversary is in January, and my birthday is in March...so even if not a push present, I should be getting some gifts from DH

Missfunball · September 2013

I guess most of us just consider it a super sweet bonus. No expectation but if DH did something...well I would probably be just shocked.

*note* my DH is better with "I was thinking of you" things than required presenting. I think he panics and gets me utilitarian things. Past gifts included: dyson vacuum, chef knife set, and flowers (seriously that was it). Now all of them were things I definitely really really wanted....but...seriously not an amazing gift giver. I'd be almost frightened what he'd get.

peachy0709 · September 2013

angelsnight said:

I personally think they are dumb. Not every event in life needs to come with a present. Hell, the baby is more than gift enough (not to mention all the gifts you likely get at your shower).

Got engaged? Here, here's a present because you made a decision! Getting married? Give your spouse a gift! Someone hosted a baby shower for you? Send them a huge gift basket! Enough with the presents. And to clarify on that last point, I think a heartfelt thank you to a hostess and maybe some flowers is more than enough to express gratitude. The ladies in my family throw showers because they want to, not to recieve any kind of gift in retrurn.

Rant over.

I agree with this 100%!!! DH and I didn't do "gifts" on our wedding day to one another and according to some of our friends, our marriage is just so doomed.

liamandlettie · September 2013

LaurenAsh23 said:
Only reason I want a push present, is I want a ring for each of my kids with their birthstone. My wedding band is not attached to my engagement ring for this very reason. I want to be able to stack my rings and just wear my bands some days. I hope my DH remembers this Luckily our anniversary is in January, and my birthday is in March...so even if not a push present, I should be getting some gifts from DH

Me too! My "wedding ring" is just a small band on my right hand that I wear with my push present now. My engagement ring wasn't meant to have a band I guess. Either way..I love it.

springbaby03 · September 2013

Im a little turned off by the term push present. If my husband wants to get me something just because he wants to great but I wont ever be claiming a push present.
The baby is the gift after all the hard work.

Momstheword83 · September 2013

BrideNamedMeg said:
I think it's a really dumb idea! Way to take something amazing like having a baby and cheapen the experience.

This. A baby is enough push gift for me.

OakvilleMomof3+1 · September 2013

Seeing as I'm due on my birthday all I want is a really nice bottle of wine! Something I can enjoy afterward

. I asked for that as a birthday gift. Never received a 'push present' for my other three. Baby was gift enough

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legallyginger · September 2013

CHalePhoto said:
My EDD is 3 days before DH's birthday. So I'm getting him a baby for his birthday, and a cupcake if I have the energy. I think the perfect push present would be a baby... And a cupcake. :-)

I've already put in a request to my parents/DH that my first meal after birth include cake, pizza, and wine.

liamandlettie · September 2013

Momstheword83 said:

BrideNamedMeg said:
I think it's a really dumb idea! Way to take something amazing like having a baby and cheapen the experience.
This. A baby is enough push gift for me.

I don't think it cheapens it. The term "push present" is pretty new. We didn't call it that at the time. I knew I wanted my sons birthstone and I have 2 pieces of jewelry. My engagement ring and wedding ring. My husband took the lead from there. .but again he's a gift giving type person. Of course the baby is best gift!! It wasn't like "here's my baby now cough up my ring". Lol. I think he actually had it prior but after that crazy delivery...yep I got a ring..call it what you want! It was a sweet moment.

But, yes, it's totally personal/couple preference. And I do agree with others...with 2 kids I'm very scared of expenses. If he did it again...I may tell him to return for diapers...maybe

Edit for spelling

kelley72 · September 2013

seems like a silly reason to give a gift so of course completely wonderful! I will not be getting anything extravagant like diamonds or jewelry but simple flowers from my dh would be loving and very much appreciated!

kiwimommy429 · September 2013

I've heard of it before and think it's sweet. However, I don't care if I get one or not. I'm about 100% sure he hasn't heard of it and I don't plan on telling him either. As long as I have a healthy baby and my man, I'll be happy.

I may ask him to get me some Starbucks though(there's one in the hospital), hehe.

CruiseGirl28 · September 2013

My boss told me an amusing story about this. My boss was the first born and when his mom brought him home from the hospital, his dad had bought her a gift. It was a new puppy!! I think she almost killed him lol

liamandlettie · September 2013

CruiseGirl28 said:
My boss told me an amusing story about this. My boss was the first born and when his mom brought him home from the hospital, his dad had bought her a gift. It was a new puppy!! I think she almost killed him lol

Oh. My. Gosh.

=D>

legallyginger · September 2013

CruiseGirl28 said:
My boss told me an amusing story about this. My boss was the first born and when his mom brought him home from the hospital, his dad had bought her a gift. It was a new puppy!! I think she almost killed him lol

Oh my goodness. Clueless, haha.

SurpriseAt39 · September 2013

Hemorrhoid cream.

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jwls84 · September 2013

CruiseGirl28 said:
My boss told me an amusing story about this. My boss was the first born and when his mom brought him home from the hospital, his dad had bought her a gift. It was a new puppy!! I think she almost killed him lol

Lol that's exactly what every new mother wants, a puppy to train and clean up after!

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