What are your plans for care during your pregnancy?
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**AGE-32 DH-35****Together since March 2005** **Not Preventing Since 2011** **TTC since Feb 2013**Undergoing Testing Starting 05/2014
**Murphy, Thomas & Neko**
Doctor or midwife? 163 votes
Re: Doctor or midwife?
**AGE-32 DH-35****Together since March 2005** **Not Preventing Since 2011** **TTC since Feb 2013**
Undergoing Testing Starting 05/2014
**Murphy, Thomas & Neko**
All our babies
Three of my clients at work have used the midwives in town here and have nothing but glorious reviews of them
**AGE-32 DH-35****Together since March 2005** **Not Preventing Since 2011** **TTC since Feb 2013**
Undergoing Testing Starting 05/2014
**Murphy, Thomas & Neko**
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**AGE-32 DH-35****Together since March 2005** **Not Preventing Since 2011** **TTC since Feb 2013**
Undergoing Testing Starting 05/2014
**Murphy, Thomas & Neko**
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I would really love more information on a home birth - I've watched a handful of docs showing it, and it just looks so comfortable. You get your own bed back, Dad is in the kitchen making dinner, etc. That's an ideal situation, obviously anything could happen. I don't even know if those are covered by my insurance. Like, where does the birthing tub come from? My friend lives in AL and his wife had all 3 kids born in their living room.
I just dislike hospitals. I hate being hooked up to tubes, I hate not going to the bathroom by myself, I hate being forced to wear gowns, blahblahblah. I had an awful labor w/DD and I don't want that to happen again.
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BFP 11/10/13, EDD 7/25/13 - stick little owlet!
@tealowl if you talk to a midwife that attends homebirths, she'll hook you up with all that info. I have several friends who had homebirths and they rent the birthing tubs.
I will be high risk, so it'll be an MFM for me. Hoping I can still do my regular appts with my family dr who was my dr with my last pregnancy and delivered DD.
Things could go wrong at a hospital also.
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I've heard of that site, but never visited. I'll have to check that out!
"Your truth is different from my truth, and we're both right."
TTC since March 2013. BFP 4/13/13, blighted ovum discovered 6/6/13, m/c 6/8/13.
BFP 11/10/13, EDD 7/25/13 - stick little owlet!
Doctor and a hospital. After 2 losses already, a history of ovarian cysts and my own mother's terrible experiences ingrained in me, I want teams of medical everything at my disposal should I need them. Hopefully I won't.
I just went into a long-winded post about my MIL's naturally very easy pregnancies and at-home births, but I'll spare you all of that for another day.
April 2013: Femara + Trigger + IUI = ???
That said, I live 30 minutes from the nearest hospital, so I don't know how I'll feel when the time comes. My OB is holistic, so I love her. She does natural births at a hospital about an hour from me where they have private rooms with tubs--almost like an attached birthing center. So like I say, we'll see....
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I plan on using our midwives birth center this time around instead of homebirth simply because we are going to be moving right before the birth, and an apartment is a possibility (we are in a house right now, and were when we had DD) and I don't really feel comfortable doing a homebirth in an apartment we would have just moved in to. Our birth center is amazing.
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TTC August 2013
BFP #1 05/12/2014 - EDD 01/11/2015
Oscar born October 2011
Miscarriage at 8 weeks (August 2013)
DD due September 1, 2014
I think midwives are a great option and I love the group I work with. I'll be high risk though so I'll be with an OB.
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That's what I was thinking - sounds like the midwife handled it appropriately. I live in the city, and I'm 5 and 10 minutes away from two hospitals. If I lived out in the country, it probably wouldn't be something I'd consider...
There are so many options to consider! It's comforting knowing so many of us are able to do this and help choose a birth plan. When I had DD 12 years ago, I didn't know of my options, really.
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TTC since March 2013. BFP 4/13/13, blighted ovum discovered 6/6/13, m/c 6/8/13.
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I used an OB before and probably will again.
I would never consider a home birth. Being at home would be more stressful for me, I want to be right near all the medical care available. Things can go bad very quickly. Plus, I've had very positive hospital experiences.
son#1 born 6/2010
son#2 born 4/2012
son#3 born 7/2014
I'm also a bit of a worrier, so I like knowing that emergency care is around the corner should I need it, but being low risk I prefer a care provider who primarily handles natural births. OBs are trained surgeons, and that naturally skews the way they view the birth process.
We don't have birth centers here, otherwise that would probably be my choice. But I LOVE my midwife (all of the midwives in the hospital, actually), and I'm excited to work with her again.
Ultimately, I think it comes down to the personality of your provider and how their philosophies align with your goals. There are awesome OBs and terrible midwives, and vice versa. Go with your gut!