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Mlewis2319 · September 2013

I think my emotions run the spectrum in regards to adding a new LO, excited, nervous, scared, anxious. My DD (currently the baby) is such a mama's girl, and I love it, but I know she's going to have a hard time sharing mommy with the baby. I'm not so worried about my DS, he's great at being the big brother, he does occassionally get jealous or acts out, but I try to take time & spend with just him. We have out grown our house so now we're in the process of deciding to add on or move. I'm an only child and DH has a brother, I'm excited to give my LOs another sibling to grow with and have through life.

One thing I'm not looking forward too as much as with my other LO's is sharing the news, I feel like people are going to judge me about how well I can provide for 3. DH & I both work so there's no question that all the kids will be taken care of, I just don't think people are going to be as excited for this one as much as the first and think we're crazy! LOL

lacey0482 · September 2013

I'm really excited about seeing my sweet girl as a big sister, but a little worried about her transition to splitting the attention. She gets a lot right now, from us, my parents, and extended family and I hope she is okay with new baby sharing some of her spotlight.

We do plan to crib transition and potty train before new baby gets here, so hopefully that will cement the fact even more that she is my BIG GIRL and different and special from the new baby.

Ladiebug30 · September 2013

Okay. I have read this whole thread and searched the newbie acronym list. (Holy crap. It's like a secret decoder language!) I just have to know ... BTDT?

Surreal123 · September 2013

Been there done that.

My post is late too. My family and I are not close and growing up all I ever wanted was a sibling close in age that we could be great friends. The only thing I ever swore i wouldn't do was to have just one child. One of my fears is that because I wanted this so bad my kids will end up hating each other. It would be so ironic.

Ladiebug30 · September 2013

Ahh. Thank you! My little guy will be about 3 months shy of 2 years old when #2 arrives. I'm concerned but also excited.

ponsfemale · September 2013

I am super late on this but haven't had much time to bump lately! I already have a 2 year old and a 14 month old and am 8 weeks along, I am not as nervous as I was last time. Mine were 2u1 and it was very difficult at first, but you get a pattern and figure it out. I think I am most worried about meal time. Feeding two toddlers while a baby needs to be fed sounds like a nightmare

Kris2011RN · September 2013

@miniray please keep us updated!! Good luck tomorrow at the ultrasound! Hoping for a sticky baby!

miniray · September 2013

Kris2011RN said:

@miniray please keep us updated!! Good luck tomorrow at the ultrasound! Hoping for a sticky baby!

Will do! I just saw my doctor and my cervix is closed and she is sending me for another beta. Still spotting but hopeful. I'll keep you posted for sure!

rebecca1198 · September 2013

FX for you @miniray

Junebug060609 · September 2013

My hopes: Simply to get a healthy sibling here for D.

My fears: I'm nervous about having all of second and most of 3rd Tri with DH deployed, particularly when it comes to caring for our active 2 year old. I'm nervous about Pre-E rearing its head again. Most of all though I'm nervous about the possibility of autism with this one as well (DS isn't diagnosed, but they highly suspect that's what's going on with him).

Junebug060609 · September 2013

MCH77 said:

I plan on using Christmas as our "you're going to be a big brother focus." I want to get him a baby doll, so he can help me with it. And some big brother books. He loves to help, so I'm really going to focus on that. It is funny when I was pg with DS I couldn't wait to meet my LO. Now I can't wait to see DS as a big brother, it warms my heart. I just need to move past this ms so I can be a good mom again.

I have a couple of dolls for DS already, recommendations from his therapists to work on imitative play. I'm thinking when third tri rolls around I'll start lugging one of them around all.the.time or even wearing it around the house and taking time out to 'nurse' and change the baby like I will have to with a newborn. I think he'll like putting baby doll in the swing, lol. Hoping the rest of it will help with the transition to a squishy sibling in the house...

Junebug060609 · September 2013

miniray said:

I'm pretty sure I'm going to be out soon My spotting has picked up and I'm now wearing a pad. I had sharp stabbing pains in my lower abdomen last night and I knew that wasn't good. I see my doctor tomorrow and have an u/s scheduled for Tuesday. I'm feeling really bummed but DS keeps giving me hugs and kissing. He's too sweet.

Oh honey, my heart is going out to you. I've been down that road twice and it is so hard. I'm glad you have an appt set up. Your doctor needs to know about the sharp pains for sure. I'm so glad you have your DS to love on, mine helped so much with my last loss, he was my light.

Huge hugs!

IBackBevo · September 2013

I guess I am just scared about balancing it all. Especially in the first few months.

chargers32 · September 2013

I've always wanted a big family I am one of four. I know DD will be an awesome big sis again and for sone reason in my head I thought it would be easier this time. Like less guilt because DD and DS have each othet so they wouldn't feel ledt out when baby comes. But now I'm thinking they will still want one on one timw with me and obv having each other wont replace that.

I always wanted a big gamily because I think the gift of a sibling is so huge! Someone for them to grow old with long after we pass.
However, after my brothers behavior this weekend i realized its not worth it to have him in my life. He causes more pain than he brings happiness. He is so judgemental of me and my family and im tired of his negativity.
This scares me because I know as a mom I would be heartbroken should my kiddos fall apart like that

ABColeslaw · September 2013

Junebug060609 said:

My hopes: Simply to get a healthy sibling here for D.
My fears: I'm nervous about having all of second and most of 3rd Tri with DH deployed, particularly when it comes to caring for our active 2 year old. I'm nervous about Pre-E rearing its head again. Most of all though I'm nervous about the possibility of autism with this one as well (DS isn't diagnosed, but they highly suspect that's what's going on with him).

I'm worried about the Autism thing as well. My son has PDD-Nos, he is high functioning but it has been a difficult journey with him. I'm trying not to think too much about it. But it's there in the back of my mind.

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