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GHBEA
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Re intro of ME!
GHBEA
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Hi I posted here awhile ago but had another baby and go lost in the shuffle of raising 2U2. I have 2 DDs from a previous marriage, DH has a son from a previous marriage. We have two DD's together. I had issues with DH not following through with treating the older kids equally when it came to punishment or other aspects of life. He pushed for my girls to get jobs but never his son. Got upset when my girls let their chores slide, never his son, he got mad when my girls didn't look after their pets, never his son. Well here we are about a year later SS applied for one job in June and his grandfather and father basically did everything for him (like call the store manager) didn't apply for any other jobs. Spent the entire summer break playing video games doing his chores only after days and days of asking him too. His dog still pees on the carpet yet the dog still runs around. If the other family dog pees on carpet it is put out side or in the crate. I have tried and tried to talk with/to DH about how the double standard bothers me a lot. It effects our marriage and DH isn't seeing this. I have told him that I feel he is afraid to get upset or be the boss to his son because once upon a time he was an EOWE and Weds. So naturally DH wanted those times to be good time, I understand this but again this does not help the child grow. Now SS has lived with us for 2 1/2 years full time as mom moved out of state and SS did not like the state they moved to so he asked to live with us. I try really hard to let DH know how much it hurts me to see this going on, and my older DDs see it too and feel like they are nothing to DH. My ex is not involved in my girls lives due to a court order 7 years ago that made him unable to have contact with the girls. I do not take any of these feeling about the situation out on my SS he lives this way because that is how he was raised and knows no better. I think deep down my DH just doesn't want SS to be upset with him for any reason thinking SS will want to move back with his mother. I don't see that ever happening unless he goes to college where she lives or moves.
So that wraps up this update if any of you even remember it or me great if not well here you have it. BTW I am on medication for high blood pressure and my Dr says to keep stress down, but it is hard when you and your DH can not be on the same page or even compromise a little.
So that wraps up this update if any of you even remember it or me great if not well here you have it. BTW I am on medication for high blood pressure and my Dr says to keep stress down, but it is hard when you and your DH can not be on the same page or even compromise a little.
Mom to 4 wonderful daughters
Breanna, Ellie and
our 2 rainbow babies.
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