Attachment Parenting
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3y/o Mom's I'm Desperate- Please help
BabyButler2010
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We have practiced AP since ds was born- bed-sharing, baby-wearing, extended nursing...We take time to listen to ds and treat him with respect, spend one on one time playing..... So- here is the problem we are having- and maybe it is just a phase, if so, we can grin and bare it...if not, please offer strategies to help 
DS does little to no play by himself- he ALWAYS needs DH or myself to be interacting with him. He will be fine hanging out with just myself or DH, but as soon as both of us are in the room together, especially if DH and I try to talk to one another, he interrupts and won't accept being asked to wait, he throws a fit if he doesn't get attention at the very moment he requests it. Please keep in mind, we aren't ignoring him- we simply ask him to wait one moment while we finish our sentence or are at a natural breaking point. I'm not sure how to teach him to stop interrupting...I am getting so frustrated. He is super demanding and always wants to have things his way- is this just his age? I thought two was supposed to be the tough age, but this pregnant mama is feeling a little defeated at the moment. I am all for meeting my munchkin's needs, but I'm really tired of him bossing me around and interrupting when DH and I try to have even the shortest of conversations. Please offer some advice. DH is also feeling unsure of how to handle this. I know our LO is strong willed and I don't want to break that because being strong willed can be so beneficial in the future if he is steered in the right direction- I just really don't want for him to turn out to be a demanding person with no respect for others because we submit to his every request...Sorry for the rambling- it was a really rough morning. TIA Momma's
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Re: 3y/o Mom's I'm Desperate- Please help
Keep reminding him that its rude to interrupt, he needs to say excuse me and don't give in to what he wants if he's screaming and not being nice. Try starting him off on an activity like a puzzle or with a toy and see of you can leave him with it.
DS is just almost 2, so I have zero experience, but he loves and has learned a lot from that show. He shares with other toddlers, asks to go potty, tries new foods, and does other things that Daniel Tiger sings about. The lessons are simple and straightforward, and the songs are easy, cute, and catchy. Maybe the one about taking turns (talking?) would help?
This really is a question of age and mental development. Totally normal for age 3. 3 can be a lot harder than 2. We taught our son to say excuse me please or talk to me please instead of pitching a fit. It seems to have helped a lot. Age 3 woes are mostly about control and trying to learn how to manage big emotions like anger and fear appropriately. Sometimes they just need a little help finding the right words.
By the way Daniel Tiger has a great episode on managing anger... Katerina gets mad. Worth the screen time if you have a lot of meltdowns.
Me-36, Unexplained Infertility, DH-35, all clear
Clomid 50mg 12/2011 = BFN
Clomid 100mg 1/2012 = BFN, with Cyst
IVF #1 Lupron/Menopur/Gonal-f/HCG Trigger
ER 4/19/12 = 11 retrieved, 6 fertilized,
ET 4/22/12 = 2 transfered (day 3), remaining 3 weren't good enough to freeze
Beta 5/3 = BFP, 87 Beta #2 5/7 560.9 Beta #3 5/9 1376.5 First u/s One Baby, 125bpm!
Second u/s, 176bmp! Kicked over to the OB by the RE at 8w. Team Green!!
1. A reward chart where he earns stars that earn him prizes if he behaves nicely without whining for different parts of his day has helped.
2. He has to be reminded to use his words and that mommy and daddy make the rules and he is to listen to the rules.
3. Getting him to help with as much as he can makes him feel important
4. setting up routines for the morning and night time...i.e. picking out his clothes and show and tell for school the night before and a bedtime routine.