With all my drama lately I feel like the is a black cloud over me. BF messaged me on FB asking me if we could work out an arrangement. He is having a baby in 3 weeks and will be taking off for 2 months then he needs to put the baby in daycare. He can't afford daycare and child support. He has NEVER met DD. We went to court when DD was 2 (7 next month) and we both decided he would pay a very small amount in CS and would not see her. The last time I talked to him was in Jan 2012 because I needed him to sign for a name change. He told me then he wanted to sign up rights. I told him I would as long as he paid for the adoption to go with it. He is obviously trying to get me to do that now. Does anyone know if you can terminate rights without an adoption in Texas? Google won't give me a straight answer. Also would this be something you would consider? I'm so confused. He will never be apart of her life so should he pay? In your opinion does she need a man legally attached to her? I know that sounds stupid. This will be his fourth child and its only my DD that he has nothing to do with. He was trying to tell me about his gf and this is her first baby. I wanted to tell him to fluck off but I said nothing.
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Re: BF wants to sign away rights....need opinions
On the flip side, what if something were to happen to you? He would be the first person she is offered to and he doesnt even know her.
Spend some time considering all your options, dont let him push you at all. Do research and make him pay for every single legal fee.
To answer your question: No, I would never consider it. The stipulation of adoption is there for a reason. Think of it this way. If he signs off his righs and you die....who will be LEGALLY bound to care for your daughter and make sure she's not on the streets? Sure, there may be people in your life that say they would take care of her should something happen to you, but are you willing to just trust them on it? It may be your parents who say that - what if something happens to them a couple years after your passing? Shit happens. You want to protect your kid.
Now, if he wants to sign away rights and is willing to pay for adoption AND your current H wants to adopt her - go for it. But, don't do it, unless all three of the above are true. Don't be too nice to that prick. He doesn't deserve it. He has four kids and can't take care of them? That's not your fault. He's a deadbeat already, so I wouldn't reward him for it.