Baby Shower for Second Baby?

browneyedgrl767 · September 2013

I know it's more common lately to have a second baby shower for your second child, but I feel like I JUST had my first shower (DD1 is 13 months). I don't want to look greedy, but i'd only be asking for a few things. Like a rumble seat for my Uppababy, a new car seat, etc. What are your thoughts? Is it ok to have a second smaller shower for baby number 2?

memali26 · September 2013

I wouldn't. If people specifically ask if there is anything you need for the new baby, you can tell them, but I wouldn't have a second shower. It just seems gift grabby to me. I also wouldn't ask for the big ticket items like car seats unless someone specifically comes to us saying they want to buy us something big, but that's just me.

runningyogimama · September 2013

No. And definitely, definitely, definitely not with a second baby so soon after the first.

dh79 · September 2013

My friend who threw my first baby shower is all excited to throw me another one now that I am pregnant with #2 (my DD is also 13 months). I am not comfortable with the idea, but I think as a compromise we may have a small lunch with the closest friends and encourage people to bring a frozen meal or meal-in-a-bag for me to use after #2 arrives instead of a gift. It will be fun to celebrate this special time with my closest friends, and some prepared meals will help me way more than any gifts would.

mrs mosby · September 2013

I didn't. I was having another girl and they are only 15 mos apart. I had a couple of friends and SIL offer but I declined.

MamaP19 · September 2013

You should check out the 2nd trimester board. There was recently a verrrry long thread about this. Really I think it depends on your family and social circle. I would never ask for another shower to be thrown for me (as I didn't with DD the first time around). I certainly wouldn't expect one either. However, I have friends who have families that live for showers and would throw one for every baby born into their family. If that's the case, I might go with it, but try to keep it small and probably only have family come. I wouldn't want my friends who came to a shower for me a year or so ago come to another and feel obligated to bring a gift.

That being said, I have made two (private) registries. (and might make a third....) I have made one on amazon and at babies r us for the completion discounts and to keep track of what I want to buy for DS. I'm considering making one at Target also b/c I just found a coupon where you can get a $20 gift card for making a registry. Yay! Lol.

The common suggestion if you don't want another shower is to have a sip n see once your second is here. That way your baby can be celebrated and if people want to give you a gift they can bring one without feeling obligated like they probably would at a shower.

browneyedgrl767 · September 2013

Ok thanks for the input everyone, I really didn't want a second one so I'm glad I heard these opinions!!

MissJenna2011 · September 2013

I'm due in Dec. with my 3rd. My first 2 were 3.5 years apart a boy & a girl, my friends & family insisted on throwing a second shower and it was nice so many people came! I obviously wouldn't have a 3rd shower, even if these two weren't 17 months apart... But I do want to have a lil Meet & Greet or Sip N' See "thing" So after the holidays I'm inviting the girls over for appetizers & wine and some hot beverages to meet the baby and catch up! I'm thinking 2 hours on a Sunday and people can come & go as they please, very informal and "the only gift needed is your presence" kind of thing. Just to introduce baby & see my ladies again! They've all been saying, you better let us come by & see her! So i think this will work!

Maybe something similar may work for you? No need for gifts, just a hello! And whether you have a shower or not, those that want to treat you to a gift will...

PALGal · October 2013

I didn't want one because I am having another boy but my church insists because "Every baby is worth celebrating". I am told it will be a diaper party.<?xml:namespace prefix = o ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:office" />

VanessaB24 · October 2013

How did it become common in the last yr to have a 2nd baby shower? Just curious... I had my dd 13 months ago and I don't expect my mom to throw me another shower at all this time or have my friends and family give me more gifts when we have a lot of gender neutral big things..

ebp913 · October 2013

PALGal said:

I didn't want one because I am having another boy but my church insists because "Every baby is worth celebrating". I am told it will be a diaper party.

I don't get this logic at all. Not trying to pick on you in particular but I see this all the time. Uhhhh, the baby doesn't know what the heck is going on so masking it under the guise of a party for the baby is so ridiculous to me.

I was offered a shower for #2 and turned it down. I was not about to make people do that planning and gift giving all over again 1 year after they had just done it.

PALGal · October 2013

I am not offended. I didn't want one but they are doing it anyway. They didn't even ask me what day to do it, just picked a day and my family can't even come and we use cloth diapers.

ebp913 · October 2013

PALGal said:

I am not offended. I didn't want one but they are doing it anyway. They didn't even ask me what day to do it, just picked a day and my family can't even come and we use cloth diapers.

hahaha some people just have to throw showers! That's pretty funny.

lzmac11 · October 2013

I ended up with 3 showers for my DS. Because DS and this baby are so close together, if anyone asked to throw us a shower I would ask them to opt for a "meet and greet" type party instead with no gifts/not mandatory.

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