I know it's more common lately to have a second baby shower for your second child, but I feel like I JUST had my first shower (DD1 is 13 months). I don't want to look greedy, but i'd only be asking for a few things. Like a rumble seat for my Uppababy, a new car seat, etc. What are your thoughts? Is it ok to have a second smaller shower for baby number 2?
I wouldn't. If people specifically ask if there is anything you need for the new baby, you can tell them, but I wouldn't have a second shower. It just seems gift grabby to me. I also wouldn't ask for the big ticket items like car seats unless someone specifically comes to us saying they want to buy us something big, but that's just me.
Mama to two sweet girls DD1 Feb 2010 DD2 Sept 2011
My friend who threw my first baby shower is all excited to throw me another one now that I am pregnant with #2 (my DD is also 13 months). I am not comfortable with the idea, but I think as a compromise we may have a small lunch with the closest friends and encourage people to bring a frozen meal or meal-in-a-bag for me to use after #2 arrives instead of a gift. It will be fun to celebrate this special time with my closest friends, and some prepared meals will help me way more than any gifts would.
You should check out the 2nd trimester board. There was recently a verrrry long thread about this. Really I think it depends on your family and social circle. I would never ask for another shower to be thrown for me (as I didn't with DD the first time around). I certainly wouldn't expect one either. However, I have friends who have families that live for showers and would throw one for every baby born into their family. If that's the case, I might go with it, but try to keep it small and probably only have family come. I wouldn't want my friends who came to a shower for me a year or so ago come to another and feel obligated to bring a gift.
That being said, I have made two (private) registries. (and might make a third....) I have made one on amazon and at babies r us for the completion discounts and to keep track of what I want to buy for DS. I'm considering making one at Target also b/c I just found a coupon where you can get a $20 gift card for making a registry. Yay! Lol.
The common suggestion if you don't want another shower is to have a sip n see once your second is here. That way your baby can be celebrated and if people want to give you a gift they can bring one without feeling obligated like they probably would at a shower.
I'm due in Dec. with my 3rd. My first 2 were 3.5 years apart a boy & a girl, my friends & family insisted on throwing a second shower and it was nice so many people came! I obviously wouldn't have a 3rd shower, even if these two weren't 17 months apart... But I do want to have a lil Meet & Greet or Sip N' See "thing" So after the holidays I'm inviting the girls over for appetizers & wine and some hot beverages to meet the baby and catch up! I'm thinking 2 hours on a Sunday and people can come & go as they please, very informal and "the only gift needed is your presence" kind of thing. Just to introduce baby & see my ladies again! They've all been saying, you better let us come by & see her! So i think this will work!
Maybe something similar may work for you? No need for gifts, just a hello! And whether you have a shower or not, those that want to treat you to a gift will...
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How did it become common in the last yr to have a 2nd baby shower? Just curious... I had my dd 13 months ago and I don't expect my mom to throw me another shower at all this time or have my friends and family give me more gifts when we have a lot of gender neutral big things..
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didn't want one because I am having another boy but my church insists because
"Every baby is worth celebrating". I am told it will be a diaper party.
I don't get this logic at all. Not trying to pick on you in particular but I see this all the time. Uhhhh, the baby doesn't know what the heck is going on so masking it under the guise of a party for the baby is so ridiculous to me.
I was offered a shower for #2 and turned it down. I was not about to make people do that planning and gift giving all over again 1 year after they had just done it.
We were 2 under 2, now 3 under 3!
Team Green turned Team Pink with #1, Team Green turned Team Blue with #2, Team Green turned Team Pink again with #3
I am not offended. I didn't want one but they are doing it anyway. They didn't even ask me what day to do it, just picked a day and my family can't even come and we use cloth diapers.
I am not offended. I didn't want one but they are doing it anyway. They didn't even ask me what day to do it, just picked a day and my family can't even come and we use cloth diapers.
hahaha some people just have to throw showers! That's pretty funny.
We were 2 under 2, now 3 under 3!
Team Green turned Team Pink with #1, Team Green turned Team Blue with #2, Team Green turned Team Pink again with #3
I ended up with 3 showers for my DS. Because DS and this baby are so close together, if anyone asked to throw us a shower I would ask them to opt for a "meet and greet" type party instead with no gifts/not mandatory.
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DD1 Feb 2010
DD2 Sept 2011
I didn't want one because I am having another boy but my church insists because "Every baby is worth celebrating". I am told it will be a diaper party.<?xml:namespace prefix = o ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:office" />
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