BirthPlan -Who are you allowing while in L&D ?

vargasgurl · September 2013

This is something to add to your Birth Plan ... I am so glad my SIL asked me if She can be with me while I was delivering ... She's a yoga instructor and wants to help me w my breathing. Although I appreciate the gesture ... I don't want a team of family members Cheering me on as I push! She actually said " you might want people cheering you along " HUH? uhm ... No thank you! She also said that she wouldn't take photos like her mom did ! I think that would be too much for me & I expressed that to her . I just want my husband and the Drs there , she can pass by before and after I deliver That Baby. I am glad she offered because that goes right into my Birthplan ... No one but Husband and staff allowed during LABOR! Who are you allowing in your room while you deliver ... I'm curious

danandkam · September 2013

I will have DH, my mom, and my MIL if she makes it before I deliver. She is almost 4 hours away.

PharmDMom · September 2013

DH and my mom. Worked well the first time so I'm doing the same this time around. My mom and I are close and DH is totally supportive of her being there.

cdbayes · September 2013

DH was the only one allowed with #1 and will be the same with this LO.

lolob45 · September 2013

Just my hubby, but i'm having a c-section. However, before that was confirmed we discussed how we wanted it to be a special moment just for the two of us. I know my mom and I are so close and although she wouldn't overstep, it may make my hubby feel a little bit like the 3rd wheel.... plus, if my mom is in there then i'm sure i'd get the guilt trip from his mom.

I did put in my birth plan that if my LO needs to go to the NICU or be away from me at any point in time during recovery that my husband is supposed to remain with her and my mom is to be pulled into recovery to sit with me. I can't imagine sitting there alone not knowing what's going on with my LO.

trackgirlparis · September 2013

Just DH and my mom

PongoLePond · September 2013

Just my BF and the doctors/nurses. I don't want anyone in there that isn't 100% necessary. I feel like this is a special moment between mother, father, and baby so no one but them should be allowed to take part.

Mae208 · September 2013

For sure only DH. I would consider my mom, but then I would feel guilty for not inviting my MIL and there's no way I'm inviting her.

I loved having just me and DH tho. It was such a special and sacred experience to share together.

Mama2be12345 · September 2013

Just DH and my mom. I figure DH will help me as I labor and mom will come in and out then stay at the end.

lbethke99 · September 2013

Just my husband- this is how it was when I had DS and it was the best for us! My theory is if you werent there when the baby was made (except for medical personal) then you dont get to be there for L&D.

Patricehall78 · September 2013

Just me and DH. No one else (besides medical personnel) need to see my lady bits! Lol

vargasgurl · September 2013

Patricehall78 said:

Just me and DH. No one else (besides medical personnel) need to see my lady bits! Lol

Or photograph them !

Patricehall78 · September 2013

True that! Lol

10-4LilBuddy · September 2013

Just me and hubby and med staff since I'm having c section. DH and I got into a mini-argument bc he said his parents would want to be at the hospital waiting room. They have already committed to watching my 10 yo stepdaughter. They need to stay at home with her. Besides, it looks like our babies will most likely go to the NICU as they will be early and the grandparents will certainly not be allowed to go there before me.

CousinVicki · September 2013

NRyan55 said:

Just my husband- this is how it was when I had DS and it was the best for us! My theory is if you werent there when the baby was made (except for medical personal) then you dont get to be there for L&D.
That could get awkward (and crowded) for @CousinVicki and the other in vitro ladies!

yes, i am inviting my RE, the embryologist, two RE nurses, the anesthesiologist, a phlebotomist, an ultrasound tech and a really nice receptionist.

norbert5 · September 2013

Just DH and I. Anyone else can visit after I am recovery but DH and I prefer the quiet of it just being us and the medical staff in the delivery room.

MegN423 · September 2013

Just DH and I. I know I am most comfortable that way.

jnsmith85 · September 2013

Just H and I. My mom and MIL are welcome in there until things get serious, then they will get the boot!

kellyk17 · September 2013

Husband and doula only. I also put on my birth plan no extra staff like residents or fellows. Only necessary staff.

CousinVicki · September 2013

my mom and MIL were in there during early stages, but i was still ok then, able to talk etc. then once i got the epidural i was totalllllllllly fine and other people came in on and off (dad, FIL, etc..) i was chatty and feeling fine. once i transitioned though all bets were off and it was just me and DH.

alfan004 · September 2013

Mae208 said:

For sure only DH. I would consider my mom, but then I would feel guilty for not inviting my MIL and there's no way I'm inviting her. I loved having just me and DH tho. It was such a special and sacred experience to share together.

This exactly! Wouldn't mind my mom but my MIL pisses me off and I don't feel like dealing with her "it's not fair" rant if one was in there and the other wasn't. My mom was really understanding and totally okay with it just being me and DH.

bnikiz · September 2013

Dh and doctors/nurses. My grandma or fil will be in town to watch dd. Im ok with people being there untill i start pushing then everyone gets kicked out lol

chelseyestelle · September 2013

Just my husband I think. My mom will be in the waiting room and if I decide I need her too I will call her in. But she's cool waiting. She said it'd be awesome to be in there and to experience it but she also doesn't want to see me in that much pain. We will see what happens.

Ajoyd · September 2013

DH only. My parents are driving in from 7 hours away. Depending on what kind of shape I'm in when they get there they can come back and say hello but when go time nears it is just DH.

ohkay · September 2013

FI and my mama.

cvjoyner · September 2013

I'm only having my FI and my mom.

mancila60 · September 2013

More than likely Imwill be having a csection so just H. We also talk about this before the csection came up and were still going to have it just be H and I. However my mom will be the first in the room afterwards and like a PP said if something happens with the baby then H is to go with him and I would like my mom to be with me.

nothinbutgrace11 · September 2013

yup just the BF if he makes it back from deployment in time if not.. my mom

Life is Exciting · September 2013

Just DH. I'm hypnobirthing and don't want extra distractions. I also really want this to be an intimate moment for our new family.

Chrisanna0508 · September 2013

Just DH. Amazingly, since she is normally a control freak, my mom is completely fine being in the waiting room. I don't know if they (mom and dad) will come into the room earlier in labor. Probably depends on how long I am able to labor at home.

Gatorsgirl731 · September 2013

DH and my mom. I need DH there for the support, and mom will be capturing the unmessy moments with the camera and backing DH up.

TashnBabii · September 2013

Only my husband and the doctors and staff who will help deliver my baby. I didn't even bother asking the hospital how many people they allow in the delivery room because I only want one - my husband. He helped to make the baby, so he can help support me while I am pushing him out! haha

chicsahm · September 2013

Just Me, DH, and needed staff... Like with DS, as soon as I was in pain and I had to focus on my breathing, everyone was OUT! I had my relaxing music and DH to support me and that is all I needed. Once I got Epi all I wanted to do was sleep and then it was time to push.... it takes a lot out of you, you don't want to be thinking about anything else.

LetsGoToDisney · September 2013

If everything goes safely, then just husband. If I need an emergency c-section then I get my husband and father in the OR and husband will stay with our baby while my Dad will stay with me.

jen-and-ryon · September 2013

My husband only.

RedZee · September 2013

DH and doctors/nurses. It's a really private moment and there is no one I would have the patience for anyway.

Emilyraymond · September 2013

Just me and my husband. The same as with my son. I didn't care who was in there prior but when It was time to push, everyone but him went out

vargasgurl · September 2013

This is what I'm thinking ... It's my first and I have no idea how I will be once I hit the point of no return! So they have to be out once I am ready to push. I'm afraid I might tell people to Go Eff themselves ! I need to stay focused.

Foutzie44 · September 2013

I will have DH, My mom and MIL in with me while laboring....I am attempting a natural vbac so I want the support while laboring...Once push time comes, everyone out but DH...I want the birth and hour following to be our time! Plus, we are team green and I really want finding out to be something special for just us 2!!