Sleepovers with 2?

AFanch1127 · September 2013

Hey all; I haven't been around in ages so I'm hoping someone recognizes me. I'm coming out of lurking for a quick question for those of you mommas with 2 LO's.
DH has his panties in a wad because I have continuing education for work on the Saturday morning of opening deer season here in IN (read: big deal). He's thinking he wants us to try to have both LO's (J will be barely 1 and L will be a week shy of 3) sleep at my parents house for the night. L has stayed there but not since J was born. J stayed there a few weeks ago and did not sleep the greatest. I'm having a hard time imagining how it will all work since they both typically sleep with my mom when they stay over. They have never spent the night there at the same time.
Do those of you with 2 take advantage of offers from friends/family to keep LO's overnight? If so, can you give me some tips? I trust my parents completely to care for them but I just think it sounds like it might be a poor night's sleep for all parties involved.
I hope this works okay, it's my first time posting since all the format changes!

AFanch1127 · September 2013

Since I'm here I decided to try out the photo function & see if I can make it work! Here's me and the girls at the park a few weeks ago.

sdpookie13 · September 2013

I say give it a shot! You'll never know until you try and if your parents are willing then why not. The worst that would happen is that no one gets sleep and is cranky the next day. You'll deal with it and they'll probably make it up at nap time.

Just prepare for crankiness and maybe you'll be pleasantly surprised!

lrn327 · September 2013

If you feel confident with your parents then I'd definitely go for it! They'll all be just fine! :-)

lrn327 · September 2013

And you all look beautiful and I'm happy to see you back!

babycakes · September 2013

I agree with the others about giving it a try but just warn your parents they (meaning them, your parents lol) may not sleep that night lol. And maybe the more times you try, the more your LOs will get used to it and in the future it won't be a problem if a double sleepover needs to happen.

For me, though, I wouldn't even attempt it lol. G had never slept anywhere else but home. And same goes with B. If DH and I are both out late, we get someone to stay at our house til we get home. And we've never gone anywhere that requires an overnight stay. I'm chicken.

TMNTgirl · September 2013

Go for it!

We do it all the time. But my mom and MIL also watch the boys 1-2 days a week for me (sometimes at my house, sometimes their house) when I work, so the boys are very comfortable with all their grandparents and the grandparents really know the boys schedules, etc.

Both the kids STTN about 90% of the time at the grandparents house. And whenever I worry about it both my mom and MIL both have said to me not to since they get to sleep in as much as they want as retired ladies, one night of "off" sleep doesn't kill them.

We live about 15 mins away form both sets of grandparents, they babysit for us all the time and both boys spend the night away from home at least 1-2 times a month. We are just really lucky to have such supportive parents who love to spoil their only grandchildren and give us new parents much needed breaks. We've been doing it since both boys were really young, so they are used to it.

jnicolen1 · September 2013

i would be nervous, but thats because 1) my boys are SUPER picky sleepers. 2) i dont really trust our parents to respect bedtime.

my husband would tell me that even if they sleep poorly, its only one night and everyone will live.

good luck whatever you decide!

AFanch1127 · September 2013

My kids are super picky sleepers, too! I know they won't sleep well, but part of me thinks maybe it's a good idea to get them used to it... hrm

jnicolen1 said:

i would be nervous, but thats because 1) my boys are SUPER picky sleepers. 2) i dont really trust our parents to respect bedtime.
my husband would tell me that even if they sleep poorly, its only one night and everyone will live.

good luck whatever you decide!

AFanch1127 · September 2013

TMNTgirl said:

Go for it!
We do it all the time. But my mom and MIL also watch the boys 1-2 days a week for me (sometimes at my house, sometimes their house) when I work, so the boys are very comfortable with all their grandparents and the grandparents really know the boys schedules, etc.
Both the kids STTN about 90% of the time at the grandparents house. And whenever I worry about it both my mom and MIL both have said to me not to since they get to sleep in as much as they want as retired ladies, one night of "off" sleep doesn't kill them.

We live about 15 mins away form both sets of grandparents, they babysit for us all the time and both boys spend the night away from home at least 1-2 times a month. We are just really lucky to have such supportive parents who love to spoil their only grandchildren and give us new parents much needed breaks. We've been doing it since both boys were really young, so they are used to it.

My parents watch my kids at least twice a week. They are totally comfortable at my parents' house; it's just that I'm not sure they will sleep at night. L was supposed to sleep over at my IL's a few weeks ago and we ended up having to pick her up around midnight. She wasn't upset, but she wasn't going to sleep either! I think we'll probably try it if my parents feel up to the challenge!

chickaboo1974 · September 2013

Honestly- no I wouldn't. Depending on the situation with your parents and how your kids are- it could be terrible for all involved. There is NO WAY my parents would be able to keep up with my two- and while my kids are great sleepers at home- they sleep like crap away from home and throw in not having mom and dad around.... nope not gonna happen.

I would ask one of my sisters before I would drop them off with my parents.

I grew up in rural Indiana- yes I know what "deer season" is and know what- it is NOT just one day... so I think your Dh needs to pick that wad out.

enjoylife · September 2013

If the idea of a sleepover was from either sets of grandparents I would say sure....but with the warning that they be aware they don't sleep as well away from home.

If we are needing someone for an overnight stay/childcare help we ask someone to stay at our house. That way the boys are in their own routines and environment and easier on whoever is watching them. We have had both my sister and my mom do this arrangement in the last year to help us in a bind. Our kiddos haven't done overnights anywhere else without us since 1- neither my sister's or my mom's place is childproofed adequately that I wouldn't worry incessantly unless the boys were a lot older and 2- J is a super picky sleeper and still doesn't sttn consistently but doesn't bed share either so it's a rough night all around if he sleeps anywhere else but his OWN crib.

KissyFishyLips · September 2013

Our girls have slept at our parents' house a bunch of times, as well as away on vacation. We're usually there, but sometimes we're not.
We always pack the video monitors, and we sleep them in separate rooms -- only b/c they don't sleep well together yet (they keep each other up and just want to play the whole time).
DD1 sleeps either in a converted crib or on an air mattress in one room, and DD2 sleeps in a PnP in another room.

Do it!

missmuffin87 · September 2013

I would go for it. Hazel stays with my parents quite often, and I won't hesitate to let them take Henry too for overnights when he's older (at least 1yo). Even if your kids don't get great sleep, it's just one night and if your parents are willing and know what they are getting themselves into then I don't see a problem.

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