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May 2014 January Siggy Challenge:
How much (if any) PTO do you give your part time nanny?
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Does she get paid holidays, too?
My nanny is 3 days a week. Our relationship is very informal and I am pretty laid back on things. So far, we have given her at least 50 hours of PTO and she has only worked for us 3.5 months. I paid her yesterday for the first half of the month and it became apparent that she also expects to be paid for all holidays (even if I need her to work and she requests off and i have to get other childcare) and days she requests off, too, where I have to pay for other child care. On the holiday issue, I could maybe understand days like Thanksgiving, Christmas, etc. But DH and I are not a fortune 500 company and giving her 20 to 30 days of PTO a year just seems excessive when she is only part time. Frankly, I have never worked anywhere in my life that gave part time, hourly employees paid holidays and pto.
So...how do you handle paid vacation, holidays, etc? Obviously our informal relationship is going to have to be formalized. What is normal for part time? We already pay her very well IMO for just one easy child. She makes more than I do an hour than what I make after I pay her and I am an attorney!
My nanny is 3 days a week. Our relationship is very informal and I am pretty laid back on things. So far, we have given her at least 50 hours of PTO and she has only worked for us 3.5 months. I paid her yesterday for the first half of the month and it became apparent that she also expects to be paid for all holidays (even if I need her to work and she requests off and i have to get other childcare) and days she requests off, too, where I have to pay for other child care. On the holiday issue, I could maybe understand days like Thanksgiving, Christmas, etc. But DH and I are not a fortune 500 company and giving her 20 to 30 days of PTO a year just seems excessive when she is only part time. Frankly, I have never worked anywhere in my life that gave part time, hourly employees paid holidays and pto.
So...how do you handle paid vacation, holidays, etc? Obviously our informal relationship is going to have to be formalized. What is normal for part time? We already pay her very well IMO for just one easy child. She makes more than I do an hour than what I make after I pay her and I am an attorney!
IF DX: DOR & Fragile X pre-mutation carrier
2011: FSH 13.3 & E 99; AMH 0.54 2nd FSH 6.2 E 40's AFC: 8
BFP from Clomid/IUI ~ Pre-e and IUGR during pregnancy ~ DS born 9/4/12
Feb./March 2013: AMH less than 0.16 (undectable) and AFC = 4;
BFP from supps ~ DS#2 due May 2014
2011: FSH 13.3 & E 99; AMH 0.54 2nd FSH 6.2 E 40's AFC: 8
BFP from Clomid/IUI ~ Pre-e and IUGR during pregnancy ~ DS born 9/4/12
Feb./March 2013: AMH less than 0.16 (undectable) and AFC = 4;
BFP from supps ~ DS#2 due May 2014
May 2014 January Siggy Challenge:
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Re: How much (if any) PTO do you give your part time nanny?
2011: FSH 13.3 & E 99; AMH 0.54 2nd FSH 6.2 E 40's AFC: 8
BFP from Clomid/IUI ~ Pre-e and IUGR during pregnancy ~ DS born 9/4/12
Feb./March 2013: AMH less than 0.16 (undectable) and AFC = 4;
BFP from supps ~ DS#2 due May 2014
May 2014 January Siggy Challenge:
2011: FSH 13.3 & E 99; AMH 0.54 2nd FSH 6.2 E 40's AFC: 8
BFP from Clomid/IUI ~ Pre-e and IUGR during pregnancy ~ DS born 9/4/12
Feb./March 2013: AMH less than 0.16 (undectable) and AFC = 4;
BFP from supps ~ DS#2 due May 2014
May 2014 January Siggy Challenge:
We had a big problem with our first nanny and PTO. Even though we laid everything out for her, she ended up taking more than 2 weeks unpaid in addition to the 3 weeks paid. She was very angry with us for not paying her for the additional 2 weeks. That, and her feeling that she was owed more money despite earning a wage on the very high end for our COL and one kid, ultimately led to her quitting. I'd try to nail this down if I were you, even if it's more of an informal relationship.
Good luck!!!
2011: FSH 13.3 & E 99; AMH 0.54 2nd FSH 6.2 E 40's AFC: 8
BFP from Clomid/IUI ~ Pre-e and IUGR during pregnancy ~ DS born 9/4/12
Feb./March 2013: AMH less than 0.16 (undectable) and AFC = 4;
BFP from supps ~ DS#2 due May 2014
May 2014 January Siggy Challenge:
2011: FSH 13.3 & E 99; AMH 0.54 2nd FSH 6.2 E 40's AFC: 8
BFP from Clomid/IUI ~ Pre-e and IUGR during pregnancy ~ DS born 9/4/12
Feb./March 2013: AMH less than 0.16 (undectable) and AFC = 4;
BFP from supps ~ DS#2 due May 2014
May 2014 January Siggy Challenge:
As an aside, she is a good employee. She is great with DS. Always on time. Helps out around the house. I don't want to lose her. Especially because I am pregnant with number 2. But there are also certain things we just can't do because they don't make financial sense. I like the idea of giving her pto for the days she doesn't work because of us (ie we take vacation) and giving her major holidays that fall on a normal work day. Giving her the above would probably by itself amount to 12 to 15 days of pto a year.
2011: FSH 13.3 & E 99; AMH 0.54 2nd FSH 6.2 E 40's AFC: 8
BFP from Clomid/IUI ~ Pre-e and IUGR during pregnancy ~ DS born 9/4/12
Feb./March 2013: AMH less than 0.16 (undectable) and AFC = 4;
BFP from supps ~ DS#2 due May 2014
May 2014 January Siggy Challenge:
I have looked into daycare extensively but there is nothing in the area I feel comfortable with or that meets our needs... and with the latest bouts of colds and croup that has run through our house (and with number 2 on the way), I think we will definitely be sticking with a nanny. If for some reason we parted ways with this one, we would probably still look for another.
2011: FSH 13.3 & E 99; AMH 0.54 2nd FSH 6.2 E 40's AFC: 8
BFP from Clomid/IUI ~ Pre-e and IUGR during pregnancy ~ DS born 9/4/12
Feb./March 2013: AMH less than 0.16 (undectable) and AFC = 4;
BFP from supps ~ DS#2 due May 2014
May 2014 January Siggy Challenge:
2011: FSH 13.3 & E 99; AMH 0.54 2nd FSH 6.2 E 40's AFC: 8
BFP from Clomid/IUI ~ Pre-e and IUGR during pregnancy ~ DS born 9/4/12
Feb./March 2013: AMH less than 0.16 (undectable) and AFC = 4;
BFP from supps ~ DS#2 due May 2014
May 2014 January Siggy Challenge:
I think I understand what JellyBelly was trying to say. You have posted on here numerous times about how you work way more hours than your PT agreement, do not receive any extra pay, got almost no bonus last year, and are getting stuck paying your nanny on your "off days" when you are not being paid. You also got no maternity pay, which is not typical in your field. Your boss is treating you like shit. So maybe you are not a "pushover" but you are being taken advantage of.
I know I am just an internet stranger, but it sounds to me that you need a new job and a daycare center.
I think I understand what JellyBelly was trying to say. You have posted on here numerous times about how you work way more hours than your PT agreement, do not receive any extra pay, got almost no bonus last year, and are getting stuck paying your nanny on your "off days" when you are not being paid. You also got no maternity pay, which is not typical in your field. Your boss is treating you like shit. So maybe you are not a "pushover" but you are being taken advantage of.
I know I am just an internet stranger, but it sounds to me that you need a new job and a daycare center.
I posted on here asking for advice on talking to him months ago. I did and things have gotten better. My work load has been lightened significantly since I confronted the issue. I think there has been only 1 extra day I have worked since May and then I got/took a comp day off. How is that being a pushover?As an aside, i am pretty sure I have not posted about this since shortly after Mother's Day...
Regardless of whether you or anyone else thinks my boss treats me poorly, I am at my job for two important reasons:
1. It is close to my home. I spent 4 years spending 1.5 to 2 hours a day in traffic commuting to downtown Houston.Now my commute is a fraction of that. More time to spend with my son...for me that is priceless!
2. It allows me to work part time which is very, very rare in the field of commercial litigation. Again, for me, that is priceless.
While I appreciate your passionate concern for how you think I am being treated, I don't think leaving my job and sacrificing the aforementioned would increase my quality of life (or my family's) or my overall happiness. Life is about choices. Just because I make different ones than someone else would make doesn't make those choices wrong.
2011: FSH 13.3 & E 99; AMH 0.54 2nd FSH 6.2 E 40's AFC: 8
BFP from Clomid/IUI ~ Pre-e and IUGR during pregnancy ~ DS born 9/4/12
Feb./March 2013: AMH less than 0.16 (undectable) and AFC = 4;
BFP from supps ~ DS#2 due May 2014
May 2014 January Siggy Challenge:
Started dating February 6, 2012
Yikes, are you supposed to give PTO to nannies? I haven't been. If you don't work, you don't get paid. My nanny is only part-time. Part-time employers normally don't give benefits so neither would I.
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