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tacky to have same people at both showers?

Knottie1448927774Knottie1448927774 member
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so, my mom and dh's mom are both hosting showers for me. problem is, they dont get along--AT ALL. they wont even be in the same room together.

so, obviously, dh's mom's shower is going to be all of his fam and my mom's shower is going to be all of my fam. im wondering where friends/coworkers/neighbors/etc fall into placement. they all know eachother, and so to split everyone up between two showers seems weird but it also seems like it might be tacky to invite people to two showers within a month of eachother.

thoughts? suggestions?

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Re: tacky to have same people at both showers?

  • ZetaGirl22ZetaGirl22

    If it were me, I'd give them both dates, and the option of attending either or, as long as they let you know ahead of time. This way you have a better chance of more people showing up.

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  • beth thackerbeth thacker

    I'm kind of having the same problem.

    My boyfriend says his mom his having me a baby shower and my sister is also throwing me one but they dont know each other so it'd be awkward to just have one big shower and I dont know which one i should invite my friends too. I know its way to early for me to be thinking of the baby shower but since it was mentioned..

     I just figured i'd invite my friends to the shower that will have the least people coming too most likely but I also feel rude if i invite them to one and not the other. I just dont know...

    maybe give them an invitation to both and let them decide which to come too.. ?? hmm.

     

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  • LovesGreenBayLovesGreenBay

    Do your friends know your side better than DHs?  I would probably invite them to your mom's shower.

    That sucks that they can't even be in the same room with eachother?  What's going to happen on birthdays and such??

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  • Mistress_SeraphMistress_Seraph

    Let them all know that there are two showers and let them pick which one to attend.

     Or, invite all the friends to one shower and leave the second shower for that side of the family only.  Like a VIP Baby shower...LOL

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  • DNK777DNK777 member
    What ever you do, don't invite them to both showers.  I'd probably just pick on and invite everyone else, or invite coworkers to one and friends to the other one.  Is one going to be held at a bigger place than the other?
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  • Kyla SiscoKyla Sisco
    imageZetaGirl22:

    If it were me, I'd give them both dates, and the option of attending either or, as long as they let you know ahead of time. This way you have a better chance of more people showing up.

    Ditto

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  • Knottie1448927774Knottie1448927774 member
    i know, i have had the same concerns about birthdays, recitals, graduations...all those things. i guess they are just going to have to deal. they were fine with the wedding, because it was over 200 people and they didnt even really see eachother, but they both say with a 'small intimate setting' they are uncomfortable and refuse to do it. argghhh. makes me life so stressful.
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  • amberwcamberwc
    Who's going to throw the shower that is more fun?  That's the one I would want my friends at. Not the one that inside I'm dreading going to.
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  • Knottie1448927774Knottie1448927774 member
    imagemama2beof2:
    imageZetaGirl22:

    If it were me, I'd give them both dates, and the option of attending either or, as long as they let you know ahead of time. This way you have a better chance of more people showing up.

    Ditto

    how do i do that with invites? give them the dates ahead of time, before invites go out?

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  • The_Jen626The_Jen626

    LOL, why do they hate each other so bad?  We need more background!

    I would pick whichever shower you would have more fun at, and invite your friends/coworkers to that shower only.

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  • Temp865949250007475Temp865949250007475
    I wouldn't have them come to both... are there distinct groups, like work friends and friend friends?  if so, you could divide like that?  otherwise, I would just pick one.  I am inviting friends to the shower my mom/sister are throwing, not the in law one.
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