FFFC

redneckmomma25 · September 2013

BobKat22 said:
I don't care to pay extra to keep my car running better and longer. I only keep them for a few years. By time it becomes a problem, it won't be mine.

You missed my point. You are paying more because you are not getting optimal gas mileage by using cheap shit. You get less gas mileage, therefore higher fuel consumption. Higher fuel consumption means higher demand for gas means gas prices stay higher. Maintenance wise, I get.

Ok. I am off my soap box.

Cheenomae · September 2013

Eastie156 said:

LoisLayn23 said:

Eastie156 said:

Sometimes I think I'm never going to be happy "enough". I always want more in relationships, friendships, education, work. I'm wish I could just stop and feel content. Be happy with who I am, what I have and what I've accomplished, instead of worrying about what I haven't done.

I'm the same way. It's hard sometimes.

It's this unsettling feeling. I don't think about it all the time, but when I stop and reflect, I wonder why I can't just.be.content.

I think most people feel this way at different points in their lives or most points in their lives. Just so few people talk about it. You definitely aren't alone!

BillyMollyEmmy · September 2013

TheAnne said:

BillyMollyEmmy said:

I am really bitter toward my H right now.

He is working 20-ish hours a week... and I am working 40+.

Yet, he gets to have the nice, warm car to go to work in, and I have to ride my bike in 50 degree weather because we only have one car to help us budget.

Granted, he obviously cannot ride a bike to work, as it's too far - but what the hell am I supposed to do in the winter?! Put chains on my bike tires??

He hasn't even entertained the idea of getting me a car. I practically BEGGED for an electric scooter just so I have something to drive around town on... but he hasn't budged on that, either.

So I am working two jobs, making the most money in the household, yet I get screwed. How does this compute?

whoa... why is it just his decision? take the car one morning and I bet he'll change his tune.

He's trying to hold out for his workplace to get a new contract so he'll have more hours and make more money. That's what I think he is waiting for. But we are forever waiting for that stupid place to pick up, and I am tired of it. He is a manager there, and he has worked his way up, so he is afraid to venture out and start over. I get that. At the same time, I need a vehicle to take my child to doctor's appointments, go to work, get groceries, etc. and he just seems to shrug it off. I even fell OFF my bike and bruised the shit out of my leg and his attitude was like "yikes! You need to be more careful"... well maybe I wouldn't fall off my goddamn bike if I wasn't trying to cross a three-lane provincial highway every day to get to work!

/rant.

Cheenomae · September 2013

1. I give still only give Mason a bath every 3 or 4 days.

2. I had severe PPD after both my kids were born. My PPD with each kid was incredibly different. I talk about it to people probably to a fault because I feel like people don't talk about it enough and are lying about if they have/had it (not every mom is lying, obviously). I realize now 4 years and a year later that many people don't actually care if you had PPD unless they are currently going through something similar.

I just wish more people talked about it before I had babies so I was trying to do that for someone else...anyone. I'm done though unless someone asks.

Edit: To be clear, I'm not fishing. I'm just saying I'm surprised that even through all my talking about PPD I'm probably just annoying my friends instead of opening others up for the discussion.

BillyMollyEmmy · September 2013

LoisLayn23 said:

You wouldn't fall off your bike if you were in a car, stupid husband.

Can you just come to my house and explain this to him, please?

hmp1 · September 2013

redneckmomma25 said:

redneckmomma25 said:

1) I put cheap gas in my car.

2) I get my oil changed at Jiffy Lube for $20, it's done in 6 minutes and I get a free car wash.

These hurt my heart. ETA: yeah, I care more about your car than evil men's death.
I feign ignorance. But we take our cars to a good family friend for everything. He's just got so much business the last couple years that it takes forever to get in for routine stuff.
I get that. I just wouldn't do EVERY oil change there. I would make sure a real mechanic is under your car at least every other. Cheap gas can lead to worse gas mileage, more engine gunk build up causing even worse gas mileage and more maintenance. That's the short of it.

I know nothing about cars. We take ours to the dealership for oil changes because it is free. Is that considered a real mechanic?

I get gas at Kroger because I get 40-50 cents off a gallon. I haven't paid much over $3 a gallon in a while.

Flamingemu · September 2013

hmp1 said:

willy_gert said:

While the birthday posts are getting like the "my baby is here!" posts got a year ago, damnit I am going to AW our party on Monday. Twofer: Luci has the same b-day as my wicked step mom. I just found out last night that my step mom is throwing a fit and making my dad stay away from us longer today because its her birthday too. WTF? I see my dad maybe three times a year and she is going to take away part of one of our days and my kids first birthday because its her 50 something birthday? I call selfish!

I feel like hardly anyone is awing their party. I want to see more parties, damn it!

I never AWs L's party. She has some cute cupcake face! But, I have no idea how to make pics smaller without uploading to tinypic or photobucket and I can't use those sites during the day.

danabsd · September 2013

hmp1 said:

willy_gert said:

While the birthday posts are getting like the "my baby is here!" posts got a year ago, damnit I am going to AW our party on Monday.

Twofer: Luci has the same b-day as my wicked step mom. I just found out last night that my step mom is throwing a fit and making my dad stay away from us longer today because its her birthday too. WTF? I see my dad maybe three times a year and she is going to take away part of one of our days and my kids first birthday because its her 50 something birthday? I call selfish!

I feel like hardly anyone is awing their party. I want to see more parties, damn it!
Ha, I considered it because I was excited at how everything turned out but then I thought nah, people get so annoyed with those.

Cheenomae · September 2013

thechimichanga said:

I kicked a 20 something year old engineer out of my office this morning. And I may have said something along the lines of, get the hell out of my office you little prick.

If you saw the news, the boardwalk burned last night. 3 close family friends lost their businesses, no more than 5 months after they pieced them back together.

Burning the snookie out of the town is not funny...and I may tell his boss.

Wow, so sorry. You guys definitely need a break!!

hmp1 · September 2013

SpoofLeJones said:

I can't get past the "my husband won't let me so I have to do xyz" thing. If he's not willing to sacrifice too, fuck him. Seriously? MH and I make decisions together, so I get the "he doesn't agree so we're waiting to buy" thing, but if he isn't willing to sacrifice/compromise, then it isn't his decision anymore. I'm sure that's an popular opinion.

Yep. I don't consider a car a luxury item when you live in a place as cold as Canada. He is taking a stand for no car. You need to take a stand and get a car. Let him know that this is your priority and you are going to make it happen.

BillyMollyEmmy · September 2013

SpoofLeJones said:

I can't get past the "my husband won't let me so I have to do xyz" thing. If he's not willing to sacrifice too, fuck him. Seriously? MH and I make decisions together, so I get the "he doesn't agree so we're waiting to buy" thing, but if he isn't willing to sacrifice/compromise, then it isn't his decision anymore. I'm sure that's an popular opinion.

I completely agree with this, which is why I am getting fed up. He's not normally like this at all, FTR. I'm just not sure why he doesn't really want to talk about it, because I've brought it up a few times now.

MommaP12 · September 2013

LoisLayn23 said:

Eastie156 said:

Sometimes I think I'm never going to be happy "enough". I always want more in relationships, friendships, education, work. I'm wish I could just stop and feel content. Be happy with who I am, what I have and what I've accomplished, instead of worrying about what I haven't done.

I'm the same way. It's hard sometimes.

I'm the same way. And I'm always comparing myself to others and not measuring up. I hate it and try to remind myself "Comparison is the theif of joy" but it doesn't work. I have everything I need, but am always thinking about things I want or how things should be better/different. It's exhausting.

INmommy871278 · September 2013

hmp1 said:

redneckmomma25 said:

LoisLayn23 said:

redneckmomma25 said:

LoisLayn23 said:

1) I put cheap gas in my car.

2) I get my oil changed at Jiffy Lube for $20, it's done in 6 minutes and I get a free car wash.

These hurt my heart. ETA: yeah, I care more about your car than evil men's death.
I feign ignorance. But we take our cars to a good family friend for everything. He's just got so much business the last couple years that it takes forever to get in for routine stuff.
I get that. I just wouldn't do EVERY oil change there. I would make sure a real mechanic is under your car at least every other.

Cheap gas can lead to worse gas mileage, more engine gunk build up causing even worse gas mileage and more maintenance. That's the short of it.

I know nothing about cars. We take ours to the dealership for oil changes because it is free. Is that considered a real mechanic?

I get gas at Kroger because I get 40-50 cents off a gallon. I haven't paid much over $3 a gallon in a while.

I do not consider dealership mechanics "real" mechanics for two reasons:

Reason 1: DH's nephew who is 19 worked as an oil changer at a dealership and has blown up two engines, completely ruined countless transmissions, and had a blazer catch fire.

Reason 2: when I was pregnant with DS we bought our magnum which needed repairs before we bought it but the dealership was waiting for parts so we had to take it in a couple weeks later. The genius mechanic thought brake clean was the way to fix the squeaky brake pedal IN the car. I refused to drive the car for several months for those d you that don't k ow why brake clean is, you don't use it unless you are out doors and outside of the vehicle.

danabsd · September 2013

redneckmomma25 said:

redneckmomma25 said:

1) I put cheap gas in my car.

2) I get my oil changed at Jiffy Lube for $20, it's done in 6 minutes and I get a free car wash.

These hurt my heart. ETA: yeah, I care more about your car than evil men's death.
I feign ignorance. But we take our cars to a good family friend for everything. He's just got so much business the last couple years that it takes forever to get in for routine stuff.
I get that. I just wouldn't do EVERY oil change there. I would make sure a real mechanic is under your car at least every other. Cheap gas can lead to worse gas mileage, more engine gunk build up causing even worse gas mileage and more maintenance. That's the short of it.

I know nothing about cars. We take ours to the dealership for oil changes because it is free. Is that considered a real mechanic?

I get gas at Kroger because I get 40-50 cents off a gallon. I haven't paid much over $3 a gallon in a while.

That's why I go to out of my way to Vons gas. At one point $1.20 off a gallon. They only let you use a $1 at a time.

MrsKipper · September 2013

My birthday is on Sunday and all I want to do is go see the 1D movie by myself and pretend tht I'm turning 18 (instead of 28) and don't have any responsibilities!

MommaP12 · September 2013

Here is mine:

My SIL is getting married tomorrow. I am dreading it and just want it all over with. Tonight is the rehearsal and I was a mess this morning making sure everything was ready before we left the house since DH is picking up the kids, then picking me up from work and we're going right there - no stop at home so needed diaper bag set, etc.

I am dreading getting everyone dressed all fancy tomorrow and getting out of the house on time. I am dreading that the ceremony is right during nap time. I am dreading surviving the reception until about 9ish at which point I will leave with both the kids while DH stays (it's his sister). I am dreading getting home with both of them, likely cranky and napless and putting them to bed by myself. The kids have to be at the wedding because DS is the ring bearer and SIL wants them in the pictures and such and my parents who normally babysit are invited as well.

Is it Sunday morning yet? I should be excited and look forward to having fun at the wedding but this is going to be so much work and chaos instead.

BillyMollyEmmy · September 2013

MommaP12 said:

Here is mine:

My SIL is getting married tomorrow. I am dreading it and just want it all over with. Tonight is the rehearsal and I was a mess this morning making sure everything was ready before we left the house since DH is picking up the kids, then picking me up from work and we're going right there - no stop at home so needed diaper bag set, etc.

I am dreading getting everyone dressed all fancy tomorrow and getting out of the house on time. I am dreading that the ceremony is right during nap time. I am dreading surviving the reception until about 9ish at which point I will leave with both the kids while DH stays (it's his sister). I am dreading getting home with both of them, likely cranky and napless and putting them to bed by myself. The kids have to be at the wedding because DS is the ring bearer and SIL wants them in the pictures and such and my parents who normally babysit are invited as well.

Is it Sunday morning yet? I should be excited and look forward to having fun at the wedding but this is going to be so much work and chaos instead.

I would be dreading that, too, considering my kid melts the eff down if she doesn't have her nap. It would be a disaster for us.

MommaP12 · September 2013

IndigoVader said:

I've reached a point in my life where if there isn't anything I can do about a situation or a person, I think "fuck it or fuck you" not out of anger, but out of plain just don't give a fuck. I'm not sure if that is good or bad.

I think it's mostly good. I wish I didn't "care" so much about things because I just worry, stress, dread, etc. If I just rolled with the punches more and said eff it more, I'd probably be more relaxed!

angeleighhh · September 2013

redneckmomma25 said:

LoisLayn23 said:
1) I put cheap gas in my car.

2) I get my oil changed at Jiffy Lube for $20, it's done in 6 minutes and I get a free car wash.

These hurt my heart.

ETA: yeah, I care more about your car than evil men's death.

Jiffy lube is a piece of shit. Not only for your car but their legal morals and standards in general are SHIT. At least here.

angeleighhh · September 2013

MrsKipper said:
My birthday is on Sunday and all I want to do is go see the 1D movie by myself and pretend tht I'm turning 18 (instead of 28) and don't have any responsibilities!

Do it!

redneckmomma25 · September 2013

I think if you have a good relationship with the dealer they can be. I personally do not like dealerships. And the bigger ones do normally have a cheap labor kid doing their oil changes which is my biggest issue with quick lube. Not all dealerships are like that and some probably have more qualifications. I like the intimacy of a mom and pop so to speak. Personal level I believe they show more concern. Most dealers don't know their customer because of the extreme volume of people. Some of our dearest IRL family friends are customers. That is the relationship I like. I think they have more of your best interest at hand. Dealer loses a customer. No sweat. Mom an pops it has a bigger effect on.

redneckmomma25 · September 2013

There are exceptions on both sides of this too. There are dishonest small shops and great dealers. I think the relationship is very important.

Hyaline · September 2013

I have an eye twitch and know I should probably try giving up caffeine to see if that takes care of it, but I'm not at a point that I can handle a coffee-free morning.

Hyaline · September 2013

Also, I booked a photographer to do one-year and family portraits of us and didn't tell DH yet. I know he won't approve of spending money on it even though we can definitely afford it. I'm still a little peeved that he wouldn't agree to spring for a real newborn session and all I have are shitty, overpriced hospital photos. But I know he won't argue going through with these because the photographer is a friend of ours and he won't want to offend. Check and mate.

BillyMollyEmmy · September 2013

I ordered 50 WONDFO pregnancy tests of Amazon just so I can POAS whenever I want.

And my boobs are hurting today, so if they come in the mail this afternoon, that's what I'll be doing tonight.

eshee8198 · September 2013

SpoofLeJones said:

SpoofLeJones said:

Of you are a reg or an old reg, I can't wait to see your party, I personally love the AWing. If you have barely posted and I have no idea who you are, I don't care one bit. I feel like for the most part, people just get annoyed with the AWing from the randos. I would name names, but I don't remember or care.

I feel like this about the board in general. You want people to care about your XYZ? Then be around and care about their LMNOP's.
Exactly. I'm in contact with a lot of you off board, but I don't post here as often as I would like so I don't expect most of you to care about my kid's (hypothetical) birthday party. Why should you?

I get the concept, but I feel like this perception keeps people from posting. Like, do I post enough that you care what I have to say? I mean, it's one thing if you've never posted before, but I guess I'm just saying that there's probably a lot of people (like me) who don't know where we fall in the spectrum of reg vs. rando, and ergo, care vs. don't care. Obviously, not just about the parties.

hmp1 · September 2013

TheAnne said:

to piggy back on the car dealership thing... no one has a bigger vested interest in your current car NOT working than a car dealer.

Except if my car continues to break down, no way I'm buying another one of that kind. So they just lost a customer. I've never had a problem with a car though, just normal maintenance. If I did, it is under warranty so the dealership would do it for free anyways.

willy_gert · September 2013

eshee8198 said:

SpoofLeJones said:

SpoofLeJones said:

Of you are a reg or an old reg, I can't wait to see your party, I personally love the AWing. If you have barely posted and I have no idea who you are, I don't care one bit. I feel like for the most part, people just get annoyed with the AWing from the randos. I would name names, but I don't remember or care.

I feel like this about the board in general. You want people to care about your XYZ? Then be around and care about their LMNOP's.
Exactly. I'm in contact with a lot of you off board, but I don't post here as often as I would like so I don't expect most of you to care about my kid's (hypothetical) birthday party. Why should you?

I get the concept, but I feel like this perception keeps people from posting. Like, do I post enough that you care what I have to say? I mean, it's one thing if you've never posted before, but I guess I'm just saying that there's probably a lot of people (like me) who don't know where we fall in the spectrum of reg vs. rando, and ergo, care vs. don't care. Obviously, not just about the parties.

I totally get what you are saying, but I think you have to just keep posting whether people "care" or not. I don't think I have seen a post, other than PSA's go without anyone commenting on them. Someone cares and it just takes time for others to care.

For me, I could care less if you are new, old, reg, semi-reg, etc. I think we all share the bond of an S12 baby and I want others to care about me and things I have to say, so I am going to care about you and what you have to say until you show me you don't deserve my cares. But that is just me, golden rule all the way!

BillyMollyEmmy · September 2013

willy_gert said:

eshee8198 said:

SpoofLeJones said:

SpoofLeJones said:

Of you are a reg or an old reg, I can't wait to see your party, I personally love the AWing. If you have barely posted and I have no idea who you are, I don't care one bit. I feel like for the most part, people just get annoyed with the AWing from the randos. I would name names, but I don't remember or care.

I feel like this about the board in general. You want people to care about your XYZ? Then be around and care about their LMNOP's.
Exactly. I'm in contact with a lot of you off board, but I don't post here as often as I would like so I don't expect most of you to care about my kid's (hypothetical) birthday party. Why should you?

I get the concept, but I feel like this perception keeps people from posting. Like, do I post enough that you care what I have to say? I mean, it's one thing if you've never posted before, but I guess I'm just saying that there's probably a lot of people (like me) who don't know where we fall in the spectrum of reg vs. rando, and ergo, care vs. don't care. Obviously, not just about the parties.

I totally get what you are saying, but I think you have to just keep posting whether people "care" or not. I don't think I have seen a post, other than PSA's go without anyone commenting on them. Someone cares and it just takes time for others to care.

For me, I could care less if you are new, old, reg, semi-reg, etc. I think we all share the bond of an S12 baby and I want others to care about me and things I have to say, so I am going to care about you and what you have to say until you show me you don't deserve my cares. But that is just me, golden rule all the way!

Some of us have August babies but just won't leave.

hmp1 · September 2013

IndigoVader said:

I think people should just post. Who cares if I see you as a rando? Someone else may see you as the bomb diggity.
***ETA: @eshee8198, with that cute siggy, I doubt anyone sees you as a rando

Especially regarding parties. I mean, I troll Pinterest and blogs looking at parties and I will never ever talk to that person to ask them questions about the party. If you post here, at least you might check back to tell me where you bought the most awesome cake stand I have ever seen.

ETA: and yes, everyone knows eshee's adorable baby!

willy_gert · September 2013

A car related FFFC for me is that I have been driving my car for 8 years, and I just topped 200K the other day. I love my car, but am so ready for a new one, so I have been slacking on maintenance because every time something comes up I just tell DH, "Well, if I had a new car this wouldn't be a problem". I do this so he will work harder on getting us where we need to be to buy a new car, so far it seems to be working.... I am horrible.

L8kissie · September 2013

thechimichanga said:
I kicked a 20 something year old engineer out of my office this morning. And I may have said something along the lines of, get the hell out of my office you little prick.

If you saw the news, the boardwalk burned last night. 3 close family friends lost their businesses, no more than 5 months after they pieced them back together.

Burning the snookie out of the town is not funny...and I may tell his boss.

I'm so sorry for your friends. I felt so bad for those people when I saw the headline yesterday. I'm guessing he feels stupid. (Hopefully) I'd either talk with him or his supervisor once I wasn't as angry about it.

eshee8198 · September 2013

hmp1 said:

IndigoVader said:

I think people should just post. Who cares if I see you as a rando? Someone else may see you as the bomb diggity.
***ETA: @eshee8198, with that cute siggy, I doubt anyone sees you as a rando

Especially regarding parties. I mean, I troll Pinterest and blogs looking at parties and I will never ever talk to that person to ask them questions about the party. If you post here, at least you might check back to tell me where you bought the most awesome cake stand I have ever seen.

ETA: and yes, everyone knows eshee's adorable baby!

My heart just grew three sizes with all the love for my baby.

Clearly, I am still scarred by high school.

AprilLudgate · September 2013

SpoofLeJones said:

SpoofLeJones said:

SpoofLeJones said:

Of you are a reg or an old reg, I can't wait to see your party, I personally love the AWing. If you have barely posted and I have no idea who you are, I don't care one bit. I feel like for the most part, people just get annoyed with the AWing from the randos. I would name names, but I don't remember or care.

I feel like this about the board in general. You want people to care about your XYZ? Then be around and care about their LMNOP's.
Exactly. I'm in contact with a lot of you off board, but I don't post here as often as I would like so I don't expect most of you to care about my kid's (hypothetical) birthday party. Why should you?

I get the concept, but I feel like this perception keeps people from posting. Like, do I post enough that you care what I have to say? I mean, it's one thing if you've never posted before, but I guess I'm just saying that there's probably a lot of people (like me) who don't know where we fall in the spectrum of reg vs. rando, and ergo, care vs. don't care. Obviously, not just about the parties.
Do I care what you have to say? Yes. Do I care about your kid's birthday? Nope. A lot of us have been around for over a year and have built solid relationships. It's great that so many of you are joining in late in the game, and I hope you stick around, but I would be lying if I said that I cared about your family photos or the fact that you got a BFP, etc, because I don't know you. I do think if you are really active, regardless of how long you've been a member, you're probably good. But there are people that pop in and out just to AW their personal life/problems and don't participate otherwise. Those are the people I'm talking about for the most part. **general you

I think it's really difficult for newcomers to join in the conversation here. When I posted the other day reassuring another poster that it's OK to feed her kid carbs, I was treated pretty badly by the board moderator. I still don't understand that, especially since in the end she said the same thing I did. She gave no reason for being so rude to me. It's easy to claim the board is welcoming to newbies, but so far that doesn't seem to be the reality. It's a big downer to want to join the conversation and to literally be told you're "out of your league."

thebanich · September 2013

I love my dealer. I didn't even buy the car from him but the oil has always been changed at a dealership with that car and I felt weird trying to search around for a new one.

L8kissie · September 2013

I miss the sigs too. I'm on mobile 97% of the time. I have two today. First, our party is the 21st and I haven't done invites yet. Oops. At least family will come. Second, my mom is a big baby and has decided that she refuses to see my dad any more, which I guess is better than throwing a fit the day of dd's naming party and threatening to punch him. They've been divorced since I was six months old. Get over it!!!!!! Anyway, she is coming Monday to Wednesday or Thursday to hang out with the kids and celebrate. While I'm pleased that she is visiting, I really need to get ready for the party and it will be harder with her here. I feel so ungrateful.

willy_gert · September 2013

AprilLudgate said:

SpoofLeJones said:

SpoofLeJones said:

SpoofLeJones said:

I think it's really difficult for newcomers to join in the conversation here. When I posted the other day reassuring another poster that it's OK to feed her kid carbs, I was treated pretty badly by the board moderator. I still don't understand that, especially since in the end she said the same thing I did. She gave no reason for being so rude to me. It's easy to claim the board is welcoming to newbies, but so far that doesn't seem to be the reality. It's a big downer to want to join the conversation and to literally be told you're "out of your league."

@aprilludgate , LL can fight her own battles, but I will say that from what I have seen of your posts, you generally come in with a "holier than thou" "sanctimommy" attitude and anyone who has spent ANY time on this board knows that those are two things we do not appreciate! I can understand what you are saying, but you have to understand how you come across and how you came across. That wasn't the first time someone has mentioned your attitude and how it comes across.

@spooflejones would this be the time to tell you that I now TOTALLY understand where you were coming from when we first interacted?

hmp1 · September 2013

AprilLudgate said:

SpoofLeJones said:

SpoofLeJones said:

SpoofLeJones said:

Of you are a reg or an old reg, I can't wait to see your party, I personally love the AWing. If you have barely posted and I have no idea who you are, I don't care one bit. I feel like for the most part, people just get annoyed with the AWing from the randos. I would name names, but I don't remember or care.

I feel like this about the board in general. You want people to care about your XYZ? Then be around and care about their LMNOP's.
Exactly. I'm in contact with a lot of you off board, but I don't post here as often as I would like so I don't expect most of you to care about my kid's (hypothetical) birthday party. Why should you?

I get the concept, but I feel like this perception keeps people from posting. Like, do I post enough that you care what I have to say? I mean, it's one thing if you've never posted before, but I guess I'm just saying that there's probably a lot of people (like me) who don't know where we fall in the spectrum of reg vs. rando, and ergo, care vs. don't care. Obviously, not just about the parties.
Do I care what you have to say? Yes. Do I care about your kid's birthday? Nope. A lot of us have been around for over a year and have built solid relationships. It's great that so many of you are joining in late in the game, and I hope you stick around, but I would be lying if I said that I cared about your family photos or the fact that you got a BFP, etc, because I don't know you. I do think if you are really active, regardless of how long you've been a member, you're probably good. But there are people that pop in and out just to AW their personal life/problems and don't participate otherwise. Those are the people I'm talking about for the most part. **general you

I think it's really difficult for newcomers to join in the conversation here. When I posted the other day reassuring another poster that it's OK to feed her kid carbs, I was treated pretty badly by the board moderator. I still don't understand that, especially since in the end she said the same thing I did. She gave no reason for being so rude to me. It's easy to claim the board is welcoming to newbies, but so far that doesn't seem to be the reality. It's a big downer to want to join the conversation and to literally be told you're "out of your league."

Have you ever posted on a message board before? You have made some very blunt statements that didn't go over well and are kind of known for that now. Not trying to be snarky, just letting you know. One or two stupid comments in the course of a year and half is often over looked, we move on. A few poorly worded comments in a couple of months when you don't post often tends to stick with you.

AprilLudgate · September 2013

SpoofLeJones said:

SpoofLeJones said:

SpoofLeJones said:

SpoofLeJones said:

Of you are a reg or an old reg, I can't wait to see your party, I personally love the AWing. If you have barely posted and I have no idea who you are, I don't care one bit. I feel like for the most part, people just get annoyed with the AWing from the randos. I would name names, but I don't remember or care.

I feel like this about the board in general. You want people to care about your XYZ? Then be around and care about their LMNOP's.
Exactly. I'm in contact with a lot of you off board, but I don't post here as often as I would like so I don't expect most of you to care about my kid's (hypothetical) birthday party. Why should you?

I get the concept, but I feel like this perception keeps people from posting. Like, do I post enough that you care what I have to say? I mean, it's one thing if you've never posted before, but I guess I'm just saying that there's probably a lot of people (like me) who don't know where we fall in the spectrum of reg vs. rando, and ergo, care vs. don't care. Obviously, not just about the parties.
Do I care what you have to say? Yes. Do I care about your kid's birthday? Nope. A lot of us have been around for over a year and have built solid relationships. It's great that so many of you are joining in late in the game, and I hope you stick around, but I would be lying if I said that I cared about your family photos or the fact that you got a BFP, etc, because I don't know you. I do think if you are really active, regardless of how long you've been a member, you're probably good. But there are people that pop in and out just to AW their personal life/problems and don't participate otherwise. Those are the people I'm talking about for the most part. **general you

I think it's really difficult for newcomers to join in the conversation here. When I posted the other day reassuring another poster that it's OK to feed her kid carbs, I was treated pretty badly by the board moderator. I still don't understand that, especially since in the end she said the same thing I did. She gave no reason for being so rude to me. It's easy to claim the board is welcoming to newbies, but so far that doesn't seem to be the reality. It's a big downer to want to join the conversation and to literally be told you're "out of your league."
--------------- But I'm not talking about general board participation. I'm talking about the attention whores who come in here expecting everyone to ooh and ahh over their life, but don't give two shits about the rest of us and don't participate otherwise.

---------------- (Ripping off your trick to separate the quotes. What's the deal with the stupid shaded boxes, anyway?)

I understand you were talking more specifically, but eshee was expanding that out to whether she or other non-regulars should bother posting at all, so I was sharing my experience of being treated like my input was unwelcome because I'm not a regular.

BillyMollyEmmy · September 2013

IndigoVader said:

AprilLudgate said:
I think it's really difficult for newcomers to join in the conversation here. When I posted the other day reassuring another poster that it's OK to feed her kid carbs, I was treated pretty badly by the board moderator. I still don't understand that, especially since in the end she said the same thing I did. She gave no reason for being so rude to me. It's easy to claim the board is welcoming to newbies, but so far that doesn't seem to be the reality. It's a big downer to want to join the conversation and to literally be told you're "out of your league."

This board has all kinds of personalities on it, strong, opinionated women that get a little feisty at times. We have all taken and given our lumps, you can't let anyone scare you from participating. The ebb and flow on this board is that one day you may get shit on and the next day people total get what you are saying. Don't take it too seriously or too personally. I know it is hard, because I DID get my feelings hurt a lot in the beginning, and I did take it personally, in the end, if you hang in there and participate you realize how fun this board can be. ::::off soapbox:::

IV... if I could have sex with the words that come outta your mouth, I probably would.

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