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happybride 276 · September 2013

I am getting ready for my doctor appointment (well I should be) so in my efforts to procrastinate I thought I would start the Flame Free Friday Confessions. WARNING- flame free is just a way to add more Fs to the title. Post at your own risk.

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happybride 276 · September 2013

I had one p yesterday, but I can't remember right now. I am sure I will come up with something soon.

OliveMom3 · September 2013

I HATE when people come to see the baby empty handed, overstay their welcome and/or expect to be fed. I find it rude and I judge them.
Any tips for gently suggesting this doesn't happen? I'm not one to be super direct and order someone to bring something or eating in front of others and not offer them food. I don't mind saying "baby is tired and we both sleep at the same time" to get them to leave, but sometimes they don't get the message and I hate being pushy.

kennazebrowsky · September 2013

I hope someone has a super flamey confession today because I feel icky and need to be entertained at work

happybride 276 · September 2013

kennazebrowsky said:
I hope someone has a super flamey confession today because I feel icky and need to be entertained at work

I agree. I am in need of entertainment. I am trying to come up with something good, but I have thought of nothing but lame stuff so far.

happybride 276 · September 2013

Loppy19 said:

OliveMom3 said:
I HATE when people come to see the baby empty handed, overstay their welcome and/or expect to be fed. I find it rude and I judge them.
Any tips for gently suggesting this doesn't happen? I'm not one to be super direct and order someone to bring something or eating in front of others and not offer them food. I don't mind saying "baby is tired and we both sleep at the same time" to get them to leave, but sometimes they don't get the message and I hate being pushy.
I agree with overstaying their welcome or expecting to be fed, but I don't get expecting people to bring you something.

I don't have a polite or subtle way to deal with this, you just need to let people know you aren't up for extended visits right now.

I thought that was crazy too, but after re-reading I think she meant bring something to eat. At least I hope that's what she meant.
:-?

SweetPeaK26 · September 2013

I'm annoyed with dh because he seems to just blow of my fears and concerns and tells me to just get over them. I wanted to try an epi free delivery this time, and it looks like ill be induced, which was definitely more painful than when I started labor on my own. I don't think I can push (without some serious pain meds)if my hemroids continue to hurt this bad, and I'm have them removed at delivery, and I know that will be really painful too, and dh just says that I'm just smart to get the epi for that reason alone.

He also just wants to blame a doula friend of mine for making me feel like this. I cried last night about all of these contradicting feelings/issues, and all he could say was 'you need to get J out of your head, she's making you crazy'.

I wish he got that she's not the only one whose made me feel like I could/should be able to go epi free, and it doesn't matter WHY I feel certain ways, it matters that I DO and I'm freaked and I just need a little support.

erink7211 · September 2013

OliveMom3 said:

I HATE when people come to see the baby empty handed, overstay their welcome and/or expect to be fed. I find it rude and I judge them. Any tips for gently suggesting this doesn't happen? I'm not one to be super direct and order someone to bring something or eating in front of others and not offer them food. I don't mind saying "baby is tired and we both sleep at the same time" to get them to leave, but sometimes they don't get the message and I hate being pushy.

If you're referring to the time in the hospital, our nurses will set up a "code word" with us and if I ever say it, they will pretend to need to do something and ask everyone to leave. For example, I might say "I'm really craving popcorn right now" and the nurses would know that I want everyone gone. As far as having visitors at home, you may just need to be blunt. Chances are you will be too tired to care about being over-polite anyways. At least thats what the people-pleaser inside of me is hoping for.

HeatherMc78 · September 2013

I'll just hit a bunch of hot topics. I think epidurals are awesome. We are getting our son circ'd and I formula feed my babies. And I still think pumpkin anything is a gift from God.

aj3720 · September 2013

Today is my last day of work before maternity leave....

That being said... I absolutely will NOT miss the unwarranted, unnecessary comments from co-workers, bosses, employees, etc. I don't know if it's because I'm SOOO close to having baby that my hormones are finally catching up with me, but I can't tolerate people (in general). I'm fairly certain that I will know when I am approaching labor and I don't need them telling me how my body is going to react when it happens. I also don't need everyone touching my humongous belly or asking me about every detail of my pregnancy. It's MY pregnancy - go watch 16 and pregnant if you want something to gossip about!

Rant over.

Happy Friday everyone!

MJHershey · September 2013

ILs have offered to watch DS1 as often as needed after DS2 is born, just to get him some attention and us some room. MIL makes it sound like they will take DS1 a lot. DH keep telling them that we still want DS1 around and sometimes they'll have to take DS2 so we have spend time with DS1. DS1 is not their kid, and they WILL have another grandson to pay attention too as well.

Part of it is that DH is an only so they don't get the whole 2 kids dynamic. I just don't want them going off with DS1 all the time.

MJHershey · September 2013

@aj3720 I am seconds away from throat punching half of the people here for the same reason. PLus I just don't have patience for the usual BS.

OliveMom3 · September 2013

@happybride 276: yes I was referring to food, especially if people stay over a typical meal time. Rereading y post I can see how this is unclear.

@erink7211: we are home now so sadly I can't set up a system with nurses like this. But great idea! I will talk to dh about having a code word/phrase and ask him to bring out his papa bear to politely say its time for the guests to go.

aj3720 · September 2013

HA! I was going to hold strong and work right up until my due date, but I realized I might get myself in trouble if I react... and I don't hold myself responsible for my actions at this point in time. So I thought it best to retreat and spend my last pregnant moments at home, away from ignorant people.

Babybabybabyohhhhhhh · September 2013

My baby is 1 week old and I go through bouts of anxiety. I am afraid of PPD and i really hope I can work through my anxiety so I don't get it. At times I feel guilty about not breast feeing, and seeing milk come out of my breasts makes me a little sad. I'm just glad I have a great support system.
Not sure if this is a FFC but that's all i got today

erink7211 · September 2013

I have always said that I would not induce before 41, maybe even 42 weeks, and that I would wait as long as possible for LO to make his appearance on his own time. Well yesterday I had my 39 week appointment and my doctor offered to induce me on my due date.

I gladly accepted.

happybride 276 · September 2013

I cried today at my OB appointment because I haven't dilated at all. I know this can change quickly, but I thought for sure I was dilating because I have been having such painful contractions. I also cried because I couldn't get my membranes stripped (again because I haven't dilated) and I peed all over my underwear when I gave my urine sample. I am wanted to set my induction for next week (I will be 40 weeks on Monday), but until I am 41 weeks inductions are considered elective. This means that if the induction doesn't work they will just send me home. I am now a miserable pregnant chick and I am going to wallow in self pity all day today.

happybride 276 · September 2013

I am also so bitter today I refuse to read about any birth stories today. I know that is bitchy, but I am too damn bitter to put my feelings aside. For those giving birth - I am really happy for them and hope all goes well. I just can't read about it right now.

jlp0528 · September 2013

@happybride 276 I am sorry your appt sucked today and nothing's going on with progressing at this point. That blows big time. Cry away and bitter the day away. Not trying to be a cheerleader but at the VERY least the end is in sight and anything could happen! At this point it sucks trying not to feel angry and upset nothing's happening and still feel like a happy person for those ladies who have outside babies.

My FFFC is that I met DH and our friend out for lunch yesterday at an amazing sushi place. I ate my usual shrimp tempura style rolls but I also ate some non-appropriate for pregnant women sushi and I am not sorry. It was outstanding and I could've eaten ten times more than I did.

revlaurawittman · September 2013

Thanks to an endowment from duke university our hospital sends home nurses to your house for free to weigh the baby and check in on you. It's an optional program but I really like it because the nurses are great.

However as she was pulling in I realized I had blankets and t shirts all over the place that we had stolen from the hospital. I immediately started running around trying to hide all of our loot so she didn't see it. I know we aren't the only ones who do it but my guilty conscience kicked in temporarily.

Also I am so glad that my baby is nursing well and growing. However I totally cried this morning because he no longer fits into my favorite newborn pajamas. My heart is breaking a little. Stop growing so fast!!!

happybride 276 · September 2013

jpryber0528 said:
@happybride 276 I am sorry your appt sucked today and nothing's going on with progressing at this point. That blows big time. Cry away and bitter the day away. Not trying to be a cheerleader but at the VERY least the end is in sight and anything could happen! At this point it sucks trying not to feel angry and upset nothing's happening and still feel like a happy person for those ladies who have outside babies.

My FFFC is that I met DH and our friend out for lunch yesterday at an amazing sushi place. I ate my usual shrimp tempura style rolls but I also ate some non-appropriate for pregnant women sushi and I am not sorry. It was outstanding and I could've eaten ten times more than I did.

Thank you for getting it. I think everyone is entitled to a little self potty as long as it doesn't go too long. I will allow myself the end of today (at the most) and then tomorrow it's back to normal me. I don't like to wallow. I just need to let these stupid feelings go.

Don't feel bad about sushi. I have eaten bologna sandwiches several times within the past two weeks.

happybride 276 · September 2013

DeedsJag said:
I wish that me and my husband had no troubles being greedy people. His grandfather offered to outright buy the house we are looking at buying. In cash. And then letting us repay him. But we know his grandfather would probably never let us actually pay him back. And I soooo wish we could accept. But there is no way in hell either of us wouldn't feel guilty about it.

No flames here. I would not do it either. I give you credit for being a stand up person! You will be a great example for your child.

Bamgal25 · September 2013

happybride 276 said:

I cried today at my OB appointment because I haven't dilated at all. I know this can change quickly, but I thought for sure I was dilating because I have been having such painful contractions. I also cried because I couldn't get my membranes stripped (again because I haven't dilated) and I peed all over my underwear when I gave my urine sample. I am wanted to set my induction for next week (I will be 40 weeks on Monday), but until I am 41 weeks inductions are considered elective. This means that if the induction doesn't work they will just send me home. I am now a miserable pregnant chick and I am going to wallow in self pity all day today.

I completely understand and this was me on Tuesday. I wasn't dilated at all and I was really expecting something. My doctor and I discussed possible induction dates but he told me as it stood then, I was likely to end in having a c-section if I got induced too early (which it's not like I was wanting it anytime soon). I managed to wait until he left the room before I started crying, but I was very upset. I stayed in a bad mood the rest of the day... so I say enjoy your wallowing in self pity!

michelle7482 · September 2013

I FF because I want to, not bc of medicine, latch problems, breast issues or anything else. I have no desire to BF whatsoever and appreciate that I am not 100% responsible for feeding my child, that DH or family can give a formula bottle at any time. I'm impressed that so many of you are so committed to BF, but I just never felt that way and never felt guilty about it either.

kennazebrowsky · September 2013

DeedsJag said:
I wish that me and my husband had no troubles being greedy people. His grandfather offered to outright buy the house we are looking at buying. In cash. And then letting us repay him. But we know his grandfather would probably never let us actually pay him back. And I soooo wish we could accept. But there is no way in hell either of us wouldn't feel guilty about it.

If he won't hold it over your heard take the deal!

imakeeff0rts · September 2013

The AF, Navy, and Marines train their pilots (or some of them) on nice posts near beaches. The Army, however, had to be the rebels and punish their aviators and send them to Alabama. I swear, if I see one more love bug, I'm going to burn this state to the ground.

I know there's an Alabama girl floating around here somewhere - sorry. I just. Ugh. It's nothing personal.

Also, I wish there was some kind of system to keep stupid people from having children. The level of stupid that has been going on here over the last few days makes me weep for humanity.

Takeabreath · September 2013

I am so sick of people telling me inducing is the devil, that it causes autism and I should try every other alternative after I tell them I'm being induced. First of all, of course I want to naturally go into labor! Of course I'm trying to naturally induce labor on my own. But alas, I have a flat pubic bone and depending on the size of my baby's head, she may or may not even fit. If she gets too big or doesn't fit, it's automatic c-section. This will be the case for any future children as well. So yes, I will gladly induce if that means I can try to have a vaginal delivery while I have the chance. Secondly, I'm PGAL, so having my placenta give out or having a stillbirth is a real freaking fear I that have. Even if I didn't have a flat pubic bone, I would gladly induce if it gave me more peace of mind. Usually saying these things shuts these people up. Ugh.

mrskeyte9 · September 2013

I had my bloody show this morning and at the risk of ruining one of my pairs of sweats (incase something else comes out down there lol) I put on a pair of DH's basketball shorts :> I'm trying to stay under a blanket so he doesn't see...

Mrs.AllyH · September 2013

I know that US measurements can be very inaccurate at this point (38.3) but I totally cried when the tech told me she's at the 86%. It was only one measurement that was off, the belly, but it was off by 3 weeks! The rest were right on time or behind a little... I just wonder what the OB is going to say next week. I still have my MP, she hasn't dropped and I haven't felt a single contraction; all things I know could change any minute. But I am really afraid that she's going to recommend scheduling a c-section early.

imakeeff0rts · September 2013

CamiButterworth said:

I am so sick of people telling me inducing is the devil, that it causes autism and I should try every other alternative after I tell them I'm being induced. First of all, of course I want to naturally go into labor! Of course I'm trying to naturally induce labor on my own. But alas, I have a flat pubic bone and depending on the size of my baby's head, she may or may not even fit. If she gets too big or doesn't fit, it's automatic c-section. This will be the case for any future children as well. So yes, I will gladly induce if that means I can try to have a vaginal delivery while I have the chance. Secondly, I'm PGAL, so having my placenta give out or having a stillbirth is a real freaking fear I that have. Even if I didn't have a flat pubic bone, I would gladly induce if it gave me more peace of mind. Usually saying these things shuts these people up. Ugh.

Wow. I am so sorry that people are being so rude to you. That's pretty messed up.

kimberlymacrae · September 2013

Though I am totally Team Mayweather and I will be cheering for The Pound for Pound Champ tomorrow I am secretly hoping that Canello wins. I think he has one of the best chances of causing a knock-down. However ever since I was Team (Austin) Trout and he lost horribly I vowed to never cheer against Mayweahter. He is just the best fighter around. I am hoping Canello can get lucky and break down his walls. I wonder if Mayweather would ever humble himself or if it would lead to a Mayweather-Canello XXII!

noelani42 · September 2013

kimberlymacrae said:

Though I am totally Team Mayweather and I will be cheering for The Pound for Pound Champ tomorrow I am secretly hoping that Canello wins. I think he has one of the best chances of causing a knock-down. However ever since I was Team (Austin) Trout and he lost horribly I vowed to never cheer against Mayweahter. He is just the best fighter around. I am hoping Canello can get lucky and break down his walls. I wonder if Mayweather would ever humble himself or if it would lead to a Mayweather-Canello XXII!

I hate mayweather!!!! I want to see him get knocked on his ass!!!!

strlitemiss · September 2013

My 40week 3 day appointment was yesterday and I've had no change in the last 2 weeks so they stripped my membranes and set up another appointment for next week. I'm ugly crying because I woke this morning still pregnant and not even a contraction! I'm so over being pregnant!

Paturkey · September 2013

I apologize in advance to all the ladies who have been having horrific, useless contractions for weeks. I can't imagine how much that must suck.

My FFFC is... I want one! I am 39 w 1 d and I swear I haven't had a single contraction or BH and I seriously wonder if my body just wants to hold onto this baby forever. I keep telling myself to enjoy it, but it just makes me anxious that either I don't recognize what is happening in my body or I'm going to go way past my due date and need to get induced (which certainly isn't the end of the world). Can I please just have one teeny little contraction?

HeatherMc78 · September 2013

imakeeff0rts said:
The AF, Navy, and Marines train their pilots (or some of them) on nice posts near beaches. The Army, however, had to be the rebels and punish their aviators and send them to Alabama. I swear, if I see one more love bug, ;

We are stationed in Florida. I hate lovebugs. They bombarded my car when I went to pick up my DS2 from nursery school. Dumbest creature ever!!!!!!!!!!

kimberlymacrae · September 2013

@Sabrina: I agree. I am not a 100% Mayweather fan either. But he's amazing at boxing. 44-0. He hasn't EVER been knocked down. So don't watch the fight expecting to see this. I am hoping though that at the end of the 12 rounds it's either a draw or very stinking close so Canello can get another shot at Mayweather.

I would never say this to DH though. He thinks I am 100% Mayweather.

My theory is I was Team Trout, Team Pacquiao and Team Marquez and they all lost. SOOOOOOO if I am Team Mayweather... he'll fail???

ajbook · September 2013

I am really looking forward to the pains and challenges of labor. It feels like it has been so long since I have had the endorphin rush of a good, hard, make me cry workout. I keep looking forward to what I will be faced with mentally and physically. I'm feeling up for a challenge!

DaisyZH · September 2013

OliveMom3 said:

I HATE when people come to see the baby empty handed, overstay their welcome and/or expect to be fed. I find it rude and I judge them. Any tips for gently suggesting this doesn't happen? I'm not one to be super direct and order someone to bring something or eating in front of others and not offer them food. I don't mind saying "baby is tired and we both sleep at the same time" to get them to leave, but sometimes they don't get the message and I hate being pushy.

We had a big problem with some guests after DS was born. One person arrived at 5 pm when DS was home for a few days, did not call ahead, and proceeded to stay until 11 pm. I actually had put on my pajamas, we were telling them that we needed to get to bed, every hint in the book was dropped and did not work. They just sat there holding the baby, and on this occasion and another when they came to visit they expected to be fed and ate the dinners that others had been kind enough to drop off for us.

My DH and I are not confrontational people, but we have a plan this time. We are telling everyone up front that we need to keep DS on a schedule and so are only having visitors until his bedtime. Also we are asking that people call first before coming. We googled polite ways to get people to leave and if hints do not work our absolute last-ditch response will be to stand up, say "Well thank you so much for coming, it was so nice of you" and to start gathering their coats for them. We got this from Miss Manners, although I so hope it doesn't come to this.

JocelynB0911 · September 2013

sabrinakurtz said:

kimberlymacrae said:

Though I am totally Team Mayweather and I will be cheering for The Pound for Pound Champ tomorrow I am secretly hoping that Canello wins. I think he has one of the best chances of causing a knock-down. However ever since I was Team (Austin) Trout and he lost horribly I vowed to never cheer against Mayweahter. He is just the best fighter around. I am hoping Canello can get lucky and break down his walls. I wonder if Mayweather would ever humble himself or if it would lead to a Mayweather-Canello XXII!

I hate mayweather!!!! I want to see him get knocked on his ass!!!!

They're both attractive, i could care less who wins... Yup I took a hard left with this one.

Zmommy2 · September 2013

My confession is that I love cleaning with a ton of harsh chemicals.. I know there's tons of other things I can use, it's "bad" for me and my family, bad for the environment, the list goes on... I've tried the more natural route, but I don't feel like things are as clean and let's face it, I actually like the smell of bleach and similar cleaners.

kimberlymacrae · September 2013

@Jocelyn: couldn't agree more. I will enjoy watching this one!!! Yum yum.

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