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Thought I'd Introduce Myself
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Hi All! My wife and I are TTC our first child. So far, we've done one at home ICI and 1 RE assisted IUI. Both resulted in BFNs 
I'm on CD8 now, and should be going in for TTC#3 this weekend 
Although we are very excited to have started this amazing journey, I'm in a hard place. My family is not accepting what-so-ever. They refuse to acknowledge the fact that I have a wife, and will most likely lose their minds when I tell them of my pregnancy.
Does anyone have any advice for me? Anyone had to deal with this? My parents live down the street from me, so avoiding them is VERY hard. Also, they immigrated to the US 30 years ago, so hoping they'll eventually "come around" isn't going to happen. They have very strict values that prohibit any form of homosexuality. I love my family dearly, and don't want to lose or disappoint them, but at some point, I have to live life for myself. Perhaps the stress of their reaction to my eventual pregnancy is what's causing the BFNs
I'm on CD8 now, and should be going in for TTC#3 this weekend Although we are very excited to have started this amazing journey, I'm in a hard place. My family is not accepting what-so-ever. They refuse to acknowledge the fact that I have a wife, and will most likely lose their minds when I tell them of my pregnancy. Does anyone have any advice for me? Anyone had to deal with this? My parents live down the street from me, so avoiding them is VERY hard. Also, they immigrated to the US 30 years ago, so hoping they'll eventually "come around" isn't going to happen. They have very strict values that prohibit any form of homosexuality. I love my family dearly, and don't want to lose or disappoint them, but at some point, I have to live life for myself. Perhaps the stress of their reaction to my eventual pregnancy is what's causing the BFNs
Attempt #1: July Natural Cycle ICI = BFN
Attempt #2: August Natural Cycle IUI = BFN
Attempt #3: September Natural Cycle IUI = TWW
Attempt #2: August Natural Cycle IUI = BFN
Attempt #3: September Natural Cycle IUI = TWW
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Re: Thought I'd Introduce Myself
We are lucky that both of our families are accepting of (and excited about) our relationship and eager to have grandchildren.
I wish you a lot of luck dealing with your family. I have heard of folks coming around once a baby is actually born, but, of course, you can't count on this. Good luck!
Please feel free to join us Monday's (today!) on the TTC check-in for all of us who are currently trying to conceive.
We're queer. I'm 33, have severe stage 4 endo, and had both fallopian tubes removed. My love ("Manada" on the boards, 32) was diagnosed with diminished ovarian reserve. We did Partner IVF (my eggs, her uterus). We lost our twins Tavin and Casey at 21 weeks gestation.
Our IUIs
with @Manada: IUI# 1-7 (December 2012- September 2013) all BFN. Tried natural, femara, clomid, puregon/follistim, clomid and menopur combo, both the ovidrel and HCG triggers.
Our IVFs:
IVF #1 my eggs November/December 2013: Cancelled IVF due to poor response
IVF #2 my eggs/Manada's uterus January/February 2014
BCPs and lupron overlap Stimmed: 1/22-2/2: Bravelle and Menopur (dosage ranged from B300 and M150 to B375 and M150 to B300 and M225)
2/4 retrieved 10 eggs. Endo was much worse than expected. Only 3 eggs fertilized; February 7 transferred two day 3 embryos, froze one. All great condition.
BFP eve of 6dp3dt; Beta 1 (11dp3dt): 110; Beta 2 (13dp3dt): 175; Beta 3 (15dp3dt): 348; Beta 4 (19dp3dt): 2222; Beta 5 (21dp3dt): 4255
1st ultrasound (3/6 6w 1d): TWINS!!!! Twin A measuring 6w1d with a heartbeat of 118bpm. Twin B measuring 6w0d with a heartbeat of 113bpm.
***July 18, 2014 we lost our beautiful babies at 21 weeks gestation. They were born too early. Tavin Sara T. and Casey Elizabeth T. are beautiful and precious and we will love them and miss them forever.***
FET #1 December 2014
9 IUIs = 9 BFNs
IVF October 2012: 22 eggs retrieved, 17 fertilized, 5 frozen
ET #1: 1 blast = BFP; Blighted ovum discovered at 7w5d; D&E
FET #1: 1 blast = BFP; Missed m/c discovered at 9w5d; D&E
Karyotyping: normal ~ RPL Testing: normal ~ Hysteroscopy: normal
FET #2: 1 blast transferred 10/25; BFP 10/31!
EDD 7/13/14 ~ Induced at 37w4d due to pre-eclampsia ~ Born on 6/28/14
*Everyone welcome*
Me - 30, My wife - 31 , Together for 10 yrs - Married August 2012
5 medicated IUIs w/ RE (March - July 2013) = BFN
Fresh IVF Cycle in September 2013 resulted in 18 mature eggs, 16 fertilized, 12 made it to day 5. Transfer of 2 Grade A blastocysts on 9/15/13, and 10 embryos in the freezer! *****BFP on 9/25/13 - betas: @10dp5dt = 232; @12dp5dt = 465; @15dp5dt = 1,581 *********William George born June 4, 2014*********Baby Oliver born 11/27/13
TTC stats with donor sperm...
IUI #1 with trigger, 1/4/13 - BFN
IUI #2 with trigger, 2/1/13 BFN
IUI #3 with tigger, 2/28/12 BFP EDD 11/21/13
Sorry you're dealing with that, @2NewMoms
My family and DP's family are very accepting of us so I'm not sure what advice I can give, but I can say that things will likely change once you guys get pregnant. This happens to straight folks, too. My cousin married a woman that my uncle didn't approve of but as soon as she gave him a grandson he started coming around. In the meantime, I'd try to find a confidant you can talk to about your pregnancy so you have a sounding board if your mom isn't someone you can talk to about this.
Married in September 2010, started TTC journey November 2012
Me-
7 IUI- 2 CP- 2 BFN
RPL blood work 12/27, showed a balance translocation in chromosome 11;22
Spouse-
PCOS 4 IUI-4 BFN
New Plan: Reciprocal IVF, me as carrier wife's eggs. Just went through insurance and received partial approval, so my part will go through my IVF benefits and wife's part will be out of pocket. Now just finalizing finance plans to cover the oop costs. Doctors office is in process of moving to a new building so there are no IVF start ups until March/April 2015.
I wish you all the best in your TTC journey and beyond!!
Welcome to the board! Lots of PPs have great advice. Mine is a little more extreme: Move.
My parents were so clearly not accepting that I just left - and honestly, the space made us come back around and then it was so much better.
I realize that isn't possible for everyone and I was way younger than I am now. I went a built myself a "family of choice" and then my "family of origin" came back around. When I was pregnant my sisters and in-laws all called it "our baby" - like J and I were having it for the whole family! I loved that. But it took a long road to get there. Hang in there
Me (43) and J (45) - same sex couple. And we don't feel 40+!
June'12 - First RE Visit
Sept. '12 - Tubes removed
Dec. '12 - Donor Egg/Donor Sperm IVF Cycle - 4 good embies!
Dec. '12 - Fresh transfer, BFP! EDD 8/29/13
Mar. '13 - Missed m/c at 16w1d, baby boy stopped growing at 15w4d
Loss due to umbilical cord clot...baby was perfect.
Jul '13 - FET#1 - c/p
Sept. '13 - FET#2 - BFN
Dec.' 2, 2013 - FET#3 with our last chance embie - BFP!!!
Dec' 26, 2013 - hb!!
EDD 8/20/14 with a baby girl!
Little S was born on 8/21/14 - 8lb, 14 oz and 20 inches long.
We live in Seattle and used SRM for our donor egg IVF cycle
Me - 30, My wife - 31 , Together for 10 yrs - Married August 2012
5 medicated IUIs w/ RE (March - July 2013) = BFN
Fresh IVF Cycle in September 2013 resulted in 18 mature eggs, 16 fertilized, 12 made it to day 5. Transfer of 2 Grade A blastocysts on 9/15/13, and 10 embryos in the freezer! *****BFP on 9/25/13 - betas: @10dp5dt = 232; @12dp5dt = 465; @15dp5dt = 1,581 *********William George born June 4, 2014*********We should be going in for the IUI in a few days. I have a GREAT feeling about this TTC because the due date would fall on my Birthday
Attempt #2: August Natural Cycle IUI = BFN
Attempt #3: September Natural Cycle IUI = TWW