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My saga continues.

wishiwaspreggowishiwaspreggo member
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AF never made an appearance.  I am still sorta brown spotting when I wipe though the cramps are gone.  And I'm still drawing all BFNs on my stupid HPTs.  I called my doctor for a blood test this morning but he's not in so I have to wait until at least tomorrow.  At this point, I really don't care if AF shows up.  I just really, really want an answer one way or the other.  I realize I should trust the HPTs but at the same time I talked to some recent mom friends of mine and one didn't register positive on her HPT until a week after her missed period and the other didn't get a positive until she was 7 weeks pregnant.  99% accurate my ass.  Anyway, I'm in a foul mood as a result of the uncertainty.  I have a feeling I'll get a BFN from the doctor and then AF will tear through my life in a tornado of blood, pain, and tears after an agonizing three weeks of hope.  Oh well, at least then I can start planning my next IUI...

Maybe the universe just needed a good schadenfruedian laugh at my expense?

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  • GoaliesWife123GoaliesWife123 member
    We went through this same thing. Are you temping? Are you charting? Is it possible that you ovulated later than you thought you did? 

    I'm sorry that you are having a tough cycle. Fingers crossed that things move quickly!

    TTC our first. Married to, and madly in love with, my beautiful wife. Living with our fur baby and enjoying 19 nieces and nephews. 
    • DW and I have been tracking, preparing, getting medical testing since January 2013.
    • First Cycle: Unmedicated ICI w/ Donor Sperm 08/02/13: BFN
    • Second Cycle: Unmedicated ICI w/ Donor Sperm 09/11/13, 09/13/13, 09/15/13: BFN
    • Third Cycle: Unmedicated ICI w/ Donor Sperm: 10/13/13, 10/15/13, 10/17/13, 10/21/13: BFN
    • January 2014: Sonohysterogram shows excellent lining & tubes have no blockages
    • Fourth Cycle:  Monitored clomid cycle  w/ ICI's at home: 1/24/14 and 1/25/14. Ovulation verified:  BFN
    • Fifth Cycle: 02/2014 Femara 5mg with ovidrel trigger CD14: BFN
    • Taking a few months off to evaluate if we want to keep trying


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  • 2NewMoms2NewMoms member
    Just went through the same a few weeks ago. I ended up getting a blood test at the RE 2 days after my missed period...still hopeful after all the HPTs said BFN. They called back, told me it was a BFN, then AF arrived with a vengeance. It was a very cruel joke my body played! Hopefully, your blood test will be a BFP!
    Attempt #1: July Natural Cycle ICI = BFN
    Attempt #2: August Natural Cycle IUI = BFN
    Attempt #3: September Natural Cycle IUI = TWW


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  • wishiwaspreggowishiwaspreggo member

    Thanks, ladies :) Nice to know I'm not alone in this, at least.  I don't know what's going on with this body of mine.  I hope to hear from the doctor first thing tomorrow so I don't have to wait around all day to get called in for a test.  If it's BFN that's fine, I just want to know.  I don't want to wait for my period.  What if it never comes?  I just don't understand how that could happen though because I know I ovulated.

    I wish I could temp but I tried it and every morning it reads something completely different.  It'll vary by a half a degree every day and I don't know why.  Does anyone have a good, reliable thermometer brand to recommend?  The one I have is just pathetic and I can't for the life of me understandy why my temp would fluctuate so wildly.  I think I also need to wait for summer to pass... my window faces the east and it heats up my room quickly in the morning so I think that may influence my temp.  I end up throwing my blankets off early in the morning because it gets so hot upstairs...

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  • GoaliesWife123GoaliesWife123 member
    Well, you want to make sure you are using a basal body thermometer. I bought mine at Wal-Mart. My bedroom gets cold, so I put mine under my pillow overnight and it helps a lot. I also set my alarm for 5am and take my temp every morning at the exact same time. I picked 5am because I don't have a need to get up earlier than that, so I take my temp and if I have to get up, I do. If I don't need to get up, I go right back to sleep. Just make sure two things (1) You are taking your temp at the same time every day and (2) you take your temp after you get three hours of sleep. 

    I strongly suggest you read Taking Charge of Your Fertility as well as sign up for an account with Fertility Friend. Read the tutorials, they are priceless. 

    As for your period, if it doesn't come within 60 days, that is when you should be concerned and see your doc. I know it's a pain to wait, trust me, but take a breath and things will work out! 

    TTC our first. Married to, and madly in love with, my beautiful wife. Living with our fur baby and enjoying 19 nieces and nephews. 
    • DW and I have been tracking, preparing, getting medical testing since January 2013.
    • First Cycle: Unmedicated ICI w/ Donor Sperm 08/02/13: BFN
    • Second Cycle: Unmedicated ICI w/ Donor Sperm 09/11/13, 09/13/13, 09/15/13: BFN
    • Third Cycle: Unmedicated ICI w/ Donor Sperm: 10/13/13, 10/15/13, 10/17/13, 10/21/13: BFN
    • January 2014: Sonohysterogram shows excellent lining & tubes have no blockages
    • Fourth Cycle:  Monitored clomid cycle  w/ ICI's at home: 1/24/14 and 1/25/14. Ovulation verified:  BFN
    • Fifth Cycle: 02/2014 Femara 5mg with ovidrel trigger CD14: BFN
    • Taking a few months off to evaluate if we want to keep trying


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  • ball.and.chainball.and.chain member
    wishiwaspreggo said:

    I wish I could temp but I tried it and every morning it reads something completely different.  It'll vary by a half a degree every day and I don't know why.  Does anyone have a good, reliable thermometer brand to recommend?  The one I have is just pathetic and I can't for the life of me understandy why my temp would fluctuate so wildly.

    A certain amount of fluctuation is normal.  I've had cycles where it went up and down by half a degree almost every day but there was still a clear temp shift when you looked the big picture.  Like GW said, you'll need a BBT rather than a regular thermo (or a regular thermo that is very precise).  I think I used one from Veridian.

    Hope your cycle resolves itself soon!
    Married my wife 8/2007 ~ TTC #1 since 7/2011
    9 IUIs = 9 BFNs
    IVF October 2012: 22 eggs retrieved, 17 fertilized, 5 frozen
    ET #1: 1 blast = BFP; Blighted ovum discovered at 7w5d; D&E
    FET #1: 1 blast = BFP; Missed m/c discovered at 9w5d; D&E
    Karyotyping: normal ~ RPL Testing: normal ~ Hysteroscopy: normal
    FET #2: 1 blast transferred 10/25; BFP 10/31!
    EDD 7/13/14 ~ Induced at 37w4d due to pre-eclampsia ~ Born on 6/28/14
    *Everyone welcome*

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  • wishiwaspreggowishiwaspreggo member
    Thank you, ladies :) I'll start charting when AF gets here.  I may do the 5 am thing, too, since it'll be well before the sun can bake my bedroom.  As long as DP can stand the beeping that early in the morning... lol
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  • GoaliesWife123GoaliesWife123 member
    My DW doesn't even wake up when I take my temp :D Besides...if DP doesn't like the beeping, she might not like a baby :D 

    TTC our first. Married to, and madly in love with, my beautiful wife. Living with our fur baby and enjoying 19 nieces and nephews. 
    • DW and I have been tracking, preparing, getting medical testing since January 2013.
    • First Cycle: Unmedicated ICI w/ Donor Sperm 08/02/13: BFN
    • Second Cycle: Unmedicated ICI w/ Donor Sperm 09/11/13, 09/13/13, 09/15/13: BFN
    • Third Cycle: Unmedicated ICI w/ Donor Sperm: 10/13/13, 10/15/13, 10/17/13, 10/21/13: BFN
    • January 2014: Sonohysterogram shows excellent lining & tubes have no blockages
    • Fourth Cycle:  Monitored clomid cycle  w/ ICI's at home: 1/24/14 and 1/25/14. Ovulation verified:  BFN
    • Fifth Cycle: 02/2014 Femara 5mg with ovidrel trigger CD14: BFN
    • Taking a few months off to evaluate if we want to keep trying


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  • wishiwaspreggowishiwaspreggo member
    LOL Excellent point!
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