UO Thursday

OkieMama · September 2013

wheelerc said:
@okiemama Ugh I can't stand that! Put some freaking clothes on you little hoochie mama!!! Grrr...

And one quick thing for you and @Meow84 and anyone else that may not know: my use name is wheeleRc. One R, not two! Just fyi for people who tag, since I never see them because they always have an extra R. I mean really!

Ah, whoops! @wheelerc, better?

reinedecajun · September 2013

OkieMama said:

@okiemama Ugh I can't stand that! Put some freaking clothes on you little hoochie mama!!! Grrr...

And one quick thing for you and @Meow84 and anyone else that may not know: my use name is wheeleRc. One R, not two! Just fyi for people who tag, since I never see them because they always have an extra R. I mean really!
Ah, whoops! @wheelerc, better?

I never see my tags because nobody calls me by the same name. If I happen to run across it then i'll see it. But ragin, cajun, reindeer or the like I wont see

Pandril19 · September 2013

reinedecajun said:

I never see my tags because nobody calls me by the same name. If I happen to run across it then i'll see it. But ragin, cajun, reindeer or the like I wont see

Yes, but you're everywhere, so you see it anyway.

reinedecajun · September 2013

FYI marijuana isn't addictive

, but I agree the other drugs are. Yes people choose to do them, but some people have addictive personalities and use alcohol, etc to deal with the stress. I only say this because I am dealing with this now with my husband and his PTSD. He didn't choose to have a issue with alcohol it just sort of happened that way.

reinedecajun · September 2013

zpanjwani said:

My UO: I live in the South (specfically Atlanta) and I don't like when kids are made to say ma'am and sir. I, personally, don't like it when people call me ma'am. I don't think kids have inferior manners if they don't refer to people as ma'am and sir.

Also, I will choose vanity over comfort in every single instance, except when I'm sick. I think too many people choose comfort over style and then they end up feeling bad about themselves later on.

Im excatly the opposite, I was raised to say yes mam and no sir and my kids better do the same. I still say yes mam to my elders as well. It's respectful, imo. Nothing I hate worse than hearing my kids say "huh, what?, ok" makes me cringe.

I am with you though on leaving the house dressed. I wont be caught dead in my pj's out of the house. I.just.cant!

reinedecajun · September 2013

Oh I do agree with this..this whole fast food pay thing is ridic. I was a preschool teacher making $9 a hour taking care of infants. I mean really making burgers does not require that much pay!

lewispm · September 2013

JodieLyn10 said:

megs52881 said:

Babies in onesies after 1 make me cringe. I stopped using them around 10 months but I won't judge you until 1.

Well my little peanut is still under 20 lbs and fits into the same onsies she was wearing 3 months ago...so I'm not about to spend more $$ one new clothes when her old clothes still fit! Judge away! I can take it!

My monster is about to bust out of his 24 month onsies and I am devastated about it. I love me some onsies. Then again, I think baby thighs are the cutest thing on the planet so I want to see them!

lewispm · September 2013

megs52881 said:

Well this is going to sound beyond ridiculous and that's why it's a uo but because I think they are babyish hahhaahh. I thought they were perfect for nb, 3,6 and 9 month was pushing it. And personally my child is insane and I can't even imagine how you get your child into a onesie he will not lay or sit for a second. So it's much easier to put shorts and a t on him and I think it looks a lot cuter at this age. I love foot pjs but had to stop wearing them at 9 months for the same reason.

Sorry its huge, but how can you tell me this is not adorable?!?!?

reinedecajun · September 2013

JodieLyn10 said:

reinedecajun said:

Oh I do agree with this..this whole fast food pay thing is ridic. I was a preschool teacher making $9 a hour taking care of infants. I mean really making burgers does not require that much pay!

Well considering that people on welfare make more than minimum wage in 35 states wouldn't it make more sense to pay EVERYONE who has a job a living wage rather than incentivise them to stay home and take government assistance?
I hate America

lnd1031 · September 2013

OkieMama said:

@okiemama Ugh I can't stand that! Put some freaking clothes on you little hoochie mama!!! Grrr...

And one quick thing for you and @Meow84 and anyone else that may not know: my use name is wheeleRc. One R, not two! Just fyi for people who tag, since I never see them because they always have an extra R. I mean really!
Ah, whoops! @wheelerc, better?

I never see my tags because nobody calls me by the same name. If I happen to run across it then i'll see it. But ragin, cajun, reindeer or the like I wont see

I'm glad this came up. I don't ever see when I'm tagged because most everyone thinks it's "ind" but it's "Lnd" for my first name Lindsay. I hate my s.n. though and wish i could change it

WonderJess · September 2013

Meow84 said:

What bliz said, plus there is unfortunately still a lot of misinformation out there about mental illness and stigma around getting help. Andplusalso not everyone has insurance coverage or access to services and many non-profits hav e long waiting lists, so there's that.

All this. And I'll take it on from the other side. It is pretty hard to have a black and white attitude about it when you've been through the trauma and hell of watching someone you love suffer with drug addiction. It's just so so so complicated.

WonderJess · September 2013

stoopid Bump burp!

hokiemama06 · September 2013

I'm with Cajun - my boy will grow up saying yes ma'am, yes sir to any authority figure. I think it's less about manners and more about respect. Unless someone is taught to speak respectfully, it's not something most people just pick up on their own. And, in this day and age, when he becomes a teenager looking for a job, and out in his career, I truly believe it will help differentiate him from the pack. Plus, I've always had good luck with customer service reps, and I truly think it's because I am as respectful to them as I can be. Just my $.02

hokiemama06 · September 2013

Andplusalso, how you speak influences how you think. If you speak respectfully, then you will automatically be in that state of mind. And I always want my son to have respect for others (especially women)

lewispm · September 2013

hokiemama06 said:

I'm with Cajun - my boy will grow up saying yes ma'am, yes sir to any authority figure. I think it's less about manners and more about respect. Unless someone is taught to speak respectfully, it's not something most people just pick up on their own. And, in this day and age, when he becomes a teenager looking for a job, and out in his career, I truly believe it will help differentiate him from the pack. Plus, I've always had good luck with customer service reps, and I truly think it's because I am as respectful to them as I can be. Just my $.02

I agree 100%. Kellen will learn to say ma'am and sir and its not about manners or authority or anything like that. Like you said, its a sign of respect for one's elders and really just people in general. I absolutely hate when a kid, teen, whatever replies to an adult with "huh?", "yeah", or "what". Cringe!!!!

And to this day, If I walk up to a stranger who looks to be at least 18 or so, I would say "excuse me ma'am, but....." Its pretty typical where I am from though so people definitely don't get offended by being called ma'am or sir. I have heard in some places (California, especially. Is it true @nesenotes ?) ma'am is offensive for a woman. If I went to Cali, obviously I would try not to say it.

lewispm · September 2013

So obviously some people DO get offended by ma'am. Isn't it crazy how culture varies so much even with all today's modern technology? I hope we don't stray away from certain cultural traditions because of it. The world would be such a boring place if everyone tried to be the same.

reinedecajun · September 2013

Lol if I called someone "miss" here they would think I was being snarky.

WonderJess · September 2013

wheelerc said:

@WonderJess yet another reason we are the same. My mom is the one that suffers, and it has been the most damaging thing I have ever dealt with, never black and white.

@wheelerc I feel for you!! My sister is a hot mess. A smart, funny, generous "functioning addict" who has destroyed her life and my family. I only hope (for all of us) she gets help before she kills herself.

WonderJess · September 2013

I am not offended by ma'am. I know it comes out of a place of respect and respect is never a bad thing. BUT... it definitely makes me cringe. I am so NOT a ma'am!

lewispm · September 2013

reinedecajun said:

Lol if I called someone "miss" here they would think I was being snarky.

Diddo! "Excuse me, miss" sounds kinda bitchy for some reason but "excuse me, ma'am" sounds nice and respectful.

My husband calls me ma'am pretty much every time I call for him by name.

Me: "Jason!"

Him: "Yes ma'am?"

I love it.

SallySunrise · September 2013

hokiemama06 said:
Andplusalso, how you speak influences how you think. If you speak respectfully, then you will automatically be in that state of mind. And I always want my son to have respect for others (especially women)

I haven't read all the replies, but I kind of think of this the opposite way. If I'm in a respectful state of mind, kind words just come out of my mouth. I call pretty much everyone ma'am and sir, even and especially children. (Side Note: Children LOVE it! Makes them feel so special!) If I'm in a crabby mood though, I've noticed I don't do it. I'm short and rude with people when I'm not in that state of mind. When I'm feeling happy and friendly and "myself", I treat people with outward respect because that's the kind of person I am (or try to be, at least)- you have respect as a human being automatically from me, it's yours to lose. I feel like I'm not saying this right here... I'm sorry if my rambling is going nowhere. Basically I'm saying, just using ma'am and sir doesn't put you in a respectful state of mind IMO. If you're in a respectful state of mind, ma'am and sir (or whatever terms you use) will just come out. Have true respect for others on the inside, and your outward actions will show it.

Does that make sense? I hope it doesn't sound High Horse-y. That's not what I'm going for. I just haven't had enough caffeine today.

reinedecajun · September 2013

lewispm said:

reinedecajun said:

Lol if I called someone "miss" here they would think I was being snarky.

Diddo! "Excuse me, miss" sounds kinda bitchy for some reason but "excuse me, ma'am" sounds nice and respectful.

My husband calls me ma'am pretty much every time I call for him by name.

Me: "Jason!"

Him: "Yes ma'am?"

I love it.

This is us as well!

apollonia10 · September 2013

I'm in CA and at all my customer service jobs, I was taught not to call anyone ma'am unless they were like grandma age. It does piss me off when people call me ma'am, even though I'm getting into ma'am territory! Lol

RTaylor12 · September 2013

lizwindersonRN said:

What's the difference in yoga pants and sweatpants? Seriously? And I frequently rock some sweats out and about in the winter...I see nothing wrong with it at all. Sweats and a cute hoodie is my winter wardrobe. But I also hate real pants after wearing scrubs are day at work. So suck it. Lol

I feel the same, must be another regional thing. People here rock sweats to WalMart all the time. But also, let's clarify what we mean about sweats. The only pants other than jeans I go to the store in are either a baggy pair of plain black tracksuit-material pants I own, or black yoga pants. I won't go in ridiculous printed pj pants or anything, that's a little much. What's funny is despite going to the store in sweats, I won't go without makeup. Even if I don't do my full eye makeup, I at least have base and blush on with some lip gloss.

There has been UOs against flip flops before, that I think is crazy. EVERYONE here wears flip flops all summer.

KCloveEli · September 2013

kitchencolors said:
@lewispm I am a Californian through and through. I don't think it's offensive, just not common. It seems overly formal and stuffy to me. I also never called friends parents mr or mrs last name. We used first names for everyone, adults and children.

This. So-Cal. Its really laid back here so No one uses those terms really. Most women seem to find offensive and think you're calling them old. Not sure why.

SallySunrise · September 2013

hijoi said:
@SallySunrise and other ma'am-ers, I used to love to call my students sit or ma'am. Then we got a new evaluation system. You get marked down for not calling students by their names. How's that for craptastic? It's all bullshit.

Whaaaaaaaaaa??! That's crazy.

britbratjf · September 2013

Yup I leave the house constantly in yoga capris and tee-shirts. In the winter its yoga pants and sweatshirts. I do generally throw on some makeup but my hair is in a ponytail. So I try and look a little put together but at the end of the day I'm dealing with my kid 24/7, I don't have a need to look cute all the time and I'm not going to change and get more clothes dirty just to leave the house. My yoga pants are nice and from the Gap...plus they make my ass look good

I also don't like onesies on Dagny anymore but I can't really put my finger on why. I just think she's cuter in dresses or shirt/skirt combos. But she also hasn't messed with pulling her shirt up yet so there's that. I do think that addiction is a disease BUT I think a lot of people who decide to try an illegal, addicting drug do not have a mental illness. Are there addicts who are mentally ill? Sure! But I think there are also a lot of stupid ass people who just think it'll be fun to try cocaine or meth and then they're addicted. I think there are plenty of meth addicts in Indiana who do not have a secondary mental illness other than their own stupidity. EDIT: Sorry, iPad ate my paragraphs.

nesenotes · September 2013

@lewispm yeah save ma'am for your area

we get pissy if we get carded for booze after 22. Ma'am sounds OLD in the land of botox and plastic surgery.

KarmB · September 2013

Lilah will say ma'am and sir. I didnt grow up saying it either, but I find it more respectful. We irritates me is when people flip out when people say it to them. Ive seen kids say yes Ma'am and the woman freaks out on them. Chill, the child was being respectful.

I will be in scumnmies in our g2g cuz thats all I have now. I may put on a real bra for y'all. Lilah on the other hand will look adorbs.

I too hate onesies on older kids but Lilah has 2 because when we traveled they didnt Have Zeb's tourist shirts in toddlers, just onesies.

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