FTM maybe tmi!!

Tlawson0421 · September 2013

I'm 37 weeks and I went to the hospital Sunday thinking I had something wrong with my kidneys. I was having severe back pain, but it was constant. Well I was having contractions. At my doctors appointment last Thursday I was dilated to one and 40% effaced. When I left the hospital Monday I was a loose 2 and 80% effaced. I lost my mucus plug Monday afternoon, and have been spotting and discharging brownish stuff every since. Yesterday and today every time I eat I'm running to the bathroom, and I haven't had much of an appetite since Sunday. I know I can stay at a 2 for forever, but I was wondering with everything else going could labor be close?? I am just so uncomfortable.

llybeck · September 2013

As PP said, absolutely no way for us to tell you. I've had all that going on for a few weeks as well. All of us are uncomfortable at this point, follow what your OB told you about actual labor (typically the 5-1-1 rule). These "symptoms" mean nothing unless they actually lead to active labor so there is no real point in overanalyzing it unless that happens. If you feel bad, try all the typical things like chugging water and laying on your left side.

I will say contractions are typically in your low back, kidney pain is much higher, so you would likely be able to tell the difference.

Shanmarie1083 · September 2013

Yes my crystal ball tells me you will give birth with the next several weeks!

Tlawson0421 · September 2013

I know no one can tell me when labor is coming. I was just wondering what other women felt like before labor. Shanmarie screw your crystal ball!! Mine tells me you are a smart ass for no reason.

Shanmarie1083 · September 2013

Tlawson0421 said:

I was wondering with everything else going could labor be close??

Re-read what you wrote again sweetie. You didn't ask what other women felt like before labor, you asked if labor could be close, to which again I say I can pretty much guarantee that you will deliver in the next several weeks. None of us can answer this for you and if you would even bother picking up a book or even reading other posts then you would know that not only does every woman experience different symptoms before labor, but many of us have all those things you described for weeks before finally going into labor. A dumb ass question deserves a smart ass answer!

Tlawson0421 · September 2013

I do read sweet heart, and if you feel like its a dumbass question then ignore it!! I know what I wrote I'm not stupid. This is my first pregnancy so everything is a little overwhelming. I've had a painless pregnancy until Sunday and then everything kind of happened all at once. So excuse me for wondering.

redfallon · September 2013

https://media.tumblr.com/26e144870baadb1b2836ceb749f2ba94/tumblr_inline_mjwsh5DFq71qz4rgp.gif

mrskeyte9 · September 2013

YES!! 2 different references to the "OR MAYBE" list...my day=made

ETA: damn autocorrect

PrettyInPearls23 · September 2013

Tlawson0421 said:

I know no one can tell me when labor is coming. I was just wondering what other women felt like before labor. Shanmarie screw your crystal ball!! Mine tells me you are a smart ass for no reason.

This just made me laugh really hard. Like, literally LOL at my desk to the point people were asking me what was so funny.

Damn you Shanmarie!!!!!!!

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mcg512 · September 2013

Tlawson0421 said:

I do read sweet heart, and if you feel like its a dumbass question then ignore it!! I know what I wrote I'm not stupid. This is my first pregnancy so everything is a little overwhelming. I've had a painless pregnancy until Sunday and then everything kind of happened all at once. So excuse me for wondering.

If you "know what you wrote" then why did you say that were asking something different? Obviously you don't know what you wrote.

You have all of 13 posts here and none since mid July. You and at least 18 other people have been asking the same questions for weeks. Go back and look at those posts to which we have responded in the exact same ways. Nobody has a crystal ball that can tell you when you're going to have your baby.

In answer to your question "could labor be close?" Maybe, maybe not.

mcg512 · September 2013

redfallon said:

This one is gonna take some candy too!

Shanmarie1083 · September 2013

PrettyInPearls23 said:

Tlawson0421 said:

I know no one can tell me when labor is coming. I was just wondering what other women felt like before labor. Shanmarie screw your crystal ball!! Mine tells me you are a smart ass for no reason.

This just made me laugh really hard. Like, literally LOL at my desk to the point people were asking me what was so funny.
Damn you Shanmarie!!!!!!!
)

happybride 276 · September 2013

Tlawson0421 said:

I know no one can tell me when labor is coming. I was just wondering what other women felt like before labor. Shanmarie screw your crystal ball!! Mine tells me you are a smart ass for no reason.

I don't understand why you have to be so bitchy. Did Shanmarie have a funny comment in reply to your question, that a thousand people have asked, YES. Did she deserve your pouty response because you didn't like what she said? I don't think so. I am going to repeat what everyone repeats because you clearly don't participate enough in the board:
1. This is a public forum. You will not always get "helpful" answers. You may not like the answers you get, but that's what happens when you post on a site that anyone can comment on. Don't get your panties in a bunch.
2. You have a whole 4 posts on this site, and coming to us with the same question that a thousand other people have posted about - when there is NO way for us to know if you are going in labor. It's just a ridiculous question and you would understand that if you participated.
I hope you understand that I am by no way trying to be rude to you, but it gets real old for the regs to always see the same questions posted over and over. Do a little search first. You can get some great advise from people here and it's a great support system. You just need to understand how annoying it is to see the same shit over and over again. We are not doctors and cannot give medical direction I don't even understand why you would think that we would know if you are going to go into labor. It would be one thing if you asked how BTDT (Been there done that - in case you don't know) how their labor started. That was asked yesterday, BTW. Good luck. I hope you are in labor and have a healthy delivery and baby.

Mrs.AllyH · September 2013

MandyCody36 said:

redfallon said:

This one is gonna take some candy too!

Damn, now I want peanut m&m. There needs to be a warning that posts contain pictures of food that may or may not initiate a craving. I still have an hour of work to get through!

4Angel5 · September 2013

I thought Shanmarie's original post was cute, and i thought the smart comeback was equally cute...then it all went downhill, and understandably, on both sides, as it often does on here.

I don't think that being a public forum gives anyone the right to bash someone who is sincerely asking for feedback. You don't want to answer, then don't. Let it go! I do enjoy the silliness of some gifs but not at the expense of someone's dignity. I'll repeat most of my response from the other FTM post with a few edits...

I can appreciate the fact that "facts" delivered online or in books aren't always accurate, or rather, don't always accurately depict what real moms FEEL or experience. It's helpful to see the range of experiences other moms have had, in real time, even for a BTDT mom. Not everything from before is top of mind. And speaking of minds, most of our preggo minds aren't fully intact at the moment, so I also understand when someone asks something one way but thinks they asked it a different way.

If you don't want to answer a FTM question, then don't waste your time (or their's), you can think what you want of others, but stop bashing these ladies and taking up their air time;

just because someone is a regular doesn't mean they can decide what belongs on here or not - that's where the Public part comes in -

and so what if someone hasn't felt like they needed to post their own posts until now? That's like saying to the shy kid in school that they can't ask a question when they finally decide to speak up. I may not be popular on here, but I don't care. I get what I need out of the forum and try to give back when I feel I can. Many FTMs don't feel like they have a lot to contribute, but it doesn't mean they aren't getting what they need from it.

imakeeff0rts · September 2013

You know, I really like that people use the FTM excuse and believe it's actually legitimate. I'm a FTM, too, but you know what? I took the time to speak with my doctor, a medical professional, and consult legitimate medical sources (ETA) when I have questions specific to my pregnancy instead of going onto an internet forum and pretending like people here can answer them for me.

Despite what you and your new white knight BFFs think about @Shanmarie1083 and her response, she was right on. You asked if labor could be coming soon for you - and then you pretended like you asked something else. She answered your question. And if you took even half a minute to look down the page, you would have seen that people have asked similar or the exact same questions that you just did.

...but apparently that's too difficult, and instead decided to get pissy when someone didn't shoot rainbows up your vag.

mcg512 · September 2013

And the white knight enters battle!!

Anyone can ask any question that they choose. Anyone can respond however way they choose. Seeing that there are 1-2 pages of topics posted everyday, it would be beneficial to look at the last couple pages or preform a simple search of the board to see if your question has been asked recently.

And FFS, not even your OB can tell you when you're going to go into labor so how do you expect a bunch of strangers on the internet to be able to tell you?

mcg512 · September 2013

The thing I love most about white knight posts is that the people that "love it" are usually ones that a) have very few posts, b) have white knighted for others in the past, or c) in the case of Miss @Jennybenny5785 have insulted others and GBCB'd only to continue to post even though they swore they would never post again!

This makes me laugh, a lot!

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happybride 276 · September 2013

4Angel5 said:

I thought Shanmarie's original post was cute, and i thought the smart comeback was equally cute...then it all went downhill, and understandably, on both sides, as it often does on here. I don't think that being a public forum gives anyone the right to bash someone who is sincerely asking for feedback. You don't want to answer, then don't. Let it go! I do enjoy the silliness of some gifs but not at the expense of someone's dignity. I'll repeat most of my response from the other FTM post with a few edits... I can appreciate the fact that "facts" delivered online or in books aren't always accurate, or rather, don't always accurately depict what real moms FEEL or experience. It's helpful to see the range of experiences other moms have had, in real time, even for a BTDT mom. Not everything from before is top of mind. And speaking of minds, most of our preggo minds aren't fully intact at the moment, so I also understand when someone asks something one way but thinks they asked it a different way. If you don't want to answer a FTM question, then don't waste your time (or their's), you can think what you want of others, but stop bashing these ladies and taking up their air time; just because someone is a regular doesn't mean they can decide what belongs on here or not - that's where the Public part comes in - and so what if someone hasn't felt like they needed to post their own posts until now? That's like saying to the shy kid in school that they can't ask a question when they finally decide to speak up. I may not be popular on here, but I don't care. I get what I need out of the forum and try to give back when I feel I can. Many FTMs don't feel like they have a lot to contribute, but it doesn't mean they aren't getting what they need from it.

I think I responded to your post in another thread in how you can get involved without having a lot to contribute, but there are many reasons you can still be involved as a FTM (Just as I am)
- Weekly check ins
-Monday Bitchfest
- Thankful Tuesday
- HDBD
- UO Thursday
-FFFC
-Sunday Clicky Polls

I am not "popular" on here either, but I contribute and share as much as I can. I enjoy the gifs, snark, and funny comments. I don't see any gifs that are posted at someone else's dignity. I think you are getting a little defensive. As I said in the other thread, it's annoying to see the same damn question OVER and OVER and OVER again. It doesn't take experience to do a quick search. I honestly don't mind the "I did a search and couldn't find what I was looking for" posts. At least they tried. There was zero effort on OP's behalf to see if a similar post had been made recently (which several have). I understand that you think that posts should be ignored. I feel like posters should try not to ignore every other post made today just to ask their own question. You think snarky comments are a waste of time, well I think people like OP waste everyone else's time.

imakeeff0rts · September 2013

MandyCody36 said:

The thing I love most about white knight posts is that the people that "love it" are usually ones that a) have very few posts, b) have white knighted for others in the past, or c) in the case of Miss @Jennybenny5785 have insulted others and GBCB'd only to continue to post even though they swore they would never post again!
This makes me laugh, a lot! )

Yeah. I was thinking that, too.

Shanmarie1083 · September 2013

MandyCody36 said:

And the white knight enters battle!!

Anyone can ask any question that they choose. Anyone can respond however way they choose. Seeing that there are 1-2 pages of topics posted everyday, it would be beneficial to look at the last couple pages or preform a simple search of the board to see if your question has been asked recently.
And FFS, not even your OB can tell you when you're going to go into labor so how do you expect a bunch of strangers on the internet to be able to tell you?

This gif is cracking me up. I might try to copy some of those moves in hopes it will put me into labor!

Jennybenny5785 · September 2013

MandyCody36 said:

The thing I love most about white knight posts is that the people that "love it" are usually ones that a) have very few posts, b) have white knighted for others in the past, or c) in the case of Miss @Jennybenny5785 have insulted others and GBCB'd only to continue to post even though they swore they would never post again!
This makes me laugh, a lot! )

I said I would never post another discussion and I haven't. I never said I wouldn't reply to other people's discussions. I never insulted anyone or called any one specific person out if you go back to the discussion from the other day and actually read it you will see that I never mentioned any names what so ever. Like you have said this is a public forum and I have done nothing wrong I have just as much right to be here as you do. If you don't like the topic of someone's discussion or you are annoyed by it or whatever then just ignore it and move on. There is no need to put people other people down for asking a question even if you do think it is stupid, annoying, ignorant, ect..

Gcrebel2006 · September 2013

MandyCody36 said:

redfallon said:

This one is gonna take some candy too!

Now I am dying for popcorn and peanut m&m's... Thanks guys!

mcg512 · September 2013

Jennybenny5785 said:
I said I would never post another discussion and I haven't. I never said I wouldn't reply to other people's discussions. I never insulted anyone or called any one specific person out if you go back to the discussion from the other day and actually read it you will see that I never mentioned any names what so ever. Like you have said this is a public forum and I have done nothing wrong I have just as much right to be here as you do. If you don't like the topic of someone's discussion or you are annoyed by it or whatever then just ignore it and move on. There is no need to put people other people down for asking a question even if you do think it is stupid, annoying, ignorant, ect..

1. You said "Okay sorry my bad i will just keep to myself from now on and not post anything else" and "Don't worry i will never post anything ever again." Posting is posting whether it's posting your own threads or replying to others. When you say you're done, be done. Nobody forgets the crazies!!

2. No you didn't call out one specific person, you made several generalized statements toward the entire group. Like this, "You people are the meanest, most rude people i have ever encountered." and this "I know this is a public forum but do people have to be so rude and mean?"

If we're all so damn rude and mean then why are you still here?

Shanmarie1083 said:

This gif is cracking me up. I might try to copy some of those moves in hopes it will put me into labor!

I was thinking the exact same thing when I saw it!!

RoosterWrangler · September 2013

twolittlewheels said:

Gcrebel2006 said:

MandyCody36 said:

redfallon said:

This one is gonna take some candy too!

Now I am dying for popcorn and peanut m&m's... Thanks guys!

Mixed together so the M&M's get all warm and salty...yum!

kimberlymacrae · September 2013

White knighting a white knight... BINGO ladies.

redfallon · September 2013

RoosterWrangler said:

I just imagine him saying either:

"Whasup..."

or

"How YOU doin?"

Jennybenny5785 · September 2013

@MandyCody36 I have the right to post if I want to. I meant that I would never post another discussion which I wasn't clear about at the time which I probably should have been but I shouldn't have to justify that to you anyway. Again like many of you have said this is a public forum I have the right to be here if I want to be I have done nothing wrong. I don't care what you or anyone else might think about me I have many friends and lots of support on my end I don't need any from you. Not everyone is mean and rude it is just a select few that are.

mcg512 · September 2013

Jennybenny5785 said:

@MandyCody36 I have the right to post if I want to. I meant that I would never post another discussion which I wasn't clear about at the time which I probably should have been but I shouldn't have to justify that to you anyway. Again like many of you have said this is a public forum I have the right to be here if I want to be I have done nothing wrong. I don't care what you or anyone else might think about me I have many friends and lots of support on my end I don't need any from you. Not everyone is mean and rude it is just a select few that are.

Punctuation honey, use it!

Tlawson0421 · September 2013

This is why I never get on here! I know I asked if labor could be close, but I honestly didn't think I would get a yes or no answer. I was expecting ladies to say could be I had similar symptoms and had my baby two days later or 4 weeks later or whatever. I do talk to my doctor, and that is the reason I don't get on here about everything little thing that happens in my pregnancy. That's also another reason I am not very familiar with everything on here. I didn't realize I could search for this topic. So I'm sorry ladies if I bothered you with my question. I'm not using being a first time mom as an excuse at all. I've read books and I get on website too, and I guess that is what I will stick with. Obviously this isn't what I need. Thank you for the feedback even if it was negative. I go to the doctor in the morning, and hopefully I will get good news.

Cleo421 · September 2013

Well that escalated quickly!

llybeck · September 2013

Tlawson0421 said:

This is why I never get on here! I know I asked if labor could be close, but I honestly didn't think I would get a yes or no answer. I was expecting ladies to say could be I had similar symptoms and had my baby two days later or 4 weeks later or whatever. I do talk to my doctor, and that is the reason I don't get on here about everything little thing that happens in my pregnancy. That's also another reason I am not very familiar with everything on here. I didn't realize I could search for this topic. So I'm sorry ladies if I bothered you with my question. I'm not using being a first time mom as an excuse at all. I've read books and I get on website too, and I guess that is what I will stick with. Obviously this isn't what I need. Thank you for the feedback even if it was negative. I go to the doctor in the morning, and hopefully I will get good news.

The thing people got annoyed about is when you start calling people smart asses and get upset about their responses when you didn't even ask the question you meant to ask. You could have easily said, "sorry, my bad, I meant to say -this- and not -this-." And nothing was rude or mean, you got defensive over absolutely nothing and again, it was your mistake for not actually asking what you meant. You asked if labor could be close in regards to YOU, what responses did you expect?

And seriously, if you have done so much reading and talking to your doctor, how would you not know that all these symptoms mean nothing? It doesn't matter if people have felt that way before labor, basically all pregnant women feel that way at some point before labor. No one did any "bashing" like certain people have said, this is just one out of 100 posts like this in the last month.

Dee2588 · September 2013

These threads are entertaining for when I can't sleep or when I'm bored at work

I'm a first time mom also but I learned along the way that there are symptoms or things happening to my body that other preganant ladies just can't answer. Some people do ask silly questions and that's fine but you should also expect a silly answer. It's an Internet forum and we're all welcome to provide and receive ANY kind of feedback. For more serious answers it's best to ask mom, best friends, doctor etc.....I'm guilty of posting a silly post once a long long time ago about going to the ER for a cold (I laugh about it now but it freaked me out at the time) but it didn't stop me from interacting here, it's fun and the ladies aren't bad, they're actually funny and understand the crazy stages of pregnancy. I guess like you when I posted that a while ago was like "omg people are mean" but than I shook it off and realized people are mean in the real world and I myself can be mean too especially now that I'm pregnant. With this in mind I'm gonna go finish work so I can go home haha

llybeck · September 2013

Dee2588 said:

These threads are entertaining for when I can't sleep or when I'm bored at work I'm a first time mom also but I learned along the way that there are symptoms or things happening to my body that other preganant ladies just can't answer. Some people do ask silly questions and that's fine but you should also expect a silly answer. It's an Internet forum and we're all welcome to provide and receive ANY kind of feedback. For more serious answers it's best to ask mom, best friends, doctor etc.....I'm guilty of posting a silly post once a long long time ago about going to the ER for a cold (I laugh about it now but it freaked me out at the time) but it didn't stop me from interacting here, it's fun and the ladies aren't bad, they're actually funny and understand the crazy stages of pregnancy. I guess like you when I posted that a while ago was like "omg people are mean" but than I shook it off and realized people are mean in the real world and I myself can be mean too especially now that I'm pregnant. With this in mind I'm gonna go finish work so I can go home haha

I really like this response! And I'm glad you kept posting here

kimberlymacrae · September 2013

Yay @Dee. I am an ex-silly poster as well and I have been on the other end of these lady's rants. Often my opinions differ and that's okay. If everyone thinks we're snarky now remember when we were all trying to wear non-maternity pants? Those were the cranky days!!!
I have asked silly questions as well. But I have learned so much from sharing over the last 7 months. I think if you're semi active in this board it can be such a great resource.

imakeeff0rts · September 2013

RoosterWrangler said:

And now all I can think about is "And then he served us pancakes."

happybride 276 · September 2013

imakeeff0rts said:

RoosterWrangler said:

And now all I can think about is "And then he served us pancakes."

And now all I want is pancakes.
8-> 8->

mcg512 · September 2013

happybride 276 said:

imakeeff0rts said:

RoosterWrangler said:

And now all I can think about is "And then he served us pancakes."

And now all I want is pancakes.
8-> 8->

That gif gives me the creeps! :-S

But I do love me some pancakes!! mmmmm

msronzio · September 2013

4Angel5 said: I thought Shanmarie's original post was cute, and i thought the smart comeback was equally cute...then it all went downhill, and understandably, on both sides, as it often does on here. I don't think that being a public forum gives anyone the right to bash someone who is sincerely asking for feedback. You don't want to answer, then don't. Let it go! I do enjoy the silliness of some gifs but not at the expense of someone's dignity. I'll repeat most of my response from the other FTM post with a few edits... I can appreciate the fact that "facts" delivered online or in books aren't always accurate, or rather, don't always accurately depict what real moms FEEL or experience. It's helpful to see the range of experiences other moms have had, in real time, even for a BTDT mom. Not everything from before is top of mind. And speaking of minds, most of our preggo minds aren't fully intact at the moment, so I also understand when someone asks something one way but thinks they asked it a different way. If you don't want to answer a FTM question, then don't waste your time (or their's), you can think what you want of others, but stop bashing these ladies and taking up their air time; just because someone is a regular doesn't mean they can decide what belongs on here or not - that's where the Public part comes in - and so what if someone hasn't felt like they needed to post their own posts until now? That's like saying to the shy kid in school that they can't ask a question when they finally decide to speak up. I may not be popular on here, but I don't care. I get what I need out of the forum and try to give back when I feel I can. Many FTMs don't feel like they have a lot to contribute, but it doesn't mean they aren't getting what they need from it.
Excuse me, hold up. Who bashed anyone? Are you fucking serious? Holy dramatic batman! And another thing, I'm a FTM and I have over a thousand posts. You cannot sincerely play the "I have nothing to contribute" card. Half the shit on these boards is nonsense/entertainment/ridiculousness anyway, with a recent influx of cute babies pouring in. Who doesn't love cute babies? Hell you could even post on a cute baby thread "cute baby!" I don't give a shit.

In regards to "so what if newbs blah blah blah" (I stopped reading at the word preggo) -- if they post a discussion they also need to fully expect that they may not get the answers they want. I'd love to ignore discussions, but I am a member of the bump, so I'll continue posting on whatever thread I want, thanks.

imakeeff0rts said:

MandyCody36 said:

The thing I love most about white knight posts is that the people that "love it" are usually ones that a) have very few posts, b) have white knighted for others in the past, or c) in the case of Miss @Jennybenny5785 have insulted others and GBCB'd only to continue to post even though they swore they would never post again!
This makes me laugh, a lot! )

Yeah. I was thinking that, too.

Thank you for this!!!!! I agree 1000%. But yet when a cute baby post pops up, these people are still too high up on their pedestals to click love, even on those kinds of posts (where you don't have to contribute jack shit). Some of these users are the epitome of drama-pushing bottom feeders and it reminds me why I don't socialize in public.

)

Tlawson0421 said:

This is why I never get on here! I know I asked if labor could be close, but I honestly didn't think I would get a yes or no answer. I was expecting ladies to say could be I had similar symptoms and had my baby two days later or 4 weeks later or whatever. I do talk to my doctor, and that is the reason I don't get on here about everything little thing that happens in my pregnancy. That's also another reason I am not very familiar with everything on here. I didn't realize I could search for this topic. So I'm sorry ladies if I bothered you with my question. I'm not using being a first time mom as an excuse at all. I've read books and I get on website too, and I guess that is what I will stick with. Obviously this isn't what I need. Thank you for the feedback even if it was negative. I go to the doctor in the morning, and hopefully I will get good news.

Good luck with your appointment, but seriously, screw your bitchy response to Shanmarie, because she is hilarious. Feel free to not come back.

Jennybenny5785 said:

@MandyCody36 I have the right to post if I want to. I meant that I would never post another discussion which I wasn't clear about at the time which I probably should have been but I shouldn't have to justify that to you anyway. Again like many of you have said this is a public forum I have the right to be here if I want to be I have done nothing wrong. I don't care what you or anyone else might think about me I have many friends and lots of support on my end I don't need any from you. Not everyone is mean and rude it is just a select few that are.

Not everyone is rude and mean but yet "you're all rude and mean" is what you posted before? You're never posting in another discussion which you aren't clear about at the time but yet "I'm not going to waste my time posting here again"? You make zero sense. And before you make another "omg you're so mean/rude/a bitch" comment, originally I was going to simply post "I don't like you." But I didn't. See? Even I can be a cupcake sometimes.

HBirdie · September 2013

happybride 276 said:

4Angel5 said:

I thought Shanmarie's original post was cute, and i thought the smart comeback was equally cute...then it all went downhill, and understandably, on both sides, as it often does on here. I don't think that being a public forum gives anyone the right to bash someone who is sincerely asking for feedback. You don't want to answer, then don't. Let it go! I do enjoy the silliness of some gifs but not at the expense of someone's dignity. I'll repeat most of my response from the other FTM post with a few edits... I can appreciate the fact that "facts" delivered online or in books aren't always accurate, or rather, don't always accurately depict what real moms FEEL or experience. It's helpful to see the range of experiences other moms have had, in real time, even for a BTDT mom. Not everything from before is top of mind. And speaking of minds, most of our preggo minds aren't fully intact at the moment, so I also understand when someone asks something one way but thinks they asked it a different way. If you don't want to answer a FTM question, then don't waste your time (or their's), you can think what you want of others, but stop bashing these ladies and taking up their air time; just because someone is a regular doesn't mean they can decide what belongs on here or not - that's where the Public part comes in - and so what if someone hasn't felt like they needed to post their own posts until now? That's like saying to the shy kid in school that they can't ask a question when they finally decide to speak up. I may not be popular on here, but I don't care. I get what I need out of the forum and try to give back when I feel I can. Many FTMs don't feel like they have a lot to contribute, but it doesn't mean they aren't getting what they need from it.

I think I responded to your post in another thread in how you can get involved without having a lot to contribute, but there are many reasons you can still be involved as a FTM (Just as I am)
- Weekly check ins
-Monday Bitchfest
- Thankful Tuesday
- HDBD
- UO Thursday
-FFFC
-Sunday Clicky Polls

I am not "popular" on here either, but I contribute and share as much as I can. I enjoy the gifs, snark, and funny comments. I don't see any gifs that are posted at someone else's dignity. I think you are getting a little defensive. As I said in the other thread, it's annoying to see the same damn question OVER and OVER and OVER again. It doesn't take experience to do a quick search. I honestly don't mind the "I did a search and couldn't find what I was looking for" posts. At least they tried. There was zero effort on OP's behalf to see if a similar post had been made recently (which several have). I understand that you think that posts should be ignored. I feel like posters should try not to ignore every other post made today just to ask their own question. You think snarky comments are a waste of time, well I think people like OP waste everyone else's time.

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HBirdie · September 2013

Sidenote: I wish regs could flag a post as dramatic so that you can easily glance at the forum list and know what to click on when you can't sleep. Can't believe I ignored this thread for so long!!

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