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  • kt_arrkt_arr member
    Darlingshakira said:
    I teach primary school children and some of these children have special needs , there are no special rules for children with special needs . All I'm saying is this type of rule works from a schools perspective as I'm sure you understand that if a child with asbergers demanded candy in front of the other children in the middle of a lesson we just cld not allow this for obvious reasons . Yes I also understand in the change of environment etc, however as I mentioned earlier that his own granny who was present claims that he only does this with his mother as she is soft and he understands he can get away with it , again I totally understand her frustration in giving into him as she is exhausted. I love her like my sister, I'm concerned that she is doing her self or son any favours as behaviour is only like this with her.
    https://www2.ed.gov/parents/needs/speced/iepguide/index.html
    There aren't "special rules" but definitely under law as an educator you have to provide a specific IEP for children with special needs.

    I understand where you're coming from, but school environments are different than home environments.
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  • calimama2007calimama2007 member
    I'm curious to know what the point o your judgment is of you friend. If you truly believe her child is in danger (of what I don't know) because he ate some sweets at the mall, then as a friend you should confront her.

    If you wouldn't feel comfortable doing that, then I can only assume that you aren't really concerned but just being a judgmental person.

    Re what her mother thinks, my mom thinks I should feed my kids candy nonstop and let them so whatever they want, and that I'm too cautious. And guess what, that doesn't mean that I'm a bad parent. They are my kids, and I'll do what is in my best judgment, since as their mother I know best.

    You're probably a very nice person IRL, but I have faced uncalled for judgment that has shown me that a real friend would never do this. So you should closely examine your true motivations in jumping to conclusions. JMO.

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  • DarlingshakiraDarlingshakira member
    Il assume that yre laws differ in the us, may I mention that I'm Irish Gaelic and trying to convey in a different language is difficult .also I never said my friends child was in danger, I said its notable that she gives in to his commands that's all. I feel that this thread has become twisted and blown out of proportion
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  • kt_arrkt_arr member
    You're right- my fail on that one for assuming. But I still hold firm on my comment that the home environment is different and parents already have a lot to deal with.

    I guess since I keep commenting on this thread I might as well leave my thoughts on the original topic- definitely being judgey. Some of the best memories I have with my mom was cuddling on the couch all night watching movies and eating popsicles (my mom gave no shizz about my sugar intake.) I definitely plan on doing this with my kid, judge away.
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  • littlepig2littlepig2 member
    @darlingshakira did you seriously compare ADHD to Asperger's and say that children with special needs don't have special rules??? I can't even... ::walks away as brain explodes::
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  • DarlingshakiraDarlingshakira member
    Yes I have those fond memories to which I treasure , my point was that from posting abt being concerned my grammor was judged my teaching and had bad karma wished upon me etc and yes of course I agree that his environment cld have effected his behaviour having had this pointed our to me , and yes I suppose that this cld be called judging but isn't it judgemental to assume all off these things about me. I would never ever wish bad karma in any one under any circumstances
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  • DarlingshakiraDarlingshakira member
    Rach521 no i didnot say that it was comparable , I said I had a daughter aged 23 who had ADHD ( special needs) in response to some one assuming I had no children or experience if special needs
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  • Babi2comingSoon2014Babi2comingSoon2014 member
    ...umizoomi saves lives, thats my two cents...
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  • RondackHikerRondackHiker member
    I'd rather be considered mean than be secretly be judging friends behind their back.

    The "no special rules for special needs kids" makes me sad. IEPs help kids so much. Not all kids learn the same. Not all can do the same things. Special allowances and help for kids with special needs really makes a big difference.


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  • micaelasmakeupmicaelasmakeup member
    Babi2comingSoon2014 said:

    ...umizoomi saves lives, thats my two cents...

    This.
    And my barely 3yo can count to 40.
    I sometimes feel the tv is a better teacher than me!! Lol





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  • DarlingshakiraDarlingshakira member
    Bookshelves said:

    @darlingshakira You can backtrack all you want -- you're still not coming out looking too good here.

    Also, use the quote button to let us know if you're talking to someone. Otherwise it just looks like you're talking to yourself.

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  • DarlingshakiraDarlingshakira member
    Darlingshakira said:

    Bookshelves said:

    @darlingshakira You can backtrack all you want -- you're still not coming out looking too good here.

    Also, use the quote button to let us know if you're talking to someone. Otherwise it just looks like you're talking to yourself.

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  • DarlingshakiraDarlingshakira member
    So il take it that it's ok to bully people in this board ? As I mentioned I have been made out to be a dishonest person due to people twisting words had my grammor mocked again I have explained that I'm Irish Gaelic and fund it difficult to convey in a different language . I find it disrespectful to use the word jeeeeze . Really it appears there are double standards going on here
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  • DarlingshakiraDarlingshakira member
    Darlingshakira said:

    So il take it that it's ok to bully people in this board ? As I mentioned I have been made out to be a dishonest person due to people twisting words had my grammor mocked again I have explained that I'm Irish Gaelic and fund it difficult to convey in a different language . I find it disrespectful to use the word jeeeeze . Really it appears there are double standards going on here

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  • DarlingshakiraDarlingshakira member
    Darlingshakira said:

    Darlingshakira said:

    So il take it that it's ok to bully people in this board ? As I mentioned I have been made out to be a dishonest person due to people twisting words had my grammor mocked again I have explained that I'm Irish Gaelic and fund it difficult to convey in a different language . I find it disrespectful to use the word jeeeeze . Really it appears there are double standards going on here

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  • DarlingshakiraDarlingshakira member
    Ps wishing bad karma on me surely is wrong upon anyone's standards
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  • DarlingshakiraDarlingshakira member
    I'm not going to argue with you , really it's beneath my self to lower my self to yre standard in using inappropriate language , I suggest you go back and re read all the posts and you will see that I had bad karma wished upon me , now that's not nice . Again words twisted I did not say there should not be special rules for special needs children in any post what so ever, I said children in my school with special needs were not allowed sugary snacks
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  • allie76allie76 member
    I'm tired of the mommy judging. 
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  • allie76allie76 member
    I only read the OP and didn't read the rest. Just wanted to say I'm tired of mommy judging. 
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  • DC2011DC2011 member
    Darlingshakira said:

    Sorry actually yes I do have a daughter , she is 23 years old and suffered ADHD and thankfully has out grown it

    P.s. No one "grows out" of ADHD. Just another correction to add-on (and you've got a long list of corrections).
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  • DarlingshakiraDarlingshakira member
    Goodness me that's clasping at straws, so answer me this . Do you think it's ok to use foul language on here such as shitty?
    DC2011 said:

    Darlingshakira said:

    Sorry actually yes I do have a daughter , she is 23 years old and suffered ADHD and thankfully has out grown it

    P.s. No one "grows out" of ADHD. Just another correction to add-on (and you've got a long list of corrections).
    :)
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  • DarlingshakiraDarlingshakira member
    Darlingshakira said:

    Goodness me that's clasping at straws, so answer me this . Do you think it's ok to use foul language on here such as shitty?

    DC2011 said:

    Darlingshakira said:

    Sorry actually yes I do have a daughter , she is 23 years old and suffered ADHD and thankfully has out grown it

    P.s. No one "grows out" of ADHD. Just another correction to add-on (and you've got a long list of corrections).
    :)
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  • DarlingshakiraDarlingshakira member
    Darlingshakira said:

    Darlingshakira said:

    Goodness me that's clasping at straws, so answer me this . Do you think it's ok to use foul language on here such as shitty?

    DC2011 said:

    Darlingshakira said:

    Sorry actually yes I do have a daughter , she is 23 years old and suffered ADHD and thankfully has out grown it

    P.s. No one "grows out" of ADHD. Just another correction to add-on (and you've got a long list of corrections).
    :)
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  • DarlingshakiraDarlingshakira member
    Again double standards as mentioned
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  • DarlingshakiraDarlingshakira member
    megash113 said:

    Darlingshakira said:

    Goodness me that's clasping at straws, so answer me this . Do you think it's ok to use foul language on here such as shitty?


    I think a lot of people think it's OK, since a lot of people use "foul" language. Most people don't consider "jeez" to be remotely foul, so if you take offense with that word, that's your own issue. 

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  • DarlingshakiraDarlingshakira member
    I agree that I'm in the minority , but I'm stating a fact that's its offensive as I have had people nit picking with me in what's proper and what's not .
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  • DarlingshakiraDarlingshakira member
    I believe it's rule breaking on this site also
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  • littlepig2littlepig2 member
    here with go with the flagging and "bullying" comments! you cannot compare ADHD and Asperger's, that IS my point. just because your child has ADHD does not in any way mean you understand the challenges of an Asperger's child or what they need. they're completely unrelated. no one is making fun of your grammar or twisting your words.. you said special needs students don't get special rules which is completely opposite from the truth. an IEP is nothing but special rules for the child that are held up by law. you keep saying that you can't convey things correctly because you speak Irish Gaelic but then keep digging yourself a deeper hole by posting more about special needs children and rules that you clearly don't know about.
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  • coralreefmomcoralreefmom member
    SgrRay929 said:

    Sigh. There have been absolutely no violations of the TOS in this thread. Nothing in this conversation would be considered bullying, but merely disagreeing. Additionally, using "foul language" is not a violation of the TOS. 


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  • RondackHikerRondackHiker member
    Darlingshakira said:

    I teach primary school children and some of these children have special needs , there are no special rules for children with special needs . All I'm saying is this type of rule works from a schools perspective as I'm sure you understand that if a child with asbergers demanded candy in front of the other children in the middle of a lesson we just cld not allow this for obvious reasons . Yes I also understand in the change of environment etc, however as I mentioned earlier that his own granny who was present claims that he only does this with his mother as she is soft and he understands he can get away with it , again I totally understand her frustration in giving into him as she is exhausted. I love her like my sister, I'm concerned that she is doing her self or son any favours as behaviour is only like this with her.

    There are no special rules is a direct quote. Not twisting.


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  • BabyDuckMamaBabyDuckMama member
    Glad my kid's not in your class....
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  • BabyDuckMamaBabyDuckMama member
    ADHD is a gentic condition. To say you grow out if it like saying you grow out of having brown eyes. Your daughter may have learnt to control it better, or perhaps she never actually had it. I'm 32 and have ADHD with full on hyperactive outbursts still. My grandfather carried on being hyperactive until he died at 86.

    Again, so glad my kid's not in your class. Hope you know more about teaching than ADHD, even when your daughter has it. Sheesh
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  • kklimaskklimas member
    BabyDuckMama said:

    ADHD is a gentic condition. To say you grow out if it like saying you grow out of having brown eyes. Your daughter may have learnt to control it better, or perhaps she never actually had it. I'm 32 and have ADHD with full on hyperactive outbursts still. My grandfather carried on being hyperactive until he died at 86.

    Again, so glad my kid's not in your class. Hope you know more about teaching than ADHD, even when your daughter has it. Sheesh

    Hijacking post because really why continue?
    @BabyDuckMama Do feel like you can control it more now that you're an adult despite some outbursts? How did you do it? Very interest and don't know how to ask you w/I the takeover. Sorry on a mobile. Thanks in advance!!
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