★☆★ TTA Check-In ★☆★

KMW08 · August 2013

This check-in is for anyone who is TTA, no matter for how long. We have a variety of wait times so please feel free to join. I will be posting this check-in on Friday. If you are new to the check in, I’m sorry you’re here, and I hope your stay is short. Please post a small intro and tell us why you are TTA and for how long so we can get to know you and be familiar with your history.

Please let me know if you would like to be added or if your information is incorrect. I will be removing names as the months come to an end unless otherwise notified that your TTA has been extended.

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How is everyone this week?

Any TTA-related frustrations?

Apples and onions, anyone? What was the high/low of your week?

GTKY: What chore do you dislike the most and why? Are there any chores that you love?

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Welcome to our new members: @MrsDeo, @JCM285, @ashtonblair123, @halfcaffeinated and @TravelingCouple !!!!!

Congratulations to @alysonjill and @kountingsheep for burning the bench!!! We have everything crossed for you ladies!!

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★☆★ TTA List ★☆★

ninthgirl July/August

SandSunBliss July/August

Mrs.E.07 August

alysonjill August/September

bethclosen September

marcilene1 September

Poppy715 September

sunnydaysarehere September/October

ashtonblair123 October

ball.and.chain October

halfcaffeinated October

jebretz October

MrsDeo October

TravelingCouple October

Elbug October/November

KMW08 October/November

MissMandyD October/November

princezjk December

Pink Camino January 2014

JCM285 March/April 2014

AppleMomma Indefinitely

ashx3renee Indefinitely

avioletsky Indefinitely

sarcaztic10 indefinitely

Saritaota614 Indefinitely

QuigleyCat Indefinitely

KMW08 · August 2013

@kountingsheep @alysonjill

This is all of us going to the bench burning party:

Where we worship you and give you good juju:

Then we party and watch the bench burn:

KMW08 · August 2013

How is everyone this week? I'm good, mostly uneventful week in my woods. Hope everybody else has had a good week.

Any TTA-related frustrations? None here.

Apples and onions, anyone? What was the high/low of your week? Can't really think of a low (unless you see my FFFC post). High: AF is on her way in, which means I got my septum surgery appointment scheduled. I'm so ready for this to be done!!

GTKY: What chore do you dislike the most and why? Are there any chores that you love? I dislike dishes the most. They gross me out. I'm getting better with them and sadly we have a dishwasher but I don't like using it. If I had to choose one that I loved, it would be laundry. I love the smell of clean, fresh laundry.

ashx3renee · August 2013

Hi KMW, I'd like to jump back in here. I'm currently TTA indefinitely.

How is everyone this week? I'm doing good, other than that I've been feeling pretty crappy this week. I'm just ridiculously exhausted all the time and have been sick. I have to go the ENT specialist next week to see about getting my tonsils removed.. eek!

Any TTA-related frustrations? Just that I'm TTA at all. lol I was okay with it at first, but lately I've been feeling more and more ready to TTC again.. but I know I can't pressure my husband into it.

Apples and onions, anyone? What was the high/low of your week? Low point to this week is definitely being sick. High point is coming this weekend! My good friends from PA are coming to town and my cousin is getting married tomorrow, I'm so excited! Plus who doesn't love a 3 day weekend?

GTKY: What chore do you dislike the most and why? Are there any chores that you love? I don't think I love any chores. lol I absolutely despise folding/putting away laundry.. which is bad because so does DH. I'm also not a huge fan of dishes, but I don't hate them nearly as much as I used to. When I was a teenager touching dirty dishes used to gross me out.

Poppy715 · August 2013

How is everyone this week? Doing great! I'm optimistic and Jessie Soprano excited.

Any TTA-related frustrations?

Nope!! I got a +OPK yesterday, thanks to @Zangel for sending me her strips!! I told H just a few more day and the goalie can be pulled. I should have AF towards the middle of September so technically next week-ish we will be off the bench.

Apples and onions, anyone? What was the high/low of your week?

BIL has been in town so that has been fun. But DH loves having his BFF here and spends so much time with him when he visits. I'm craving a little alone time with the hubs.

GTKY: What chore do you dislike the most and why? Are there any chores that you love?

I hate all chores. For some reason I really hate watering my garden. I don't think there is any that I actually enjoy. I always like putting in laundry but hate folding it. That's about as close as it gets.

Poppy715 · August 2013

@allisonjill @kountingsheep

Congrats ladies! Happy humping!!

All of us on the bench are rooting for you!

MissMandyD · August 2013

Hello everyone. I am new to the TTA check in. I was pregnant with ID twins and they passed of severe SIUGR at 20w1d on 8/19. I had a D&E on 8/20 and have my post-op appointment next Thursday. This was my first pregnancy and we plan to start TTC after 2 cycles which should be the end of October or the beginning of November.

How is everyone this week? Pretty good. It is my first week back at work after the E&D. It has been a long one but it is almost over....so that is great! Have my brother and SIL's baby shower tomorrow so that might be a difficult day.

Any TTA-related frustrations? Still spotting after surgery and fighting a yeast infection. No fun.

Apples and onions, anyone? What was the high/low of your week? High - Being able to drink wine again. Low - It may be tomorrow...although I'm not sure.

GTKY: What chore do you dislike the most and why? Are there any chores that you love? Floors. I hate cleaning the floors.

JCM285 · August 2013

It's been a good week so far! No TTA-frustrations lately. Apples and onions: We are having a Labor Day BBQ so I'm getting geared up with the food and drink (more drink than food probably). Hopefully it doesn't rain! I've been feeling really tired lately and I think it's related to AF finishing up. I had a 60-day cycle before AF showed up this month so that probably has a lot to do with me feeling crummy too. GTKY: I HATE cleaning! If people didn't come over, I would probably never clean the house.

ashx3renee and @Elbug, Welcome and sorry for your losses.

halfcaffeinated · August 2013

Elbug said:

Hello all, I just intro'd on the main board and thought I would get rolling with the TTA check in. Tentatively we're thinking about tta until Octorber or November. Just want to see how we feel after our first cycle. Since we're less than a week out from our loss I'm going to skip the first few questions. I'll get into those next week. I'm charting and hoping this first cycle doesn't end up being too wonky but I'm going in assuming it will be for now. I'm overwhelmed by the thought of tta at this point (but even more overwhelmed by the thought of ttc). GTKY: What chore do you dislike the most and why? Are there any chores that you love? I actually dislike almost all chores. I'm a terrible home keeper. I dislike putting laundry away the most and I guess I like sweeping and dusting I guess.

Welcome to the Board, @Elbug . I'm very sorry for your recent loss. Wednesday marked a week from my d&c, so we are new to this whole thing and I have some anxiety about TTA while we wait to try again as well.

alleycat39 · August 2013

KMW08 said:

@kountingsheep @alysonjill
This is all of us going to the bench burning party:
Where we worship you and give you good juju:

Then we party and watch the bench burn:

I'm ready to go! Lets get this party started!!!

alleycat39 · August 2013

Poppy715 said:

@allisonjill @kountingsheep
Congrats ladies! Happy humping!!
All of us on the bench are rooting for you!

Thank you @poppy715 !

halfcaffeinated · August 2013

WARNING: DEBBIE DOWNER ALERT

NTTCAP: This is probably one of the worst weeks I've had in a long time. Our miscarriage is still fresh and makes me upset unpredictably throughout the work day. My apartment is closing in on me (broken plumbing, no insulation, long-term mouse problem) and we had a new place to live lined up but once we lost the baby, that was no longer on the table (it was a relative that was helping us out.) Work has been super busy and stressful on top of the fact that I have to listen to my co-workers complain about their imaginary tragedies while I'm spinning with actual grief. We found out on Wednesday that my MIL has thyroid cancer. The animal shelter has had the application I put in for the a puppy I fell in love with for almost a week and has not responded to any of my emails. And when I got home last night I didn't get any sleep because my DH appears to have contracted food poisoning -- his fever kept escalating and for a few hours I was genuinely scared.

TTA issues: My bleeding has tapered off so hopefully by Thursday I'll be able to think about sex without wanting to throw up. That will be two weeks + one day since my procedure. I'm worried DH won't want to use condoms. I'm terrified I'll agree in a moment of weakness. I'm scared my AF will take weeks and weeks to come. I started taking some "Female Toner" tea with nettle leaf and raspberry leaf so maybe that will help.

I am really bad at doing chores, guys. I can't even pretend.

KMW08 · August 2013

ashx3renee said:

Hi KMW, I'd like to jump back in here. I'm currently TTA indefinitely.

How is everyone this week? I'm doing good, other than that I've been feeling pretty crappy this week. I'm just ridiculously exhausted all the time and have been sick. I have to go the ENT specialist next week to see about getting my tonsils removed.. eek!

Any TTA-related frustrations? Just that I'm TTA at all. lol I was okay with it at first, but lately I've been feeling more and more ready to TTC again.. but I know I can't pressure my husband into it.

Apples and onions, anyone? What was the high/low of your week? Low point to this week is definitely being sick. High point is coming this weekend! My good friends from PA are coming to town and my cousin is getting married tomorrow, I'm so excited! Plus who doesn't love a 3 day weekend?

GTKY: What chore do you dislike the most and why? Are there any chores that you love? I don't think I love any chores. lol I absolutely despise folding/putting away laundry.. which is bad because so does DH. I'm also not a huge fan of dishes, but I don't hate them nearly as much as I used to. When I was a teenager touching dirty dishes used to gross me out.

Welcome back to the board and to the check-in. I'm glad you and yh are in a great place and you're right, don't pressure him with ttc. You're definitely not alone on this tta bench! Good luck next week with the ENT, I'd be a little nervous about that too! (Here in a few minutes I'll update this post with a live-time pic for you in regards to the laundry comment

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KMW08 · August 2013

Elbug said:

Hello all, I just intro'd on the main board and thought I would get rolling with the TTA check in. Tentatively we're thinking about tta until Octorber or November. Just want to see how we feel after our first cycle. Since we're less than a week out from our loss I'm going to skip the first few questions. I'll get into those next week. I'm charting and hoping this first cycle doesn't end up being too wonky but I'm going in assuming it will be for now. I'm overwhelmed by the thought of tta at this point (but even more overwhelmed by the thought of ttc). GTKY: What chore do you dislike the most and why? Are there any chores that you love? I actually dislike almost all chores. I'm a terrible home keeper. I dislike putting laundry away the most and I guess I like sweeping and dusting I guess.

Welcome to the board and the check-in. FX your cycle isn't too wonky. FWIW my cycles after my mc were completely normal. My D&Cs....those were more of hurry up and waits! I totally understand about ttc vs tta. Take all the time you need to come to terms with both. It's not easy to be tta but it's even harder to be ttc when you're not ready. I will also be posting my pic for you too in regards to the laundry!!

KMW08 · August 2013

Poppy715 said:

How is everyone this week? Doing great! I'm optimistic and Jessie Soprano excited.

Any TTA-related frustrations?
Nope!! I got a +OPK yesterday, thanks to @Zangel for sending me her strips!! I told H just a few more day and the goalie can be pulled. I should have AF towards the middle of September so technically next week-ish we will be off the bench.

Apples and onions, anyone? What was the high/low of your week?
BIL has been in town so that has been fun. But DH loves having his BFF here and spends so much time with him when he visits. I'm craving a little alone time with the hubs.

GTKY: What chore do you dislike the most and why? Are there any chores that you love?
I hate all chores. For some reason I really hate watering my garden. I don't think there is any that I actually enjoy. I always like putting in laundry but hate folding it. That's about as close as it gets.

I'm so friggin excited for you to be off the bench! I desperately wanted to add you to the bench burning party today!!!! This is just a pre-game warm up for your bench burning party

That's awesome that @ZAngel sent you her strips, she's definitely not a stranger to the tta bench! All I'm saying is that she had better have put a magic spell on those for you!! We'll be after you Z if you didn't!! :P

KMW08 · August 2013

MissMandyD said:

Hello everyone. I am new to the TTA check in. I was pregnant with ID twins and they passed of severe SIUGR at 20w1d on 8/19. I had a D&E on 8/20 and have my post-op appointment next Thursday. This was my first pregnancy and we plan to start TTC after 2 cycles which should be the end of October or the beginning of November.

How is everyone this week? Pretty good. It is my first week back at work after the E&D. It has been a long one but it is almost over....so that is great! Have my brother and SIL's baby shower tomorrow so that might be a difficult day.

Any TTA-related frustrations? Still spotting after surgery and fighting a yeast infection. No fun.

Apples and onions, anyone? What was the high/low of your week? High - Being able to drink wine again. Low - It may be tomorrow...although I'm not sure.

GTKY: What chore do you dislike the most and why? Are there any chores that you love? Floors. I hate cleaning the floors.

Welcome to the check-in. So many ((hugs)) to you. I hope this coming week at work is a good one for you too. Going back is a huge hurdle to cross. More HUGS for the shower tomorrow. I'm sure if you need to excuse yourself, they'll understand. No matter what happens, do what you need to do for you. FX the spotting stops soon and the yeast infection clears up without any further complications.

KMW08 · August 2013

JCM285 said:

It's been a good week so far! No TTA-frustrations lately. Apples and onions: We are having a Labor Day BBQ so I'm getting geared up with the food and drink (more drink than food probably). Hopefully it doesn't rain! I've been feeling really tired lately and I think it's related to AF finishing up. I had a 60-day cycle before AF showed up this month so that probably has a lot to do with me feeling crummy too. GTKY: I HATE cleaning! If people didn't come over, I would probably never clean the house.
ashx3renee and @Elbug, Welcome and sorry for your losses.

No rain! If it does, just drink more

I hope this cycle isn't near as long, damn AF, she really is a bish.

KMW08 · August 2013

halfcaffeinated said:

WARNING: DEBBIE DOWNER ALERT

NTTCAP: This is probably one of the worst weeks I've had in a long time. Our miscarriage is still fresh and makes me upset unpredictably throughout the work day. My apartment is closing in on me (broken plumbing, no insulation, long-term mouse problem) and we had a new place to live lined up but once we lost the baby, that was no longer on the table (it was a relative that was helping us out.) Work has been super busy and stressful on top of the fact that I have to listen to my co-workers complain about their imaginary tragedies while I'm spinning with actual grief. We found out on Wednesday that my MIL has thyroid cancer. The animal shelter has had the application I put in for the a puppy I fell in love with for almost a week and has not responded to any of my emails. And when I got home last night I didn't get any sleep because my DH appears to have contracted food poisoning -- his fever kept escalating and for a few hours I was genuinely scared.

TTA issues: My bleeding has tapered off so hopefully by Thursday I'll be able to think about sex without wanting to throw up. That will be two weeks + one day since my procedure. I'm worried DH won't want to use condoms. I'm terrified I'll agree in a moment of weakness. I'm scared my AF will take weeks and weeks to come. I started taking some "Female Toner" tea with nettle leaf and raspberry leaf so maybe that will help.

I am really bad at doing chores, guys. I can't even pretend.

(((Hugs))) when it rains it pours. Try to take a few deep breaths and one day at a time. It's hard when curveballs are being thrown at you from every direction, but try and focus on one main goal. As for sex, don't feel pressured. Even at the 2week mark if you're not ready, you're not ready. Did your doctor advise you to wait before ttc again or are you benching yourself? If your dr did, please please please follow those orders. Even if your husband doesn't want to use a condom, discuss your feelings with him. If you've been advised to tta, if you got ku and had a loss again, think about how you'd feel in terms of guilt for not waiting.

KMW08 · August 2013

@ashx3renee @Elbug

Sooo.... Who wants to come fold my laundry and put it away? Really put it away.. Folding doesn't bother me. That's on my to do next list!!

Poppy715 · August 2013

KMW08 said:

Poppy715 said:

How is everyone this week? Doing great! I'm optimistic and Jessie Soprano excited.

Any TTA-related frustrations?
Nope!! I got a +OPK yesterday, thanks to @Zangel for sending me her strips!! I told H just a few more day and the goalie can be pulled. I should have AF towards the middle of September so technically next week-ish we will be off the bench.

Apples and onions, anyone? What was the high/low of your week?
BIL has been in town so that has been fun. But DH loves having his BFF here and spends so much time with him when he visits. I'm craving a little alone time with the hubs.

GTKY: What chore do you dislike the most and why? Are there any chores that you love?
I hate all chores. For some reason I really hate watering my garden. I don't think there is any that I actually enjoy. I always like putting in laundry but hate folding it. That's about as close as it gets.

I'm so friggin excited for you to be off the bench! I desperately wanted to add you to the bench burning party today!!!! This is just a pre-game warm up for your bench burning party That's awesome that @ZAngel sent you her strips, she's definitely not a stranger to the tta bench! All I'm saying is that she had better have put a magic spell on those for you!! We'll be after you Z if you didn't!! :P

EEEEE! I am so full of SQUEEEEEEEEEEEEEE right now. I think Z's strips will be the magic trick! I thought I would just test to see yesterday and I saw a super dark line. It was amazing. I don't think it could have been better timing. Now I just need that for this next month.

My bench burning is going to be a party. I think we might need to have a bench burning gif off. Right now I'm just wanting to race forward to the end of the month so I can get this party started. I hate to leave you ladies here in check-in but I'll be so happy to see you take my name off that list!!!!

Poppy715 · August 2013

Elbug said:

Hello all, I just intro'd on the main board and thought I would get rolling with the TTA check in. Tentatively we're thinking about tta until Octorber or November. Just want to see how we feel after our first cycle. Since we're less than a week out from our loss I'm going to skip the first few questions. I'll get into those next week. I'm charting and hoping this first cycle doesn't end up being too wonky but I'm going in assuming it will be for now. I'm overwhelmed by the thought of tta at this point (but even more overwhelmed by the thought of ttc). GTKY: What chore do you dislike the most and why? Are there any chores that you love? I actually dislike almost all chores. I'm a terrible home keeper. I dislike putting laundry away the most and I guess I like sweeping and dusting I guess.

Welcome to check-in and the board. I'm so sorry you have to join us. FX your AF is regular and comes back with ease.

Poppy715 · August 2013

JCM285 said:

It's been a good week so far! No TTA-frustrations lately. Apples and onions: We are having a Labor Day BBQ so I'm getting geared up with the food and drink (more drink than food probably). Hopefully it doesn't rain! I've been feeling really tired lately and I think it's related to AF finishing up. I had a 60-day cycle before AF showed up this month so that probably has a lot to do with me feeling crummy too. GTKY: I HATE cleaning! If people didn't come over, I would probably never clean the house.
ashx3renee and @Elbug, Welcome and sorry for your losses.

Oh man that is a long cycle. FX they shorten up! Your BBQ sounds really fun! We are having one tomorrow for DH's birthday.

Poppy715 · August 2013

KMW08 said:

How is everyone this week? I'm good, mostly uneventful week in my woods. Hope everybody else has had a good week.

Any TTA-related frustrations? None here.

Apples and onions, anyone? What was the high/low of your week? Can't really think of a low (unless you see my FFFC post). High: AF is on her way in, which means I got my septum surgery appointment scheduled. I'm so ready for this to be done!!

GTKY: What chore do you dislike the most and why? Are there any chores that you love? I dislike dishes the most. They gross me out. I'm getting better with them and sadly we have a dishwasher but I don't like using it. If I had to choose one that I loved, it would be laundry. I love the smell of clean, fresh laundry.

I saw your post but didn't comment there. ((hugs)) I'm sorry you had to make that call and I'm sure telling DH makes it crazy stressful. I understand why you made the choice you did though. Don't be too hard on yourself.

Poppy715 · August 2013

@ashx3renee, I'm so happy to see you again around these parts. Are you and DH just putting some time away from TTC? TTA can be relaxing and take so much off your mind. It's crazy stressful and can put tons of strain on any relationship. I think you are doing the right thing by TTA. You and your DH both have to be ready. Someone pressing the issue isn't healthy or worth the stress. He will be ready again just give him some time.

Poppy715 · August 2013

halfcaffeinated said:

WARNING: DEBBIE DOWNER ALERT

NTTCAP: This is probably one of the worst weeks I've had in a long time. Our miscarriage is still fresh and makes me upset unpredictably throughout the work day. My apartment is closing in on me (broken plumbing, no insulation, long-term mouse problem) and we had a new place to live lined up but once we lost the baby, that was no longer on the table (it was a relative that was helping us out.) Work has been super busy and stressful on top of the fact that I have to listen to my co-workers complain about their imaginary tragedies while I'm spinning with actual grief. We found out on Wednesday that my MIL has thyroid cancer. The animal shelter has had the application I put in for the a puppy I fell in love with for almost a week and has not responded to any of my emails. And when I got home last night I didn't get any sleep because my DH appears to have contracted food poisoning -- his fever kept escalating and for a few hours I was genuinely scared.

TTA issues: My bleeding has tapered off so hopefully by Thursday I'll be able to think about sex without wanting to throw up. That will be two weeks + one day since my procedure. I'm worried DH won't want to use condoms. I'm terrified I'll agree in a moment of weakness. I'm scared my AF will take weeks and weeks to come. I started taking some "Female Toner" tea with nettle leaf and raspberry leaf so maybe that will help.

I'm sorry you are having such a rough week. You are still so close to your loss. It really does take time for that searing pain to diminish.

I'm so sorry about the news regarding your MIL. That's terrible. I also hope you hear something soon about that pup! What a wonderful distraction it would be.

I totally understand about listening to co-workers. Since my loss I feel like a different person. I'm usually really upbeat and outgoing. I have found I'm more sullen and pensive now. I try to hold on to parts of my old self but I can tell I'm not the same, I never will be. Having an experience like ours changes your whole outlook on life. Things are not rosey and happy or easy like they once were. It's hard. Try to not keep it in and find someone you can talk to: DH, a therapist, family/friends and us. It helps.

((hugs)) I hope your week turns around and your weekend is fantastic!

Poppy715 · August 2013

KMW08 said:

@ashx3renee @Elbug Sooo.... Who wants to come fold my laundry and put it away? Really put it away.. Folding doesn't bother me. That's on my to do next list!!

This really is exactly what our laundry room looks like. I wash clothes all the time but can never seem to fold them once they are out. I have a mountain in there!

MissMandyD · August 2013

KMW08 said:

MissMandyD said:

Hello everyone. I am new to the TTA check in. I was pregnant with ID twins and they passed of severe SIUGR at 20w1d on 8/19. I had a D&E on 8/20 and have my post-op appointment next Thursday. This was my first pregnancy and we plan to start TTC after 2 cycles which should be the end of October or the beginning of November.

How is everyone this week? Pretty good. It is my first week back at work after the E&D. It has been a long one but it is almost over....so that is great! Have my brother and SIL's baby shower tomorrow so that might be a difficult day.

Any TTA-related frustrations? Still spotting after surgery and fighting a yeast infection. No fun.

Apples and onions, anyone? What was the high/low of your week? High - Being able to drink wine again. Low - It may be tomorrow...although I'm not sure.

GTKY: What chore do you dislike the most and why? Are there any chores that you love? Floors. I hate cleaning the floors.

Welcome to the check-in. So many ((hugs)) to you. I hope this coming week at work is a good one for you too. Going back is a huge hurdle to cross. More HUGS for the shower tomorrow. I'm sure if you need to excuse yourself, they'll understand. No matter what happens, do what you need to do for you. FX the spotting stops soon and the yeast infection clears up without any further complications.

Thank you for the well wishes! Hoping tomorrow is ok.

halfcaffeinated · August 2013

:KMW08 said"
(((Hugs))) when it rains it pours. Try to take a few deep breaths and one day at a time. It's hard when curveballs are being thrown at you from every direction, but try and focus on one main goal. As for sex, don't feel pressured. Even at the 2week mark if you're not ready, you're not ready. Did your doctor advise you to wait before ttc again or are you benching yourself? If your dr did, please please please follow those orders. Even if your husband doesn't want to use a condom, discuss your feelings with him. If you've been advised to tta, if you got ku and had a loss again, think about how you'd feel in terms of guilt for not waiting.

Thanks for the support. It has been so good to come here and read how everyone else is feeling. It helps to keep things in perspective when I'm not feeling great. I see that happy days will come again.

I benched us for my own sanity, my doctor wasn't concerned about how long we wait to try again and kind of left it up to me. DH really really wants me to be pregnant again and isn't scared of another loss, so I'm anticipating that he is going to be peeking at my charting app and trying to ply me with wine and romance during the fertile window. This is definitely going to be interesting.

halfcaffeinated · August 2013

Elbug said:

@ashx3renee @Elbug Sooo.... Who wants to come fold my laundry and put it away? Really put it away.. Folding doesn't bother me. That's on my to do next list!!
I'm all about putting laundry in the wash but would much prefer to leave it in a heaping pile than fold or hang it up. I just think its easier to put wrinkly clothes in the dryer for 10 minutes when needed than actually hanging it all up makes my DH crazy. Seriously.

Have you heard of the No-Iron Spray? I don't know who makes it but it's under the fabric softener in the supermarket. I hang up my work clothes and spray the heck out of them and leave them to dry by the window. I don't even own an iron. Haha.

halfcaffeinated · August 2013

@elbug thanks for the kind words. I thought this was a good summary of what people say about nettle & red raspberry : https://www.susunweed.com/Article_Pregnancy_Problems.htm maybe OWT but I don't think it can hurt anything and one of my friends swears the nettle tea brought her cycle regular after her two kids and her loss.

This is the one that I bought: https://www.amazon.com/Traditional-Medicinals-Female-Toner-16-Count/dp/B000EJNL26/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1377893814&sr=8-1&keywords=female+toner+tea

Note that this particular tea is for TTA cycles ONLY, definitely going to steer clear once I'm TTC.

halfcaffeinated · August 2013

Poppy715 said:
I'm sorry you are having such a rough week. You are still so close to your loss. It really does take time for that searing pain to diminish.
I'm so sorry about the news regarding your MIL. That's terrible. I also hope you hear something soon about that pup! What a wonderful distraction it would be.
I totally understand about listening to co-workers. Since my loss I feel like a different person. I'm usually really upbeat and outgoing. I have found I'm more sullen and pensive now. I try to hold on to parts of my old self but I can tell I'm not the same, I never will be. Having an experience like ours changes your whole outlook on life. Things are not rosey and happy or easy like they once were. It's hard. Try to not keep it in and find someone you can talk to: DH, a therapist, family/friends and us. It helps.
((hugs)) I hope your week turns around and your weekend is fantastic!

Thanks, me too. It's so strange to be at work trying to act like the person I used to be -- very cheerful and easygoing. I try to think it has changed me in a good way too, as I won't be so quick to be glib and upbeat when someone is having a rough time and I'll definitely be more sensitive about my comments now. More than anything this experience has taught me that you really never know what somebody is going through.

Poppy715 · August 2013

halfcaffeinated said:
Thanks for the support. It has been so good to come here and read how everyone else is feeling. It helps to keep things in perspective when I'm not feeling great. I see that happy days will come again.

I benched us for my own sanity, my doctor wasn't concerned about how long we wait to try again and kind of left it up to me. DH really really wants me to be pregnant again and isn't scared of another loss, so I'm anticipating that he is going to be peeking at my charting app and trying to ply me with wine and romance during the fertile window. This is definitely going to be interesting.

I was benched because of insurance and for the last 2 or 3 cycles because of personal family planning. It sucks. We all get it though. There are lots of different reasons we are all TTA. You will see and learn that the pain doesn't go away. You just learn to manage and live with it. It's been almost 8 months since I lost A and I think of her every single day.

I'm all about waiting until you are both physically and mentally ready. I think it's easier for the DH's to continue on and want to try again because it didn't happen to their bodies. It was just emotional for them. Not physical. Our bodies are the ones letting us down and betraying us. It's a hard concept for them to fully grasp when they haven't experienced it.

Poppy715 · August 2013

halfcaffeinated said:

Elbug said:

@ashx3renee @Elbug Sooo.... Who wants to come fold my laundry and put it away? Really put it away.. Folding doesn't bother me. That's on my to do next list!!
I'm all about putting laundry in the wash but would much prefer to leave it in a heaping pile than fold or hang it up. I just think its easier to put wrinkly clothes in the dryer for 10 minutes when needed than actually hanging it all up makes my DH crazy. Seriously.

Have you heard of the No-Iron Spray? I don't know who makes it but it's under the fabric softener in the supermarket. I hang up my work clothes and spray the heck out of them and leave them to dry by the window. I don't even own an iron. Haha.

I took this on a cruise and it didn't work worth crap. But I also didn't douse my clothes in it. I thought it would be a magic stray that made everything look ironed perfect without the work.

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ashtonblair123 · August 2013

***************++Warning: living child mentioned.********************* How is everyone this week? I am coming down with a stomach bug or something. I feel more nauseous now than I did before I miscarried. Any TTA-related frustrations? Yeah we screwed up and didn't use a condom the other day. Well I just didn think about it, but my DH probably just didn't want to. I'll have to be more careful. Apples and onions, anyone? What was the high/low of your week? High: taking pictures of my dd in the outfit I made her Low: today, DH has been in a grumpy mood and today has been when I've probably been in the best mood since the miscarriage. so I'm annoyed that he's bring me down. GTKY: What chore do you dislike the most and why? Are there any chores that you love? I hate hate hate hate hate hate hate laundry, so much. I also dislike dishes it I'd choose dishes over laundry any day. Which is why we have no clothes to wear. Chore I love? Yeah, there isn't one.

KMW08 · August 2013

MrsDeo said:

I'm doing OK over here. It's been a weird week; I got in my first ever car accident on Monday (not my fault, due to an idiot driver who I suspect was either mentally unstable or under the influence of something). I'm OK, my car is beat up but drivable, and I'm thankful for that, but it's such a pain to have to deal with all the insurance and everything now. TTA is going fine, I got AF again already and I'm having extra short cycles since the 2nd loss. This period has been more like my "normal" flow than any other I've had all year/since our first loss, so I'm taking that as a good sign.

Apples and onions: I think the high was having sex and NOT crying afterwards for the first time since the most recent m/c. It was a less pleasant experience for MH, though, since AF was hiding around the corner and there was quite a bit of blood afterwards. He's so squeamish about blood. Men... The low was the accident. Oh, and not being able to get my remembrance ring because our mail carrier sucks. I finally figured out where it is, though, and it's supposed to be delivered tomorrow.

GTKY: It depends on my mood; I don't really like any of them! I don't really mind doing the dishes as long as we've been keeping up with them, but if the kitchen's a mess I just hate how long it takes. I hate putting away laundry (why is it that that last step is such a pain?!), but we fold it all on our bed so most of it HAS to be put away at least by the time we go to bed at night. I'm not a fan of dusting, either, so I usually just put it off until MH does it instead.

Congrats on no crying after sex, this is huge!!! FX your period and flow continue to be this way and are hopefully going back to "normal" for you. Regarding the car accident, OH NO!! And I'm glad you're ok and the car is still in condition to drive. I'm sending all the good/smooth insurance vibes your way. Insurance being a PITA is an understatement. I'm jealous of YH doing some of the house hold chores....the most I'd get out of dh is his own laundry and occasionally dishes.

@MrsDeo my surgery is scheduled for this coming Thursday 9/5!!!

KMW08 · August 2013

ashtonblair123 said:

***************++Warning: living child mentioned.********************* How is everyone this week? I am coming down with a stomach bug or something. I feel more nauseous now than I did before I miscarried. Any TTA-related frustrations? Yeah we screwed up and didn't use a condom the other day. Well I just didn think about it, but my DH probably just didn't want to. I'll have to be more careful. Apples and onions, anyone? What was the high/low of your week? High: taking pictures of my dd in the outfit I made her Low: today, DH has been in a grumpy mood and today has been when I've probably been in the best mood since the miscarriage. so I'm annoyed that he's bring me down. GTKY: What chore do you dislike the most and why? Are there any chores that you love? I hate hate hate hate hate hate hate laundry, so much. I also dislike dishes it I'd choose dishes over laundry any day. Which is why we have no clothes to wear. Chore I love? Yeah, there isn't one.

I sure hope you don't have a stomach bug, if you do I'm hoping it's only a 24hr or less type!! Sorry to hear YH is being such a crabass. I tell dh all the time that his mood affects me, so he's better off putting up a front if he's irritated at stupid random crap, otherwise he's going to make me angry and then I'm going to really make him angry --- such a vicious cycle sometimes!

halfcaffeinated · August 2013

MrsDeo said:

I'm doing OK over here. It's been a weird week; I got in my first ever car accident on Monday (not my fault, due to an idiot driver who I suspect was either mentally unstable or under the influence of something). I'm OK, my car is beat up but drivable, and I'm thankful for that, but it's such a pain to have to deal with all the insurance and everything now. TTA is going fine, I got AF again already and I'm having extra short cycles since the 2nd loss. This period has been more like my "normal" flow than any other I've had all year/since our first loss, so I'm taking that as a good sign.

Apples and onions: I think the high was having sex and NOT crying afterwards for the first time since the most recent m/c. It was a less pleasant experience for MH, though, since AF was hiding around the corner and there was quite a bit of blood afterwards. He's so squeamish about blood. Men... The low was the accident. Oh, and not being able to get my remembrance ring because our mail carrier sucks. I finally figured out where it is, though, and it's supposed to be delivered tomorrow.

GTKY: It depends on my mood; I don't really like any of them! I don't really mind doing the dishes as long as we've been keeping up with them, but if the kitchen's a mess I just hate how long it takes. I hate putting away laundry (why is it that that last step is such a pain?!), but we fold it all on our bed so most of it HAS to be put away at least by the time we go to bed at night. I'm not a fan of dusting, either, so I usually just put it off until MH does it instead.

Sorry to hear about the accident, glad you are doing OK. Sometimes dealing with insurance afterward seems worse than the accident itself, it can be so annoying chasing them around and making sure you get your repairs and reimbursements. I'm happy for you that you were able to have sex without crying afterward, that is awesome!

Re: the tea, the taste is pretty decent, especially with some honey. The raspberry gives it an okay flavor, but it's not my favorite. You are supposed to drink it 2-3 times a day though which might be challenging. If you read the link I posted somewhere in this thread about "toning" the uterus and the supposed benefits of these herbs, you're probably gonna want to try it. I will definitely make a post about it at some point if I see a huge improvement in my regularity/flow.

halfcaffeinated · August 2013

Poppy715 said:
I took this on a cruise and it didn't work worth crap. But I also didn't douse my clothes in it. I thought it would be a magic stray that made everything look ironed perfect without the work.

Maybe you have to drown the clothes, then hang them near a heat or light source. It's my way of faking a dryer line. Definitely NOT the magic it is advertised to be! Haha.

KMW08 · August 2013

halfcaffeinated said:
I benched us for my own sanity, my doctor wasn't concerned about how long we wait to try again and kind of left it up to me. DH really really wants me to be pregnant again and isn't scared of another loss, so I'm anticipating that he is going to be peeking at my charting app and trying to ply me with wine and romance during the fertile window. This is definitely going to be interesting.

No matter what happens I just hope you and dh end up on the same page and come to a mutual decision about tta/ttc/ntnp during fw. >:D<

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