I come from a larger family, one of 5 children. While I know my parents love and adore my 3 children, every time I have told them I was pregnant I knew they weren't thrilled. I know it's because they've done the big family and they know how hard it is and they want my life to be 'easier.' However, it's always a bit of a bummer to not get big hugs and congratulations when we tell them. This is our 4th and I know their reaction will be the same, if not worse. It's not that they'll be mad, they'll just be really, really quiet and not say much of anything. I'm thinking of telling them at DS's birthday party, so that my in-laws will be here too. Then we can just let all the grandparent know at the same time and I can focus on how excited my in-laws are (they'll be over the moon, DH is an only and they've been hinting for more grandkids but didn't think it was likely).
Re: Anyone NOT excited to tell family?
Luckily my MIL is awesome and will be wildly ecstatic - and this will be like her 20th grand kiddo. She LOVES all of them and is always excited for more! She even has a few great grands. :-) she treats each one as if they're the one and only. She is amazing!
Best of luck with your parents. It sucks. :-/
Yeah. Not excited. I did already tell my parents and my FIL and MIL. We haven't told my BIL and his wife yet. Basically since we had a MC in may, telling people comes out kind of weird. "I'm pregnant, we'll see how it goes". Just awkward.
The other thing about telling my SIL is that I know once I do, all the belly rubbing will start. I can't STAND that. I really just can. not. stand. it.
And I've told her and told her and she just keeps doing it. But she has such a vapid, sunny disposition about her all the time that I feel bad loosing it on her. So I really don't want to tell her and start all that either.
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I also find it super awkward to tell people. I'd almost rather wait till I'm showing and they ask. Hopefully DH will be the one to spit it out.
oh, and my older sister has none (hasn't been trying) but I'm sure on some level she'll be upset that I'm finishing my family before she even starts hers.
Also not excited to tell my MIL. She alteady talks about DH'a birth like it were yesterday (he's my husband and 33 years old. Time to cut the cord, lady.) and I'm pretty sure she's going to try to make my pregnancy all about her. Which is why I want to wait to tell her because I totally don't put it past her to "just tell a few close friends" who happen to be mutual friends and steal our thunder. But it's important to DH to tell her sine we told me mom. Le sigh. Here's hoping my fears are unconfirmed.
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09/23/11 - Married DH
04/01/13 - BFP at 4wks
05/30/13 - MMC - BO @ 12wks 5d
08/29/13 - BFP @ 4wks 4d
09/17/13 - 7wks 2d - Normal HB Detected! Baby measuring perfect for dates and positioning!
10/23/13 - 12wks 3d - Perfect NT scan! HB 167 & baby wriggling, waving & yawning!
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We've never been that close and it's worse now that my dad passed away (my dad and I were super close). She has a live-in boyfriend that I despise and don't want to be a part of my LO's life. Oh wells.... Can't not tell them I guess.
October 30, 2011
What is it about our parents that makes otherwise successful, full-grown women freak out?!?! Sometimes when I'm worrying about it I have to remind myself that it's not like I'm 16, even though for some reason I can still feel that way around them.