UO Thursday...

ellajune2012 · August 2013

Michelle4529 said:

My UO is don't tell your child you are going to do something and not do it.

Like in example, SIL told her son that if he played with his bubble gun in the house he wouldn't get it back. He spilled bubbles all over the furniture and floor.. she took it away and about a half hour later she was letting him play with it again.

Another example, SIL told her son not to get into the pool without someone else being in there with him (he is 3) or else he would not be allowed in for the rest of the day.. next thing you know he was getting in.. she came up to him and told him he wasn't allowed to do that.. then he just sat on the steps and put his legs in.. she just went over and sat down next to him and allowed him to get in.... um, you just told him he couldn't do it.. then he did it.. then you reward him by letting him get in? Stupid.

If you want your kid to listen to you when you tell him no.. then you have to stand firm on what you tell him. Otherwise you are rewarding him for bad behavior and teaching him he doesn't have to listen to you.

This was more like a rant.. sorry. I am just annoyed with bad parenting!

My aunt did that with both her kids and my now-adult cousins are the most entitled, spoiled people you can imagine. I say that with total love and affection, the older one is actually a very nice person in most regards but sometimes I just want to smack him upside the head. His sister on the other hand... well, she's just a peach. She told her mother she would visit her more often if she had a "more comfortable" car to make the 2-hour trip (she drives a Mini Cooper that her mother bought her. WTF)

lazyreader · August 2013

BrideNamedMeg said:

XP's drive me crazy. If I cared about drama on other boards, I'd go looking for it...I don't even care about drama on this board! All the XP's do is clog up space and push more important questions/topics down.

Thats a shame because April's UO has a GEM of a post... I figure you can just start on page 10.

jwls84 · August 2013

kimberpoo said:
I agree on making pretty much everything legal, if you aren't allowed to do it in public places. What you do in the privacy of your own home is none of our business. Smoking is just my peeve because it's still ok to do it in so many public places around here....and get this: even though it is illegal in IN to smoke in an office / workplace, almost everyone at my job does it. and I work in a freaking lawyers office! There is no ventilation and none of the windows open, so it has become a pretty big issue with me being pregnant. My co-workers are chain smokers, so it's like I'm smoking heavily 8 hours a day. Even if I wasn't pregnant, I don't want to breathe other people's smoke (I don't smoke at all), and my clients complain. Cancer also runs in my family...my dad literally smoked himself to death. That's why it's become such a big peeve of mine.

And no, I haven't told people at work about the baby yet, but I have been really bitchy about the smoke. I know that even after I tell them, they will still smoke but maybe not light up right in front of me...which won't help since it's a small office. For some reason they don't understand that the smoke WILL travel into the other offices and hallways...it doesn't stay in one spot.

What the hell! I am pretty sure it is illegal to smoke in a work place! It is in Canada, well it is pretty much illegal to smoke anywhere in Canada.
I would look into work and safety standards.

lnvane00 · August 2013

Michelle4529 said:

My UO is don't tell your child you are going to do something and not do it.

Like in example, SIL told her son that if he played with his bubble gun in the house he wouldn't get it back. He spilled bubbles all over the furniture and floor.. she took it away and about a half hour later she was letting him play with it again.

Another example, SIL told her son not to get into the pool without someone else being in there with him (he is 3) or else he would not be allowed in for the rest of the day.. next thing you know he was getting in.. she came up to him and told him he wasn't allowed to do that.. then he just sat on the steps and put his legs in.. she just went over and sat down next to him and allowed him to get in.... um, you just told him he couldn't do it.. then he did it.. then you reward him by letting him get in? Stupid.

If you want your kid to listen to you when you tell him no.. then you have to stand firm on what you tell him. Otherwise you are rewarding him for bad behavior and teaching him he doesn't have to listen to you.

This was more like a rant.. sorry. I am just annoyed with bad parenting!

Yep.. When my cousin found out I was pregnant the one piece of advice she wanted to give me was be persistent and if you tell your child they will be punished if they do something you tell them not to and they do it then stick to it!

totalbabydoll4ever · August 2013

My UO - whiny children and parents who complain they are whiny! I HATE it! My kid doesn't whine b/c when he does, I grind my feet in deeper and won't do/give him what he wants. He learned quickly it's not the way to get something! Your child is whiny because you taught it that when it whines, you give it what it wants.

*this is more of a rant, lol*

cdnmomma · August 2013

theluckiest9 said:
So far, I'm not really a fan of being pregnant. I want to like it, but I don't. I feel like I've had the flu for the past 5 weeks. My heart goes out to the HG moms. I can't imagine dealing with that all the time.

ETA: not really sure if this is an UO, but I feel like we're almost told that pregnancy is this magical time that we should savor. No. I'm happy and thankful I'm having a baby but hate feeling like this all the time.

I am 100% with you! I have hated every moment. The extreme nausea and vomiting and heartburn and gas and constipation and insomnia and ligament pain and back pain and fatigue and not fitting into anything and overall feeling not like myself. I couldn't wait to be pregnant but now that I'm here I'm gonna have to start saving my pennies for a surrogate if I want my child to have a sibling cause I can never do this again. Ever. Ever. I'm grateful to be having this child and grateful to be having an otherwise 'healthy' pregnancy but this is not fun or magical. Sigh. That feels better.

crystaljoanna · August 2013

@kacie - no kidding!! I've been reading April's UO and it is hilarious. The woman who mentioned she was happy when she read posts about other women having miscarriages is just horrible!

BabiesFTW · August 2013

totalbabydoll4ever said:
My UO - whiny children and parents who complain they are whiny! I HATE it! My kid doesn't whine b/c when he does, I grind my feet in deeper and won't do/give him what he wants. He learned quickly it's not the way to get something! Your child is whiny because you taught it that when it whines, you give it what it wants.

*this is more of a rant, lol*

I believe you and think its great dont give in but I'm curious how old your kid is. I try really hard to not give in to whining. If I do give in I'm unaware of it. But my 2 year old is definitely very whiney at times (aka all day today).

cdnmomma · August 2013

Oh and one more thing (now that I've started ranting I can't stop) I HATE when women say, in response to something I'm sharing, 'oh just wait until...blah blah blah'. Argh. Very rude and dismissive. I'm sharing because I need support and validation not to hear you dismiss me and make it seem like it could be much worse. I get that things could be worse but I find women in general to be competitive. Not all but some.

dannie2011 · August 2013

crystaljoanna said:

@kacie - no kidding!! I've been reading April's UO and it is hilarious. The woman who mentioned she was happy when she read posts about other women having miscarriages is just horrible!

OMG that is horrible!

My UO is I hate it whenever a child's sleep pattern changes ppl try and tell you it's sleep regression. Umm no it's not sleep regression they change their sleep cycle just like adults do, they haven't forgotten how to sleep.

totalbabydoll4ever · August 2013

@BabiesFTW My son is now 11, but he has never whined because he knows it won't work for him. He also learned very quickly if he wants something very badly and asks nicely, he is much more likely to get it.

My trick was refusing to speak to him when he whined for something, but speaking to him and giving him some things he wanted when he asked nicely i.e. juice. This is my UO because I am a teacher and I deal with other people's whiney children.

AriaAmante143 · August 2013

Ok I guess I'm just in a pissy mood because I have another!

If I get ONE MORE FB message from another friend trying to sell her "It Works" wraps and crap, I am going to LOSE MY MIND. I swear like 20 of my friends are selling this junk now. YOU CAN'T PERMENANTLY LOSE WEIGHT FROM A WRAP. It may suck the water weight out and you may lose inches for a day or two, but THAT'S IT. I don't want to come to your wrap party, I don't want to become a consultant. Is this the new Avon or something??

bumpuser9058414 · August 2013

AriaAmante143 said:
Ok I guess I'm just in a pissy mood because I have another!

If I get ONE MORE FB message from another friend trying to sell her "It Works" wraps and crap, I am going to LOSE MY MIND. I swear like 20 of my friends are selling this junk now. YOU CAN'T PERMENANTLY LOSE WEIGHT FROM A WRAP. It may suck the water weight out and you may lose inches for a day or two, but THAT'S IT. I don't want to come to your wrap party, I don't want to become a consultant. Is this the new Avon or something??

I have an acquaintance that first sold Beach Body products and now does Beautycounter and she is killing me. I don't want to spend $22 on face wash and neither do my friends so no I will not host a "social" ugh.

rachbaby1 · August 2013

AriaAmante143 said:

Ok I guess I'm just in a pissy mood because I have another! If I get ONE MORE FB message from another friend trying to sell her "It Works" wraps and crap, I am going to LOSE MY MIND. I swear like 20 of my friends are selling this junk now. YOU CAN'T PERMENANTLY LOSE WEIGHT FROM A WRAP. It may suck the water weight out and you may lose inches for a day or two, but THAT'S IT. I don't want to come to your wrap party, I don't want to become a consultant. Is this the new Avon or something??

This - and also, I certainly do not want to come to a house and witness someone else being wrapped in anything!

jrw526 · August 2013

ellajune2012 said:

Michelle4529 said:

My UO is don't tell your child you are going to do something and not do it.

Like in example, SIL told her son that if he played with his bubble gun in the house he wouldn't get it back. He spilled bubbles all over the furniture and floor.. she took it away and about a half hour later she was letting him play with it again.

Another example, SIL told her son not to get into the pool without someone else being in there with him (he is 3) or else he would not be allowed in for the rest of the day.. next thing you know he was getting in.. she came up to him and told him he wasn't allowed to do that.. then he just sat on the steps and put his legs in.. she just went over and sat down next to him and allowed him to get in.... um, you just told him he couldn't do it.. then he did it.. then you reward him by letting him get in? Stupid.

If you want your kid to listen to you when you tell him no.. then you have to stand firm on what you tell him. Otherwise you are rewarding him for bad behavior and teaching him he doesn't have to listen to you.

This was more like a rant.. sorry. I am just annoyed with bad parenting!

This is my sister and BIL. I love my niece but they constantly threaten her with consequences and never follow through.

We just spent a (very tiring) weekend with them. I was always on edge because I didn't know when she would just go up and be aggressive towards DS. If she hit him my sister would threaten no dinner or that she would leave her in the car when everyone else went in the restaurant. Of course she would never do that and my niece knows that!

Then my sister had the nerve to ask why my son is so well behaved when she watched me follow through with consequences. I'm a teacher and learned long before having a child that if you don't follow through with consequences that the kids will walk all over you.

Sorry for the rant.

rubylovebug · August 2013

@bmerr - Just so you know, in many jurisdictions it's illegal to bike on the sidewalks. No bikers should be there, it's dangerous for pedestrians.

As a bicyclist, my annoyance is with people (bicyclists, motorcyclists, & vehicle drivers) who don't obey rules of the road. Yes, you're supposed to share the road & sometimes it's annoying - but it's also the law. That being said, bicyclists / motorcyclists are also supposed to use hand signals, should wear helmets, & should NEVER weave in traffic - drives me nuts, esp when pleading for people to "look twice," etc.

The real problem is that we don't have dedicated bike lanes on enough roads (except in cities like Portland, which I LOVED), & therefore, cyclists are forced onto the street, often endangering themselves & annoying drivers.

ProudMommy030614 · August 2013

Ok here's mine: the whole lunch meat thing! If I want it I am going to eat it! I dare someone to try and stop me!!! I work in a big hospital and have never seen or heard of any expectant moms with listeria... Ok now I am going to have my turkey sandwich that will NOT be toasted

kboyle86 · August 2013

People talking about visiting the l&d units already or about plans for the day they give birth....it's 7 months away people. I know being prepared is good but I think taking a tour 7 months before your due date is a little much...

Excitedmum35 · August 2013

So sad. I have been in two abusive relationships and I am a very strong person but it took longer than I would have liked for me to get out of there. We need to support these ppl. Xxoo

mamamia866 · August 2013

@legallyginger: I find going to the dentist is easier if he is attractive. Mine is so good looking, even MH has a non-sexual man crush on him. He has these husky blue eyes that just paralyze me every time I see them. ::sigh::

lazyreader · August 2013

bandteacher said:
I think women who won't fart in front of their husbands are prudes. It's a fact of life. More room out than in!

Lol it's not that I *won't*. I'm just not a gassy person. At all. So I can contain my business for the bathroom. Or silent. Or running. Hahaha

mamamia866 · August 2013

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bandteacher said:
I think women who won't fart in front of their husbands are prudes. It's a fact of life. More room out than in!

My hero! I love farting. I don't know why it gets such a bad rap, it's a natural bodily function!

legallyginger · August 2013

mamamia866 said:
@legallyginger: I find going to the dentist is easier if he is attractive. Mine is so good looking, even MH has a non-sexual man crush on him. He has these husky blue eyes that just paralyze me every time I see them. ::sigh::

Hahaha that is hilarious! Before I lost my dental insurance the dentist I had was a creepy old man. I didn't like him but was too lazy to find another one. My bff has a really good looking friend from college that is in dental school though, so I may rethink my stance soon.

jazzyexpo · August 2013

Oh that reminds me. I hate those look twice, save a life bumper stickers. Most motorcyclists don't look for me and expect me to watch for them. It goes both ways. We have bike week twice a year where I live and it's amazing to me everytime, the attitude of the motorcyclists are you have to watch out for me. I'm bigger and I do watch for anything (cars, bikes, motorcycles, pedestrians), but if you don't look for me, there's nothing I can do.

lindsey1031 · August 2013

Carabu42 said:

I am super annoyed by grown adults that never grew out of being a "picky eater." I used to be picky eater as a kid and now will try anything. I feel that refusing to try foods that you don't like throughout your adult life is a sign of immaturity. Tastes change - quit being a baby and try it again. Be adventurous - you might just find out that squash isn't disgusting if its prepared correctly. And if you have kids, it's your responsibility to model positive relationships with food. Rant over.

Yep. I feel that way too. I also hate when some parents don't even try to give their kids healthy food. Lunchables and Squeeze Its are NOT good for growing children to eat 5 days a week. It really, and I mean really, bothers me when people don't feed their kids breakfast either. The ones that NEVER feed their kids breakfast because "I don't eat it, and he/she doesn't really want it either." WHAT? Your kid is growing - feed them after they wake up! I keep food in my classroom for these kids (I have at least one every year). Parents get upset when they spend money on lunch accounts in the cafeteria for breakfast, but they don't feed them. So I do because I need that child full and ready to learn every day. I know that's not a UO. But I digressed...I love food and think everyone else should too!

DianeW52512 · August 2013

I think breast pumps are freaky and I really don't want to use one. That is all

avigailandcharlie · August 2013

scrumpfy said:

kimberpoo said:

I think all smoking should be illegal. I don't understand, beyond the $$$ factor, why it isn't.....most other smoke-able drugs are, and unlike many types of drugs (drinking, pill-popping, etc) you are physically harming the people around you when you do it. Smoking has 0 medical benefits and has been proven to cause cancer and other health issues...including second hand smoke....so beyond the $$$, why allow it at all?

Because it's a HUGE business lobby and it brings in a ton of tax $$$. If marijuana were produced and sold by a multi-million dollar corporation with money to lobby with, that would probably be legal too.

(I'm not defending smoking btw, just saying)
Here's my UO then : I think marijuana should be legal. I think people who chose to do it will do so regardless of it being legal or not, and I think reasonable adults that know drugs are bad can make poor choices if they want to. I view it the same way I do cigarettes: disgusting habit, not good for you, if you chose to partake, your business. And think of the money to be made off of taxing marijuana! Tons of tax dollars to be made, there.

I am NOT a smoker (pot or cigarettes) but I totally agree. I think legalizing it will lower rates of kids doing it. As a kid, it is so much easier to get pot than alcohol! Alcohol is controlled and you need an id to get it. You can get pot from anyone off the street. If it was controlled and sold at liquor stores, we'd also know what was going in it and that it wasn't laced with bad things. Plus, we could tax the hell out of it! Definitely against smoking pot, definitely for it being legal.

avigailandcharlie · August 2013

babycaps said:

I have one more.... I don't understand why ppl buy gigantic houses for 3-4 people. It's a shit ton of space to heat up, cool down, clean up, furnish....I just don't get it. Do you really NEED that much room? THAT much storage?

We bought a gigantic house because it was an amazing deal, we won't have to move when we grow our family, and now we have the investment. But no, we don't need that much space. We have 4 air/heating units and only turn on the ones that we need. Usually 1, tops 2 at a time. When baby comes that will change because their room will be in a 3rd unit area.

JKS21 · August 2013

Nickiechan said:

Berry30 said:

I have no desire to get a doppler and think they are a waste of money.

I have this angelsound doppler that my friend gave me when I was pregnant with DS... and it caused more stress then it did good... I could never find the heartbeat with that dang thing until like 30 weeks pregnant. Totally wouldn't spend the money on one.

TOtally understand your thinking. But it was a lifesaver for me with my son ! If i was worried, I would find the heartbeat and it eased my fears. I found youtube videos which helped me find the heart, pretty fool proof

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